December 2016 Babies - Thread 6: Growing bumps and looking for bargains

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Previous threads:

Thread 5:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2699892-December-2016-Thread-5-20-week-scans-and-wriggly-babies?pg=1&order=#prettyPhoto

Thread 4:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2668947-December-2016-babies-thread-4-blooming-in-trimester-2

Thread 3:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2650742-december-2016-babies-2nd-trimester-in-sight?reverse=1

Thread 2:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2622412-Morning-sickness-and-first-scan-anticipation-its-the-December-2016-babies

Thread 1:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2597324-December-2016-Babies

Yes cold sores and wee babies are a bad mix. DH gets them and he had one (a collection!) when dd was tiny. Almost certainly due to exhaustion, but it meant he had to be really careful around her.

I really don't know how much longer I cam cope with work for. Every evening after my commute I'm in tears with exhaustion. Luckily it's only 2 days a week I'm in London.

Oh im so glad im signed off work. Hearing all your woes makes me feel thankful even though sick pay is crap.. heart rate raised today and i barely did anything. Got my echo on friday..

south that sounds shit! Can you get signed off? That doesn't sound nice for either you or baby.
I read an article a while back that a baby died after contracting the virus through cold sores (it is rare though, not trying to scare anyone)

My sciatica is really really hurting tonight, finding it hard to move but I need to wash dry & sort school stuff and do tea. Urgh 😢

I keep waking up at 2am unable to get back to sleep until 5am. It's driving me mad as I then have a long day at school (7:30-6) teaching 30 4-7 year olds.
I booked my ML to start on December 9th (my EDD) is Dec 21st.
I'm seriously considering going off a week earlier the way so feel right now I just want to quit work altogether.

Whilst I've not achieved a lot at work today (understatement) I have managed to sell lots of DDs nicer things on FB selling sites for Joules Hatley and Frugi, made nearly £100 already - well pleased, clears the cupboards out too!

Took loads of bundles of baby clothes to the charity shop on lunch as they didn't sell on eBay, which is a shame as it's hardly used. Getting the cupboards cleared for the great room swap, now DH is on the look out for a wallpaper steamer.

Soloman that's great news about your scan, glad to hear she's following her growth curve. It must be a relief!

bigfam he's not a toddler anymore, but DS(4) is quite boisterous and is often climbing over me and running at me to give me a hug. I didn't tell him that I'd had to go into hospital for the anti-d injection when he fell on me because I didn't want to worry him, but I've just been reminding him not to climb over me and be gentle. I'm not sure that he fully understands, and I don't want to keep nagging him!

tinklypoo sounds like you're very talented, do you have a pic only the new car seat cover? I'd love to do something like that but it took me nearly an hour to sew DS's swimming badge onto his towel last week, so I can't see me sewing anything again any time soon!

I had a growth scan today, baby is growing well. The sonographer really took her time, and showed us lots of things. Baby is now head down and was waving at us. I also had an appointment with the consultant. Both a home birth and a birth at the midwife unit are off the table now, as I'll need continuous monitoring due to the GD. I wanted either a very un-medicalised birth, or a c-section, because I just can't bear the thought of induction and monitoring. So now I'm seriously considering a c-section. Consultant has agreed that I can have one, due to my previous traumatic birth, and because this pregnancy is high risk. (Also her labelling me high risk made me cry...!)

Is anyone else planning a c-section?

Kinda unrelated post was reading someone else's post on another thread and people were criticising her for giving away her name, should I really not have my name within my username and why does it matter? Should I name change but a bit late now!

Solomon I'm really happy to hear that your baby is growing and legs are back on the growth chart, it's given me some hope! Mine is next week and I'm really nervous he's not growing. Thankfully I'm now putting on some weight and my bump looks bigger so have fingers crossed I get news like yours!

Also does anyone get occasional period like back pain? I've had it on and off since 28 weeks now. I'm not sure if it's braxton hicks as not that painful, feels more like period pains but only lasts for max a minute!

Im not sure about the back pain but sonographer other day said that I was having a braxton hicks I thought it was baby sticking her bottom up but she said it was my uterus hardening it wasn't painful tho

I thought that too becci. Was new to MN joining this pregnancy board and didn't realise that people have non-identifying usernames!

Suppose it depends if you're going to ask really embarrassing questions you wouldn't want people to be able to link back to you, or if you're going to be a bit of a bitch to other users (seems to be the main reason on other threads).

I only ever use the app, but I think on the main site you can go on a uses profile and see what else they've posted. If you've given away a lot of identifying information over the history of your posts I suppose there's a risk someone could work out who you were if they really cared. I personally think it's a bit narcisstic to think anyone would go to those lengths about a stranger.

Quite a few people bitch on other boards about family members though (MILs are a favourite on AIBU) so I suspect having your name on there is quite incriminating if you're describing an event that blatantly was you...

tipboov I've got a c section planned. Due mainly to traumatic birth (3rd degree tear etc) with dd, but also I'm either going to get induced at 39 weeks or have a c section. I'd much rather go straight to c section given my history, and it means that paeds etc will be lined up ready to look after my baby. But, as the pregnancy has progressed, I'm thinking that if I go into labour naturally before then I might give a vaginal delivery another try. I'm assuming that with my baby having extra needs, they won't piss around like they did with dd.

baby I get these. After getting checked out it's 'just' braxton hicks although they feel really bad! Worth getting checked incase it's a UTI as that can apparently cause similar pains.

bristol I might just Namechange anyway for the sake of other threads not that I tend to be horrible to anyone but more so I'm less identifiable. Thanks, when a new name pops up shortly you'll all know it's me!

I'm having a ELCS this time round due to EMCS last time, already booked!

tipboov I asked for a c section before I knew about GD and now I have GD too I think it may have been right decision anyway. We had a scan baby not measuring large yet 50th percentile for everything so all looks good. Hope your GD is going well with the diet, I felt upset about being high risk too I feel like I don't want to be worrying if it's affecting her so determined to keep my diet good so I don't get too many spikes. It worries me that the week I had my test done was the week she had reduced movements but she seems ok now.

Has anyone been referred to physio for SPD and how long did it take to get seen? I now get shooting pains in my lady bits just walking across the office as well as the back pain I had before. My dreams of long dog walks during maternity leave are fast disappearing.... Considering going to a private physio a friend has recommended as I'm getting fed up and I've read that the pain can get worse if not relieved.

Finally saw the mental health midwife yesterday. She was lovely. For the first time it felt like someone actually listened to my concerns and instead of dismissing them like the arrogant consultant did she said they were entirely understandable given my history of infertility/recurrent miscarriage and they would be able to support me. I'm seeing her again in two weeks. I feel so much better knowing that I have someone to talk to. She said a ceasearean could be a possibility given my anxieties about complications at the birth, and she would contact my midwife to make sure she talked about my birth plan in detail at my next appointment.
I am totally unsure about what would be best. I know if I go overdue my anxieties will increase (this is what happened to my friend who had a stillbirth) and I'm terrified of a long labour because of all the things that can go wrong with baby being tired etc. If a vaginal birth is supposed to be better for the baby though I don't want a C section just because I'm too scared of problems with a vaginal birth.
It's not the actual birth in terms of me coping with pain I'm worried about, purely the risk of things going wrong. I need someone to talk facts!!!

In other news, I've been uawake since 5am again so I've been on the Aldi baby sale online....

Apparently it's easier and quicker to arrange it yourself barking from what I've learnt, I've asked around as I literally can't have another episode like yesterday (sciatica) it ranges from about £35+ or so I've heard. Good to hear you're seeing a m.h midwife and you feel better.

It's variable from hospital to hospital, at my hospital you can self-refer so I rang the number and they saw me the same day. I've been seen once a week since. To be honest mine has got worse and I'm now on crutches. But...went yesterday and she cracked my pelvis back in again and this morning I've got out of bed without yelping, fingers crossed it lasts. I know some people who have seen a chiropractor privately with some good results. Ask your midwife, mine was very helpful.

Id love to be brave enough to ask for a c section. For some reason im petrified of giving birth. My 2nd was a big 10lb 6. 3rd 9lb 11oz. Scared that this is gona be a big babba especially now that im off work and not much to be doing. Would they induce if they seen how scared I am. I know thet now take you for induction if they see baby getting too big..

tinklypoo that looks great! I'm tempted to do ours, especially as this baby will be the 4th to use it!

Off to London again, and ribs hurting so much already :( but they are prioritising replacing me at least.

nojo worth discussing it with your midwife/consultant. There was a clear link between DD's birth and the severity of my pnd, so it was almost as if I had no choice but to ask.

That's gorgeous fabric tinkly!

I'm surprised at the number of people who prefer a caesarean over vaginal birth. I'll obviously do whatever is medically recommended at the time, but I'm really nervous about the idea of a c section. I suppose I feel like I know what happens and what recovery is like after vaginal birth, but a c section is a step into the unknown. I feel similarly about epidurals being the unknown, though I don't even know if they're an option here.

I'm nervous at the idea of all of it - I'm trying to 'comfort' myself with the fact that we'll just have to do the best we can with what we have at the time, but I'm still scared (not helped by already having had one vaginal birth/almost c-section).