Due February 2017 - thread #7

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Thread #7 for a very chatty bunch!

(Sorry I accidentally used the last message on the previous thread... hope everyone finds the new thread successfully )

Ever - I didn't, I swear! it came up in active threads and said thread 2 in the title!

Peeing in the night and then not being able to get back to sleep for an hour here too. Also, new house is a Victorian terraced cottage so has the dreaded downstairs and at the back bathroom!

Bump at 19+4

Shell - my mum, and my aunt are both getting trigger happy about the buying stuff too. And getting a bit proprietary! I am trying to grit my teeth and say nothing as I know they are really excited!

Friendly that is a great bump!!
Kikis to be honest this getting up to pee is not new to me. It happened before pregnancy but now more often and I woke up all the times for one reason or another.

fenella none of the stuff she has bought is for me or my house... all for her house! Lol...

Shell when I went to visit family abroad they were like oh so you will come to give birth here or oh your mum will go and stay with you and assuming people will come visit on the day bubba is born
I was like no freaking way.
So I smile and put poker face because I want 2 weeks of us alone with bubba after birth. Non negotiable.
So tell your mum. Dont need to tell her now but just make sure you do eventually.
Bump twins!
Fenella my bathroom is downstairs as well. Down some very steep steps.
Another nice bump!
I feel mine is just fat
Mum and aunt are buying lots which is great but I wish they asked me what I need as I will end up with lots of newborn clothes
Oh well

Shell you totally have my sympathies. I have a mum who can make everything about her (though never in a horrible way- she's just used to being the center of attention). I’ve just learned to be very clear in my boundaries with both of my parents!

In this case though, it sounds like she’s just getting excited and since the stuff is all for her house, I’d let her get on with the shopping unless you have concerns that she'll pick things you don't approve of. However, definitely tell her you’ll let her know when you are ready to have the baby stay over. Those are definitely clear boundaries that need to be set.

Nice bumps everyone! I'll post mine shortly. Depending on what I'm wearing I can look very pregnant or not at all. Because I'm carrying so low, I think half the time I just look bloated / pudgy but things are starting to round out recently.

Me at 20+5.

I've done no work this morning due to scan nerves and worries about DS. He loves his nursery but has just moved up a room and hasn't settled back in well after our holiday, I think because it's a slightly unfamiliar environment with new people. He's been exhausted recently and we have had lots of tantrums. He's usually the happiest, most easygoing child I know, so it's a bit worrying.

I can confirm that the whooping cough injection does indeed hurt

Shell sounds like she's just excited, but she could have kept it from you until she knew you'd bought stuff yourself.

Regarding staying over, I would say see how you go. DS was born less than two weeks before Christmas so we were adamant before he was born that we wouldn't be able to travel to stay with parents (only a 2h drive) but in the end we decided it would be nice to see family and would break up the monotony and hard work of those first few weeks, so we spent a couple of nights at my mum's between Christmas and NY. It was actually nice to have people to talk to and meals cooked for us, and an extra pair of hands to cuddle baby so I could shower! So I would say wait and see how you feel but don't make any promises. You just don't know how easy or hard you're going to be finding it or how much or little company you'd like to have!

twocats she means the baby staying over at her house itself!

I know think it is exciting must frustrating sometimes xx

I guess you're lucky that your mums are taking initiative and buying useful things (in most cases) None of this would occur to mine, and I'm planning to keep it that way! Though no doubt I'll end up with a delivery of frilly knitted monstrosities she's bought from some Christmas fayre at the local church in Eastbourne...

In the past I've done Amazon wish lists to share with people for Christmas etc, stuff doesn't have to been off amazon (I think someone mentioned them a while back actually) so that could be a good way of ensuring you get things you actually want without having to be too ungrateful?

Oh don't say the injection hurts!! I'm terrified of needles....

Shell I'm sure she's just excited and it is useful to have spares at grandparents' houses. My mum bought stuff for dd but to help me so I didn't have to travel with it. Does she mean the baby staying without you though? Again she's probably just trying to be helpful so you can get some rest but there's no way you'll be ready to leave the baby for any length of time for a while. When a baby's tiny they just want their mum and if you breastfeed you won't be able to leave it. I still haven't left dd overnight and she's 21 months. She still needs me during the night and we're still getting over a massive sleep regression triggered a couple of months ago when i went out one evening and she woke up without me there. Some babies are fine to be left earlier. It just depends on their temperament. Not after a couple of weeks though!

Piano that's an excellent idea. I didn't realise things didn't have to be from Amazon on the baby wishlist.

I think I'll do that if anyone asks if we need anything.

shell I would be so annoyed if my DM bought stuff for her house before we had bought stuff it is a tricky one to then speak to her about though.

I've got my 20wk scan tomorrow! Starting to feel a bit excited for it, I was feeling nervous but I had a GP check up this AM and heard the heartbeat so at least I know baby is ok from that perspective.

My appointment is at 8:30. Not quite sure how to have a full bladder for that one as I don't want to get up hours before! Anyone else had this? Although for 12 week scan my bladder was in a strange place so didn't help anyway, so I'm not worrying about it too much

Fenella I was just about to say that

So jealous of people at 20 week scans already. Still 3 weeks to wait

witch you don't need a full bladder for 20 week scan as the uterus is higher so doesn't need the full bladder to push it into a better position.

Hi everyone, I am from the January thread and pp you are right we are only on thread 2 as most people have gone to fb to chat! I do not have a fb.
Would anyone mind me joining this group as well? I am 21.5 and due 26th January with a little boy.

Just to reassure, I had the whooping cough injection last time and it did not hurt me at all! Haven't had anything through about it yet this time.

Ah Shell, didn't realise it was baby staying over solo! I definitely wouldn't be happy with that so soon after giving birth. We did leave DS with my parents for a couple of nights when he was 6-7 months, but that was because he knew my mum really well by then and was happy to be left - some babies aren't by that age, and it's difficult if you're still breastfeeding. I think we've had 3 child-free weekends in the last 21 months, and a further 4-5 evenings of babysitting to have a meal out, but that's about it!

Welcome Vixx and of course you are welcome!

I haven't booked my whooping cough yet. Need to get on that.

Welcome Vixx. The more the merrier. If you're late you'll be in February anyway
I don't remember my whooping cough injection hurting much last time. I think I had flu in one arm and whooping cough in the other on the same day. Must remember to book these in a couple of weeks.

Piano at Eastbourne fair
Cinderella where do the inject you?
Witch for my scan I don't need a full bladder but I think that depends on the hospital give them a call
Vixx join us here! We rock

Oh my oh my oh my I just realised that next week I will be half way through this pregnancy
And when baby comes we wont have this chat anymore
And I will have a million questions and be on my own and lonely

I'm thinking we will have a postnatal group maybe? cant imagine this support not being here when all the babies arrive?!