Due in April - blame it all on the hormones

[Katy44]

Inspiration at last!

hey lovlies

glad to see the thread has picked up to the usual billion posts-per-min!

miam - so sorry to hear about your dog. That's awful and such a shock for you all.

CD - woooohooo !!! yeh!!! Well done you! Virtual champagne all round!

Emmy - lovely photo of you all looking radiant! Hope you've had a nice day and feel a bit better this evening. Hugs for the evil anti-d injection tomorrow. I hate them!

1b3 - welcome back to the mad house!

Nutty - hope you manage to sort the christening. It shouldn't be a prob, unless you get an awkward vicar.

GMM! Give me a shock why don't you! Thought you knew something I didn't for a second. lol. Maybe I could still have the 2 pressies though

Bugmum! Cambridge! Was there on sat! Cambridge is our favourite place in the whole world and we're trying to work out how we can move back there. dh did postgrad stuff there and when I was well I commuted to the university library to research.

11wks - lol at description of 1st 6hrs!

Well, I had a lovely day doing hardly anything, has been wonderful. And looking forward to preg yoga tomorrow, yey!

Having a few stresses with my sis. She can't wait to get her hands on the baby. We've got a wedding to go to in July and I'm bridesmaid and dh is involved too and sis has been pestering me to be able to take the baby off for the day. I just think 3months is a bit little, and baby wont know her as she lives long way away, and I'll be bf and have serious huge boobs if don't feed for a day etc etc. My main issue though is that she's getting in a huff with me about it, like i'm being unreasonable. I know there will be times when I will be begging her to come over and help out, but I'm just feeling a bit defensive because she's being so agressive. What do you think? Have any of you felt a bit defensive about people who seem a bit too keen to get hands on baby??

What a long post! Has to be a record for me!

Tumbleweed could never last long on this thread!

Liath, what a description of your dd - a teabag with a wig on!

I know I shouldn't laugh, but one of my poor cats has been for a bath tonight!
I heard Becky coming up the stairs panting and puffing. Unbeknown to me (I was in her room putting clothes away) she had carried him up the stairs, and plonked him in the bath I had just run! I came out to find him frantically shaking his paws, and to a very wet bathroom!
He was soaked!! He seems quite relaxed about the whole thing though and his fur is very soft!!

Katy - if you can walk - then yes you can go to the toilet! They do like to see you up and about if you are planning to go home. A friend of mine had her baby at 1.30pm last week and was home by 6pm for tea! I am tempted to get home asap this time and snuggle into my own bed - all depends on whether get my own room or not - always best to ask by the way!

eca - just tell your sister how you feel about the wedding and say that you value her support and help but maybe see closer to the time and how feeding etc is going...

Holby City completely lost me tonight - really don't get the Patsy Kensit thing or the 14 year old girl - who is she?

lastly - does anyone know why I have ridges going up and down my nails - do I have some kind of deficiency???

Time for bed xoxoxoxox

SOSPL - lol at the cat bath!! I think my DS would LOVE to do that to the poor cats but he's not quick enough (yet!) to catch them!!!

Eca - I don't think you are being unreasonable. Its very hard to imagine what it will be like until the baby is actually here and, yes, if you are bf then it will almost impossible to leave the baby for the day without taking a pump with you!! I was v protective of DS for a long while after he was born and didn't like him to be out of my sight. Plus its really hard to be completely at ease with someone else looking after your baby even if its a close family member etc. How about you suggest to your sister that she comes with you to look after the baby whilst you are at the wedding - you can pop out/back to the hotel at feed time and she gets to do the babysitting she wants? A friend did this at a wedding they went to when their baby was 5 months (she was bf). HTH.

11 weeks, it might be a calcium deficiency - that can cause problems with nails.

I watched Holby too - it was pants! I hate Patsy Kensit anyway - I hope she isn't going to figure too often. Not sure who the 14 year old is either, although Chrissie seemed to think it was a prostitute??

Have a nice sleep!

SOL - lol at your cat! That's so cute.

11wks - i think white flecks mean zinc deficiency. I think you're right about saying to sis I'll see how it's going nearer the time, but for some reason it's really stressing me out at the mo!

HLM - thanks for that. Glad to know other mums are a bit protective too. The wedding's not at a hotel (wish it was, would help make things easier) they have got posh tents in a field in the middle of nowhere! Ideally I'd like sis to be around for morning while everyone's getting ready and then look after lo during the service. Hopefully dh will be able to take over for the reception.

No flecks just ridges on nails.

eca - try visualisation excerises - this is mine - use to relax...need to lie down on left and get yourself comfy first...(imagine it is a tape and you keep breathing LOL)

"let your eyes close and focus on your breathing - feel your breath go in, filling your head, moving down your body, surrounding your baby, down your legs and into your toes - when you breath out, let go of all your tension and any thoughts that may be troubling you...when you breathe in next time imagine a million twinkling gold stars fluttering down to your baby, surrounding him, cuddling him and soothing him - feel his movements as he snuggles into his warm blanket of stars - imagine those stars unwrapping themselves from around your baby and as you breathe out they form a warm blanket around your body. Think about how warm, safe and cosy you feel, how beautiful the stars are and how comfy your baby is snuggled up inside"

I try to do this with variations of coloured ribbons, smoke, flowers etc to help with my breathing for labour and also to relax.

Now you all must think I'm completely barking mad

ooh. feeling all warm and fuzzy now!

ridges, mmm, not sure what that means then!

news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/americas/4191765.stm

OMG

link below about 17lb baby off the thread about woman giving birth in 7 minutes - lucky cow!

Glad feeling fuzzy!

11 weeks, I thought you said you were going to bed at 9.11 a.m.!! MN is too addictive.
I am going to bed. Come over really tired. Baby has been so active it has worn me out!
Night all! x

Hi eca - I can totally understand how you are feeling. Before James was born I used to be panic striken as my MIL kept going on about taking baby out int he pram here there and everywhere and I just wanted to scream at her "It's MY baby not yours and how dare you think you can just assume anything". It really worried me.
All I can say is that when James did arrive - it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. If you are not comfortable with the thought of your isister having him you need to say so. If she gets in a huff it is her problem hun. She needs to respect the fact that this is all new and scary for you and you don't know how you are going to feel, what you are going to be doing feeding wise etc a few months down the line. I am presuming she doesn't have kids by the way - cos if she did I would be sure she should remember exactly how you are feeling and not put you through it.

SOSPL - your poor cat! lol Our Jasper is too quick for James and he can't pick him up. Jasper is in a big huff as had Russell the dog here yesterday so he hid in the top bunk bed. Russell may have inadvertently done me favour tho and scared off the black cat - who poked his head through the cat flap to come and pinch the food and nearly died to be met with a Dog!

Had a better nights sleep last night after a long warm bath. Really over did it yesterday and my back and hips were so sore I could hardly walk - I was like an old woman.

That combined with my neighbour writing a diary on another web site about how she cannot wait to sell her house and move away from me because I am having a baby had me in a bit of a tizz.

I'm sure I have mentioned before that my neighbour lost her baby at 36 weeks of pregnancy just about 2 weeks before I got pregnant. We were close friends and I have done just about everything I can think of to help her through this hideously difficult time. I really don't think that she is going through a "normal" grieving process (if there is such a thing..)She has alot of other "issues" as well as this tragedy to deal with and is seeing a counsellor and psychologist and I really don't feel that they are helping her to get through this terrible time. Since it happened I really feel I have done as much as I could to try and help her but recently she just seems to have gone "cold" on me and doesn't really speak - where we would have done every day, she's always cancelling on me if we arrange to take the boys anywhere etc...I knew it would be hard for her to see me pregnant and for when we brought the baby home etc and to be honest as I have said before we seriously considered moving as well for a fresh start... I have found that she has been writing a diary about it on the internet on another baby site and she has basically made out I am flaunting this pregnancy in front of her and that she will have to move as she cannot bear to see me pregnant as it is like a knife through her heart. I am so upset. I spent all last night in such a state.
I haven't spoken to her now for about 3 weeks as I was beginning to get fed up of putting myself out there for her to have it pushed back in my face I had decided to try and distance myself a bit as I felt like she was making me depressed to be honest.
Now I am just so angry - I understand it is a diary and it is her feelings etc - I write a diary of my own...but I just feel so upset that she is saying all this and making me out to be this horrible insensitive person when all I have done is happen to get pregnant. I really don't know what to do. I can't bear to face her and I can't ignore her forever....
Sorry I am going on and on here - my mind is in such a tizz with it all, I know it's difficult for people to comment on it when you only hear my side of the story.....I just need to vent!

and breathe

Gosh sorry that was such a long rant!

Anyone else feeling pretty - blah - about the whole pregnancy thing lately? I'm not down or anything, I just mean it all seemed a lot more exciting a few months ago. Now when people say 'Oh my GOD you're 28 weeks? How EXCITING' I just kind of think, "Meh."

I just wish it would all hurry up... getting impaitent now.... I want to be finsihed work, and doing nice things and for the little one to come a couple of weeks early...

A girl my mum works with, she's only 18 bless her, had her baby this morning, 2 weeks overdue, 9lb 7oz...

SOSPL - LOL .. my cat is stupid enough that he once got in the bath on his own when I was running it. It only had about 2 inches of water but he just stood there looking really perplexed and kind of frozen. I actually had to pull him out. LOL.

MIABT - Babe I know it must have been really hard to read all of that on her diary when you know you have done your best but let's face it, her view of things probably is hugely warped right now. I think as much as it hurts you need to try and remember that it probably has nothing to do with you at all. She has had such a huge trauma and you probably just BEING feels like you are flaunting your pregnancy. What can you do? You have nothing to feel bad about, except I guess that she is having such a horrible time. I certainly think there's little more you can do. If she feels she has to move away I guess that is her just trying to find an external thing she can firmly point the finger at. It's something she can fix, you know, where as she can't fix not having her baby. Sadly it's obviously not the solution as you are not the last pregnant woman she is going to have to come into contact with.

She must be going through something awful and I think it's pretty normal that your friendship cools in light of everything, as much as losing her friendship, temporarily or permanently, might hurt. Maybe you could just let her know that you are willing to take cues from her, that you don't want to force yourself on her but you're there if she needs you? And then just back away from her so you can enjoy your pregnancy. You have DEFINITELY not done anything wrong and shouldn't feel guilty.

xxxx

GMM - I KNOW. I am hoping this passes because I still have 2 months of work and 12 weeks til due date. Feels so far away. I think to everyone else it sounds like such little time but to me it really doesn't. 12 weeks has never sounded so long!

I am so dreading being overdue. a week or so early would just be lovely...

hi all

Thanks everyone for the birthday wishes I had a fabulous time. It has just been marred immensley by events over the last 3 days.

Dont want to go in to details but it is pretty terrible.

Sorry to put a downer on things ladies but wanted to let you know that I may only be on now and again till things sort themselves out xxx

SOSPL, as maveta said this really isnt your fault, and she cant lock herself away from pregnant ladies, and those with children the same ages as her lost one would have been forever. It must be a horrible time for her, and I suppose she is trying to cope in the best way that she can... although I doubt writing an online diary is helping her any.. maybe it would be best if you didnt read it? Please dont feel guilty though.

Tili, so sorry you are going through a terrible time at the moment, just remember we are all here for you should you need us. Take care.

Maveta

Thanks for that - it really helps seeing someones point of view who is not directly involved in it all. I think I have come to the realisation that for my own self preservation I need to end the "friendship". I have no worry over the fact that I have done more than enough as a friend but really feel like the friendship is no longer a healthy one...if you get what I mean? I certainly agree with you about me not being the only pregnant person she is going to come across - and to be honest I'm sure if it were the other way round I would feel the same...just don't think I would be writing about it on the internet but telling her something else...anyway...
Just had my Mum on in a right state...she can't cope with how quiet the house is as Russell is moping about and not making any noise when ususally the two of them were scuttling around together. Thanks so much to you all for your kind words and good wishes.

I feel like an old woman this morning - SPD is agony...that will teach me for taking the dog out yesterday and pushing James in the buggy....when will I learn..

Agree about the "Pregnancy Schmegnancy" kind of feelings...I looked at Phil last night and just said..."Please tell me the next 10 weeks are gonna go really fast..." kind of getting fed up now...at least I know I won't have all the goiing overdue malarkey this time. One plus point of my elective section I suppose!

Tili - I hope you are ok my love...thinking of youx

Tili, sorry you are having a crappy time, hope it all settles down soon. take care x

GMM - I know I shouldn't read it....but imagine you knew that someone was writing about you on the internet....could you honestly stop yourself having a look?
I have tried but I'm crap and have no will power whatsoever...Phil said the same last night. He just told me to stop reading it and forget her. I know you are both right....
x

Laith - any news on your sister?
x

Dippy - have you had your first "solo" drive yet!?
x