December 2016 - Thread 5! 20 week scans and wriggly babies

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Thought I'd start a new thread before thread 4 fills up

nojo82, I think you should seek urgent medical advice. There is a possibility it's a blood clot, easily treatable at this stage but much more serious if it travels to your lungs. My sister came very close to dying.

I'd also get advice/in touch with someone nojo82
SolomanDaisy that must have been frightening
Did you manage to see a mw south
Hope you're ok

It was very scary indeed. I'm a bit nervous about it. With the family history I'd be on aspirin and possibly heparin in the UK, but here they just say to keep an eye out!

Catching up as been away and manically busy - hope everyone is ok...

Had my 26 week check yesterday & whooping cough vaccine today. All going well but BP on high side of normal. GTT next week & consultant as school goes back, lots of appointments to keep me busy lol! Midwife thinks I'll be having another section because of my BP, not sure how I feel about this but don't want to put myself or baby at any risk.

We haven't bought anything yet either but will be getting into my mum's loft this weekend to see what I have from DS. Leaving our purchasing to the last minute as our new house rennovations mean we've no-where to put anything (we have a large marquee filled with boxes in the garden lol). Work on the house starts next week, hoping it's ready in time!

nojo please see someone tonight xx

I'm fine thanks. Didn't see midwife, but I figure pain is just braxton hicks. Had whopping cough jab, blooming heck the nurse was fierce! I swear she hit bone with the needle!

Isn't swelling and headaches possible pre eclampsia? Def go and get your blood pressure/self checked out nojo

I've joined the september school starters thread elodies
Does that mean you'll have some time to yourself before baby arrives in december? When dd2 starts, it'll only be dd3 and I dd2 is like 4 children rolled into one so will be semi peaceful

Have you not been tested nojo? I've got a blood disorder (factor V Leiden) that puts me at a higher risk of clotting. They found it by chance trying to diagnose something else, but then also tested my immediate family to find out who else was at risk and how seriously I had it.

Turns out I've only got it from one parent (recessive) so the risk is much lower, but it still came up as a red flag at my booking in appointment and I was referred to a consultant.

Consultant is actually fine with it, as I haven't had a clot myself and the recessive risk is elevated but not mega. Has taken me off their care (unless I get clot symptoms during pregnancy) and I just need an injection after birth.

It's best they know if you have the gene though as expect you'll also need the injection, and may need other care in the case of a c section.

Feeling really squashed this morning God knows how I'll be at full term!

Bristol, my sister didn't have the gene. She was tested, so then no one else needed to be. Her history is on my notes, but the Dutch approach is to say I'll have the kraamzorg there every day after the birth and she can keep an eye on me and make sure I am moving around. I like the frequency of care, but I would prefer a more interventionist approach! Particularly during pregnancy, as I have SPD so it is easy to end up not moving enough.

That's encouraging then nojo, more likely to be lifestyle factors and therefore you're much less at risk.

Although hard not to be worried regardless, completely understandable X

Baby name help please!

Finally got DH to look at baby names last night, we have really quite different tastes!

Have put a couple of threads in chat for traffic, would appreciate your input...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/2716166-compromise-baby-girl-names

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/2716170-compromise-baby-boy-names

How are you this morning nojo and south how are the BH and did your poor arm survive?!

Feeling dreadful this morning - sick, aching etc. I expect it's a big rather than a reaction to the jab. I just want to feel fine for one day!

Morning all!

Oh no bigfam, they must have to deal with swelling all the time though so surely it won’t prevent the anaesthetic? How’s he doing? Lovely to see you on the school starters thread too.

I love the name Reuben Bristol, a friend has just had a little boy and given him that name, it’s really nice. Sounds like a funny dream though!

Sorry to hear about the SPD Solomon! Hope the physio helps.

Thanks for keeping the list updated for us all Kitkat!

I can’t tell the baby’s position at all Azure, midwives are trained to do that though, so don’t worry. I think it’ll get easier as they get bigger and more squished in there. It was much easier with DTs because they had less space I think.

Did you get checked out Nojo? How are you doing?

Congratulations on joining team blue nightcap!

Aww South, sounds like you’re having such a rough time, hope you feel much better soon! Do rest up.

I can't get my hubby to sit down and discuss names, unless he is hoping that I will just choose one. We have a boy name sorted it's something that we have always agreed on but struggling to get him to think about girls names.
My hubby has a tradition in family that every boy is given the same name. I'm happy with this, I would like to change it to tradition of first boy is given the middle name incase we have 2. Anywho my mum has kicked up a stinker about it, banging on about how his family traditions are more important than ours (we don't have any name traditions in our family) it really upset me. Then ended the conversation 'well I hope it's a girl then'. Argh!!!

I think ultimately it's nice if you can agree on one that you love together but if men are 'vetoing' names and being obstinate about it I just say 'it's my choice as I am the one going through all the pain and discomfort'... I've taken DH's surname so they (he and his fam) can be happy with that and he might be able to choose a middle name.
The name I've got has come to me from nowhere and it's very rare, I looked up its meaning and it's really lovely. I have to have a rare name because I'm a teacher and other peoples little darlings don't always leave me with a good association. used to love the name Amelia

Frustrating isn't it theaks!

I'd like to use Elizabeth as a middle name for a girl as both our nanas are called that, but then I dont want my grandma to feel left out!

My dad is called tony (not a shortened name) and his is Anthony (but called tony) so I quite like the idea of using Anthony as a middle name (but not tony as its a bit dated), but don't want it as a first. But we're struggling to come up with the first name as a priority so don't want to limit options by having to have something that goes with Anthony at this point.

Would love to be someone who just compromises on a name, or picks something on trend for the moment, but I'm really feeling the pressure of giving someone a name for the rest of their lives!

That's part of the reason I liked more traditional names, as they can be shortened to "cute" names as a child (Tilly, kitty, Ted etc) but still have the option of a longer name when they're adults (or you're shouting at them )

i had my whooping cough jab yday and my god what an awful sleep i had last night, tosssing and turning ended up chucking my pillow thing on the floor, couldnt sleep on my left side and i literally cannot feel my arm. typing with one hand at the moment!! work have let me do admin stuff as i cant type very well. what a palava!!
and im feeling very squashed today too cant breathe at some points like i cant get my breathe :(

Morning all! Oh Bristol I love a natter about names, will go read those threads now. I agree about wanting an unusual name, we've gone through so many and im just coming upto 24 weeks. I'm worried that I haven't found "the one" and worried that I won't!! It's girls names we are struggling with now.

Bristol same problem with hubby here! He's very good at vetoing my suggestions but hasn't come up with many of his own. He contributed ONE and he's probably thinking that's him done.

Don't panic too much, we've got 6 weeks to name them once they're here. It's nice to have a list of possibles though! I was meant to be one thing but didn't suit it when my parents met me so ended up with a completely different name!

I'm secretly glad we're expecting another girl, my dp's family also would have liked us to keep up the passing down name tradition theaks and I really didn't want to, not because I don't like dp's and his dads name but because when people refer to them dp's dad is called 'big NAME' dp is called 'little NAME' & the baby (had it been a boy obviously) would have been forever called 'baby NAME' (hope I've explained that well enough to understand )
I still can't get my head around dp being referred to as 'little NAME' partly because he's about 18 stone!

Bigfam I know about those naming traditions! DH is something like the 6th generation of first born sons being called James. His dad is Jim, he is James, and baby would have been Jamie I suppose, which is a lovely name, I just don't want my DS and DH having the EXACT SAME NAME. How confusing would the post be? I vetoed completely for DS1 and we will use as middle name for DS2. Fair enough I think (and I will forever go down in their family's history as being that woman who broke the chain after 6 generations)

Popskipiekin I would have been that woman too I would have happily carried the burden to avoid my son growing into a strapping lad only to be called 'baby NAME' I found it really hard with boys name though, but had baby been a boy, I think I'd have chosen jacob...

Anyway mil isn't particularly fond of dd3's name or the names we're deciding between for the baby but it's tough, she'll have to suck it up