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hi, im due on the 1st of october with 2nd after 3mcs in the past 18m. anyone else?

MrsMcJr your mom's comments are very funny. I am sure they are well meaning, but I can see why you were reluctant to talk to her!

Speaking of things that make you lose your dignity...I wanted to share another funny thing, just to laugh a bit.

At the scan yesterday, the sonographer was looking around my tummy and at one point showed us a big black area and said: "Look - you have a lot of trapped wind". My husband immediately responded: "Yes, I know!". Very romantic, isn't it???

Kezza ? I?ve been teasing my Mum for years that her grandkids will call her Batty Nanny! I know that she drives my sister insane by telling her that she should make time to dance with her children everyday!!! Incidentally, when my sister and I were little, both our parents worked full time (and some!!) and we spent most of our time with hired help not dancing with our mother on a daily basis!! I?m not resentful, that was how things were but it is amusing how grandparents feel they can preach!

PMSL at the trapped wind gemmamac I got teased last Friday for the size of my bladder ? it took up loads of the screen and she was amazed I could walk

Hi all I haven't read throught he whole thread in detail yet but did happen to come across MrsMc's conversation with her Mum and the top ten tips...... I didn't know whether to laugh or scrape my jaw off the table! They really do know how to say all the wrong things sometimes don't they?!

I haven't really been around lately as I've been struggling with my decision about the termination and whether or not I am doing the right thing, and didn't feel that it was fair on all of you to be struggling with that decision on this thread... it's not the right place. I need to speak to someone about possible AND and get my head straightened out! I have felt a lot more positive the last couple of days though and the midife turned up to get me booked in today so that's kind of the thing that has brought the safety bar down and started the roller coaster off. I'm still terrified but I'll get there!

I can have a 12 week scan (optional) to screen for Downs and then a routine 20 week scan but as long as both have developed and it is twins will get a few more scans inbetween.

I don't know if I can wait another 2 weeks to find out if it is definately twins as that is a huge part of my worries!!

Mrsmcjnr- your mum sounds very funny! My mum also advocates dancing with children! Fortunatley for me she was a at home mummy- so I did get to dance with her. I think I get my hippy non-materialistic attitude from her. Thanks for worrying about me! You really shouldnt! I am fine- I guess it has just opened my eyes a lot reading about the horrid things that you and others have been going through. I so hope everything is fine on Friday for you. Good to know the bleeding has stopped.

J20- thats weird about your XP- I didnt realise you had been actively TTC. Guys often have difficulty relating to pregnant women... they just can't imagine what it is like. Hope he doesnt annoy you or hassel you too much. Keep happy.

Zephyr- I hope you feel happier soon.

Honeyapple & jersey - gentle hugs to you both ...

J20 - your xp sounds like a complete tosser tbh - what an arse! on your behalf - seems like you are much better out of it! You may be surprised by your freinds though - my friends were an absolute tower of strength when I was having the pg / mc last year. You'll also meet new people - other mums. Make sure you take the time to go to the swimming classes for pg ladies and all that, as you'll meet some wonderful people. I went to NCT classes when pg with ds and I'm still in touch with the wonderful women I met then - in fact they were the people who made sure that I survived the mcs last year ...

MrsMc - at mum's comments - but not surprised - I had similar last year but from mil rather than mum - her 2 classics were

1. on hearing that I'd had a blighted ovum that I'd continued pg with until 14 weeks (2nd mc) 'oh, so you had one of those phantom pregnancies then ... '
2. After the 2nd mc: 'we haven't told the family about your little problem (I'd nearly bled to deth in theatre) as we don't want them to think you can't carry a child'

nice! Glad to see you can keep a sense of humour about it - hope all the doom-saying is proven wrong!

mumpbump - enjoy your skiing!

ejt

hi guys, just cannot believe what some people say, my ds was stillborn at 37 weeks, and i had my partners father telling me it ok, you can have another one, your only young, after the funeral

great advice,

then other fantastic bit of advice was when i had to deliver ds after still birth, after a 20 hour labour, knowing my son had died i had a healthcare assistant tell me ,, oh not long now and it will all be over, as i was having a contraction,,,, and crying my eyes out

sometimes unbelievable,,, i would love to meet that lady again who said that to me, as it still haunts me know how any one could say such a thing, at such a time,,,,,

well i am feeling awfull still have no energy or anything, i do not know how some of u are coping with work etc, i feel just so useless, i would love some energy my legs feel like jelly i keep getting hot flushes and feeling faint and feel sick to the point where i can bearky face food,

is it worth mentioning this to doctor midwife or will they think im just a moaner,,

j20 baby
what a tough time u must be having going through this alone, hope u have some fab friends to help you,,,

B2B - is there anyone around who can take your ds off your hands for a bit during the day so you can get a bit of rest? I don't think you can overestimate the drain that looking after a toddler places on you - commuting and working is so much easier!!

for the last two weeks he has gone to a childminder one day a week which i have oly just started as he was getting very clingy,,, so today weds he was with childminder, and i have managed to get some rest, but no matter how much rest i get it does not really seem enough,,,

i have a great friend and mum, and partner but its the days that are hard and they are working, so i have to struggle on

hopefully this stage will pass soon, and ill be blooming, lol

just having a pity party for myself, but i know it will be worth it xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

thanks mumpbumb, thats make me feel better,,, i feel so useless at the moment, which i think is making me feel worst,, xx

Hi Beanie- Sorry to hear you are feeling rubbish too. I feel like something has zapped all my power.

Really sorry to hear of your still birth. How long ago was this? I cannot imagine what an awful thing to go through. You are very courageous to go through pregnancy again.

My hair is absolutely disgusting. I am SOOO embaressed (sp??) to be walking about looking like a greasy scum bag. It's my DD's ballet later, I can't face chatting to mums looking like a complete turd.

Zephyrcat ? can I call you Zephy? Always spell your name wrong! I really feel for your position, no wonder you are scared, it?s a very daunting thought that you?ll have all those small children to look after and we all feel for you and understand that. Please don?t feel you can?t talk to us about your feelings, we all have fears and worries and just because they differ from each other it doesn?t mean they aren?t equally as important and as you say, you need to talk it through hon My feeling is that you?ll do this and that you?ll be magnificent at it so hang in there my friends had triplets last year and for a while they didn?t know whether they were cursed or blessed but now they know and they wouldn?t change a thing .

Honeyapple ? I bet you dance with your kids too hey ? great Christmas name for you this year Danceswithelves! sorry ? just know we never found anything quite right last year did we! So glad to hear you are feeling better.

Ejt ? thank you , I can?t believe what your MIL said, how awful, she sounds like a witch my Mum didn?t mean to be nasty, she loves me an incredible amount and I her but she often just says the wrong thing. I?ve had odd texts from her all day like ?maybe 2 now 1?? ?praying for ALL? etc

Beanie2Bump ? I?m so sorry, I did not know about your DS thing is, people genuinely just don?t know what to say in the face of people?s grief do they. Sorry you still feel so awful. I think you should mention it to your GP/MW they might be able to help and make things better for you.

hi there. do you mind if i join aswell. have been following the thread for a couple of weeks but didnt want to join till after my scan. ( thought i might jinx it!!! lol) i am due 26th. had a scan yesterday at 6+5 and saw a lovely strong heart beat. just the one aswell which was nice as i had been expecting triplets, lost one at 6 weeks then lost the twins at 14 weeks. ( not meaning to scare you zephy)
feeling really bad at the moment as got flu and also being tested for an infected inflammed bowel, so getting awful stomach cramps.
hope everyone is feeling ok today and not too much knicker checking going on!!! lol

Morning all!

Welcome to AmyJo. Sorry you to hear about your loss, but hoping that this one goes well for you. There is a separate stats thread somewhere if you want to add to it.

Not much to report today. Am a bit worried about ds being left with our au pair and my dad tonight. It will be the first time in his short, little life that neither of his parents are there in the morning, but I'm sure he will survive. Otherwise, am off this evening so getting quite excited! Plus, it really feels like spring is finally here today which is a relief! I hate the winter and am wondering how I am going to cope with having a baby in the darkest months. Being able to get outside for a walk almost daily with ds definitely helped... Anyway, hope everyone is well today!

Morning,

Well I got a phone call this morning from a midwife, to say that my appointment next week had to be cancelled, but could she pop over now? So, I ran around like a loony chucking toys into bags and generally trying to tidy up...

She was very nice, and to my great pleasure and excitement- said straight away when she found out i had 2 DC already, "Well, how about a home birth?" I am SOOOO pleased that they are supportive of home births- she said that her midwife team did quite a lot of them around here. I was a bit concerned that they would prefer hospital births, so I am really happy!

However they definitely don't do nuchal scans or early dating scans here on NHS- so she has given me some private places to ring. She said it cost about £90 for the nuchal- so I think we will definitely go for that.
They do blood tests- but still not until 16 wks. It is weird how differnet PCTs spend their money.

Hi ladies, sorry to crash your thread - I'm due Nov 07, so only a little way behind you all! Just to say that a few people have suggested an ante-natal thread just for first-time mums, and there is now one here . Not trying to steal people away from this thread just inviting people to post there too if they want to!

Shutting up now... Bless you all!

Amyjo ? congratulations!!!! So pleased that you have some joy after all that pain

Mumpbump ? V of your holiday, have fun!

Honeyapple ? that?s great news about the possibility of a home birth Annoying about having to pay for the nuchal, it?s the same here.

Geek ? hey hon this has made my day, I did not know you?d got your BFP!! I?m delighted for you, I really, really am. If I get good news tomorrow, (please pray for my beanie), I?ll join your thread wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy old friend.

nice one honeyapple, very pleased for you you wanted a home birth didn't you?

mrs what time is your appointment?

will have everything crossed for you x

Thanks, it's 10am tomorrow.

Sorry-

Hi Amyjo- finally someone with a late October EDD! I think I may end up on the November thread...

Geek- great news, well done!

Mrsmcjnr- Good luck for tommorrow. Will be thinking of you. How are you feeling? I really hope that your first outcome possibility comes true.

Hi all,

fettle - good to hear about your mw appt. it's always good when you get positive vibes from them.

beanie - hang on in there doll - thinking about you! Know how you feel about the hair thing - mine is very long and it feels lank and disgusting about 2 minutes after I've washed it. hey ho - I had short hair when pg with ds - much easier!

mrsmc - glad your mum is being nice - I think she may be one of those who feel they have to say something to someone who has faced a loss. I found that the people who were able to be the most supportive had had losses themselves - I now tell people that it's ok just to say 'I'm sorry for your loss' - you don't have to qualify it. I found that just knowing people were thinking about me was a support. Really hope tomorrow goes well - I'll be thinking of you.

amyjo - hi and welcome to knicker checkers anonymous! Good to hear about your scan - not so nice to hear about how you're feeling [ouch emoticon needed here] - take care of you.

mumpbump - ds was an october baby - and after the first couple of weeks, when I didn't know which way was up, I can honestly say that there was hardly a day when I didn't go out for a walk with ds. we roamed the streets of penarth in the rain if necessary!

honeyapple - fantastic news about the mw's attitude. you rock girl!!

Well, yesterday I planted my tomotoes, peppers, cucumber, leeks, early peas and sweet peas. I'm going to do the garlic and first lot of lettuce today - and I'm going to pot some cutting of corkscrew willow that I took yesterday too.

I'm getting a bit paranoid though - the nux vom I took for the headache from hell seems to have done the trick on the ms too - I've only been heaving today, and haven't been sick. Now, I should be happy that it's worked - however, I'm feeling somewhat nervous about it. Don't want to phone the midwife to panic at her - anybody got any ideas?

take care all

ejt

I havent read all the new messages so will do a proper catch up later, but just wanted to say to MrsMcJnr the very very best of luck tomorrow. If that little bean can sense the weight of all the good wishes from everyone here then he or she will be fine.

you have coped so well this week and I am so impressed by your knowledge and thoughtfullness. If you can invest this much time and effort to learn about the ickle baby inside you I cannot imagine how good a mum you will be to it.

Good luck

Thanks Honeyapple ? I?m ok, have a scary piece of work to do before tomorrow so finishing up on here now until tomorrow evening.

Ejt ? thanks Hon. Very impressed by your planting! Can?t help with the nux vom question but must be good to have no headache or ms

Kezza ? I really appreciate your lovely comments, you almost made me cry. So want to be a Mummy

Thank you all for your thoughts and wishes . If I am able to, I need to go straight from the appointment to a business lunch so I apologise now if I leave you in limbo not knowing how I got on. I promise to come on here as soon as I can and let you know what happened either way . All your support has really got me through this week and I am so incredibly grateful.

Hiya,

Ejt- impressed with your veggies- do you have an allotment or just very lucky with a nice big garden? Our next house will definitely have a bigger garden. Last year the kids and I grew runner beans, tomatoes and strawberries in pots. The slugs in my garden just devour anything in about 2 seconds flat . I love gardening. I dream of a big garden....

What is nux vom????
I have been drinking ginger and lemon tea- oh and eating loads - it's the only thing that stops me feeling sick. Things I wouldnt normally eat too. DD wanted a bun from the bakers today- and I bought a sausage roll I NEVER eat stuff like this! I really don't want to turn into a big lump this PG.

Not had chance to catch up with all the replies, this thread moves so fast, so I hope everyone is doing well.

MrsMc - Good luck for tomorrow, will be thinking of you x

Well, I have started to relax a little bit now, scan is on tuesday so not long to wait now... I have also all of a sudden gained two pound this week after 10 wks of nothing, its amazing how so little can make you feel so huge, but I am taking it as a positive sign. Spent the afternoon sorting through all the maternity clothes I have under the bed and ironing them in readiness, just hope I get to use them this time round