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hi, im due on the 1st of october with 2nd after 3mcs in the past 18m. anyone else?

Thanks Buffy

Taichimum, thanks Sorry your home birth didn?t work out last time my sis was so worried that she?d go into labour too soon or too late to have one but she was lucky and had DS2 at home. With her DS1, she went into labour on the tube in rush hour a month early! He still weighed 8 pounds though and she said that she?d always thought they were 3 weeks late with her dates.

Hello Honeyapple ? my sis had a home birth in London last year and said it was a wonderful experience. There was some politics with the hospital at first but I think a group of midwives were keen to have more home births and she as lucky that they were able to oblige her. She did look into a private midwife but it was thousands. She had the water bath in her kitchen . She said there was just nothing like having her new baby, lying in her own bed having a cup of tea with DH and it just being them. I know she regretted sending DS1 to his Granny?s an hour away though because after the birth and when they were just resting, she didn?t feel right not having him there too and summoned him back. I know you have 2 DC already so you might feel that way too.

Ejt ? I?m so sorry to hear about your DH?s cousin, awful, I shall pray for him and for you all. It puts things into perspective doesn?t it? That we shall make the most of the people we have here and spend less time worrying about those we have yet to meet. I know what you mean about foods, DH has developed a passion for sardines and mackerel ? uggh and I can?t even be downstairs when they are cooking, it makes me gag. Bring on that boring pregnancy for me, far too eventful at the moment. Sounds like you had a harrowing time at your first birth ? strapping you to the bed ! That?s why I?d like a doula, to be my heavy weight when I?m not fit Your appointment?s are really early, that?s great . I was hearing from a friend in my area yesterday that the MW tried to give her her booking in at 19 weeks, she kicked up a stink as obviously by then she?d be too far along for many of the tests [anger]

I can honestly say that this weekend has been the worst of my life (I?ve had a very good life to date ) I have never seen so much blood or felt as much pain as I have in the last 24 hours and I have to say that I?m now beginning to wonder if I?m ok as well as the fear for the baby of course. Sounds dramatic but I?ve never had heavy periods and soaking through a super pad an hour is a massive shock in itself. DH got drunk last night and a bit nasty and when he got up this morning he got ready and went to the football without any regard to how I might be feeling or how I might like to be cared for. I really do feel very alone. I know it must be upsetting for him too but he?s just not grasping that I feel physically wretched as well as emotionally. I?ve phoned the hospital to check on the volume of blood I have and they say that if I get through a pad every half hour I should go in as I may be haemorrhaging, scary prospect. Look and feel awful . I really hope that for better or worse this all stops soon.

Sorry to bring such misery to what should be a happy and exciting board. If I leave you in the next few days, I shall miss you all and will remember how kind you have been to me and I shall look out eagerly for the announcements in October

mrs mc j this sounded positive when i started reading and i'm now v worried. do go to hospital hey???

really thinking of you - no more self pitying at my house today

dont know what else to say - i keep dipping into due october as an outsider to see how you're doing

pls dont be too brave -

take good care of yourself

agree with sparkly, you shouldnt be bleeding this much sweetheart. please go to hospital!

MrsMcJ

I agree with the others please go to the hospital - is there anyone else you can call to be with you and give you some support?
I'm so so sorry you have had such a horrible, horrible time if I was there I would take you myself

Thinking of you

MrsMcJnr honey how are u,,, its no wonder u r feeling awfull losing so much, are u gonna go to hospital and get checked, out,, i am thinking of u ,,, xxxxxxxxxxx

Mrs M
I agree it sounds like fair amount of blood loss. Do you feel faint or peculiar in any way (aside from stomach cramps/bleeding).
I bled very heavily during my mc.I was going through a maternity pad in about 10 mins. I did start to feel very odd (dizzy/sick/disorientated) after bleeding for about three hours, which was why I went to hospital. Had emergency D&C due to excessive bleeding and just missed having blood transfusion.
The reason I am saying all this is the doc told me it is not the vol of blood you loose in total, but how much you loose in a given period. If you loose too much in a short space of time, your blood count can drop to an unhealthy level and be dangerous. That is why they have given you a guide of pad per half hour as a yard stick.
I think a pad an hour sounds like the level of a heavy period, but I am not a medical professional and maybe you should go to A&E to be sure you are Ok.
I really feel for you. Sorry your DH is being a crap. I know men that have gone back to work after an mc has been confirmed. I think only a woman that has experienced this sort of thing can truely comprehend how utterly gutting and scary it is. You are gutted about the baby and also worried for your own health and need looking after.
You are not alone- we are here. Let it all out. [hugs]

Eijt sorry about your cousin - how awful.

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Hi there, no chance of reading all the replies to date, so will just say hello now.

Taichimum - mentioned this thread to me.

I am due on October 1st after a mc last october, I have a 20mth old ds already. I have my first scan a week on tuesday which can't come quick enough as I don't feel at all pregnant at the moment, I actually feel quite negative about it at the moment, as my last pregnancy I found out at my 12 week scan that it had stopped at 8+6 with no sign at all beforehand, went in two days later for a d&C.

Anyway, trying to stay positive

Aww mrsmcjnr
i'm so sorry, everyone is right, get yourself to hospital and tell your bloody inconsiderate DH that you need some support!

ley us know how you get on x x x

MrsMc, I am thinking of you and praying for you. I hope that you don't have to go in and that everything settles down for you, you really sound like you have been through the mill. Please don't feel like you are bringing misery to the thread, we are all here to help and support each other and not just through the good times! I for one hope you continue to post as much as you want/need to. Take care of yourself.

Hi all,

MrsMc - I can only second polarmummy and say that if you are not feeling right, then get thee to a hospital. I'm hoping and praying that everything is ok for you.

I'm going down the doula route too - I see it as back up - my dh is a wonderful, caring soul, but found ds's birth as traumatic (if not more, as he was completely compus mentis, whereas I wasn't) as I did. We chatted about it, and he just wouldn't feel comfortable putting his foot down about things - he's so laid back he's practically horizontal! We did have a doula lined up for my last pg, she was a wonderful hbac experienced doula, who was on exactly the same wavelength as me - but she's starting midwife training and is no longer available ... she's given me the name of someone she recommends, but I'm not going to make formal contact until after the scan on 22nd - I can't let myself get my hopes up until then.

My appointments were / are early as I well and truly played the system!

MrsFish - welcome - a lot of us are in the same boat here - my 2nd mc last year was a mmc, and was only detected at a dating scan at 13+1 - it's difficult to feel excited about this just yet!

Taichi - yes, hbac appears to be heresy to the medical profession ... I don't know if I can be arsed for the fight. My thinking at the moment is that the more fuss I make over hbac, the more likely there are to offer me a place at the midwife-led unit as a compromise ... manipulative? yes! But better that than another completely unecessary C section, pnd and ptsd!
You and I can fight our battles together on this one! I did a lot of reading last year on hbac / vbac, and have all sorts of stats and medical references for you if you need them later on ....

Anyway, my news. DH went to see his cousin today - left me home as I'm just too puky to go anywhere. DH has been in tears off and on since he got home (has hidden it very well from ds), and I need to be his rock right now. He's been mine so many times, I owe it to him now. News is even worse than we thought. Thoughts and prayers please ...

take care all - love and hugs to all my fellow knicker-checkers.

ejt

MrsMcJr I am awfully sorry to hear what you've been going through. I hope you have in the meantime gone to the hospital, as I have read elsewhere that one pad an hour is when you should go to A&E - in fact this is the yardstick I've used and nobody told me I should have waited.

As for your husband, men do this kind of thing unfortunately. He sounds very considerate, from other things you've said before and perhaps he just needed a break from it all. But you need to tell him clearly never to leave you alone again in such a situation. I've had a similar situation and speaking about it later worked.

I really hope you are better, in any case. Please let us know.

MrsFish, welcome....good you found the thread.

Just to say a quick hi to all....
have been in hospital on a drip as got so dehydrated with being sick...will keep in touch but very unwell so may be sporadic

does anybody know how MrsMcJr is ????????

i've been checking and haven't seen anything as yet. i hope she's being looked after.

JUst cuaght up on this thread as I was away for the weekend.

I hope MrsMcJnr is getting the attention she needs and it is good news.

Ip hope everyone else is well.

Won't be about much this week as my mum is arriving today until Sunday..

Morning all. ejt, you are having a really rough time of it, does it sometimes feel like your body just doesnt like being pregnant!!!!! Its interesting how bad birth experiences can affect you, I think it is really underestimated just how traumatic it can be. So many women get PND too and it doesnt seem there is any research into links between pg care, birth and later PND. It seems like we are all concerned and would like to see MW and gp's sooner, and a lot of us didnt have good births and Im sure it costs the NHS in the long run when we find it hard to recover. Anyway, I will get off my soapbox, I hope you are feeling better. Best wishes to your dh's cousin too, what terrible news.

Mrs I had a lump in my throat reading your last post. Pg can be a very isolating experience, and even more so when something goes wrong. The only person you can really share it with is your dh and sometime I dont think they are good at dealing with the expectations on them. Im sure if it was a "normal" illness they could cope but pg problems are hard to understand if you havent been through it. I really hope you are ok. I agree with everyone who says go to A&E if you feel you need to.

Yawningmonster, I didnt know you could have ms so bad you end up on a drip, poor you. I hope you are feeling better.

MrsFish welcome. Hope everything is going well for you.

Just want to mention Sneaks - where are you? You havent posted for ages I hope you are ok.

Thank you all for thinking of me, I went to sleep yesterday afternoon and when I woke up in the evening I felt much better and have been bleeding less since, I?m even at work today so please don?t worry. I promise that if it gets bad again I?ll go straight to the hospital. My DH was better in the evening, he is just so sad and doesn?t know how to react, and he was hugging my belly last night, pleading with the beanie to be safe.

Ejt ? I am so sorry about DH?s cousin, I really am.

MrsFish ? congratulations hon, wishing you a very happy and healthy pregnancy.

Yawningmonster ? poor you, how awful, I really hope you feel much better soon. Did they give you something for the sickness?

MrsMcJnr - so glad you are feeling a bit better, sounds like your DH was pretty scared really and you must have been too. really hope you have a better week.

Congratulations to Mrs Fish and welcome to the thread.

Ejt - so sorry to hear you news sounds terrible.

I am feeling okay really, a bit queasy today but have not been sick yet just generally feeling pretty worn out my skin is disgusting, hair lank and greasy - so looking good! Have now got midwife appt. for the 19th March and scan date for the 28th so really pleased about that as feel I can't let myself get too excited until I know there is nothing wrong.

hi all, i hope everyone is ok, or at least as well is expected.

without wanting to jinx myself i think i'm starting to feel better emotionally, my bumps dad has made it quite clear he wants nothing to do with me or baby, but i'm gradually starting to accept it, and hopefully will get stronger as time goes on.

on a different note, i've been using avon stretchmark cream over the weekend and i think i'm allergic to it, was scratching all night and have got a rash, gutted cos its really nice and smells lovely! anybody else had this?

best wishes to all golden piggies and mummies x

Thanks Kittiwake I know exactly what you mean about the lanky hair and the bad skin, I was like that a couple of weeks ago. Not so bad now, hope that?s not a bad sign. Glad you got your appointments booked in. I?m really cross when I think that I handed in my booking in form on 9/2 and they told me they?d be in touch within a week, not inclined to chase at the moment but if I get good news on Friday ? I will be using my newly found anger on them!

J20baby ? hon, I?m so sorry, I did not realize you were going through that with your bump?s dad, are you sure you are ok? We are here for you anytime. X On the scratching note EVERYTHING is making me itch, it?s driving me mad!

hi everyone!!

mrs-glad your feelng better.still keeping fingers crossed for your scan tomorrow.good luck hun!!xxxx

j20,ive bought palmers cocoa butter stretch mark cream.doesnt really smell (but i have got a cold so it might smell gorge!!) and is really nice and easy on your tum.i had the avon anti cellulite cream and that gave me a rash all over my legs.might have the same ingredients in as teh stretch mark stuff,dont know.when you have a bath or shower,dont use any smellys on your rash,it might make it worse.sorry to hear about your bumps dad..if hes going to be like that though you might be better off without him.(if taht makes sense!)

hope everyone else is feeling ok!im ok,still feeling sick but havent been sick since sunday.
been getting so knackered on a night that by about 7pm im ready for bed!
anyone know when this pregnancy bloom bit is supposed to start and then we all feel and look better???!!!i dont remember having it with any of my others,so i wont hold my breath!!

also got greasy lank horrible hair at teh mo!and have roots from hell!but everyone tells me you cant colour your hair when preggers,is this true?(my hair was more my own colour with all my other pregnancies,but ive gone v blonde and have darker roots now!!)

hi guys sound like we are all feeling and looking good lol...

as soon as i wash my hair itis a greasy mess, and i have no energy to do it,

still feeling sick most of the day

and could do with a week in bed,
im the same by 6.30 i am desperate for my bed. i feel like i am living for my bed, lol...

Thanks Buffy ? no scan tomorrow now, have to wait until Friday seeing as I had one last Friday (it?s becoming my Friday thing , this?ll be my 3rd in a row!)

Not felt sick for a while but think I still have some other symptoms

Beanie2Bump ? you ok hon?

hi buffy, the cram i used was the stretchmark and cellulite in one, so its propbably the same one.

yes your right, better off without him, the twat!