Due in February 2017...thread #3!

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A home for all of us enjoying the surreality of the first trimester. We're sick as dogs, exhausted to the core, our boobs hurt, we've developed superhuman senses of smell and we're shirking all alcoholic bevvies with a variety of lame excuses...

...we're preggers and over the moon! Join us if you're due in February 2017 and fancy wisdom for the weirdness, support for any sadness, and a safe place where you can get excited about what the future holds, before you go public!

Third thread already (we're a chatty bunch!) Second thread here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2662110-Due-in-February-2017-thread-2?

I haven't really posted since my last scan at 7 + 3 weeks where they said the baby was only 6 weeks and had no heartbeat. We had another scan last week and as I thought the litte one had stopped growing and died. I'd had a MMC. I went to hospital yesterday for an ERPC and am feeling ok but fairly crushed by the sense of loss. I hope that all your tiny beans are thriving and that you have very happy and safe months ahead xx

I went back to work for almost 3 months. I went back part time but the cost of childcare and commuting took over 60% of my salary. Dd was very unhappy at childcare and I was stressed so now I am officially a SAHM. I do similar to Wispa and have a zero hours contract so I just work 15-20 hours per month but do it at nap time and in evenings so I don't have to leave dd. It's perfect as I haven't given up my career and what I bring home can be saved for the house extension fund. I appreciate how lucky I am to be able to do this!
Got my scan date through today. It's the 5th August. Over a month to wait but I'm so excited!

I'm so sorry to hear that paperandpaint sending you love at what must be a really difficult time x

I always planned to return to uni to start my pcge next year (2017). I'm not 100% sure if I will stick to the plan or wait. There was no way we could afford me to start this Sept even before I fell pregant. The problem is that I need to have classroom time within a year of my application.

I'm not really progressing in my current career and need a change. I see maternity leave as a welcome break, I work part time now so it won't be that much of a leap in the dark.

So very sorry for you paperandpaint. Devastating news. Sorry

Friendly mine is on the 4th of August

paperandpaint sorry to hear your terrible news xxx

readyfortwo I miss the challenge of work too much to stay away. I work three days a week and that helps me strike a balance between the two.

So sorry to hear that paper
It seems so long doesn't it Evergreen. Luckily I booked an early scan which is next Saturday so not too long to wait until that!

Hi all. Just joined today. I'm 9w4d, due 1st of Feb so just squeezing in here :)

Welcome griff

So sorry to hear that paper

ready I can completely get that. Some days I will admit I feel a little bit like I may go insane and every now and then I miss work coz I did love my job. I've started doing the odd buffet or celebration cake for.family and friends and do all of my own for.any parties we have. Just keeps the spark of it there and I feel lucky I can carry.on doing what I did at work at home, obviously just not on the same level x

I've still no scan yet, won't get it until after my official booming in appointment at the hospital which isn't until next Monday. Then I will need to tell them I can't have it until 13 weeks plus x

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I'm so sorry paper. I hope you've got plenty of support

Fun fact about childcare. It's about as cheap as it gets where I live and you wouldn't see any change from a £30k salary with 2 kids. I'm very lucky that my mum is retired so can take DD most of the week. I don't think I'd give up my job completely though even if I was breaking even as I just don't enjoy being home all the time. It's reassuring to me to know that I should still have a career in a few years.

So sorry for your loss paper.

My BF was that 2% which I think is why I'm so nervous this time around. She was living with us at the time and her OH -buggered off- had to work away, so I went through it with her.

After having DD I returned to work on a condensed contract I do 3 days in 2. It works perfectly at the moment, pay packet is quite healthy, DD thrived in preschool, and I got my me time. However now I'm pregnant the 2 hour commute each way is killing me, think I would try to reduce my hours when I return after this one.

So sorry, paper

I currently work 4 days, and DS goes to nursery, which he loves. I took 11 months off last time, and I loved my maternity leave but by the end I was eager to get back to work. The first 3-4 months back were tough as DS picked up lots of bugs from nursery so it was stressful as he was sent home a lot, but he's not been had a day off nursery for about 4-5 months now which makes it much easier.
My salary would cover childcare for 2 and leave just about enough to be worthwhile but I think I'm going to take a few years out.
DH earns just enough to cover my loss of income for while if we tighten our belts.

In the long run, both DH and I working in London with long commutes isn't sustainable as I don't want to be absent in the evenings when DC are a bit older and have homework, swimming/music lessons etc, and even now I think our quality of life would be better if I was around a bit more - it's tough juggling housework, two jobs and one child let alone two! It's definitely going to be a temporary situation though - plan is to find local part-time work when DS goes to school and #2 is 3ish. That way I could afford to take a salary cut as childcare would be cheaper than two in full-time nursery. I do worry about how I'll cope being a SAHM for a few years though, I love my Fridays with DS but it's exhausting being at home with a toddler all day!

So sorry paper I hope you have lots of RL support

I rang sel doc over weekend about my sore cervix and they told me to go to the epu today to have it looked into.n it's not sore anymore but I'm likely going to be here for 3 hours.

Also I can't pee on command so haven't been able to fill the little tube

Regarding childcare, my mom wants to move to London once we have kids as it's important to her to be a big part of her grandchild's life. We will rent her a flat near us and she can rent out her own place. It may save us some money but really it is the comfort that comes with having someone you know loves your baby taking care. Also no pressured pick ups and drop offs etc! I might get her a mother's help for a few hours a day so she doesn't get totally worn out.

So sorry to hear your awful news, paper.

Just got back from the epu. Strong heartbeat and baby's grown the right amount since my last scan. Don't think I'll properly relax while I'm still bleeding but massively relieved things look ok for now.

That's great rocket. Did they say the bleeding was due to the cervical erosion?

So sorry paper

Ah guys I feel so lucky my OH is an only child and my lovely MIL has waited years for a grandchild, and is waiting to retire and be 'nanny!' Childcare costs are extortionate and make it so hard for mothers to continue to work. I'm in local govt so really fortunate they look after pregnant women quite well. Haven't looked at the finances in detail yet, my OH is self employed but I think I will go back 2-3 days a week. I had a funny five minutes yesterday where the laundry basket (it's made out of mesh material) smelt absolutely disgusting and I had to bleach it in the bathtub. OH thought I was going mad coz he couldn't smell anything!! Baby nose kicking in haha. X

Oh my god paper so sorry I hadn't rrefreshed the page and was still going on messages from page 18 of this thread. I'm so sorry for your loss xx

Thanks London. The Dr wasn't mega chatty and would only say the ectropion could be causing it. Seldoc means you're south east London? Don't suppose it was King's epu you were in this morning?