Thread #7 - TTC#1 Grads - Third Trimester Special

[PotatosMum]

It's time for another TTC#1 grads thread, with an ever increasing population of new arrivals, old hands and veterans we're moving thick and fast.

The first TTC#1 veterans are waddling their way into the third trimester this thread, with the promise of maternity leave to come, getting them through the day.

No subject is taboo, no TMI is too much, bump pictures, baby scans and photos of cute baby stuff are encouraged.

All are welcome so take your place on team blue, pink or vanilla for another TTC#1 grads thread!

Happy fathers' day!

Woken up the last two mornings with a sore back and hips - I hope this isn't a sign of things to come... Maybe I'm not using my maternity pillow properly?

Danni Lovely scan!

Indi Glad your nan is OK!

Pink Have a great holiday.

Bunch Atticus wins for me, I think, but Zeph is a nice nickname. I don't really think Atticus lends itself to any nicknames? Worth thinking about if that's important to you. Are these the two shortlisted names or are you considering any others? DH and I decided on Theodore just after my scan and we've not changed our minds nearly six weeks later so I think it's the one! We try to refer to him as Theo when we talk about him and it seems right. If he turns out to be a she then I guess we'll have to use Thea or Theodora - although Martha was our girls' pick.

DH is working again today but we managed to go out together yesterday for a friend's birthday so that was nice. We decided we were too lazy to look at paint colours so are just going to do the rest of the house in the same colours as we've already got and focus on different curtains, accessories, etc. I have some ideas for the nursery - we've got Timbuktales bedding and I've found some rainbow star curtains and a rug I like that matches.

We bought a changing table yesterday that DH built - the cheap one in Ikea. Our changing mat is too long for it but I think I can squeeze a Mothercare or JL wedge one on top. It's starting to come together! Decorators coming at the end of the month then we'll get the carpet laid and the nursery furniture ordered! 😄😃😀☺😊

Starky I can properly hear that now!!

Pink, Miley I think I'm the same preferring Atticus. I don't like that all of a sudden new names are coming to tease me though.

Potato I haven't heard that one. I have heard that their activity now is a sign of when they'll be awake though. So that would be 10pm, 1-2am and 4am for me so far. I had full on alien movements this morning. Proper squirming, bump all out of shape, quite freaky actually.

Welcome to T3 Danni. Land of dodgy stomachs, whole other level of squirming and new anxieties when you think every twinge is labour

Atti would be our nn of choice Leonie but I think it's probably one of those that will stay full named. We had Hamish and Lachlan shortlisted for the longest time but DH kept pronouncing Lachlan as it's spelled when it should be said Lochlan and our middle name choice is a H so I don't like the double H with Hamish. I've got quite a few names on the list but Atticus is definitely my face. Zephyr literally popped up yesterday.
My others are
Caius, (DH wants it's spelled like the band name though Kyuss)
Cassian,
Caspian, (too Narnia perhaps)
Cassius ( I keep singing the foals song)
Leonie did you post a pic this morning on IG of your change table? I haven't quite figured out who everyone is on IG yet though I have most people down and I may have a list so I don't get confused .

Bunch, I LOVE that you have a list of Instagram people! Do people as organised as you actually exist in real life?!

Haha Lisa! Well I do so I imagine there's more like me. It's embarrassing, you should see the amount of lists I have on the go!

Morning ladies!

Have a great time on holiday pink!

Oh great - if kicking = awake time in real life, this baby is going to be awake all night !

Ok - what is the deal with changing bags, why are they so pricey?! Has anyone bought one? Do we really need on?

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Yes, that's me, Bunch! Caius can also be pronounced Keys... How that is logical I don't know...

I like Cassius, by the way, and Caspian! Cass seems like a handsome nickname. Not heard of Cassian before but it's really nice - sounds like the name of a saint or something (or a cool dude from a band)! I think one of those would be my pick from your options, actually! Let's say Cassian has my vote overall then! 😃 It's unusual but easy to say and spell, and has a good nickname! What's your DH's favourite?

Shelb Think you'll need a travel changing mat and a good size bag but not necessarily a changing bag. I've been given a secondhand Pacapod one and it's a bit battered so I think I'll replace it but it seems really useful as it has two internal zipped bags in it for storing changing/feeding bits nicely. I'll probably get a new Pacapod in time - I like the compartments and they seem quite unisex. DH wouldn't want to take a Yummy Mummy one out with him!

Shelb we've gone down the rucksack route due to baby wearing. We did buy a stands outdoor rucksack but seems too small now so I'm going to be getting this. Bebamour Baby Changing Bag Travel Backpack Nappy Changing Bag Set (dark yellow) https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00W6SUZFE/ref=cmswwrcppapi_dYLzxb9TJQX11

Woohoo another name on the IG list then Leonie unfortunately he's being ridiculously unhelpful and not commiting to any.

I feel like I should say, since we're naming the baby Theodore, that my name isn't actually Leonie - we won't be Theo and Leo, haha! I just like the name Leonie. 😀

I'm going to get this one m.johnlewis.com/pacapod-mirano-changing-bag-navy/p/231757395

Thanks ladies. Mothercare do one for £20, am I being tight though just getting a basic one? Costs are racking up.

www.mothercare.com/Mothercare-Essential-Changing-Bag---Black/802463,default,pd.html&loadMoreCurrentStatus=1&returnCgid=pushchair_babychangebags&returnSrule=null&start=10&returnScrollPos=145

Shelb look on eBay. You'll be able to get a much better bag for the same price just pre used. Some you wouldn't even be able to tell. I may be addicted to eBay

I've been perusing eBay a lot recently.

Was thinking of getting a cot from there, as it seems like a lot to spend for a new one. That's fine, right? Thinking I would wash it and use a new mattress, obviously.

Or should cots be new?

I've never bought anything from eBay bunch, I need to up my game!

Lisa - I think it's just car seats you shouldn't get second hand. I would guess the frame second hand and new mattress would be fine?

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Morning everyone,

Fab photo danni - you can really see the detail! I'll be joining you in T3 on Wednesday - eek!

Spent yesterday getting quotes for nursery curtains and black out roller blinds. I was pretty excited about it to begin with but we have HUGE Windows and it's going to cost over £1000!! I can't believe it!

I had my eye on the pacapod changing bag like leonie but I may be downgrading all my lists after curtain-gate! shelb - I think wherever you can save money go for it, doesn't make you tight!

Currently watching a download of Love Island (was it indi who likes it too? I'm unhealthily obsessed!!) while waiting impatiently for DH to wake up. I've got him a book and a card for Father's Day which I got made with the scan pics and bump pics.

We're off on a labour ward tour of the hospital today so that will definitely make things seem real!

Hope everyone has a lovely Sunday and happy Father's Day to our OHs!

I loveeee Love Island soda... Gonna be sad when it's all over. Can't believe Miss BJ GB walked!

Wow didn't realise changing bags were so expensive! I think I'll be taking the eBay route

Morning all,

I'm in the bath again reading the last 3 pages of comments to catch up! We sure can talk!

Oh has taken himself off in a strop before I woke up today, he suffers from quite bad depression so it only takes me (or anyone) saying 1 thing that makes him feel bad and he has these mornings (I'm not talking all the time, but a few times a year) where he wonders off to work on a non working day and I have to wait for him to come around to explain what I actually meant. Last night I said 'that's boring' in what I thought was a jokey way when I was trying to get him to DTT and he said he would rather wait until we went to bed... sigh After 2 years I still don't realise what will make it happen and I feel awful about it. This time I'm a bit more worried because him leaving is going to be a lot worse when the baby comes. I try not to be selfish with it as I know it's an illness but it hits me too, and I'm 25 weeks pregnant!

Danni those pictures are amazing! Can't wait to have mine now

Also loving all of the bumps and outfits, I also fancy tree stickers!

Congrats to everyone moving into t3 this week! I can't wait for everything to get moving along now! Feel like I've been pregnant for years!

Sorry for the long post!

Oh, Lauren - sorry to hear you're having to deal with this. Is he home yet? Hopefully you can have a heart to heart later. Is your DH receiving any help with his depression?

Lauren Can you see if DH can develop other coping strategies rather than walking out? Would he be able to go somewhere quiet at home if he needed to instead? It must be an awful worry not to know where he is.

I think the only thing we've bought new so far are the pram (uppababy vista) and car seat (maxi cosi cabriofix).

We've been given a second hand swing crib, which we'll buy a new mattress for and I think there are noises about the in laws buying us a cot bed. We've just bought an almost perfect condition Mamas and Papas changing table/cupboard unit for £50 that someone was selling on Facebook.

Clothes have been a mix of eBay bundles and sale items and we got some good stuff at the nct nearly new sale as well.

Planning on eBay for a changing bag, as I don't have the cheapest taste to start off with when it comes to that kind of thing, but I really don't want to be paying £100+ on a new one if I can help it! If nothing else, my car needs new rear tyres and I feel I may have to prioritise that...

Baby movement: she's definitely moving less. Barely got anything from her last night, which is unusual (though not unprecedented). I still felt her fairly frequently yesterday though. She's been quiet this morning too, though that's normal. I'm definitely still getting movement as well, she's just not really kicking. I think that's the main difference.

So, do I need to be concerned? I'm 24+3 and all the count the kicks stuff feels like it's directed to later on?

Sorry, Lauren x post. Also wondering if he could get some help finding alternative strategies that don't involve just leaving? Hope you can speak to him properly later on, I know from experience with friends that it's not easy.

Leonie Yeah he has medication and weekly counselling (thank god for his work. Bupa) as I said it's quite bad. I know where he is he has text me, he sometimes does just stay in the house but sometimes he needs a bit of distance to process too.

irregular my doctor told me not be be concerned or worry too much about monitoring until 28 weeks unless I went back to feeling nothing. But I do have an anterior placenta so not sure if that changes the advice.

Thanks leonie and irregular. I hope he finds a new coping mechanism, I wish I knew if he discussed it in counselling.. I'll speak to him when he's back and he'll be very apologetic, doesn't help too much right now though, just have to keep calm for the baby!

Lisa as long as you get a new mattress it's no issue. Our crib for the living room is form
eBay. £5.50!!

Sorry to hear about that Lauren. I second what Leonie says can you help him with other coping mechanisms?

Irregular ifs always worth a call to the midwife. I called for a change in movements at 22 weeks and still went to hospital for monitoring. They'll always want to be safe than sorry.

Irregular My health board advised me to contact my midwife if baby's movements reduce or change if between 24 and 28 weeks. If over 28 weeks, you must contact your midwife immediately and not wait until the next day. Is there a number you can ring if you're worried?

Try lying down on your left side and focus on baby's movements for the next two hours? You should feel ten or more, according to my guidance note.

I'm 25.5 weeks and have only started feeling movement regularly this week - mostly in the evening. My placenta is ar the front of my uterus so it is not easy for me to feel movements.

Feeling movement can also depend on whether the baby's back is lying at the front of your uterus or lying alongside your own back.

I don't use a chart but I suppose it's one way of being aware of your baby's usual movement.

Never hesitate to contact your midwife or maternity unit if you're worried.

Irregular that's a good point Leonie has made. Lie down on your left side and have an ice cold drink. That should shock baby into some movement. However the number of movements is no longer something to count. It's if you get a change that matters. They used to say 10 movements a day when counting I used to get nearer 40, hence why they no longer say count. If you've noticed a change then it's worth a call. My midwives/hospital also monitor from 26 weeks. Do you have a number to call?

I'm sure everything is fine and it's just baby has changed position but it's always worth checking.