April 2007 - approaching 3rd trimester, the one where we start to get ready.........

[EllieK]

new thread as other one getting very long, again!

so, anyone else got photos to share? i'm trying to find a way of getting them from my mobile to the computer as i don't have a digi camera.

WO - glad you are a feeling a little more movement...hope doing the chart encourages you.

Chocolate cravers unite!...I had Green & Black's chocolate for dessert tonight along with shortbread - YUM.

Hotlipsmummy - thanks for the great info on the Pramette. We just won a pram on eBay so I think we are okay. Hope you get an excellent price for yours - good luck!

I agree with EllieK - don't forget to take pictures of the meet-up!

thanks pesha, basically, i'm very quiet in bed, and don't enjoy 'normal' stuff (like the licking thing ), and that's making it difficult for him to know what he should and shouldn't be doing to please me. we were talking about some stuff last night on the phone but i don't find it easy, and part of it meant i had to talk about what i've done in the past, which he finds difficult to hear (i've had a very 'close' relationship with my ds' dad on and off for years), i also get embarrassed and go off on tangents in an attempt to keep the conversation light, unfortunately this led to me reading a text i'd got while he was trying to talk to me about our sex life. oddly enough this upset him more than a little, and i totally understand. it's brought back all his insecurities and reminded him of the things that he finds difficult about me . now just have to wait for him to decide whether it's something he can learn to deal with, because as he rightly said, he can't and wouldn't ask me to change who i am for him.
here's hoping he calls tomorrow to tell me he still loves me and he'll keep trying x

yay! just got a text to say he'll call me in the morning, and a kiss on the end (first time he's done that all day!
maybe i can stop the comfort shopping on ebay now

I've still not lost my baby weight from teDetiS and he is 5 now Have not put on weight yet this PG so am hoping when baby comes I will lose weight what with the school run. Mind you, I have a HUGE appetite when I am BFing so will probably put on more weight in time for summer.

There's a woman at my toddler group who had a baby 2 weeks ago and is back in her size 6 skinny jeans, and not a muffin top in sight! She had skin tight jeans on and all I could ponder was how had she disguised the maternity pad VPL

EllieK I hope that you work it out with the new man. You seemed so happy the other night I could almost imagine you grinning from ear to ear when you were talking about him.
Girl - even the most fantastic relationships require work.
Even though I am very much in love with DP, we are two different people, that have had different life experiences. We have our moments, in fact we have quite a few where these differences come up and we clash... and then i remember one of my favourite passages from the bible "love is patient, love is kind, love isn't jealous. It doesn't sing its own praises, it isn't arrogant, it isn't rude, it doesn't think about itself, it isn't irritable, it doesn't keep track of wrongs....."

There have been so many posts over the past two days that please forgive me for not mentioning all of you individually (sorry last sentance sounds like I'm picking up an Oscar). But too all those who are sick or whose DC are sick - hope you get better soon. There is a nasty bug going round, people are spluttering all over the place in the office, I'm just waiting for the crap air conditioning system to pass it onto me.

Also although I have not contributed to the Pram posts..thank you..thank you..thank you. I have been so confused by all the different ones out there, some of them look the same to me. DP and I went to babiesrus to take a look as so far the looking has been online - big mistake. He liked the heaviest pushchair\pram because it seem sturdy and had metal wheels that looked like alloys (car fanatic) rather than plastic!!! Forget that it weighed about 20kg and I'm going to be the one doing the pushing most of the time...
We have now agreed though that I should choose and he'll just supply the dosh . So now armed with all your choices and opinions I'm now going to start doing some of my own research.

just be careful yvie, very easy to become a pram-aholic!
i should know, i'm on my, errrrrrrrrrrrmmmmmmmm, 7th one and ds is only 3!!!!!!

This thread moves so fast...I can't keep up.
EllieK glad to hear he sent a text.
WCL at woman at toddler group - I'm one of these people that will never be in the single figures. I'm usually a classic pear shape - except now i look more like a cooking apple.
I'm going to have some jelly and ice cream while i ponder how I'm goign to lose this weight post delivery . Goodnight all

WCL - pmsl at the pad vpl

Elliek - im crap at talking about things, great at telling other people to talk and at listening but really really bad at talking myself. Me and dp have all our personal conversations by text. Or when drunk! Or at the very least lying in bed in the dark with me facing away from him!
And not that im suggesting for one second that you should change but I used to be a completely different person sexually to who I am now. Me and dp were made for each other i think and so confidence and trust and compatability and things have helped me relax and i have changed alot. So as you get closer things that seem like a problem now may not always be so as you connect more and learn more about each other. Which i suppose is what the talking is about. So i think i may be talking bollocks then!

I hope you know what im trying to say anyway(cos im not sure i do anymore!!) and it hasnt come across the wrong way at all.

See i said i was rubbish at talking!

Ha Ha ellie - beat ya!! I am on my 8th pushchair so will be buying my 9th for this baby

However i have had 2 dcs already compared to your 1 so you're not doing too bad

i know exactly what you mean pesha, and things are already better in bed, just occasionally i open my mouth and say stuff without thinking, can't believe i'm about to tell you this but here goes ..........
this time last year i ended up in a 3sum with my ds' dad and my best mate , we were talking last night about me not getting anything from the licking and touching thing, and the subject of 'that night' came up. i started to explain that i hadn't actually done anything with my mate, just watched my ex and her together, and that it didn't seem weird cos that's the kind of relationship we have. and there was the problem, i said the kind of relationship i have with my ex, not had. S has struggled with me being on such good terms with my ex (his ex wife will only communicate via text or thro the kids) and trying to cope with him still being so involved in my life (we frequently talk about his sex life, he's more like a best friend than an ex!), while this is fab for ds it does make anyone involved with me feel a little insecure at times, which i totally understand. the one slip up in my normally perfect grammar caused him to feel all nervy again, combined with the insecurities over whether he is pleasing me in bed, just pushed it over the edge.
am hoping he decides he can work thro what he tells me are his issues, not mine, and decides i'm worth the effort and occasional stress!
then i will have to try much harder to keep schtum about stuff that happened in the past!
sorry, sharing my soul with complete strangers, but not the sort of thing i can talk about to people i know, iyswim

and i'm about to sell my quinny buzz to get a zapp, should really do something with the 3 other pushchairs i have hanging around too

this sounds like fun
I know Captain Dippy is a regular and i guess that means it's a good laugh, i'm joining in, if only to cheer myself with the required shopping trip!

that'll teach me to stay up late on mumsnet, ds (3) just came stumbling downstairs and said 'mummy, you should be in your bed now'

so on that note, think i best retire!

Morning all

Gosh EllieK - pleased you got your text - it's horrible when your in that kind of limbo land not knowing if they are in the huff or not etc...I admire you going through all the emotional stress of a new relationship when PG!

WCL - OMG - I'd have to kill that girl at the nursery.....SO UNFAIR!!...I comfort myself by telling myself that I am nourishing my baby with all this food there are bound to be a few extra pounds at the end of it.

I managed to sleep a bit better last night - on a pillow mountain - I managed to get comfy and so was scared to move!! Am feeling a bit sad for mysefl as DH is away tonight with his work....silly I know as some of you have weeks and weeks before you see your DH (is it Claricebean? forgive me if wrong person) but I really hate it when he is away. I always look forward to him (well nearly always) coming home just to have the extra support and adult conversation at the end of my day with a toddler. I think I need to keep busy today...don't know what with - if the weather was decent I would get out in the garden - at least the boy can mess about and I could clean the pram - all this pram talk has got a bee in my bonnett....and also hearing some of you are on your 8th or 9th I'm starting to have pram cravings...lol

My pram got ruined as when James was born and v young I had a very energetic Boxer Dog that I walked 3 times a day and the pram took a real bashing....so much so that the wheels broke and we had to get rid. I like my Aria but of course I ould love a shiny new Pram for my baby...see if I can persuade Phil after I but the nappies (BBCFK - not had the voucher info thru yet but if I can use it I will let you know! Thanks!)

Ahh well better go and get myself showered and dressed I suppose and try and keep this boy occupied...he's quite happy tormenting the cat at the moment ...

All I can hear is "jasper come UPSTAIRS!!!" lol

catch you later....
x

hey ladies!!!

Well landed home from a lovely hol with a bump on sat and don't seem to have stopped since. Just popping in to say hello. Going to attempt to catch up on all the news from the threads, but it's looking a huge task! We do like to chat don't we!

Hope everyone is doing ok. We had a lovely quiet time away with lots of dvds and swimming and walking in the countryside. Film, Miss Potter was a real highlight and if you've not been you need to go and see it!

Have come home and started this youthwork job, I must be mad! A friend has had her baby and went to see him yesterday, brought it all home for me! And managed to puke on the floor in the docs this morning while weeing myself too! So it's back to normal here then!

Love eca
x

EllieK - ROFL your sex antics and trying to dig a nice big hole for yourself with new DP - probably best just not to say anything at all What a pickle!

DH and friend have said need to ring babies r us and got another cot/money back - trying to psych myself up with mn, cup of tea and toast.

Am also thinking about going in to get monitored as baby hardly moving and has been back to back for two weeks - has only come round twice in that time - which don't think is normal.

Pesha - please do let us know if you really need stuff for baby and can't afford it - I know have said it before but the offer is still there. I have mountains of babgrows and sleepsuits which have been given and some maternity jeans which would happily post on to you.

Elliek - before i met dp id had a bit of an um interesting year after being single for the first time since i was 15 and having been in 2 very controlling relationships. I decided when i met him i would be completely honest and upfront with him about everything. Im glad i did but it did cause us a lot of problems too and he found it difficult to trust me for a long time although i think that was alot to do with his own insecurities as well as my past.
I had a mate who sounds alot like your ex, we started off seeing each other but there was no extra spark iykwim so we became just really good friends but still used to sleep together every now and then as we were both single and we used to talk about all sorts. But i moved away for a while and we kind of lost touch abit and although we're still mates we're not as close as we used to be which in a way is a shame but i know dp would have had trouble accepting us as best mates knowing our history. Oh and my mates girlfriend has a big problem with me!!
And i know exactly what you mean about imperfect grammar, from both sides!

Am off to swap cotbed in Bristol this afternoon - could do it tomorrow when there for meet up but got the feeling would get there and someone would say no and didn't know anything about it blah blah blah - atleast it will be sorted and only 1/2 hour away (ds can have a sleep - now just need a neighbour to put cotbed in my car

I need to go lie down for a bit and chill out!

Hope you didn't think was being rude Pesha

aaaaaaaaaaaaarghh! when will i learn to keep my mouth shut? he called me this morning and was all going really well, very positive, until i mentioned that my ex had wound me up joking that he couldn't look after matthew while i go on hols in feb. put us right back where we were last night. then i made matthew breakfast, putting his cereal in my juice glass! stupuid mare!

Oh no!

I put orange juice in cereal - pg brain!

BBCK - not at all is lovely offer, cross posted with you earlier. Thank you but i think we're ok, we have enough for what we need just no spare on top of that. Well I dont, dp has just spent £55 on an i pod shuffle but i guess its best he gets it out his system before he moves in. But was really lovely of you to offer. Haven't looked at any of the other antenatal threads but agree ours is definitely much nicer than the rest of mn. Although if you're feeling stressed some of the other threads can be a great place to let off steam!!

Anyway am off to bed now for an hour before i have to go get ds

Morning all. Hope everyone is well, dp's/dh's behaving etc.

EllieK, hope you and your new man can resolve the issues.

BBCK, hope you manage to change the cotbed ok.

MIAM, hope your day/night is ok.

I am knackered - nothing new there then. Had a run in with dh last night and couldn't sleep properly. It was to do with his mother. Becky is staying there this weekend, and he was chatting to her on the phone about arrangements. I just jumped in with both feet really, but from what dh was saying, it just seemed that she was really panicing about it. I just find it annoying that she can't just get on with it. She has no common sense, and seems to think B is a baby still - she is 3 and a half, and extremely independent fgs! It just makes me feel edgy thinking that they are going to be edgy iyswim. I am grateful they are having her, but at the same time, they don't fill me with confidence!

Anyway, dh then went off on one saying I should cut her more slack etc. So, me being me said "whatever" and huffed up to bed, and pretended to be asleep when he came up!

I know I am being a little childish, but his mother drives me bonkers!

Sorry for the huge rant. I am actually at work, but have nothing to do!

Where is everyone?? Have I bored you all with my rant?? Sorry

not at all hun, looks like there's only us here today and i've been ebaying! ordered a photo printer so i could print the pics off my phone via bluetooth, it's fab!!!!!!