November 16 thread 3!!

[Spottyladybird]

Wow! Thread number three.

Aye how many weeks are you?

Almond I saw bio oil in Primarni the other day and DD was all 'oooh mummy you need that for your tummy' but I've not bought any yet. Might do after the anomaly scan. I'm delighted to be pregnant after everything we've been thro and still very scared.

Jamjar I had the BEST evening meal, have been craving this vegetarian food from an Indian vegetarian restaurant which only delivers intermittently and today they were. I have eaten so much and it was all so amazing. I feel happily full now. I find I feel nausea and shakes if I don't eat properly as in till I'm stuffed. It's pregnancy related for me. I'm trying not to think of how much weight I'm probably putting on.

It's dawned on me today that all being well not only will there be a baby at the end of this, but a child, and I will be responsible for bringing them up and keeping them safe.

How the fuck do I do that?

( yes I know I am an idiot to only realise this now)

I think I'm 12 and a half weeks now fuzzy

No Albus, you're not the only one! Before this I'd read so many threads on here about "good" parenting and how to calmly deal with so many situations that you may find yourself in with a baby/child. I remember thinking that I was going to be so in control... I now can't remember a single piece of the advice I'm screwed.

I have thought about it a lot Albus, but I'm a nanny so have had a lot of time to think about how nice it would be to be able to do certain things that I want to do! I can't wait. I'm temping now so looking after more school aged kids and forgot how much fun they are (I'm a baby specialist).

Having said that every nanny friend I have who have their own say it's so different, so I'm not thinking too much about how the baby is going to be easy to sleep train or whatever, more how it'll be nice to be able to give them a sandwich for lunch instead of having to have a hot meal for lunch and dinner!

The silly thing is I love kids. I am a brown owl and drag my 30 here there and everywhere. I have tonnes of small cousins who I looked after a lot. Toddler nephew and baby nelce who I hang out with ( and whose mother's parenting I inwardly criticise) but now it will be all on me.

And DH of course, but DH knows nothing about children and managed to leave his bag on the train last week so not terribly confident there

Hi guys. Not a great day here. DH was overseas last week and brought back a lousy stomach bug. I was worried that my abdominal cramps were the start of something bad but it turns out its "just" gastro . I was supposed to have my already postponed 12wk scan tomorrow and now won't have it until Thursday if I'm well enough. I'm feeling so sorry for myself I've even been watching Sandra Bullock films on Netflix.

DH is sleeping in the spare room as punishment for inflicting this on me. Don't think he quite understood how much worse everything is when you're pregnant.

Please tell me the sun is shining and birds are singing where you are! Need something to cheer me up.

It's annoying isn't it Aye?! Just feels like it's taking months lol. I also felt very much like you so I convinced DH to have an early scan at 7 weeks. I wanted physical proof before we told parents as I just thought it was some elaborate, made up thing I'd convinced myself! It was less emotional seeing the blob on screen than I thought and more 'omg, there's actually something there?!' Kind of shock lol. Now that's wearing off again so I need this scan to convince me it's still there!

As for it being a person, it's such a strange feeling isn't it? I started thinking the other day how I was going to buy him/her all the Disney DVDs and we would have a Disney night once a month or something as a family. Then realised I was planning ahead to when he/she's like 3 or something!

I bought Palmers cocoa butter cream as I read it was one of the best. Haven't started using it yet- will after my scan!

You poor thing Bollyroo . What lousy luck

Look after yourself. Hang in there. I know Thursday will seem like an age away but it'll trundle around soon enough

Sorry you feel so rubbish Bolly. If it makes you feel less alone- I was mid conversation with DH in bed about which Spider-Man film is the best and then just threw up everywhere without any warning. Ran to the loo and when I came out, there was a packet of crackers on the bedside table with a note saying 'Sorry Tobey Maguire makes you barf'. Haha, have to try to see the funny side at least!?

That's good they can reschedule your scan so soon though, least you don't have to wait a while week or something more. Hope you feel better soon

Oh Jam! I'm sorry that has made me feel better! Your DH sounds awesome/well-trained! Thank you

Oh Bolly how horrible for you. I have had a gastro bug this pregnancy and they really are horrific. I suppose if there is a plus side, at least you know you are feeling retched for a reason that has nothing to do with there being anything wrong with the baby and the baby will be absolutely fine (although undoubtably responsible for you feeling worse than you normally would). I really hope it passes soon and you get to have your scan soon.

Sorry to hear you are still suffering as well Jam. Hope it eases soon for you as well.

Albus, I am still coming to terms with having a DC and my DD will be one this month. I remember being completely baffled at being allowed to take home this defenceless little baby when nobody had even checked my capabilities (just as well, as I very much had to learn everything as I went). After all, if you adopt a pet, the reduce centre will inspect your house and so periodic check ups.

Hope you all feel better Bolly & Jam.

This will sound stupid, but I've not thought about having a real baby and the associated responsibilities. Think I'd make myself really hysterical if I think too much. I'm concentrating on one day at a time & trying to enjoy being pregnant.

Fuzzyw I'm the same.

I'm now 12+1, scan appointment is Thursday and I'm scared. I've felt really good for about a week - albeit crazy tired and my appetite has returned with a vengeance so naturally I'm worried.

My DH is so positive though, keeps saying we were good at 6 weeks, saw a heartbeat and I've had no spotting etc this time. All while I'm googling missed miscarriage rates and issues that can be picked up at the scan.

I'm going to head into town in a little while for some window shopping to keep my mind off it all. I have started using extra moisturiser but nothing specifically for stretch marks.

I'm like you Albus very pale and suffered with them when k was younger so my legs are covered in silver lines.

Sorry almond not albus!

Thanks ladies I will try out The Uphill, I'm not looking for sarcasm or feminist power just something honest and truthful. Sounds good!

With DD, the thing that really freaked me out was giving her a name. This is her identity, something she will probably carry with her for her whole life. How do you know what the right name is? And what if we chose wrong? She's nearly 4, and so far so good though - I feel OK shouting her name in public!

I got away with no stretch marks last time, with no creams or oil or anything. Thank you genes.

Sympathy to those of you feeling rough. After a day of being useless on Saturday, I've been OK since then. DH is on the sofa with a nasty cold, and I've taken DD for a proper bank holiday trip to the seaside in the rain. Might pay for this exertion tomorrow!

Roll on Thursday, I say.

Roll on Thursday indeed Spindelina.

Does anyone have an indigestion remedies that aren't gaviscon/rennie's? It's come on quite bad for me right now, so much that we've cancelled supper with friends this evening as I though I would be sick if I got on the train, let alone the thought of actually eating something. Don't know why I've got it in my head that I don't want to take a rennie!

I'm also officially on the hair-tie for my jeans. Can still do mine up but the pressure is really uncomfortable!

Only thing that works for me smells is omeprazole but your doctor needs to prescribe it.

Well, this should teach me for posting about how good I feel. I've been irritable and bored all day, DH suggested a quick walk round the block after a lazy day on the sofa so off we went. About half way I start throwing up in the gutter like some sort of drunken lush. Better yet, it's really windy and the dog got in the way poor boy.

Sympathies to those feeling rough. I go back to work tomorrow after two weeks of being off sick and I don't feel any better, I got up but had to go back to bed an hour later because I was so shaky and sicky.

I made DP some mini quiches with ham, mustard and red onion and I was sick all over myself and I've felt miserable since. So I'm dreading going back, but know that I have to because we need the money!

Why haven't I won the lottery yet?!

Ugh, so much pain when I sneeze. This summer cold is going to drive me nuts.

There are also birds nesting in the roof who won't shut up.
DH wants to go out got dinner as its his birthday, but I can't face the idea of any food. Not even fruit which normally I am addicted to. Just gagged my way through icing his birthday cake.

#feelingsorryformyself

Oh Fedup, onthemetro and Albus. Sorry you are feeling so unwell soon and I really hope you wake up tomorrow feeling much better (and I hope your dog has forgiven you Fed).

Thanks Fuzzyo He's given me the evil eye but a pigs ear seems to have appeased him!

Hi ladies!

Sorry to hear you are feeling so unwell. I was feeling very sick earlier, all self inflicted. dH returned home from the states with a toblerone, which I devoured then spent the rest of the day feeling sick and suffering with acid! Gah!

In terms of acid reflux remedies I have been using gaviscon but started taking a probiotic.

For stretch marks I have been using mama oil, it's expensive but I found it in TK maxx for 6.99.

For babyclothes, I bought some for a friend from the pumpkin patch website, everything was under £10, if you join the mailing list they send you a 20% off voucher and they have frequent sales. I have bought from there before & my friend said the quality is good and they super easy to get on and off baby xxx

I've had a really active few days but today I'm completely zombie-like, fuzzy-headed, weak limbs and feel like I've eaten too much but it hasn't been that much.

I've also started getting a pain under my right ribs when I eat, which I think might be heartburn? Never had it before.

I might make myself go out for a walk later, so I've accomplished something before going back to work tomorrow.

Fed Up, poor dog! And poor you too.