Thread #5 - TTC#1 grads thread - now we're cooking with charcoal!

[PotatosMum]

Welcome again to the rambling journey that is the TTC#1 (or whatever) grads thread.

Anyone's welcome to join the trip, just remember to pack your sense of humour and a strong stomach as there is no such thing as TMI!

EDD List
August
11 Mor (surprise)
13 Bunch (boy)
16 New (surprise)
27 Potato
30 Pink (girl)

September
1 Shelb
4 Nev (boy)
12 Danni
14 Soda
14 LittleBelle
17 Bubbles
28 Leonie
29 Laurenrl

October
5 Lisa
6 Irregular
8 Miley
12 Indi
13 Co5mo
14 Lillian
15 Planet
27 Lara
30 First

November
6 Bellini
8 Pyxie
11 Peaches
11 5tar
12 Rae
21 Canters
25 Stark!!!!!
25 Jam
29 Elle

December
6 Impy
9 Feef
11 Flash

Hello all. Haven't fully caught up on this!

Morning sickness has got quite bad again, currently trying to drag myself out of bed and into work.....its not going too well!

Did manage to pop out and get some mat jeans yesterday. Bunch I went for your recommendation of h&m, really pleased with them. I think whoever sized them was on crack though- I have a bmi of around 22 courtesy of MS so it's fair to say I am slim- had to get a 14 which is what I was wearing when I was 2 stone heavier then I am now!

potato your friend sounds a bit loopy. I completely get why someone would chose not to have children but there's no need to be so evangelical about your choice!

Good luck at work miley!

potato I get it often. I'm quite young so one of the first of my close group to be a mammy. I've been told I'm too young, I'm ruining the best years of my life blah blah. I'm taking the high road and completely ignoring their behaviour. I'd be furious if one of them posted something like that though.

Bloody hell I'm exhausted already!! I love being back, though. I have the best boss/colleagues anyone could ask for. OH asked me not to go back, think he's worried because I'm still not good and he likes me home so he can keep an eye on me and baby, he has been texting constantly.

We're at the lakes this weekend for OHs 30th birthday, looking forward to it

Canters sorry to hear morning sickness is getting to you.

Miley glad you're enjoying work. Your poor over protective OH, bless him lol.

Finally got a response from friend. Apparently she's not a parent hating, child hating person and the articles are funny... I considered pointing out that actually they aren't and while her nearest and dearest obviously share her humour, I doubt I'm the only one on FB who finds it in poor taste but instead I decided to unfollow her and remove the stress from my life.
Potato appears to be teaching me to to just ditch people who I should have removed from my life years ago buy making me a lot less forgiving of their shit lol.

Pink - I'm trying to do pelvic while I'm stood waiting for the train!! Probs not doing them enough or right - just tensing it all up . Tmi warning - I have noticed a little leakage recently when I cough, so probably should be doing them more often.

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Hope things go well today peaches!

Hope today goes well at work miley.

I always think that people like that are overcompensating potato why else would you feel the need to push your opinions on people so strongly. I think you're right to unfriend though.

On another note those you were at work for the horrible first trimester how the f**k did you manage it? Still no vomiting here but the exhaustion and severe nausea is horrible struggling to focus and feel like I'm moving through a swamp, cannot believe how slowly time is moving. And horrible not being able to tell anyone as everyone probably just thinks I'm totally incompetent or lazy at the moment. And still weeks (1 and 4days from repeat early scan) and 4 weeks from NHS scan which might as well be the end of time. . . Ughhhh feeling very sorry for myself today

Feef - I ate my way through it!!! Eating stopped the sickness which meant I could function, and gave me energy. I did still make a few fuck ups at work though. Just eat as much as you can - that's my only advice! Oh - and if you've got any annual leave going spare maybe book at few days off to take the strain off? Xx

I'm having some major wobbles today. OH and I went house hunting on the weekend, and I've found out he's not been truthful with me about quite a few things. Contemplating life as a single mum, or life without this baby at the moment I have no family in this country, and not sure how I can do it on my own.

I've feeling very sorry for myself today. I'm already out of most of my jeans and I'm only 5 weeks along. It just feels like something is wrong. Not sure if it's just with OH, or something more sinister.

This is just the pregnancy hormones kicking in, right?

Oh May, that doesn't sound good. You obviously don't have to say, but are they significant things OH has been untruthful about? Does he have a history of lying to you?

I think everything seems worse when you are pregnant because hormones are all over the place. Maybe take some time and see if you can resolve things?

My sickness is back with a vengeance today. It's so weird that I had a good few weeks of feeling totally fine, and now I'm being sick again

Shelb you sound like me in regards to weight gain. Pink I do ten repetitions for 10
Seconds each, 3 times a day but I had to work up to it. I could o my do for 5 seconds to begin with.

Potato the receptionist sounds like a pita as do the friends on fb. I'm the first to have kids and don't seem to have many people onfb who are vocal in either way.

Canters I find that with all h&m clothes, they size so small!

I had my 25 week midwife appointment today it lasted an hour!!! Bloods taken as per for the hospital, I'm booked in for a review and ctg next week to see if they'll sign me off. I had ketones and protein in my urine so they've gone off to be tested- joys. I've been having a pulling pain/ bruise at the top left of my bump, I'm under strict instruction to let the hospital know, they don't know if it's related to my mega heartburn, my diastasis recti or something else entirely. And I have to go see the gp about my heart palpitations as may need an ecg. Jeez it never stops!!

Oh no May, doesn't sound good .

Why is the sickness back pink, totally uncalled for hey!! Hope you're ok. If it's any consolation I'm 23 weeks same as you now and I've felt nauseous today, and shattered. Are you at work?

Bunch - do they start measuring your bump at the 25 week appointment?

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Shelb, i was but was sick 4 times before 11am so I gave up and have come home. No idea why its back, but I'm not very impressed about it!

Bunch, at least they are being thorough I suppose with all the tests/ investigation! Do they listen to baby's heartbeat as well? I've got mine next week and am expecting to be referred to hospital again for my platelets, as they are still dropping, but we'll see.

I really need to build my pelvic floor exercises up. I've been doing fewer in number but for longer, but I'm never convinced I'm doing them right.

Oh no that's rubbish pink take it easy x

Shelb you're not the only one with leakage issues it is really quite common though. makes mental note to start those pelvic exercises

I had a midwife apt at 22 weeks where she measured my bump.

Feefs no advice just sympathy. I was signed off with morning sickness for most of the first trimester, I couldn't have done it.

May I'm sorry you're having a tough time. Whatever you decide try not to make any spur of the moment decisions as your hormones may be making you very sensitive over things you would otherwise deal with differently.
Whatever the problem is I hope it turns out to just be a blip.

Pink sorry your sickness is back again. Hopefully it's just a temporary thing. How many weeks are you now?

Bunch it never rains but it pores. The dr's must like having you around!!

Told my boss about being signed off again this morning, her response "worse pregnancy ever " thank god she's so tolerant. Sadly she was unable to have children naturally so chose not to have them, I think how shitty my pregnancy has been makes her feel better about that

Potato - i'm 23 weeks now. I can cope if it just happens every now and then, but I don't want the full on nausea/ sickness to come back!

I think i've had a tiny bit of leakage too, hence my new obsession with pelvic floor exercises!

I've had leakage too. I'm trying to be better about doing the pelvic floor exercises. I find that if I know I'm going to sneeze, I clench now and that seems to help.

I had 25 weeks appointment today too. They measured my bump. Apparently it's bang on for 25 weeks.

I mentioned getting a lot of pain when I walk. Apparently I can have a bump support if it's still like it in a few weeks. What about now!?

Sorry to hear you are sick again Pink

Thanks shelbta trying to eat more hard to find something I want to eat at times! Will have to take some more annual leave I think afraid of using up too much before I need it at the end.

Thanks for the sympathy potato I'm pretty apprehensive about how my boss is going to react so worried about sick leave. I think I will just be treated as a problem as we are so short staffed and she is having issues covering someone else's maternity leave. She is also a childless woman but I think she will think I'm too young! (28!! So not that young)

Feefs I found that forcing myself to eat plain crackers helped a lot. I didnt want them, but they were relatively non offensive

Pink it's mostly been about finances - first he definitely has so much towards a deposit and then it turns out he doesn't have the savings he claimed to have. He has lied to me once before so I'm really not sure where to go from here.

Thanks Potato I won't be making any rash decisions, that's for sure. Hopefully things will seem better in the morning.

All this talk of pelvic floor exercises and morning sickness.. So much fun stuff to come!

Thanks newmrs I've been trying breadsticks but maybe crackers would be better. Made home made macaroni cheese tonight which has sorted me out for a while!

Feefs - I found cheese straw biscuits from M&s a lifesaver - dry but also salty and buttery.

May that sounds tough.

X

Evening,

Re: 25 week appointment I didn't get measured but will apparently from 28 weeks. This weird pain I've got on top of my bump is really bothering me today. I can't bend or lean without it really hurting. Ice packs all the way. I'm also shattered but may be due to the 2 hour drive to my parents and then shopping for fabric. Think I'm in for a very early night. Hope everyone is okay

Morning ladies, how are you all today?

Pink I can't believe that so many of us are over half way now! I'm sure I read that if the sickness comes back it's not until the third trimester so fingers crossed you are just having a bad couple of days.

New yay for the perfect sized bump I wonder why the midwife didn't suggest a bump band now

Feef it's horrible that you're apprehensive about telling work. I know that a lot of people were expecting bad reactions but so far everyone's bosses seem to have been at least pleasant if not very happy for them. I hope you experience the same.

May that's annoying your OH lied about his savings. Have you sat down and asked why? It seems like a very odd thing to do.

Bunch how's the bump pain today?

I had an awful nights sleep. I kept dreaming that the offer we made on the house we're buying was rejected. We really have gone from thinking the house will do to make plans for how we will make it ours and falling in love with it. If we didn't buy it now if be devastated.
It's probably just playing on my mind because I'm seeing the mortgage advisor tonight to get our mortgage in principle. scary

I also feel like Potato has put on a tone of weight. I feel really, really heavy and I can now feel it every time she fidgets, I think she must be starting to get snug in there.

Morning all,

Potato the joy of pregnancy dreams and playing on your thoughts. I'm sure everything will be fine with the house. Have they taken it off the market now or put under offer?

Bump pain fine for now but always is in the morning. I think gravity must have a part to play in it.
I know what you mean re: heaviness. I feel every movement of Pips now I'm sure and he proper walloped me yesterday to the point I yelled out in shock. Little sod. Made me jump a mile.

Bunch they changed it to under offer the moment the offer was accepted so I'm not too worried. Just eager to get moving and it's really dull at this early stage when you hear nothing.

You might be right regarding gravity making your pain worse. Maybe you've pulled a muscle
I think Pip and Potato are on the same wavelength. She gave me a right boot the other day for no good reason. Felt like she put every bit of her strength and weight into it (little bugger!)

And I've been stood up the last 50 mins and I can feel the pain coming back. Definitely gravity related!!

Sounds like it Potato, I think they're in cahoots!