August 2016 number 4 - bumps popping and scans happening, we actually have babies!

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Looks like we've nearly filled the last thread, so here is a nice new one for you all!

Lily what a relief. Do take it easy and viability will be here before you know it.

Fizzy I think your body knows what to do! You'll have plenty of time to put your feet up towards the end, and let's face it, we're not going to get loads done once the babies are here, so I'd say you should do as you feel.

Great to hear about all the holidays and house moving plans! Exciting stuff.

I hope everyone has a restful Easter break 😊

Glad to hear all scans going well, and so glad you went in to see someone lily. Hopefully the rest of your pregnancy will be more straightforward!

Had a lovely outing to the safari park today, but am totally knackered now and flopped on sofa watching the jungle book 2 with the girls, hoping that it is nearly bedtime!

Can I ask if anyone has done much infant car seat research yet. Our maxi cosi cabrio fix is 8 years old so we are planning to replace it, thinking of getting a pebble, but not sure what the deal is with the i size thing and changing regulations. I'd ask in the car seat bit, but they are a bit scary and the answer to anything always seems to be 'you must import an extended rear facing seat or you are not protecting your child'!

I'm still in the hospital, they decided 48 hours was best, so out tomorrow. I just had a complete breakdown though. DH was meant to come see me this afternoon but traffic chaos mucked up the buses and got him really stressed out so I told him to go home and get a taxi this evening. He was getting ready to leave, I suggested that he ask the taxi company if the traffic would be OK to get here. Just had a call to say he decided to just get buses, but the buses are still mucked up and he got too stressed. So he has gone home. I said I was pretty stressed and emotional myself, his suggestion was we both just sleep it off, and when I pointed out I can't (constant obs, noisy ward) he apologised for having it so much better than me.

I had to get off the phone before I started to cry, and still struggling to stop. I just don't understand why he would risk not getting in to see me when there was an easy solution. I'm trying really hard not to be angry, he struggles so badly with stress and depression I don't want to add to it, so always tell him to do what's best for him and never mind me, but I really needed him today.

Sorry for the rant

Oh lily I feel for you. I hope that you manage to get some sleep and they are happy for you to get home tomorrow. Your OH will be so pleased to have you home and the stress of these days will hopefully be all over for both of you. You sound like such a considerate partner, he's probably feeling awful for not getting in to visit you.

Oh Lily you poor thing. Firstly, whilst extra nights in hospital are always crap, it's also great that they are being cautious - especially as it's coming up to a bank holiday weekend and it sounds like the hospital is a total arse for you to get to. Re DH- I can understand why you're upset and disappointed that he hasn't come in. It's a lonely place to be, hospital... I guess all you can do is talk to him about it once you've got home and you both feel a little less stressed. Hopefully you can both then understand how the other has been feeling... Hugs in the meantime :)

Lotsofdots - what's the looming carseat law change pls??

I ordered new maternity/nursing bras and they arrived today. And they are AMAZING! I might not take them off for the next year...! which is just as well since they were thirty quid a go

lots what type of buggy do you have? We have a britax car seat because it fits onto our buggy wheels and that was useful on occasion. All the first seats are rear facing as far as I'm aware, so it shouldn't be a problem.

New regulations are rear facing until at least 15 months (with four years being recommended). The new pebble plus is isize iirc. Isize basically replaced the old law and the seat have been more rigorously tested.
We got 14 months out of our old pebble before moving to extended rear facing seat (some can be used from birth but most people think an infant carrier still the safest/and if you have a travel system obviously can just clip it on).

Just done a quick google. According to Which? the old set of regulations and the new set of regulations are running in tandem until at least 2018. So it shouldn't matter (legally, anyway) whether you are i-sized or not. Clearly the safer the better, but it's not as though the rear facing non-isized seats are unsafe...

We have a bugaboo Cameleon that just needs a spruce up, so maxicosi seats are compatible. Both of my first 2 are slight and were in the cabriofix until about 15 months anyway I think! They didn't weigh enough to move into a stage one seat before then! For reference, DD1 is 7.8 and only weighs 21 kg, which puts her in the second centile for weight, but she's 130 cm so 75th for height, by my quick online search. I'm breeding supermodels.

I think I probably need to go and look at the difference between the pebble and the pebble plus in john Lewis or somewhere and decide what to do...

Misread the chart, DD1 is 9th for weight. DD2 is about 25th for weight and 91st for height or thereabouts!

lily so sorry to hear you've had a rubbish afternoon. Traffic is so crap in Aberdeen all the time. When are they letting you out? Tomorrow?

Our ds was out of his first car seat by 10 months. Tbh I was glad because he did nothing but scream or sleep the whole time he was in it! I'm sure it was more dangerous for him as the screaming was pretty difficult to ignore while driving. As soon as he went into a front facing seat the screaming stopped. I often wondered if he got travel sick facing backwards.

I heard rear facing is better until they're fairly big (around 2)? Not sure. I did read an article on it but I forget the science! I don't have a car so it's not something I've paid much attention to!

Lily glad you should be home soon, sorry you're having such a horrible time

Congrats on the scans!
My 15 month old has been ill for a week, think it's swine flu. So not been getting much sleep! She's awake now..

Update on my sister-she's had the transplant! She's very sick and fighting a couple of infections but it was a success! hopefully she will recover slowly (it takes 6-12 months) and go home soon!!

22 weeks today!

Thanks four, I'm secretly hoping for a girl

Lily you poor thing, although probs best to stay put that bit longer, have any of your friends visited you while you've been in? Hope you managed to get some sleep last night and feel slightly better today.

Yeah they don't have to be in isize seats. by 2018 you won't be able to get a fwd facing seat before 15 months, the manufacturers and shops have a few years to phase out.

They should be rear facing as long as possible as their heads weigh more than their body, so on the event of a crash the risk of a broken neck is dramatically less.

my two year old is still in rear facing and knows no different so he'll be in it for as long as possible.

Great news on your sister jw

Jw that's good news about your sister, she sounds such a strong person.

Mrssanta not had any visitors apart from DH. My family aren't in the area and.....last night my sister went into labour and has had her twins! All seem to be doing well, she was 32 weeks so they are in SCBU but only needing a little help to breathe and responding. So my parents have gone to be with them, I'm sort of hoping to go meet them on Monday.

I'm feeling less emotional today, but did have a scare as the midwife was worried she could see waters on my pad. I'm now really conscious of what is going on down there, and a bit scared about going home as I cramp after moving so paranoid I should stay in bed until 24 weeks, but only just back at work!!

Stranded, yep, I'm carrying on! Yesterday started stripping 28 year old wood chip wallpaper from the lounge (handily dated underneath as oct 1988!) but the stuff is welded on!
My plans to do the rest of the flat may have just turned into replacing any dodgy bits instead...

So happy for you jw. Finally a bit of good news ay!
lily you'll get there! Resting is the worst thing when you're told you have no choice. Just take it easy.
So this morning I woke up and had just had enough. Of being tired, aching, feeling stressed, everything and everyone. So I'm going away for the weekend. It won't be until I'm finished for work (beginning of June) but its something! I told the OH and he said to find somewhere I like and he'll pay for it. A weekend on my own! Ahhhh!

Jw so happy for you and your sister, wonderful news!

Christine I have those days of feeling so fed up as well. The weekend away sounds lovely and relaxing

Lily sorry to hear you're still stressed and worried. You're in the best hands possible. Don't worry about work, it's not important and baby comes first

I'm now getting to experience the invasion of bump rubbing strangers/'well wishers'. Wow. It's incredible how people see a pregnant woman as a free ticket to invade a person's personal space. I had two strangers in a shopping centre rub my belly yesterday because it's 'good luck'. 🙄

Great news about your sister jw, hope her recovery is quick.

Hope you are OK now lily we are all thinking of you.

I'm OK, glad I'm on holiday (from work, I'm at home). Ds recovering from his cold, dh in kitchen making ribs and chips and coleslaw, yum yum.

Oh lily! I hope you're home now, what a horrible time you've been having!
I've just found out today a friend is due in August too, she's kept it quiet until her 20 week scan due to complications in a previous pregnancy, it will be nice to have her to compare notes again as our first are only a few weeks apart too!

Question for you ladies, I am considering investing in a pregnancy pillow this time round and wondered if any of you have one/have had one you recommend? I made do with intricately arranged normal pillows the last two times because my exH was a tightarse but feel like treating myself this time.

squiggle I have a dreamgenii, though not used it yet as it needs a new pillowcase (bought it from eBay). It looks like it will be comfy though, and better than my selection of pillows that always escape from me.

Owlina your dinner last night sounded amazing.

I'm still in hospital, they are so lovely in here. My cramps started up again last night, needed codeine to get some sleep, and the midwife said she could feel my uterus tightening. So waiting to see what the doctors say today, but getting the feeling I could be in here for a while. If I'd gone home yesterday, I'd definitely have come back in. Today's Doppler was lovely, clear and loud, a good 136bpm so at least baby remains totally happy and content

Thanks for the support for my sister
Lily I'm glad you have decent nurses in hospital it can make all the difference! You may be stuck in for now but the main thing is the baby is hanging in there! Hopefully you will go all the way to term!
Squiggle never had a pregnancy pillow but heard they're good!

Happy Easter everyone! My 15 month old is hyper on her first egg!

Scary stuff lily but glad you're being well looked after. It must be very boring/frustrating but you're in the best place! Will keep everything crossed all settles down and you get to go home soon.
Jw that's amazing news about your sister! Fingers crossed she's on the road to recovery now.
Happy Easter everyone we are at MIL's, going to wait til after lunch but the Easter eggs are calling my name already!