Thread #3 - TTC#1 Grads thread. No TMI is too much, no question too stupid!

[Runner05]

Come one, come all it's the TTC#1 Grads thread! Everyone welcome so long as you're not put off by graphic descriptions of the lunch we couldn't keep down or the weird pregnancy symptoms we just have to share.

Our lovely ladies now span many stages of upduffedness from "woohoo BFP, now let me pee on 58 more sticks just to be sure" to "Oh my god, why don't they warn you what morning sickness is really like?" To" I need to pee 132 times a day but look at my cute scan photo!"

if you're looking for advice, banter and support, along with the occasional scan photo or rant, you are definitely in the right place.

I'd have loved to read an honest book, too. I think it's only fair coming into pregnancy expecting the truth and not the pack of lies we're all lead to believe I'm looking at you, MORNING sickness

I'd happily share my thoughts. May be an idea to actually take quotes from here if everyone is ok with it, we're always more honest when we're going through a tough time.

I'm feeling semi-human today and it's such a relief. Only been sick once, and even dtd!!!!! I've managed a banana, yogurt, cashew nuts an apple and cranberries so far. I know tomorrow will be hell but I'm not thinking that far ahead. I honestly live for these days that remind me I will feel normal again and that I love my little butter bean even though s/he's giving me hell.

Glad I'm not the only hairy beast round here, makes me feel better! I will say though, even though I've actually lost quite a bit of weight I'm looking more squishy and shapeless round the tum. Obviously no bump but I feel like I look more pregnant helloooo massive boobies anyone else change shape this early??

Runner I think that's a great idea. I don't think anyone tells you the absolute truth when TTC or how draining the first trimester truly is.
Miley I think I'm 1 day behind you and I definitely feel my tummy is getting harder at the bottom near my hip bones and a bit more rounded. When I eat, especially at night time, I look very pregnant as it all pops out. Oh and my boobs are enormous too. Glad you're feeling better today btw!

I'm feeling weepy and tired and generally crappy today. I didn't sleep well at all last night and all I want to do is sleep today. I feel so guilty because I haven't been to the gym yesterday and today looks unlikely too, I'm used to being so healthy and fit and going to the gym 5 times a week no problem. I just feel lazy now and want my energy back. Anyone else feel guilty about lack of exercise? I know i shouldn't worry and just rest when I need to but I'm having a massive psychological battle with myself. Sorry for the whinge.

indi before I got pregnant I did weight training and the odd bit of cardiovascular (but mainly went for a morning jog with the dog). I haven't been to the gym for 4 weeks due to lack of energy and sickness. I felt so guilty at first but figured I didn't want to push my body any more as it's already working damn hard to cook a baby. I'm just sort of taking time away to properly look after myself and am going for 30-45 min walks on days I feel up to it.

Yeah Miley i should just learn how to relax and not feel bad about it. Becuase I've not been sick and just had bad nausea I feel like I'm just being lazy and should go..I'm a bit mental about my body and fitness anyway so I knew this was always going to be a mental block for me.
I'm still taking the dogs for a walk most days and trying to get to the gym 3-4 times a week but it's SUCH an effort. I know this isn't the biggest problem I could be having but becuase I've always been a bit body/fitness obsessed it's really playing havoc with my mind. Shit sleep last night probably doesn't help with my mood either.

Haha yup, I hear you. I've trained since being 16, put enough effort in to be told to enter into a bikini competition but I'm not into that and have had abs for years. They're slowly fading away and it took me a week or so but now I really don't care. It's not about the way I look any more, it's about being sensible and looking after my butter bean as well as I can. I've had to make a few sacrifices already with gym and nutrition but it's worth it. I can't keep the physique I had if I want children, and having children is more important to me than looking good naked. I still try to be healthy, but apparently my baby isn't going to take after me and wants nothing but stodge, carbs and bacon sandwiches! Look after yourself, do what you can but don't push your body too much

Can I just say, I'd rather throw up 10 times a day and have no nausea. The being sick isn't the worst part for me, it's the constant feeling sick from morning til night that really drains me so don't feel lazy because you're not vomiting

I used to train 8 times a week. I'm lucky if I make it more than once a week at the moment. Treadmill now out due to the pain I get, but thankfully I can still use the cross trainer. Most of my weight exercises are out due to my diastasis recti so in at a bit of a loss what to do. Thankfully at this show on Sunday they have a fitness stand who will assess your diastasis recti and talk about fitness plans- I'm so there!!

Just got a phone call to go see the physio at 1.30pm. Sheesh that was quick I only got referred on Monday!

Runner any news from the consultant?

Well consultation wasn't as reassuring as I'd hoped. Because of the fibroid I'm at a higher risk of miscarriage and I'm going to be in a lot of discomfort and likely a lot of pain. If I do feel any pain I have to go to a&e immediately but all they'll do about it is give me pain killers. I'm going to have to have 3 additional scans after my 20 week and lots of extra appointments. I'm also going to be monitored closely during the third trimester because it's likely I'll deliver early and I might have complications with bleeding afterwards. I'm also going to have to deliver in the hospital with lots of extra monitoring so no water birth for me.

Feeling a bit fed up now. It's one thing to read symptoms and treatment on Google but quite another to have the consultant inform you.

On a slightly more entertaining note. There was a trainee with us who needed to check the heart beat but couldn't find it so I asked if she'd mind me having a try. I found it straight away which had everyone in the room laughing and making jokes about patients doing their own examinations... I did explain that I use a monitor at home so I know roughly where he usually is. Strike one more up for home dopplers

Oh runner I'm sorry that your consultation wasn't as reassuring as you'd like, at least they are going to take special care and extra precautions with you now and they are fully aware of your condition. Made me laugh that you found baby's heartbeat quicker than the medical student, I want a Doppler now! Reading your post has made me feel so bloody silly about not going to the gym and worrying about my weight/fitness. I've given myself a stern talking to, if I need a rest day I will have one without feeling guilty I'll try. For now I'm going to get my arse up and take the dogs for a big walk.

Sorry to hear runner pregnancy really isn't being kind to you, is it

Just got my letter for nuchal dating scan. I'll be 13+2 which I know is ok but it seems a million miles away. Was secretly hoping for dead on 12 weeks.

Indi get a Doppler. They are great! I'd say that today proves pretty definitively that all the people who tell you that you can't use one without special training and loads of experience is codswallop (love that word) as long as you watch a couple of YouTube videos and are patient the first couple of times you are in a far better position to find your baby than a midwife because you know your body and where he usually is and they don't.
I also found it handy to pay attention to where the sonographer at my 12 week scan was looking as that gave me a really good starting point.

Also, don't be hard on yourself. Your growing a human, if your body says rest then do it.
I actually think all the advice telling you to exercise and eat such and such a diet while your pregnant puts undue pressure on pregnant woman. It's the one time in your life when quite frankly you should be able to lie on the couch and eat whatever you like (within reason) without being made to feel guilty about it.

Miley I've come to the conclusion that pregnancy is shit and I'm glad I'm not doing it again.
That being said I am determined that potato will be absolutely fine and if I have to spend the rest of my pregnancy feeling rubbish I'll just blinking well bare it. There are very few things in my life that have been easy. I've always had to struggle for what I want and this is just another of those struggles.

How many weeks away is your scan? You'll be surprised how quick it goes.

Oh, and bright side of all this. After 20 weeks I get to have a scan every few weeks to check potato is growing properly and the fibroid isn't

runner I admire your positivity! It's just under 4 weeks which I know really isn't a massive amount of time really. I'm a bit concerned that they bring my EDD forward, I'll be over the 14 week limit and won't be able to have the screening.

well Miley apart from have a cry and a strop which I'm sure I'll get around too there's not much I can do other than say f it all, I'm damned well just going to get on with it.

4 weeks will be fine, you'll hardly notice it. You must be having your scan just before my 20 week one
Do you think it's likely they'll adjust it? Do you know when you ovulated, if you do then we can make an educated guess as to whether they'll change it :-)

Got my posotive opk on 16th Jan, lmp was 4th Jan so I'm guessing conception around the 18th... I measured spot on at my early scan but who knows if that's reliable. I'm confident my EDD is correct (26/27 day cycle) but knowing my luck baby will be too big haha

Positive* I need to learn to proof read!

Forgot to mention, scan is 6th April right now to me, you seem so much further into pregnancy but really it's only 7ish weeks! Eeek.

After the 12 week scan there's lots of appointments and milestones to look forward to so it does make it feel a bit more exciting.

Do I remember Simone saying that they felt like they had been punched in the foof? Yeh, that

Runner sorry the news isnt what you want but that you are being positive about it is a step in the right direction! OHs mum had a few big fibroids when she was expecting him and had no pain and he was two weeks late so you never know...

Spoke to the foetal (sp?) heart specialist peoples today as have been reffered for extra screening due to history of heart defects in family- scans on 31 march and 21 april to see what our beans heart is doing.... Hoping for good news!

I know most of you are suffering with constipation but I have gone the other way I need to go every few hours! Help!

Runner that's sucky news but as you said you'll get to see a whole lot more of Potato at least. Fx the fibroid causes you no grief but at least you're now getting the care you require regarding it.

Turns out my abs are fooked according to the Physio. And I have to wear a tubi grip around my bump now, hips to ribs for all waking hours. Mmmmm shexy! I have my 1 to 1 appointment next Thursday but for now I have new ways to sit, get in and out the car and the bed and pelvic floor exercises. I can't do the normal ones because my stomach muscles are "naughty" and engage when I do anything. Pfft stupid strong core. They don't tell you that when you get fit.

My 'feeling wonderful' phase lasted for 4 hours. I've felt like death since lunch time and am so pissed off guess I should be grateful for a bit of relief, really. I'm busy drinking oralyte as prescribed by my mother and it tastes like absolute shit. I have been assured it will help to rehydrate my poor body but surely so will water? I don't recommend it at all - think salty ribena.

Ah no bunch!! Poor you! I didn't know there were many other ways to get in and out of cars... pregnancy really does change your world.

Oh bunch that sounds horrible, how did you get it? Do you know, or did it just happen once you got to a certain amount of weeks pg?
Miley like oralyte rehydrated by putting the electrolytes you lose when being sick, back in to your body. It does taste vile though. Sorry you're feeling crap have you been able to eat any more?

This metallic taste is really annoying me, it's making me go off so many foods because I can just taste this horrible metal after everything I eat. I'm craving Hagen daaz ice cream right now but I know it will taste horrible if I eat it.

I just made myself some pasta with tomato and basil sauce which didn't sit well. Half way through I had to rush to the toilet. weird experience, I didn't know wether I wanted to cry or be sick but I ended up doing both.
indi that sounds horrible! I had the metallic taste for one day before my bfp (one of my very few symptoms) so I really feel for you!
I'm watching crufts to cheer me up! Won't name names but one of my relatives has won one of the groups which is brilliant.

I'm watching crufts too Miley, it's cheering me up

I'm in bed! 7.30, my Thursday's used to be so different haha