June 2016 #7 - We're still waiting for the second trimester "bloom" but healthy babies and stronger kicks all around!!

[nehagarg]

Here is the next one people.

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Great news nehagarg! I was in triage for about three hours when I went into labour with DS as there was no room on the labour ward so it may just be that.

Really pleased to hear that nehagarg I hope the person next to you is ok.

Aah. Really hope so. My niece and nephew were born at 26 weeks. Babies that tiny are heartbreaking.

Back home. All well.

Btw, my niece and nephew, even though born at 26 weeks are perfectly healthy 8 year olds now. Thought I should mention that.

Ahhh, that's lovely. It's amazing and lovely to know that babies can be born so premature and still survive and lead healthy lives. :)

And twins to boot! Medical technology has grown by leaps and bounds.

Hi ladies,

Hope you are all having a good weekend.

nehargag glad to hear all's well

How's everyone getting on? I'm beginning to struggle rolling off the bed or getting up from the sofa . Can't put on my socks, pants or boots very well either 😆...it's all becoming comedy really! Otherwise, just plodding along and counting the days...can't wait to meet my little bambino .

ION, anyone going for the baby and toddler event in Manchester?

Glad everything was OK nehagarg

Starting to feel a bit more organised now. Buggy and car seat were delivered yesterday, we have new Moses basket and microwave sterelizer with bottles just in case. And I think we might be getting somewhere on naming this wiggler!

That's great strawberry! What buggy did you go for and are having a boy or girl?

Tomboy I'm feeling the same... I found myself saying "oof!" as I heaved myself off the sofa the other day.

Exciting strawberry. We really need to get organised with baby stuff!

Glad all is ok nehgarg

I'm just 24 weeks and dreading the point where absolutely everything is a struggle I barely slept as it is last night because my back was so sore

Glad everything is ok nehagarg, hope all is well with you too biking.

I need to get more organised too, baby doesn't have a pram or cot yet. We will get there though. I've been to the NCT nearly new sale today and he/she does now have a bouncer, play gym, bath seat and some books! Priorities

We've come to a standstill over baby's name now. DH wants to name him after his dad, and obviously I wouldn't go against this as he has just lost him and if that helps then that's great but I'd got my heart set on the name we had chosen beforehand so can't help feeling a tad disappointed - DH says we can use that as the middle name but then he'd have the same first name and initials as DFIL which seems a bit out? Total first world problem.

A bit OTT not out

Thanks everyone. He is moving around again today, thankfully. He really did hate the monitoring device though.

cautious the first thing I bought for baby was books. Definitrly priority

27 weeks and finding it difficult to roll over in bed. Have given up a couple of times just because i cant be bothered. Constant source of amusement for DH. Lol

Still okay getting off the floor though. Have sat on the floor all my life so that helps I think. Oofing when getting off the floor though. Lol.

*Still okay getting off chairs and sofas though.

divergent it's all still so raw for your DH at the moment so there's time for him to change his mind (I hope that doesn't sound heartless, it's not intended that way). I really wanted to use my husbands grandfathers name as its lovely and he was a wonderful man but my DH wants our child to be his/her own person without having to live up to a name. I'm disappointed but think it makes sense. Also his grandma wouldn't have liked us to use it so before making a definite decision, definitely make sure your DH speaks to his DM and any siblings to make sure they could deal with it. In the end he might decide it's too much and would be better suited as a middle name.

We had decided on using my DH's late grandmothers name (I never knew her) and I love the name and as I've never met her it doesn't really feel like re-using someone else's name. But then my DH mentioned his father might not really like us using his mother name and suddenly it really put me off it.

Then we spoke about another name, which it turns out was his other grandmothers real first name but she always went by her middle name because she didn't like her Christian name. So again, DH feels his mother might be weird about it - but I am already thinking of my daughter as that name and have no others lined up that I like nearly as much. So we're basically not really talking about it at all at the moment as I think if we just ignore for the time being then at least that name is still on the table.

No it doesn't come across like that cautious it's difficult to know what to do. Our dds were both named by this stage, so I'm a bit and want it sorted. Our dds are not named after anyone, and neither are DH or I. I don't mind the name but I don't love it and I feel bad for feeling like this. Might just leave it a few weeks and see if he comes round, but he mentioned it this morning and I have a feeling he is just waiting for me agree.

mrsmugoo I'm really not sure how mil and bil will feel about it at all and we generally don't discuss name choice with anyone - i wonder if it would be prudent for it to be discussed if he is seriously considering the name.

I'm the same - I don't want to discuss with anyone but DH. I certainly don't want to have to be getting a blessing from either patent-in-law.

Thanks cautious I'm not really expecting anything bad, it was only because DD was a big baby they like to check with other pregnancies.

Lots of people ask us whether we have chosen a name yet, and I usually answer yes but DH answers no! I'm hoping to win him round but I guess time will tell. We have the problem that you have to see if you also like how Dutch people with say it, because sometimes it's completely different and I don't want to either correcting all the time, or end up having a child named a lot of the time with a pronunciation I don't like.

For example I like Martha but in Dutch it's said Maaar-ta

Or Joshua which I'd Dutch is pronounced Yozh-U-a

A bit more thinking needed!

Can absolutely identify with that biking. We are going for an Indian or Iranian name sinde DH is Indian and I am half Indian, half Iranian but its soooo difficult to be able to come up with something that everyone can pronounce and that we love.

Boy number 2 for us tomboy I didn't drive when DS1 was a baby bough so we needed another car seat and a buggy to fit my car (Graco Evo mini)
Could you suggest FIL's name as baby's middle divergent then it gives baby the connection but not the name to live up to iyswim. Difficult descision for you both though.
Agree with everyone about not talking names with family before hand, I feel it belongs to us at the moment (not that we've definitely decided but I think we have a good idea what we like now) Parents can't disagree or sway us then! The only thing we've asked if if DH's grandfather would be happy with is using his actual first name as one of babies middle names (he's known by his middle name so never uses his first) the reason we asked was to check he didn't hate he name and because he's very ill and might not be around to meet baby.

With DD PIL hated the girls name, my parents hated our boys name. We learnt after that to keep quiet. PIL have since grown to love DD's name.

Once the baby is born people are too polite to say they hate it!