May 2016 babies - baby clothes, maternity leave and all the rest!

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Parsnip Till the last couple of days my pee has been fine with my usual fluid intake but that's all changed. Maybe baby's on a growth spurt!

Murderous rage here too Grouchy thanks to DP being a total arse this evening and flying off the handle in a massive way after he got home from work. I'd better not go into labour tonight because I'm currently a quivering mess after such a terrible argument...

cant Nice cup of tea and some chocolate. Hope he makes it up to you.

Also v thirsty with terrible dark wee here. Always tests fine tho so I guess it's normal!

Hope you are feeling better and DP has apologised now cant . Also grouchy hope you got fed and a bit of peace this eve.

Have been super irritable all day and now having more warm up pains. Wondering if something is starting, but have felt like this a few times already so potentially could go on for a while! I feel like odog 'hurry up baby. But not today I'm busy'

Grumpy and Pearly we must have water stealing babies. To be honest I think a lot of my dehydration is snoring with my mouth open all night and breathing with my mouth open in the day. Pregnancy is not attractive.

Going to spend 2 nights at MILs tomorrow. Petrified that I'm going to go into labour there. DP is distinctly chilled out about the whole thing (obviously, as it's his family)... In fact part of me thinks he'd rather I went into labour at his Mum's house. ARGH!

Cant deep breaths and chocolate. I hope DP apologises and stops being an arse.

You ok cant? Did it blow over? Does it seem better after a nights sleep?

If indeed there was any sleep...

to giving birth at in laws - can't imagine anything worse - good luck getting home before you have any labour feelings...

Thanks for replying notsoold, the pains died off and I went to sleep so it was obviously nothing again anyway!

DP is being an arse this morning too.....must be something in the air or their "time of the month"

Heh to DPs' time of the month.

Hope everyone had a better night.

Currently sitting up by myself with everyone else in the house still asleep - including DD2 who had been waking before 7am every day (early for her). I'm very much enjoying the peace and quiet.

Have a driving lesson this morning then I was supposed to meet DH and the girls at an open day for the private school close to us but I can't bear the thought of struggling around on my crutches. Am using those and the MW's concerns as an (bloody good, IMO) excuse to come straight home after my lesson and leave DH to do it himself. He's not happy about the idea but as we can't afford the school anyway (though his parents would happily pay for it - no thanks) I'm not that bothered.

Long story short: DH will probably be pissy with me this morning too.

Hurray for pissy OH's on a Saturday - as if we don't have enough to deal with!!!!
He tried to be nice to me last night but I wasn't having any of it, I didn't even want to look at him. The fight was a bit childcare arrangements and when I plan to go back to work - we were having terrible arguments about it when I was less than 12 weeks pregnant that made me think I had made a terrible mistake procreating with him and it all suddenly came up again last night. So, it may be calm for now but it's going to come up again....
I had a better night though I was up twice, at 1am I am ABSOLUTELY SURE I was having a contraction....just one though!! And nothing since, so clearly it wasn't significant - but yay for the first one! Or fuuuuuuuuuuuuck - either or!
I think crutches is an excellent excuse not to go look round a school BTW and you should probably be installed on the sofa all day being brought tea and biscuits not that that argument would work around here....sending good husband vibes out to hope they all get over their dramas today!!

Sorry about awkward DHs. DH and I argued terribly throughout my first pregnancy. I think a mixture of hormones and him burying his head in the sand about how life will change.

We had our night out last night. We were home early (9.30pm!) as it turns out restaurant/bar chairs are v uncomfortable at 39 weeks. DS was still running rings round my parents when we got home. So he slept terribly as he does after a late night. DH did get up with him this morning and I had a lovely lie in until 8am. Now just to convince DH to take him to his swimming lesson so I can do nothing some jobs!

DS got up the earliest he's ever got up this morning.....5.5am but he did sleep in his own bed all night (double shock!! That's 3 times this week I don't know what to do with myself) but DP taking him out this afternoon.....just to fight him in the bath first before we get his passport photos done......such an exciting Saturday!

Currently in the bath trying to ease the back ache.....might even break out the tens machine

Childcare - such an emotive issue though, loaded with assumptions and judgements, hardly surprising that it results in tension. It's so hard, every decision is for the best for your wee one but it's hard to see the wood for the trees sometimes. For every course of action there's an equal counter argument, that's what us do tough about parenting.

Hope everyone has sunshine... And biddable other halves .

One more sleep until May!

Ice we are at a total roadblock as he thinks that the only option is to use his work's nursery (he is at a university) as it has fantastic ofsted reports etc and is subsidised BUT is nowhere near where we live, nor where I work, and would entail taking a baby on public transport (he cycles right now and hates the tube, so what does he think - would I be going there every day just to then commute another half an hour to work afterwards??) plus if we wanted to do that we had to pay a deposit and sign up 18 months in advance. Is bloody crazy!!
So apparently I was supposed to come up with an alternative - on my own - because I refused the "only sensible option" - it will be more expensive but not so bloody illogical!!

Hey ladies, two babies down and many still left to go. May is almost here!

Really feeling for those of you with toddlers because mine are a bit older but every time I need to bend over I'm straining and everything hurts. Can't imagine how you do it.

As for DPs oh my god! Completely sympathise. I know I'm hormonal and constantly achey and teary but when DH came out with "come on babe women work till the day they give birth and go back three days later!" I actually visualised throwing something heavy at his head.

Had an awful appointment with a GP at a sister surgery by a locum (sp?) to the extent she thought that she might have to listen to baby's heart beat with an old fashioned tube thing (that you see on call the midwife) told me baby was too big and she thinks I have diabetes based on the fact I have hyper pigmentation! Urine came out fine so she retracted but it was the worst appointment I've had so far!

Hope everyone has a good day of rest and enjoying the sunshine. I'm going to try to walk and bounce on the ball to get this baby engaged.

Army too big?? How/why would anyone say that to a pregnant woman??!!

Sorry for awkward OHs. The childcare situation sounds stressful, cant. So if they need 18 months notice do people sign up to the nursery when they're still quite newly pregnant? I can't imagine that, I am too superstitious.

We've both buried our heads in the sand a little about the whole childcare thing, we'll need to go and look at some nurseries once the baby is here I guess. Hope we haven't left it too late!

everything (or others who have already given birth) do you recommend the tens machine? I'm in two minds about getting one if it might help with labour.

army that appointment sounds awful!! She sounds mad. Really not what you need in the final weeks of pregnancy! Hope you're ok.

Also at your DH. Where exactly are all these women who only take three days off to give birth?? I've certainly never met one!

Army that GP sounds truly awful. I'd take anything she said with a pinch of salt and talk to your midwife if you're worried. Also is your DH mad saying that to a pregnant lady?! I would have actually thrown something at his head.

Cant and redshoes just the word childcare makes me feel sick I'm so worried about it. My DP basically presumes I'll be able to sort it out and no matter how much I tell him I don't think he realises the cost. Stupidly I'm going to end up going part time even though that will mean losing more than his total wages and he's completely inflexible about the whole thing. Feels like he thinks his job comes first.

With most things my DP has stopped being a dick come round to a different way of thinking over time but it appears the nursery isn't one - despite his female colleague telling me that commuting with a baby "nearly killed her" and the only benefit was that she (SHE!) could pop down during he work day to check on her (which of course I can't do if it's DP's workplace) he tells me that all his colleagues say he is mad not to use the university nursery! And yes 29 they sign up at conception bloody academics which I couldn't get my head around!
Anyway i shall stop moaning now - so far this morning we have had an eBay person collect our old washing machine and DP is finishing off the gloss painting in the baby's room - the high bits I couldn't do during the week (loft hatch etc) so all pretty productive for pre 11am!!

Parsnip cross post - I totally feel your pain!

Argh, these silly DPs and childcare. What if you said you'd just stay at home instead of going back to work unless they sat down and helped work out a decent arrangement? We didn't have this trouble because I am a SAHM (and always wanted to be) so I don't know how people work it out. Hope you don't stress about it too much.

Army What a daft GP!

redshoes I borrowed my friend's TENS machine with DD1 and I hated it. Really, really hated it. (I get super grumpy when in labour, though.) Hated it as much as I hated the gas and air during labour - G&A was lovely for stitches, though! So I can't recommend getting one!

Think I'm really getting the hang of this driving thing. Only slightly over-revved it today and even managed to be a courteous driver. Have planned one more lesson before the baby comes but told instructor it depends on what my scan comes back with, whenever the scan actually happens.

My dad has just pissed me off today to so maybe it's ALL men having a blip or maybe it's just me?
Grouchy am so impressed that you are learning to drive at this point! I know if it was me I would be opting out but then again that's because I have weird driving phobia despite having had my license for about 18 years! the thing my dad's annoying me about is them bringing us their car which was first suggested 2 years ago (!!??) and still hasn't happened, partly because they want me to "practice" whenever I go to visit them and I don't want to!

YY to G&A for stitches. Amazing!

Also feel incredibly lucky that I don't have to worry about childcare. I only went back for 2 very part time days with DS so my mum watched him and this time I won't be going back for a couple of years and even after that it will be very part time again.

Sorting out my clothes while DS is napping. Feeling good about chucking out loads of maternity stuff that I know I won't wear in the next couple of weeks....or EVER AGAIN! Woohoo!!!

redshoes Tens machine was a life saver! I had a 3 day labour and wasn't admitted to hospital until the 3rd day (long story) so while I was at home the only thing I had for the pain was paracetamol and a tens machine! Wouldn't say it takes the pain away but it does help. But everyone is different.....I found being in water horrific and made me more uncomfortable.

The childcare situation is a sore spot in our house too. I don't think i should go back to work if all my wages are going on childcare, why pay for someone else to bring my children up? But DP thinks this means I just want to sit on my arse all day and not work!

Childcare is a bit of an issue here too. We've not properly discussed it yet. As my DH works from home I think he thinks he can look after the baby and work around nap times! I don't think he quite realises the work involved.

cant surely if the nursery is at your DP workplace he should be doing the pick up and drop offs!

Good luck with the driving grouchy I've also got a driving phobia and haven't driven properly since I passed my test 6 years ago. I really need to look into getting refresher lessons as I hate relying on crap public transport, taxis and the in laws for lifts.

That's good to know about the breech Pikz she did say if I go into labour before Friday they will scan me when I get to hospital but ideally I'd want to know before I go into labour so I can plan for a c section in advance.