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thread #2 - TTC#1 Grads, sick bags at the ready!

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Runner05 · 27/01/2016 15:07

We've finally got our BFPs and have started on the long winding road of pregnancy.

Most of us are starting, within, or just leaving the first trimester where bloating, unexplained discharge and constant nausea are watchwords of the day!

We're battling NHS inconsistencies, trying not to kill our midwives and desperately looking for a magic morning sickness cure... It's TTC#1 grads!!!

thread #2 - TTC#1 Grads, sick bags at the ready!
thread #2 - TTC#1 Grads, sick bags at the ready!
thread #2 - TTC#1 Grads, sick bags at the ready!
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Planeteer · 18/02/2016 10:16

So sorry choc , that's terribly sad news. I'm sure she'll be v thankful for you and your support. Are you doing ok?
Runner, big milestone! How are you telling people? Hope you get as many excited smiley responses as you deserve (I.e loads!)

Co5mo · 18/02/2016 11:20

Oh what awful news Choc.

Lauren I keep getting weird leg pain when I'm getting cramping. I guess I could describe it as a dead leg sensation so maybe it is linked.

Everyone I wouldn't usually do this but please please please go and have your flu jab as soon as possible. The type of flu that is circulating is more dangerous to pregnant women than other types of flu. Although it's very mild for most people,this type of flu can make pregnant women very very unwell. I really don't want to see any of you suffer in the way I've seen some people suffering.

Mileymoocow · 18/02/2016 14:31

co5mo I keep meaning to have mine but just keep forgetting Blush

indi sorry to hear you're suffering too! It's a total ball ache but it also can be a good sign of a healthy pregnancy Smile I've managed to only be sick twice today so far but am absolutely exhausted! I'm almost falling asleep at my desk

Morwenna1 · 18/02/2016 14:53

Hi All, I'm 15 weeks today and am harbouring an eclair...I now want chocolate.

Hi Yvonne! Fx you are like me, Bunch and Nev and don't get the dreaded morning sickness! Ask your Mum if she got it, as it tends to run in families.

So, from the top:

Planet I would recommend an early scan to give you a more accurate idea of dates (if that's something you can consider) Shop around as the price can differ a bit - mine was £65 and I had it at 8+5. Sorry, can't remember how far along you are, but it's worth waiting till at least 8 weeks as if they find a heartbeat then, your risks of mc do drop a bit. If not, then I reckon you'll have to wait till your 12 week scan to get an accurate picture. I gained 4 days at my 12 week scan!

Dr Sorry to hear about your Dad, and I think it's good to take a break from MN to focus on him and yourself. Hopefully we'll see you back again soon x

Thanks Lisa & Irreg on the NCT feedback, that's good that people have rated it then. Would like to meet some more mums in the area! Lisa my scans took about half an hour I would say.

Miley That's great you brought your grandad home, hope he's well Smile Sorry you've been feeling crap!

Pink I was a front sleeper, and I knew how difficult it would be for me to start sleeping in other positions so I started training myself as soon as I found out I was pregnant. Funnily enough, sleeping on my left hand side is actually the most comfortable position for me now. Occasionally I'll wake on my back, but I know my body won't let me once I get really huge (it's just too uncomfortable apparently). I don't have a pillow, but I do have a memory foam mattress topper on top of a decent mattress and it's made all the difference!

Nev such rudeness (and ignorance!) in Asda. You'd be perfectly within your rights to make a complaint. What a twat. I'm learning that people are 1.Incredibly rude or 2.Thick as shit. I have been asked if it was planned recently by a work colleague. He's not the brightest tool in the box so I was polite with him, but people need to think more before they open their mouths! Such an insensitive question! Don't ever feel the need to justify yourself to such complete tools.

Runner Liking the banana analogy! I got told to get on with things by a doc at 30 (I'm now 32) and someone else said they weren't sure what my plans were (well that's because I'm a private person and I chose not to share it with you! See point 2. as mentioned above).

Choc That's awful news about your friend. Those occurances are rare and devastating. It's true that we're not completely out of the woods yet, but it's just remembering that each pregnancy is unique and different from the next. The odds are in our favour.

So, I had my first bump botherer a day or so ago. Work colleague, told quite a few people in one go, and before I could react she was there rubbing my bowels like I was a genie in a bottle. Didn't want to create a scene at the time, but I'm going to put her straight when I see her next (for the sake of working relations and her fingers remaining intact). She's one of these completely OTT, invade personal space, loud, know-it-all Hyacinth Bucket types. Another tactic I might try next time is to start feeling her boobs and then say 'Oh, I'm sorry I thought we were touching each other inappropriately!' I like that one.

Morwenna1 · 18/02/2016 14:54

Co5mo Where did you hear about this strain of flu? I've had the jab now (thankfully) but people at DH's work are going down with something nasty.

Morwenna1 · 18/02/2016 14:55

Lauren I've had a dead leg in bed occasionally!

Pinklily1 · 18/02/2016 17:43

Mor, I laughed out loud at your 'inappropriate touching' comment! I won't take kindly to people touching my bump either when I have one - my view is that they wouldn't touch your tummy normally so they shouldn't do it when you are pregnant. The only tummy touchers will be OH and my immediate family.

Runner05 · 18/02/2016 17:55

Well that was an anti-climax... Told the kids about the baby. They were unanimously m'eh about it.

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Mileymoocow · 18/02/2016 19:06

Ah no runner! Maybe they just need time to let it sink in.

I've just been sick because of a dog fart. He is absolutely stinking!

I won't be keen on people touching my bump at all. I'm very much in favour of grabbing breasts Grin Brilliant idea.

I fear I'm going to have to tell the world before 12 weeks as my sickness is that bad I'm really struggling to hide it. We're quite a close group at work and they're noticing me dashing off to the loo and sitting quietly when I'm feeling nauseous.

Pinklily1 · 18/02/2016 19:09

Runner, I suppose the positive is they weren't adverse to it? Do you think it's just their ages? Have you told other people now too?

Miley, you are really going through it, bless you. I really didn't want to tell anyone at work before 12 weeks but pretty much had no option as I was off for so long, and then looked like utter crap when I went back.

Mileymoocow · 18/02/2016 19:22

Thanks pink. I genuinely feel like all I'm doing is whinging to you ladies and OH! I'm currently sat at the toilet bowl after fetching up an orange I just ate and am sort of grateful that hopefully it means my baby is healthy but also absolutely exhausted and sick of having to make sure I'm in easy reach of a toilet. I have myself semi-convinced it's twins and if it is, I have successfully managed to get OH to agree to a vasectomy whilst I'm still in hospital with our new babies 😂

Pinklily1 · 18/02/2016 19:40

Have you managed to find a thing you can keep down or that helps? Are you drinking ok? I really struggled with that.

My OH has always said he'll be getting the snip as soon as we've had baby number two!

Runner05 · 18/02/2016 19:57

Oh Miley sounds like you're having an awful time. Just try to remember that it will end and you will forget how traumatic it was.

My OH has said about having the snip too lol.

The kids are fine. The girl is looking forward to having a baby sibling (and driving us mad already) the boy finds it hysterical that I think babies are ugly and is taking it in his stride.

I've announced it on FB now and had lots of congrats from my friends and acquaintances. Ironically my two best friends who I fell out with at Christmas have neither liked or commented on the announcement. I think I will consider those friendships well and truly over, not that I wasn't already coming to that conclusion anyway. It's a shame as we were best friends for 10 years but feck it. They weren't there when I needed them so what's the bloody point?

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Mileymoocow · 18/02/2016 20:21

pink so far, unsuccessful. I'm sipping away at sugary drinks as they seem to help a little. I'm drinking ok but it comes back up and I am a little dehydrated. OH came in to find me slumped on the bathroom floor and sat with me. He's now trying to feed me chicken nuggets Grin

Lol at babies are ugly runner! I think they look like little grumpy old men!

Mileymoocow · 18/02/2016 20:35

runner I have an erm... old friend? psycho bitch like that. They're not real friends in my opinion! Definitely better off without.

Morwenna1 · 18/02/2016 21:51

Miley it sounds like you're going through the mill....just keep the faith that eventually it will ease off!

I just didn't have time to react Pink and Miley and we were surrounded by people so I didn't want to create a scene. She did it twice! And then told someone else to cop a feel! (They had the grace to look shy and ask, to which I said it was fine). I think I'll have to set some boundaries seeing as I work with her. Cheeky mare! Definitely going to grab her boobs at some point if she doesn't get the message.

Doesn't sound like you need those sorts of people in your life Runner You've got lots of exciting times ahead and you don't need that negativity!

Laurenrl · 18/02/2016 23:49

Oh god mor, I hate the thought of everyone touching my belly uninvited when I announce it.

I haven't had a flu jab and nobody has offered me one (nurses at epu, midwife,GP) when discussing my pregnancy. Shall ask my midwife at check up 1st March but surely flu seasons over pretty much by then anyway!

Laurenrl · 19/02/2016 00:15

And morning sickness at midnight again, have only had about 3/4 bouts and it's always been from midnight -3am! Thanks to anyone having this all the time as its terrible!

Co5mo · 19/02/2016 06:47

Mor treating and preventing flu and other infections is part of my job. I have spent most of the week at work dealing with it, fortunately no seriously ill pregnant women yet in our hospital but when this type of flu was dominant last time it was a complete nightmare.

Pinklily1 · 19/02/2016 07:21

Oh no Lauren! How many weeks are you now? When my sickness first started the nausea was waking me up at about 3-4am, although I was only ever sick once around that time. I always thought it was because I was getting hungry by then (hunger seems to make me feel worse).

Are you eating before bed?

LillianFullStop · 19/02/2016 07:49

Hi all - hit the 6 week mark today! Feels like forever though. Cramping and twinges are so disconcerting Confused

Laurenrl · 19/02/2016 07:56

8 weeks tomorrow and feel fine again now! I've gotten away lightly with just being queesy for the most part usually for an hour or so in the morning. It's just been 3 times and always at night where I've actually felt terrible (and I'm not always sick but that's because I hold it in!)

and no I don't eat after dinner! Weird hey!

Pinklily1 · 19/02/2016 08:34

Our bodies do weird things to us!

I am 12 weeks today Grin Now a mix of terrified and excited about our scan next week.

Mileymoocow · 19/02/2016 10:21

Aww pink Yay! I can't wait for your scan Grin I can't wait for 12 weeks so this bloody sickness goes. Had a glass of water and an orange for my breakfast and guess what? Yup. It is now lying in the grass where I walk my dog. I'm off work again and am contemplating getting a sick note for the first time in my life! Poor OH is doing his best to perk me up but all I want to do is lie down and shut my eyes for the next 5 and a bit weeks.

Mileymoocow · 19/02/2016 10:27

Oh Christ. Here's one for a good cry!

Dear Mommy,
You don’t have to be sorry.
The other day, I heard you crying in the bathroom. That was the day that you just couldn’t take it anymore. My brother spilled a gallon of organic milk, which apparently “costs more than college,” and I had an accident on the floor. We both had been screaming and crying all day, and we wouldn’t leave you alone even though you asked for just five minutes.
You locked yourself in the bathroom, and you cried. When you came out, you hugged both of us, and you said you were sorry.
Mommy, you don’t have to be sorry.
Then there was that day that you were on your phone. A lot. You said there were some things you wanted to read and pictures you wanted to see. When you tucked me in at night, you told me you were sorry you were on the phone so much.
Mommy, you don’t have to be sorry.
I remember the day that I was following you around the house crying because I wanted to be held, but you had so much cleaning to do because Grandma was coming. Once all the cleaning was done, you picked me up and cuddled with me on the couch for a minute before I jumped off your lap. That one minute was all I needed, but I saw the look on your face. It’s the same look you make when you tell Daddy, “One day soon, they won’t want to be held at all.”
Mommy, you don’t have to be sorry.
Remember the day you yelled really loudly at me? So loud that it scared me and I started crying? And I was confused because I was scared and I usually want you when I’m scared, but you were the person who scared me, and I didn’t know what to do? Your face softened right away, and you picked me up and promised never to make that sound again.
Mommy, you don’t have to be sorry.
You don’t have to be sorry that you have bad days. I have bad days, too, and you always tell me that it’s OK to have a bad day.
You don’t have to be sorry that you didn’t make dinner. I love when you tell us that dinner is a picnic and we snack off a cheese plate that you put on a blanket on the floor.
You don’t have to be sorry that I didn’t get a bath last night because you were too tired, or that you didn’t want to read a third story, or that you got frustrated because I kept crawling out of bed.
Mommy, I see you. I may not always thank you, or tell you I love you, or do what you want me to do, but I do see you. On the days when you feel sorry, please remember the way my face lights up when you walk in the door, or how your kisses are somehow magic when I’m hurt.
You don’t have to be sorry. When no one else understands what I’m saying, you do. When no one else can comfort me, you can. When no one else could put up with my bad days, you do.
You may not be perfect, but you are the perfect mommy for me.
Love,
Your baby

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