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thread #2 - TTC#1 Grads, sick bags at the ready!

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Runner05 · 27/01/2016 15:07

We've finally got our BFPs and have started on the long winding road of pregnancy.

Most of us are starting, within, or just leaving the first trimester where bloating, unexplained discharge and constant nausea are watchwords of the day!

We're battling NHS inconsistencies, trying not to kill our midwives and desperately looking for a magic morning sickness cure... It's TTC#1 grads!!!

thread #2 - TTC#1 Grads, sick bags at the ready!
thread #2 - TTC#1 Grads, sick bags at the ready!
thread #2 - TTC#1 Grads, sick bags at the ready!
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Chocaholic88 · 06/02/2016 18:47

FRER on 26th and 28th ... yet Internet cheapies didn't pick them up until yesterday!!! Crazy stuff... my sickness and soreness in my boobs has gone now so more than likely I was pregnant from the beginning.

A scan will tell I guess!!

thread #2 - TTC#1 Grads, sick bags at the ready!
thread #2 - TTC#1 Grads, sick bags at the ready!
Chocaholic88 · 06/02/2016 18:49

lauren I had the same with my son at 9 weeks... keep positive. I had no pain, just a couple of clots and light bleeding over 3 days... he was perfectly healthy and an uncomplinstead pregnancy. Hugs xx

Morwenna1 · 06/02/2016 18:51

Lauren I know people on this thread and other threads have had early scans because they are worried...hopefully they won't send you back home to see what happens, I really hope you get a positive answer back, and it's totally worth doing this if that is the case. You should know either way. I have everything crossed for you. xx

Hugs Patches Flowers

I can see the lines Choc as you say, faint but there. I hope your scan clears up the confusion for you!

iPatches · 06/02/2016 18:52

Choc - my positives were not faint. They were very clear. Today, they are very clearly negative.

Laurenrl · 06/02/2016 18:54

111 said its only heavy if you could fill a mug or its running down your legs when you stand. Jesus i'd of been in a&e hours ago if it were either of those things. It was about a teaspoon and one clot, maybe I'm dramatic but I think that's way too much at 6 weeks!

Meh looks like I'm in for a week or 2 of uncertainty but I'm pretty certain of how I feel and am feeling better by just believing it's over and I can try again for now (maybe that makes me weird....)

Morwenna1 · 06/02/2016 18:55

There's no mistaking those FRER's Choc And I really hope your positive story of your son is what's happening to Lauren Everything crossed.

Laurenrl · 06/02/2016 18:56

Thanks choc wow you've had everything happen to you! So glad to hear it's worked out both times x

Morwenna1 · 06/02/2016 18:57

You're not weird Lauren, but you don't know until you know. Stay positive xx

Chocaholic88 · 06/02/2016 19:02

I'd like to add my pregnancy with my daughter was totally unremarkable and normal. Apparently bleeding isn't uncommon in early pregnancy. Keep your lovely head up lauren

iPatches I know you're feeling really upset - I don't blame you. But leave it a couple of days. You'll get your answer (and trust me I know how hard it is to play the waiting game. I did it when I got negatives too) but try to stay balanced until then xx

iPatches · 06/02/2016 19:15

I am trying, I just can't stop crying. I just know it's over.

What should I say to the doctor next week? Do I want them to test? I guess it depends on when the bleeding starts.

Chocaholic88 · 06/02/2016 19:33

ipatches hugs xx I don't know if it helps but when they thought I'd had a chemical the midwife told me to expect a bleed within 2-3 days xx

iPatches · 06/02/2016 19:45

I haven't had even a faint positive for 3 days. No sign of any bleeding yet.

Chocaholic88 · 06/02/2016 20:07

I'd book an appointment with your Dr on Monday if you've still had no sign of a bleed xx

iPatches · 06/02/2016 20:11

I already have an appointment for early next week - was going to tell her I was pregnant, now going to tell her I'm pretty sure I have miscarried at just under 5w. Not sure what else to ask of her other than advice on what to do now. I don't know what to do now.

Chocaholic88 · 06/02/2016 20:14

Tell her you had positive tests, then negative but no bleed. If you've miscarried you will bleed honey, keep positive until proven otherwise (that's the advice I was given). The Dr can then give you her professional opinion and book a blood test xx

iPatches · 06/02/2016 20:15

So how does that work with the bottle of wine I had planned to drink this evening?

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Runner05 · 06/02/2016 20:25

iPatch I can't tell you what's happening to you now but I can tell you that I had a chemical pregnancy the first month of trying.
I got a couple of positive tests and then they just melted away. Within a couple of weeks I had a bleed. It was upsetting to see it melt away but scientifically it was because either the egg or the sperm had a defect that meant the baby wouldn't have developed properly. It was a one off, nothing that could be predicted or prevented in any way.
The very next month I got another clear positive and he's now an 11 week old lump busy making me sick.

This chemical pregnancy doesn't mean you can't keep hold of a pregnancy, it means the exact opposite it means that you got pregnant, your body is a good host but that particular little egg or sperm wasn't the right mix. It's unlikely you will have the same thing twice and with any luck next moth you'll be back with a nice healthy fertilised egg, panicking about whether you can eat something or not. Thanks

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iPatches · 06/02/2016 20:31

Bleeding now. So that's that.
Runner - thank you, but I struggle to believe that will be the case. My life is pretty perfect, so I guess it was about time something went wrong.

Laurenrl · 06/02/2016 20:35

Nhs direct woman called who was a complete cow. Told me it was early and to let nature be and not waste doctors time, I would either bleed or it would be fine (I only called because a midwife told me to!)

Livid that I waited 3 hours for that attitude.

Going to refer myself to epu on Monday morning and say I know I have an appointment Friday but this happened.

shelbTa · 06/02/2016 20:39

What a sad day for news, really sorry to read these updates Thanks

X

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Runner05 · 06/02/2016 20:44

I can't make you believe that you'll get there unless you want to iPatch. I've had the polar opposite life. Until a couple of years ago everything that could go wrong did and there have been several points in my life where I haven't even had a roof over my head or food to eat. I nearly always expect the worse and before I started trying I was convinced I wouldn't be able to conceive. Just because we believe one thing or another doesn't make it so. Keep trying chick, you may surprise yourself. Thanks

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Runner05 · 06/02/2016 20:45

Lauren what a bitch! Angry

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Chocaholic88 · 06/02/2016 20:49

Lauren that's horrible! What a cow!

ipatches I've had a seriously rocky few years and the 12 months prior to this have turned my life around. If it wasn't meant to be there's noT much you can do but it doesn't mean you're not capable of having a healthy viable pregnant, exactly like runner said x

Pinklily1 · 06/02/2016 21:03

That's disgraceful Lauren. Definitely go to epu on Monday, you shouldn't have to wait until Friday for some care and hopefully some answers.

iPatches · 06/02/2016 22:10

My life is pretty ideal. Loving DH, very stable relationship. Decent household income. Supportive family and not a huge number of friends but close with those we do have. We have a nice home, big enough for us and a child. I am a healthy weight with no health issues; I exercise regularly and eat well. We worked out whether we could financially support a child, discussed our emotional preparedness, agreed on parenting values and compromises that we would need to make to support a child. We took the time to do the things we felt we wanted to accomplish before trying to conceive so that we were in the best possible position to do so. Turns out, you can have the perfect set up and it doesn't make a blind bit of difference. Gutted.

We will be trying again, but how many times, I don't know. Maybe you can't have it all.

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