August 2016-with Berries turning into Beans and a whole lotta fun ahead!

[Flybynight1]

2nd thread for the ever increasing August 2016 bumps

I can see why you're so upset Christine. Do you mind me asking how old your OH is? Are you a similar age?

Fly I am sorry but I am not convinced by the cabbage diet
Glad you are feeling better though!

Christine
I am sorry that you are upset.
It feels a bit forward of me to respond so I really hope I don't upset you.
But I do think that perhaps there is a teeny bit of hormones at play here. i am not sure obviously you know best but I do think we are all a bit sensitive at this time.
I have tried but I can't really see what he said that was so terrible. I mean I didnt immediately think of the one night stand thing - I just thought it was good that he told her straight off the mark that you are a team. Maybe I am wrong?

My general rule is that I try not to have too many battles when I know I am hormonal as I cant trust myself to be 100% rational so I just tend to acknowledge I am upset but then talk myself down from taking immediate action so I say "I am upset and this is why but I will come back to this" and normally once the fog has cleared I can see things a bit clearer.

I also tell myself my no 1 priorty is to remain stress free at the moment.

Again I am sorry you are upset but try not to expend all your energy arguing, if you can.
Energy is precious at the moment!

Had my early bird appointment today, my GP surgery requires you to see a maternity HCA prior to booking appointment with midwife.

Height, weight, carbon monoxide levels taken and few questions.. A bit pointless as nothing has changed since I did this 2 years ago!

Scan will be between 11+2 and 14 weeks but I know last time it was done ar 12 weeks exactly which is what she said get try to do, which would be 3rd Feb.. Seems ages away! Also only one of 2 weeks of the whole year where I will struggle to take annual leave!

He's 2 years older than me. He said he didn't mean it to sound like that, he can understand why it hurt me but he just doesn't word things right. I know he doesn't mean how it sounded and I'm sure I did read too much into it but it just bothers me that she's someone that feels has a valid opinion. I can understand missing your ex and everyone's sent texts when they're hurt that they shouldn't have but he's not just your ex anymore. He's the father to someone else's child. Like it or lump it you are officially done. He doesn't have it in him to be an arsehole, he said she doesn't give a shit about her (I believe him 100%) but he just didn't want to be hurtful and tell her where to go. He's never responded to any of her messages but as soon as she brought me into it he couldn't bite his tongue. It's purely his wording, which I know is nit picking and it wasn't like a screaming match and I told him to get out I just said "I'm pissed off with you and i don't want to talk to you about it right now so you may aswell not be here" and he respected that as much as he fussed and said "do you want a blanket over you before I go?" "Shall I bring you your phone?" "Do you need to lock the door behind me?" "Can I have a kiss?" I was hurt at his words and he was hurt that I shut down so it was best we both just cooled off.

Christine I agree it was out of order that he felt the need to explain to her and also his wording which is just the wrong thing to say. If I were you I would insist that he changes his number and has nothing more to do with his ex. She shouldn't be contacting him anymore and that's the bottom line. 6 months into a relationship and now pregnant is going to be difficult for you both, you still have a whole to get to know each other properly and you don't need external bullshit around you.

Thank you jw it was one of those "I'm not angry I'm just upset" moments. Then as soon as he left I just broke down and it was mostly because I felt so guilty for pushing him away. It's not his fault it's hers and I've been so good at rising above everything so far. She's made petty comments and been pathetic and it's gone straight over my head but no one has a right to talk about my pregnancy and my OH.

Has anyone else had the feeling of stretching? Like my stomach muscles feel like I've been doing sit ups? I assume that's stretching?

Alfie are we due date buddies? I'm 9 weeks today too I'm due 8th Aug X

I agree Christine she should be minding her own business not stirring! Sounds like she's jealous. Your oh obviously wants to be with you or he wouldn't say he's sticking by you. He was probably being defensive. Hopefully it will blow over now yes I've had stretching although more early on not so much lately. It's totally normal!

The iron water in on has really helped with the fatigue! I'm so glad, I had a few really bad days and now feel so much better. Still lethargic but not fall asleep tired! Sickness not too bad as long as I eat regularly but hate thinking about food! 9+5 today it feels like it's going fast! When the scan is over it's going to make everything feel real!

It's so odd that at first we had the same due date as we have the same date for our LMP and then they took almost 2 weeks away from me:( I'm 8weeks tomorrow and still stuck in the the horrible throwing up all the time, need to sleep phase.

Cool stuff four that you found the heartbeat!

I haven't booked that private scan yet, trying to be patient and at least see what date I get from the hospital and what's happening with this unconfirmed work travel. I'm only 7weeks today - so behind most of you and figure the longer I wait for the scan the more useful...

Anyway today I visited my grandma. Didn't tell her the news but she asked me where my OH lives (I thought I'd told her but she has A LOT of grandchildren and great grandchildren) and when I said we live together she said "naughty girl!" and explained she's old-fashioned. This is BEFORE I tell her the pg news... Argh worried how that will go down... We have no plans to marry though are totally committed. Hmm, well guess there's a few more weeks yet before I have to face all that.

Sorry Christine you're feeling pissed off, him not communicating with her (even if she tries) seems a reasonable thing to ask him for.

Thanks ToElle for the message re no symptoms.

mrssantaclause yes that's me, you and fly happy 9 weeks to us all!

I survived work I ate a lot and wore a flowing shirt so I could hide my bloat haha. Tomorrow will be smarter though so I'll have to scarf arrange.

christine it's hard to be objective when you are tired, hormonal and sick. He didn't word it terribly well but I think he just meant that you two were together now and that you are having a baby. I'm sure he didn't mean it the way it sounded. Try not to be too stressed by it, it's important to stay relaxed.

Leo don't worry too much about your grandma! Honestly there will always be someone who doesn't approve. She's clearly old school but she will adore the baby when s/he's here no doubt! I got engaged just before we found out DD was on the way and when I told work one of my colleagues said (in the most patronising voice imaginable) "ahh, is that why he proposed?" No, no it wasn't actually! It's not exactly shocking these days to be having a baby 'out of wedlock', she'll be fine with it I'm sure.
Oh and symptoms - forgot to say before but I had practically nothing with DD! Felt a bit off but honestly if we hadn't been trying I'd have just thought I had a bit of a winter bug and was under the weather, til at least 5 months or so when I finally got a bump! Nowt to worry about, you're just one of the lucky ones!
Christine I do see why you're upset but agree that there is a bit of hormonal trouble at play here - a good idea to have a bit of space though. Tomorrow after a good night's sleep you might feel better about it all. It does sound like your DP really loves you and just worded it badly! Agree though that his ex has no business poking her nose in, give it a day or so and just have a chat with him about it and explain how it makes you feel.
Alfie glad you made it through ok, good luck for tomorrow! Give it a week and you'll be a scarf arranging pro and at least it's just after Christmas, if you notice any funny looks you could talk loudly about festive over-indulgence and how you really must start that diet/join the gym soon!

GlenCo why do I keep calling you GlenCo when everyone else calls you Four? I'm blaming baby brain! It's weird though because I see you as GlenCo now and I might get confused! Where does the nn come from?

Haha I've no idea Jw but I'll answer to anything! Same in real life, I have loads of nicknames (despite my actual name being impossible to shorten, etc). It's from Mean Girls, that incredible cinematic masterpiece of awesomeness
Uncomfortable this evening, uterus feels heavy and a bit twangy (best way I can think to describe it!). Not quite cramps but just feel a bit bleh!

^same here

Christine, it sounds like you've snagged a good one, instantly jumping to your side. Although it must be frustrating to have a lurky ex!! Agree with JW, she definitely shouldn't be contacting him anymore.
I feel like I'm making the slowest progress ever, if I just rest the tablets work and I feel good but my MIL keeps popping in and wanting to get me up and doing things, I know she's just worried but if I try and get up and do anything I end up throwing up! How are you all coping with nausea/being sick/life in general?!

Oh I love mean girls! Must have forgot that line! Very funny I'm so boring just used my initials! Couldn't think of a nn when I joined!

The messages I got when he left last night

Anyone else crying at how sweet that is? He sounds like a keeper to me Christine

Christine get that man back! He wants you not her! Cute

We need a heart emoticon!

Christine it sound like you've definitely got yourself a keeper. Men are plonkers (at least mine is). Sounds like he used a poor turn of phrase and is regretting it big time,

Awwww Christine he's a sweetie pie!! If you don't forgive him after that you're a tougher woman than me haha, I'm over here forgiving him myself! Bless I reckon you should relax and forget about the ex; that man quite clearly adores you!

Aww Christine that's lovely
Thanks again for the reassurance about no symptoms, really glad to have found this thread!
Leo I'm quite behind everyone too at 7+4!