June 2016 thread #5 Starting the great gender speculation. ..

[BabySocks]

Well I can't believe I am doing this but I am petrified the old thread is about to get filled up and we are going to loose people. ...

Happy New Thread (fingers buffering crossed this works AND I can manage to post the link )

So exciting... I just felt a proper little kick!! I was lying down reading (lazy day here!!) and could feel loads of little rolling movements. I put my hand on my belly and my hand got gently bumped upwards twice! I called my DH but of course nothing happened while he had his hand on my belly. I had no idea you'd be able to feel anything from the outside at this stage. I would've thought I was imagining things the first time if I hadn't felt it again.

So strange, I just want to feel it move again now, but although I can feel lots of movements inside, I can't feel anything on the outside now. This baby obviously isn't feeling as lazy as we are today!

mollieros I'm due on the 31st may too thinking of finishing Fri 13th May. Where I work you are not normally allowed to carry over annual leave unless you are pregnant. I'm only allowed to add 3 weeks onto either the start or end of maternity leave so I'm adding it to the end that way if baby comes early I don't lose it, (we have a policy that if baby comes early while on annual leave your maternity leave starts from the day you give birth). The rest of any annual leave owing must then be taken in your first 13 weeks back.

Hope everybody had a wonderful Christmas, mine was great until about 9pm when I started to feel unwell, then while in the bathroom getting ready for bed I ended up passing out, thankfully DH noticed what was happening and got me onto the bed.

Goodness ladies, I've been struggling to keep up with the thread! It's been a very busy month in the Magic house. OH's birthday was just before Christmas and DD's birthday is TOMORROW!!

I'm currently trying to create a Minnie Mouse birthday cake for her as OH had decided to have a last minute birthday party! Told me yesterday that he'd invited lots of people round and now I'm rushing around trying to get the house in order and get party food and a cake sorted!!

Hope you all had a lovely Christmas and are feeling a little better?! I'm still being sick all the time! Was hoping it would've gone by now as I'm 15 weeks now!!

Snowflake- gosh that sounds awful. I hope you are feeling a bit brighter now!

Mollie- how exciting! I'm 15 weeks tomorrow and get lots of flutters after sugary drinks or food over the last couple of days having not felt anything for a week. Lots of flutters during midnight mass too 😊. I am feeling gradually more reassured as the movements are getting stronger and trying to keep thinking positively but I still find it quite hard to think about this baby actually being born!

17 weeks today, threw up Xmas day dinner and boxing day dinner lol fun. I haven't told work yet and don't plan to for a few more weeks, only got my permanent contract last week, found out I was pregnant the day I started the job lol. Been feeling sore in parts of my pelvis and lower tummy which move when I change position, told midwife last week and she said it sounds like baby lying awkwardly against me. I feel it alot. Also got really strong flutters on boxing day morning and there was no mistaking it was baby, not felt it since though. Heard baby's heartbeat at 16 week appt too :)

Getting some mean comments from sil, think its jealousy as they have been trying nearly a year but its starting to get to me. She 'jokingly' said baby will look like a rat and called baby ratty and said we should call baby Roland. Then she made comment about my weight / bump and how big I'm going to get and then a baby came into the pub we were in and she said my baby would never be that cute. Don't think I'm being over sensitive. Trying to let it go as know it must be hard for her but seriously insulting my baby?

That's really catty of of your SIL caterpillars !

Caterpillars that's nasty of sil, no excuses for that kind of behaviour whether she is jealous or not, she should be happy for you and exited about how cute her neice or nephew is going to be!

Agreed- or if she can't say anything nice, not say anything!?

Crikey that's shocking 17.

Sorry some of you are still being sick :(

I'm likely to be having an elcs so I'm thinking I might start mat leave a couple of weeks before either my due date or my cs date which would be done at 39 weeks. I plan to take a year off this time.

Caterpillars that's so mean of her!

Eastend it was so strange, I reckon it was the baby's head or bum as it turned/rolled over- I'm sure little feet and hands are way too small at this stage to be able to feel like that! Really exciting though (and I may have spent quite some time today lying down with my hand on my belly trying to feel more movements )

caterpillar my sil is like that, though she only insults me rather than the baby. What does your oh say when she's saying these horrible things? I hope he tells her where to go and stands up for you and bump!

cautious I use any exfoliater I fancy using 2-3 times a week, then I use the palmers tummy butter morning and night. Last time I used Holland & Barrett pure vitamin E oil everyday / everyother day just on my tum and lower back and gave myself a little massage especially when my skin felt tight, however I haven't bought any yet, I've got some elemis frangipani oil that I use every now and again, I do plan to get the vitamin e oil again, I just haven't been into the shop yet I only have one tiny stretch mark which is inbetween my belly button piecing holes and it sits inside my belly button so you can't actually see it, however I do think if youre going to get them, nothing will stop them, it depends on your skin type and how stretchy it is, however anything that eases that tight feeling is a bonus in my book xx

I haven't got any new stretchmarks yet I don't think, will start moisturising in next few weeks.

Sickness still here too, but I have hyperemisis so possibly it will stay the whole time.

I used bio-oil last time from 12 weeks, plus whatever moisturiser I could find to slap on. I have tonnes of stretch marks on my thighs from puberty (which was not kind) so I thought I was just genetically predisposed to get them, but despite this, and the giant bump/9 and a half pound baby, I don't have any on my belly. So it's not a done deal - moisturise moisturiser moisturise!

Caterpillars, I can't believe your SIL is so cruel. I would pull her up on it directly and try to nip it in the bud.

I think getting stretch marks is genetic. I didn't get any last time and neither did my mum or sister after having four kids each.
Saying that... I don't want to speak too soon!

DH making me a tattie scone roll, starving this morning. Moved back to my original tablets which I'm no happy about but giving them about go.

I've read that if you're pregnant in your thirties you're far less likely to get stretch marks as your skin is less elastic by that point anyway. None for me yet, but then I don't have any real signs of a bump either. I have old ones on my hips due to rapid weight loss from an eating disorder in my twenties, but if it's true that my skin is old and past it now, I'll be delighted if a side effect is not to get any more!

Is anyone else just in a horrible mood all the time? All I seem to want to do is to hole myself up in my bedroom and sulk, and not have anything to do with anyone else. It's not like me at all. Also my tummy is constantly uncomfortable - it's not constipation and doesn't feel quite like indigestion either, but I find myself "carrying" it around the place for comfort (even though it's still bumpless) and when I'm in the car it hurts to go over speed bumps! Really not feeling the joys of pregnancy at the moment.

Yes proncess DH has commented saying my face will get stuck like this if I don't cracking a smile every so often. I have no mood, just flat tbh. Still being sick and tiredness hasn't left either - it was so much easier being pregnant in late teens and twenties! Now I just feel exhausted and not in the mood to do anything. Currently sat on sofa contemplating going to bed for an hour as new meds seem to make me drowsy!

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caterpillar omg. Your SiL is being vile. You need to pull her up on it or your OH or in fact anyone else that is nearby the next time. It is incredibly rude and unnecessary. She should say nothing at all if she can't be nice.

MH issues effect at least 20% of pregnancies / new mums. I'm not saying you have a MH issue but How does she know?? Her comments are just the sort of thing to push someone over the edge.

I would stay away from her and if she asks your OH where you are tell him to be honest and say her negativity was bad for the baby/ bad for pregnancy hormones so it is best you stay away from one another until she can at least be civil.

Hope everyone is enjoying some parts of the festive season.

Caterpillar in agreement with everyone else - your SIL is being unnecessarily mean. I hope you're OH is supporting you. Certainly think someone needs to have a word with your SIL sooner rather than later. It's one thing to be upset/jealous, but there is no need to upset others.

mollieros not sure what I'm doing for mat leave. All a bit complex. I'm due 16th June so can take mat least anytime from 1st April. We're selling our London flat and due to buy a new place in Yorkshire before baby arrives... so likely to have an earlier mat leave than I would plan otherwise - possibly mid April.

Is anyone finding they have a short temper at the moment? Patience is not one of my virtues at the best of times, but I'm finding it bloody impossible to not get annoyed by every comment MIL is making. I don't seem to have the energy to respond calmly and politely to her constant irritating questions. I'm still dealing with daily waves of nausea (although much milder than 1st trimester, thank goodness), knackered and bump is starting to grow. I've got a lot coming up with selling/buying new home, OH's new job meaning we'll be living apart for half the week until our new house is bought, my uncertain job situation due to the move. I don't really want to talk about these things - it's going to be a hard few months and we know it. MIL keeps asking Qs about our jobs, finances, whether we need to get another car, car seats, kitchen features in our new home, things that can go wrong when having a dog near a baby, budgeting for childcare?! OH is asking me to make more an of effort with MIL as my short abrupt replies are bordering on being rude. Still got another 5 days at MIL's house before we head home... I'm resorting to blaming nausea and spending increasing lengths of time hiding in the bedroom. Sorry, just wanted to have a little moan.

I literally caked myself in sonny stretch mark creams and thought I was doing well. Then I think At about 36 weeks I got one and then all of a sudden I was covered in them! I'm proud of them though. I have a smallish frame and I was humongous in late pregnancy.
Not going to bother with creams this time ! Just going to drink shed loads of water...

Just over 2 weeks to my next scan and next midwife appointment on Wednesday, am hoping to change hospitals after scan so really hoping that will be simple !

Still no kicks or flutters yet. I'm pretty sure I had them very early last time so am getting impatient at 16 + 4 , however I hope everything is different to my last pregnancy/birth/NICU stay!

I have a few stretch marks from puberty but not too bad. I've been putting on moisturiser every evening before bed but never remember any more often than that.

I'm not sure I'm particularly short-tempered at the moment but I definitely feel like I'm in a bit of a slump. I can't really be bothered to do anything much except lazing around reading and wasting time online over the past couple of days. I am probably a bit grumpier with my DH than normal, but that's usually linked to when I'm hungry- I never cope well when I'm hungry, and since I've been pregnant I go from "fine" to "have to eat NOW" in minutes.

Jelly sounds like you have a really busy time coming up, not surprising you're finding it difficult to be patient!

I was really good at looking after my skin last time and used clarins tonic body treatment oil and mam stuff (I even had the leg cooling gel and the boob cream)! And I got no stretch marks. But as someone else said, I'm not sure how predisposed we all are to these things. This time I've totally neglected my skin so far but my New Years resolution is to look after it!
I don't think I'm too irritable but I am exhausted all the time, and also have had a few major mood swings (maybe once a week) over the past few weeks.
I bought the first few things for the baby today-reduced Moses bases and cot sheets from mothercare! I'm also going to buy a few bits from Jo jo's this evening online-need to look at the sale bits! But it's more difficult to find good bargains without knowing the sex!

By 'mam' I mean mama mio!