We're multitasking by crocheting and blood testing our way through pregnancy. We are waiting for our clutch of Christmas babies to hatch while our newbies are gearing up for scans, it's JS Grads 42!

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Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 41st grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The 41sr grads thread is HERE

The thread we have graduated from is HERE in its 55th outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread HERE
for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

HERE is the stats list, please update your own spot with any updates. (Except it's not because I don't know how to link to the stats sheet!)

Molly glad to hear baby is ok!

Worrying is a part of being a parent and never really goes away but if it becomes obsessive or the thoughts are intrusive and disturbing then speak to your MW or GP. The hormone changes postpartum can really ramp those feeling up and rob you of being able to enjoy your time with your precious baby. It goes fast! There's no reason you should suffer with depression or anxiety unnecessarily.

Oh rats. Hit send to soon. The second part of that post is for those viroids feeling worried.

I had migraines in the second tri that they couldn't find any cause for! They went away eventually though. Hopefully yours are nothing to worry about

I did a poo! (tmi alert) I didn't feel like I needed to, just thought I'd have a go cause it'd been a while, haha. Success!

Yay for your poo pretz!!

I also had 2nd tri migraines but best to get checked out if you had high BP last time.

39 weeks for me today. It feels so surreal that I'll have a baby at some point in the next 3 weeks.... no signs yet though. Going for my second reflexology session tomorrow. Looking forward to it as the one last week was so relaxing!

Wow exciting JC - the big 3-9 you're nearly at the dark side mwahahahah

Congrats on your poo pretz - did you decide on a name yet?

Reassuring to know others have suffered headaches too - quite happy to be told I'm being daft, but would like to be told rather than guessing myself IYSWIM.

Great poo-news!

Yes home now thanks and baby spinning and kicking away merrily. Git. Obviously have to go back straight away if waters go or movement goes weird again but as I'm having growth scan Tuesday they're happy to let me go. Midwife on duty gave me a knowing look when I described the cramps etc.. Would love to think it's all going to kick off soon but not sure I'll be that lucky!

What would you do if it did Molly? Vbac?

Ooh that sounds promising Molly!

Hurray for poo Pretzel!!

Eep JC, less than three weeks until baby, that's so exciting!

Just found out that a friend who has SERIOUSLY been through the ttc mill is 23 weeks upduffed. Got so excited that I ran up the garden to tell DH who was in the shed. Jumped into the shed and said 'guess what?!' and he nearly had a heart attack because he thought I was having a baby ha ha!

Baby Pud having a full on rave tonight.

Evening viroids, hope everyone's had a good weekend.

Molly sorry you had a bit of a scare but glad all is ok.

So MS has kicked in big style today. Ergh. At least there's a good reason for it though!

I actually laughed out loud at you scaring your DH pud! Poor man

Cried again today. This time talking to DF who is being a man a bit of an idiot about his ill health and then explaining ongoing drama with XH to him. Then I cried watching my favorite show. But that was mostly because the main character cried because she had clinical depression and thought her BF would leave her when she stayed comatose on the floor ignoring anyone. She fell asleep and when she woke up he had built a fort around her and was inside with her and she ugly cried on him. It is supposed to be a comedy FFS.

Molly I have a feeling about your baby... I think Team Pink, and soon...

Wayne Poo-ney, because he landed in the back of the net.

pud haha! Poor dh.

molly that's great that it's all reassuring news

jc SOON!

Whoops cross post.

keep sorry you're feeling poorly

sky I cried at the lion king song on Strictly tonight. It was so moving! DP thinks I'm deranged.

YAY for pretzel poo! There's nothing like that free feeling post-poo!

Glad baby is all OK Molly, sorry you had a scare. A knowing look from a midwife –that surely means not long now!

May I hijack the fred and moan. Was 'outed' in the pub today by step father in law to his kids/DH's step brother/sister! Basically forced me into telling them by saying I had some 'news'. (I say step brother and sister but DH didn't grow up with them or anything, his mum got remarried about 10 years ago.)

All very awkward as I clearly did not want to tell my 'news!' If I'd thought quicker I would have said 'yes, my new job, I've been promoted!' or something. MIL told him off for it but what can you do apart from fume? It's done now.

Kate I think telling a bestie is really helpful and actually you might explode between now and Christmas if you need to keep quiet. Great that your scan is before Christmas!! I am SO jealous!! 4th of flipping January ... just after I have seen every person I know and attempted to stop the people who do know from blabbing left right and center ... Mission Silent Santa starts here.

Thursday I've not had migraines but I have had dodgy vision which then can turn in to a head ache. To me it looks like arcs across my vision. And the arcs consist of a black and white 80s style zig zag which flash multiple colours when I move my eyes. Last got it on Friday whilst waiting for consultant appt. It was fading by time I saw midwife for bp, urine etc, and my bp was normal (110/60) which is standard for me. Luckily it did not develop in to a headache and cleared enough so I could see to drive! Not sure what causes it tbh!

Really need to go back to sleep but not feeling drowsy. Practise for when baby arrives I guess!

Molly I think your baby is going to arrive soon too!

Pee that was really bad of your StepFIL. My bro outed me on fb yesterday. I know I am 38 weeks but we hadn't put anything on fb and now I am getting messages from people I haven't seen for years saying 'have you had the baby yet?!' Harrumph.

Kate I agree, I think DH needs to agree that you can tell a friend, especially when you feel so rough. You will need the support. 2 weeks until the Xmas hols, hang in there!

Pud I've not put anything on Facebook either. The people who need to know are the ones I see, and they do know. Some girl I went to school with or and old uni friend, not so much. Will announce birth but that's all.

How is it morning already?
How is it Monday already?

Kate I told 2 closest friends I was doing ivf and then about bfp but only because I knew I'd need them if I mc again. I would only have told the one of them who had experience of a mc if we didn't always get together as a three though. Soy advice is if you will need them/tell them if something goes wrong then do it but if its just excitement bubbling over then listen to dh.

molly gx mw is onto something!

pud we have specifically told everyone fb is offlimits and used my work as a reason. Db asked me last night if we would be putting a fb announcement up. The room went silent when I replied "I'm not really keen on fb announcements, they cause too much heart ache". Hadn't meant to render everyone speechless!

My mum has been given permission to tell my aunty today. Apparently she gets asked every time she see's her!

We did tell both Dbros not to put it on FB when we told them at 13 weeks (they have form, smaller bro announced our engagement on FB before we told our friends!) but they are just so excited about being uncles bless them. They have been making sock monkeys for the baby so I will forgive them!

Once we've had a scan etc (January), I may put something on FB, but we will tell families at Xmas and also tell them to keep quiet until we put it out there....

Blimmin Facebook. I was go mental if anyone writes anything on there when we do tell people. I think you are right to be firm on it Lil. I use it as a mix of personal and professional so that would be very bad to be outed on there before I am ready. I'm actually dreading telling DH's dad as his wife is a manic Facebook poster of everything.

God, I'm really stressed after yesterday. I really thought Step Father in Law had more sense. My sister in law had a baby really recently and none of us knew until after her 12 week scan. Fair enough and I totally understand why not. Step Father in law knew about her pregnancy yet he didn't pull the same trick on her in front of me and DH about her sharing her 'news'. I doubt he'd do that to his own daughter either, in fact I know he wouldn't. I suppose he prob felt awkward that he knew and his kids didn't, like he was keeping secret and they'd be offended.

Step families can be so awkward, especially when they are new families formed when all the kids are grown up. I think parents want us to think of their spouse's kids are siblings. We all get along swimmingly and of course we want to make each other feel welcome into new families, but if you've not grown up together you still obviously think about your own actual brothers and sisters as being who you want to tell about things like pregnancy first. Or that's the case in our situation anyway.

Ah anyway. On a different note ... while pregnant can you eat Christmas cake that has been fed with loads of brandy over the last few weeks?

Hope all the mahoosively pregnant ladies are feeling more comfortable/less headachey today and all the first tri ladies don't have their heads down the toilet bowl.

I think it's really unfair to be put in a situation where you have to tell someone when you're not ready. I told a few people before my scan but they were all sworn to secrecy and kept it. People putting stuff on Facebook for you is just wrong though! Think there's a way of blocking people from posting on your wall without your agreement so I might do that. Definitely don't want someone else to announce the birth for me either!

honey that sounds exactly like I got but then it would turn into a migraine about 15 minutes later.

Pee, I'm bloody well eating my fair share of the Xmas cake I've been nurturing for the past month (I've made two, but one is a gift). It's a rather hefty beast, and gets marzipaned and iced this week. I'm rather looking forward to a slice or four

I am totally eating all of the Christmas cake. To be fair the baby will be about 18 by Christmas so if it isn't born by then it can chuffin well put up with my boozy cake addiction. Speaking of, I had a slice of Xmas cake in John Lewis last week. Very disappointing. Definitely not enough booze in at and it wasn't served with cheese - but that's my punishment for living in the South I suppose. .

I have an accidental day off work today and have already eaten a pack of little cinnamon swirly bun things....