Jan 16 #9 halfway point - time to watch our bumps grow 

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New thread - wouldn't let me write on the last one

Coffee good tip re the duvet, I haven't worked out how to get comfy when sleeping yet but I keep trying - every tine I add extra pillows or anything around my bump I wake up to find I've flipped myself onto my back to get away from them.

So in addition to getting the GTT I in two weeks it appears my urine sample also flagged up a UTI so I need to get a prescription for antibiotics, not sure if it has any relation to why I am on my 13th day of cold & blocked nose, perhaps it's all just pointing to me needing a lovely (but impossible) rest.

I haven't had a phone call from the hospital about my GTT so I'm guessing that's good news. they said they'd test my bloods yesterday so I would have thought they would have called me by now, wouldn't they?

Yes tiny I think so, my mw said she'd call me the following day with the results.

bee I cant do extra pillows either. I sleep with my regular pillow length-ways so that I can drape an arm over it and it stops me rolling forward (I read that if you can keep your hips stacked when you lie on your side, you're much better off - if you start to roll forward or backward then they hurt)

You sound generally miserable, I hope the anti-bs start to clear everything up Perhaps take some extra iron as well? I really think that's helping me.

Coffee what do you mean by stacking your hips? I tried my old friend v pillow again this weekend and it just lets me flip into my back all the time so it's going back into the cupboard.

I'm already taking prenatal vitamins and having a bowl of fortified cereal so my iron should be ok, however as of yesterday my cold is shifting and I think the anti bs are doing their job.

So although that's looking up I got a phone call from the mw yesterday saying I need to have a blood clotting test done this week as my sister has a rare blood clotting disorder which massively increases the risk of DVT and can be hereditary, but on the bright side it means another half day off work. This pregnancy is definitely involving a lot more medical appointments/mw interaction than my previous two.

DH has been away 6 weeks now and he was originally meant to come back at the very latest on Monday but I don't think he can find any cheap flights and he didn't really manage to do what he went away for in the first place .

Ha, I'm just going to come on here and moan! I can't wait till this pregnancy moves on a little further and I can start to think about buying /getting things out of the attic and baby arriving

Hey everyone
Been so busy lately missed reading these posts. Had 2 weddings this weekend, one I was bridesmaid for so its been non stop kinda week.
Im now 22+5 and I really can't say 100% what I'm feeling. I feel a lot of what I keep thinking is wind but nothing that I would say resembles a baby! It's so hard as I've NO idea what to expect. I've been so worried lately that I've not felt a kick or anything yet. I've had a few close friends who have had stillborns and I just can't help thinking about the bad things that can happen. still haven't bought anything at all!! Any advice? Xx

bee so that they are on top on one another when you lie on your side. Does that makes sense? I'm glad your cold is shifting and hopefully your DH will come home soon. I don't know how you cope without him!

wynsey the risk of anything happening is quite low, try not to worry when you first start to feel baby it can feel a bit like wind and nothing much like a baby. More like a pop or flick or quiver. But if you still are worried call the midwife, they are there to reassure you and make sure all is okay.

Hi ladies, I'm going to close the facebook group 10th Oct so that we can feel secure with who is in it.
If u want to be added please message me before that date. Thanks

Wynsey do you have another mw appointment soon so you could hear the heartbeat? Have you tried drinking something very cold and then lying down to see if you get more pops at this point, in which case you would know it was baby?

DH managed to get a flight getting in very late on Wednesday, very pleased (obviously) as i have been sorely missing his support and dd2 (3yo) had recently made up a very sad song which lyrics included 'I miss my daddddy, my heart is breaking'.

Ha, it seems that the anti-bs have helped me to develop thrush overnight.

So I know overall it's just lots of little irritating things (blood tests, super long cold, UTI etc) and I should feel lucky for not suffering from anything like spd and that baby is fine but these little things are SO IRRITATING, I may need to silently scream into a pillow.

Anyone else not coping with even small stresses at the moment?

Bee boo to your thrush. And yes, small things are really getting to me at the moment. I'm feeling pretty hormonal and a bit low, so trying to get out in the sunshine a bit and catch up with friends even though all I really want to do is sleep.

People who are struggling to sleep on their side, I asked my GP about this last week at my appointment. I worry that I won't be able to do it because I need to sleep on my back to keep my back from seizing up. She said you don't need to be right on your side, so long as you prop your right hip up a bit so that the baby is not pressing onto your right, it's ok. So I'm going to lie with a pillow all the way along my right hand side, just propping me up a bit so I'm not entirely horizontal.

I am getting properly kicked now (25 weeks), mostly as I lie down to go to sleep. I'm finding it very exciting especially as I felt virtually nothing until a couple of weeks ago. I can't believe how hard it kicks. Last night it was like there was a proper rave going on, I was being pummelled in both directions so it must have been going at it with both arms and legs

Have been very quiet on here because I've been so busy at work and I just haven't had the patience to log on with mumsnet down so often. Now FB is playing up, so I'm back!

Hope everyone is well. I'm feeling amazing which makes up for the first trimester, just hoping it carries on a bit into the third....

Hi all, would love to be added to the fb group. I have messaged froze fairy on here as the stats suggest, but I notice it's pretty quiet on here. can anyone else in the fb group message me how to be added pls :) x

Sorry I haven't posted since my bus complaint but thanks for the supportive responses. No issues since.

I've been off work sick these last couple of days with a bad cold which I've had for nearly a week now. I hope it goes soon.

Question: we are supposed to be going to the in-laws for Xmas when I will be 37 weeks. They live more than a 3 hour car journey a way. This is my first and I have no idea what to expect, but I understand that there will be two issues - I am likely to be very uncomfortable, and although it's unlikely baby will come during those two days we are away, there's always a possibility. I know it's a personal choice but what would you do??

Elvi I'm still intrigued to know which express bus you get!

As for Christmas, this is my first as well so don't know what to expect but I personally wouldn't do the trip (but then I'd be the one driving so maybe slightly different!). My family - both sides - are all coming to visit us for a big lunch out at the beginning of December so we don't need to think about going to them. But we've never gone home to either family at Christmas itself so perhaps not a great comparison!

Haha lily, I've been keeping you in suspense!! I usually get the X68 - you??

We alternate going to the in-laws and we should be going to them this year. I would like to go, not least because it would be a very cheap and lazy Xmas for us - his parents are very generous with the catering and his mum likes to do all the cooking (not that we are freeloaders ha) but I hate long journeys at the best of times, even if husband drives so trying to weight up the pros and cons. Alternative is to have Xmas in london with my family, which I love doing, but mil is quite demanding and imagine probably expect us to go to her for next two years to make up not going to there's this year or last year!!

Any other opinions? Seems like there's been a mass exodus on here!

Haha, X68 here too - wonder if we've spotted each other?!

This group does seem to have ground slightly to a halt... tiny are you still there?

Christmas wise, if you can bear the journey it is perhaps wise to take advantage of a lazy Christmas Elvi - it's hard isn't it to plan ahead for things like this when we don't know how we'll feel? I'm planning on doing a DH night when I'll be 36 weeks and it'll be a very late night and journey home across London, potentially alone if DH is working. No idea whether I'll be up for that by then or not!

Wondering if it might be worth doing a bit of a recce of who's left on here as it does feel a bit like no one's watching any more...

Doing a DJ night!! Made that sound like a whole other thing...

On our own then by the looks of it ha! Maybe some late comers will join after the Facebook page closes and they will be forced to stay here and chat to us! You are on the Facebook page though aren't you lily? I miss the chatter on here...

Ha I haven't spotted any pregnant people on bus but that's mainly because I keep my head down in the morning and am in my own little world. I like that bus - very civilised with no talking and people reading books/snoozing etc.

I did wonder what you meant when said DH night - I though date night with your hubby but then you said he might not be there haha!

doing a DH night made me laugh

I'm still here. Admittedly, hard to check in on both fb and here!!

Elvi I would do the inlaws chrissie. I think a lazy christmas is exactly what you need (plus then you'll be able to justify baby's first christmas next year with your family!). Very unlikely anything will happen at 37 weeks with your first. The car trip shouldn't be too bad, 3 hours not so far - just take plenty of breaks if you need them (provided you aren't driving).

I had a midwife/ob appointment yesterday, she checked my fundal height and despite feeling my bump is massive, I was measuring 1.5cm within normal range which is apparently fine. Woohoo! And glucose tolerance test all good too.

Glad everything was good at your appt coffee! My mw measured my bump on Monday but didn't say anything so assuming everything was the right size etc.

One thing I've been getting a little more than usual is a sharp pain in my kidney area. Don't know if any of you have this? It's agonising but only lasts a few seconds - although went on for about a minute the other day while I was at work which was unpleasant.

Baby's kicks are also starting to get... not painful but uncomfortable, almost like he's hitting a funny bone in my insides. A few have made me yell and they really make me squirm!

coffee glad you are still around! And that's great news your appointment went well!

You make a very good point - be nice to do whatever we feel like for baby's first Xmas - there would def be an obligation to go to his next Xmas to please mil, and prob year after so remain in sync with his sister who is married. I've warned DH however that won't be alternating forever!

lily they said at my mw appointment last week that measuring exactly 25 week (26+2 now) but I'm sure she would have said something if your bump wasn't in-line! I've seen a different mw everytime I've gone to an appointment - have you? They are all nice but would be nice to have some consistency. I guess it doesn't matter. Id put all my notes in the wrong order and she spent ages sorting through them - I didn't own up when she said it was probably their fault and the previous midwife probably didn't put them in order. Also didn't own up when some results were missing which I'm pretty sure are floating around on my bedroom floor - I thought she might tell me off so I pleaded ignorance and ummed and arrrred as to whether id seen them and suggested they might have got lost in the post. I is naughty. I must be super organised for the next appointment.

Haven't had the kidney pain - sure nothing to worry about as your last appointment would have flagged up uti. I got some pains on top of bump today - not sure if felt like cramping or not but perhaps going through growth spurt.

Re movement - yes, sometimes baby kicks or punches high into ribs (where the hell have they gone btw?!) and makes me flinch but lasts only a sec or two.

Wow long post!!

Yes, I've seen someone different each time as well Elvi - even after booking a specific day for this last appt after the 2nd mw told me to so I'd see her again. Got the impression they were massively understaffed this week though. They've all been nice at least

elvi dh and I have families that live in different states, so we try to coordinate with siblings - ie if all my siblings & partners will be at my parents for christmas, then we try to go back there. We used to alternate when we could but it got too hard!

lily the kidney pain might just be baby kicking but if it keeps up, I'd get it checked as kidney infections seem to be pretty common in pregnancy.

Baby has been getting himself into uncomfortable positions here too, right in under the ribs at times. Not painful but annoying!

I'm still here. Nothing to update really. We've moved and just settling in. had a scare with his movements today but he's kicking like crazy now. just trying to sleep with irritable legs

Elvi if you are 37 weeks by Christmas then it is quite possible that you may go into labour, with my first I was sure I would go over as that's what everyone had assured me, however DD1 came at 37+1 after an almost 6 hour labour (moral of the story, 1st babies are not always late and labours not always slow, all bodies are different!) - perhaps look into the hospital near them and if you are not content, don't go. I'm sure your mil would be more than happy to get to be the ones hosting your DC's first Christmas, and you could argue for DCs second Christmas 3 hours is just too long for a toddler to travel at that time of year.