Christmas and New Year's Babies - thread 2 (20w scans right around the corner)

[Gillster]

Enjoy the new thread ladies. Have put a link to the spreadsheet here so always easy to find. (Sorry can't get the linking to work automatically).

docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1OSdzg17qg9VY0CYhoGvKuTrF-GLnHCTFqc7NPUfAYVc/pubhtml

For all newbies, this is a thread for ladies expecting a baby around Christmas or New Year, feel free to join in.

The messages are so annoying. Like your choosing to not have the baby!! The last midwife was vague, I asked if she she was engaged she said "didn't they tell you at your last app? " which I thought was odd at the time.

It's amazing it got missed, but good news as the delivery went so smoothly regardless!

Fugg you were brave going to soft play. How annoying about the messages, are you tempted to send some sarky texts back?

I've gotten back not too long ago from another brief stay at hospital. Had a mega migraine that was a bit too similar to pre eclampsia and got sent in for the night. All well now though and i got a roast dinner for lunch so that was a nice little bonus.

Cuppa you must have best hospital food ever haha wish everyone was so lucky.

Came home last night and not coping that well here. They wouldn't give me anything but paracetamol to come home with and I feel like dp has forgotten how poorly I am he's just not being as sensative I've cried quite a lot and haven't been teery since birth obviously it's nice to be home just in a bit of pain and feeling completely vunrable anyone else feel like this when they first got home?

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Oh Hope, I think you're slap bang in the middle of the baby blues. I had a couple really tearful days in the first week too, I think it's very normal. But still horrible.

Just remember you've been through major abdominal surgery, gone through becoming a parent and had a stint in hospital. All in one bit, that is a lot for anyone to be taking in, plus the fact you have your hormones going crazy making your normal coping mechanisms noneay near as effective. I'm guessing your birth didn't go as you had wanted it to either, so there's that to get your head around too. You have loads going on.

I'm so sorry your dh isn't being sensitive. Is he maybe a bit shell shocked too? Make sure you're spelling out everything you need from him, its all new for you both. If he still isn't being sensitive after its time for a chat. Your midwife or hv will be able to talk to him too, some men do just feel they're getting in the way and leave babies mum to it.

More than anything make sure you're getting rest and sleep when you can and if the tearfullness doesn't go after a few days mention it to someone. But it's absolutely normal to be struggling right now, don't let anyone make you think it isn't.

Awww. Take each day at a time. It's such a huge change. Your DH can't begin to imagine how you feel. Not excusing his behaviour but they just don't have a clue. You are 'supposed ' you feel like this ride it out and talk it out to whoever will listen.

Hope as Cuppa said you're right in the middle of baby blues period, milks coming in and hormones are raging. Just sleep and rest and eat and nothing else. You will feel better in a few days. Send H out for something stronger for pain as that will make you feel worse.

My friend actually text me last night and this morning asking my dad messages me everyday too hehe.

Glad you're ok Cuppa I've never had a migraine but I'm a woos with normal headaches so I hope you don't have anymore.

aw. Poor you hope - Hang in there, you've been through a lot - and be very clear with DH how much support and care you need. It's a tough time and ask him for as much help as you need. Must be disorienting bringing a baby back to a new house from hospital, take it really slowly.

Poor you, too cuppa - you've had a torrid time of it. Rest easy.

I had my own little meltdown when my "magic milk machine" broke down with a burning smell the first time I switched it on (at 3am with a squalling 48hr old infant on me), cue tears and DP having to scrape me up off floor "he's not going to starve, look here's some pre-made formula" ). Rational thought is tough on no sleep and high emotion.

Daily messages ARE annoying, but I actually found I felt a bit neglected when people were distracted over Xmas and not bugging me! They can't win! My nosey over-the-road neighbour just called round unannounced, she's clearly been champing at the bit to see if I'd had the baby yet!

Hope all you still-waitingers are ok, I have to say that even with no sleep and the challenges of a newborn, I don't envy you guys one little bit. Get bouncing! 🍍🍍🍍🍍

I don't mind the messages too much as I didn't have it last time as ds came bang on time! Plus everyone was busy with christmas

I'm not feeling too impatient even though I'm overdue now. Feeling quite calm about it. I hope I don't go too overdue as I would worry about the baby tbh as you read too many stories online

Just want to say a massive thank you for everyone's support I'm feeling much better tonight think I cried more than the baby last night and that takes effort haha. Your all definitely right and today has been much more positive very tired now so fed and changed baby and dp has him downstairs until he needs me for milk (he's actually been amassing just think he was overtired yesterday.)
How many babies are we still waiting for?
Think I would have been the same tango 3am is no good time for feeding issues of any kind.
I managed to rub bum cream on my boobs today instead of nipple cream midwife had to point it out to me haha at least I didn't put nipple cream on babies bum.
Can't wait to hear of the next lovely baby think they're all nearly here now I wonder how many of us guessed the sex correctly I lost count of what was going on.
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So glad you're feeling better Hope. As amazing asnhaving a new baby is, its a bloody scary transition. Nothing prepares you for it.

Took the dc to sils today. It was good, but a slight disaster! Two, two year olds winding each other up in limited quaters. Then just as we went to leave baby boy did a poo all up his back and we realised we had no spare clothes. So he went home in dns 3-6 month clothes, he may be a big boy but he's not that big. Poosaster. Fugg and Gillster how's it going? Hope you're both getting some sleep and not too achey.

Hope glad you've had a better day

cuppa shows how relaxed you get with number two!

I'm doing a cast of my big belly tonight while I still have it (and it might be last baby) so we'll see how that turns out!

Been having some contractions on and off since last night, not regular so guess it's pre labour? Exciting

Eeek fugg good luck!! Really hoping this is it for you, good timing with the bump cast!

She came at 3.08am beautiful bonny girl, all good. Only got to ward at 6am so knackered

Fugg, huge congratulations! How much did she weigh?

You will be too wired all day to be worried about being tired our LO was born at 3:02 and I don't think I slept for at least 24hrs! Lol!

Thank ypu! I managed 2 hours but midwives kept waking me to check on me and baby.

Feel a bit spaced out still, she's perfect though! Think she weighed 3.4 kilos? Not sure what that is! X

Congratulations fugg!!! Glad you managed a little kip. She sounds lovely. Did you know what you were having?

Enjoy your brand new baby cuddles

Congratulations

Congratulations fugg

Hope you get some sort of rest and recover over the coming days.

Here she is. Thanks for lovely messages. Got home couple hours ago and she won't stop feeding and pooing already, was hoping for more kip!

She's a cutie fugg

And yes, they do do that don't they...

Ds did one giant poo after birth, she's on number 5 now...a sign of things to come?!

Cuppa - I found out it was a girl, wanted to tell ds beforehand

Actually same here fugg now I think about it. DS1 pooed once a week in the newborn days - massive long poos. Little DS2 is churning it out 10 times a day. But then DS1 also sicked EVERY feed until he was 12mo and I've had no returns from DS2 for nearly 36 hrs now. At least you can put a nappy on the bottom end!

Thinking of you bunting and gilster - what glamour awaits!

Awww fugg she's just beautiful! Absolutely lovely. Those early cuddles are so yummy I am pretty envious.

I'm finding DS poos less than DD who would poo pre-feed then post-feed and fed every 2 hours. I spent a fortune on nappies. DS hadn't pooed all day till I popped him in his ring sling, I think the knees up position did it. Anyway our first trip to town ended up poo right up his back and the sling in the washing machine. I'm spotting a theme with this boy!!

How is everyone?

My stitches are sore, my back hurts and I haven't slept properly yet and she's up all night every hour/half hour while milk comes in! Plus my ds is playing up a bit but my H is being great :)