Waving our pom-poms for the thread that FINALLY welcomes MiniLa, it's carb-tastic, all day sickness and when the hell can I nap? On JS 34!

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Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 34th grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The 34th grads fred is here

The thread we have graduated from is here in its 51st outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread here for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

Here is the stats list, please update your own spot with any updates.

Forgot...I have maternity leggings too, from Amazon

purple shame you didn't like the h&m ones. It truly is such a pain in the arse that there are so few places you can try on mat clothes.

I've got the leggings on today, and I know what you mean rhiannon. Not being used to them, it does sort of feel like you put your tights on, then forgot the rest of the outfit!

I'd still say the legs on these are very long, so good if you're tall. The bump comes up higher than I remembered yesterday, but still reckon one would need to size up for the last couple of months. Then again, for only a tenner it's not a bad deal.

Ahh I lurve maternity clothes - def one of the best perks about pregnancy! I just love not sucking my stomach in really. I have loads of tops that I thought would be fine and now they're all too tight and look terrible so my wardrobe is becoming more limited but I don't want to buy too much more stuff with only 10ish weeks to go fuck

Last day of last child free hol today which is very sad, also scary because it seems like fast track to baby arriving now - up to now we always had the holiday coming first! Also with the docs appts increasing to every 2 weeks now mentalists I think time is just going to fly, I'm freaking out a bit! We are getting pretty prepared in terms of stuff - baby's room is decorated and we are getting the cot on Saturday as there is a sale starting in the shop we have seen it in - I think that is the last of the big things. But just feeling scared at how life will change, we've had such a lovely holiday and it's been just the 2 of us for nearly 17 years We are both excited but nervous at having it all change. I know we will both be tired and snappy at times or all the time but really hope we can remain a team and remember we are both on the same side! Any tips?!

Oh and why does the fecking crossy outy thing sometimes work and sometimes not?! I did it properly honest!

That's exactly the attitude bat! It's the pair of you vs the baby only half joking

The happiest couples I know are the couples where Dads parents as much as they can from as early as possible. This is obviously tricky in the early days if you are BF, but they can do baths, help with bedtime etc etc. and they CAN do it! Don't jump in and undermine him

That's the best tip I can give anyone. Don't be a martyr. Sorry if it sounds patronising, I've had to tell it to myself too!

Thanks thursday that is actually really good advice because I can actually be guilty of being a martyr and trying to be perfect and not ask for help. But I do really want it to be 50/50 because I don't want to be in a situation where I can't trust him to look after the baby for a few hours like some of my friends seem to be - and he wants to be very involved too so let's hope we can do it and I can relinquish control!

Ooh that is really good advice, I would so be that Mum telling the Dad how to do it even though I have no idea myself. Have to remember this for December!

Speaking of clothes - what do I do about pants? They are just a bit tight around the hips - was just planning to buy the next size up as they will be under the bump anyway - any advice?

Yes exactly - I think it's as hard for us as women to relinquish control but it's totally worth it.
Currently, DH is nudging DS to potty training - to be fair he is 2.4 but I personally don't think he's ready. But he's DH son too, so I back him up.

DH had a v steep learning curve on DS very first day because I was in such a state I couldn't really care for him -so DH had to from the very beginning . Obviously id prefer not to have been totally out if it, but silver linings and all that!

But pants that are comfy
I think I just stayed in normal pants til I graduated to massive post section ones.

pud you could do what I am doing which is wear your normal pants and ignore the fact that they are now stretched to buggery and hope the world doesn't mind you constantly pulling them out of your bum crack? Hmmmmm maybe I'll buy a few pairs of big granny panties next week.....

I'm in full knickers and I loves them
I've just gone up again. I was 2 sizes bigger than normal, now 4 cos I want baggy and over bump

I'm a control freak. DH doesn't know much about babies. I'm worried that I'll be too controlling if he does things a different way. We did a parenting class and he was hopeless at dressing dolls
I'm hoping he will be better with a real baby

I'd been wondering about pants too, but just ignoring the fact that they are a little too tight at the moment.

My cot and mattress has arrived decided to go with a cot bed that was in the sale from an email from Emma diary. Since its arrived early I've decided to venture out and treat myself to lunch and hopefully some new bras!

purple luckily I think mr bat and I are equally clueless, the thought of having a 10 second old baby plonked into my arms and it crying literally terrifies me and I always avoid interaction with friends' babies as I am so self conscious about being so useless. I've only done 2 nappies in my whole life and neither contained poo! So at least I don't think either of us will be taking charge, at least at the beginning - we will be like the blind leading the blind!

I wore my regular pants all the way through but they sat under my bump. Top tip of you don't want to be spending £££ on maternity tights is just to buy regular tights in a larger size. They did me up to about 36 weeks an then I stopped working so wore pajamas comfy clothes all the time.

Purpless make ok maternity tops and they're pretty cheap. I'm still wearing lots of them as they have easy boob access. The bump space is created by ruching along the sides so when your bump goes they still fit ok.

We were scared to dress DS first time he was born Luckily we had v nice MW who helped us out.

I also remember how DS started crying and we thought we should check his nappy. So we undone the nappy and he started pooing meconium. It was quite good timing, as we just wiped it up as soon as it came out so it didn't stick to his bum. I couldn't believe there would be so much of it it was literally non stop! Then we thought he finished, and he started crying again, so I picked him up for cuddle and he started pooing again... all over me. And I just had a shower...

There's my little story for this morning!

Still no booking in letter I think I'll chase them up tomorrow if still nothing... I have a feeling there was an admin hiccup.

I think I am really lucky being around babies so often. I feel pretty confident that I can handle it. The only hard thing about other people's young babies is that you'll never be as good as mum as you can't whip out a boob when they are hungry, so there will be a time where you have to give up and hand back the screaming child "you couldn't comfort"

Unmumsnetty hugs to recovering la!
Interesting about all your clothes. I only ever bought a few items of maternity wear because I'm generally a floaty shirt, dresses, skirts, loose trousers sort of person anyway. My number one tip when it comes to buying maternity clothes is this:
Maternity clothes are comfy. You are likely to want to continue wearing them for the first few weeks after birth anyway. If you are wanting to breastfeed, buy maternity clothes that have easy enough boob-access. One of my favourite maternity dresses was a tunic dress that had fuck-all boob access and I couldn't wear it EVER AGAIN until I stopped breastfeeding even though it was AWESOME on all levels and in all seasons (sans shirt and leggings in summer; with shirt and leggings in winter; smart shirt = seeing people or just pasta sauce splattered plain for lounging on the couch). Anything maternity wear you can drop off your shoulder, slip your one arm out from, lift up from your midriff easily, etc etc will get plenty of use before and after birth.
Also consider, if you don't want to buy too many expensive nursing bras, buying one or two cheap bikini tops in your new boob-ultra-large desired size for home wear. You can then just flip the front part of the bikini round the outside of your boob for feeding (and still pop a nursing pad in there for the first month or so. Once flow and routine is established leaking isn't a bit issue anymore for most people). FWIW I found my M&S nursing bras much better than Bravissimo which supposedly caters better for bigger bf-ing boobs. And I had fairly large boobs to begin with. After stopping to bf DC they now in no way look like they did before. Which is a great shame. :(

Jc what bedding are you getting for the cot? I lo-oo-oove bedding. sighs
bat I sympathise with the 2 person group becomes 3 thing. DH and I had been together 15 years before DC joined us. It's very hard to come to terms with. For me it still is. I still wish for my independence constantly and get quite depressed about it. Ce la vie.

oO furniture purchases. I am gutted I didn't get that nursery set that was in Mamas and Pappas now, it was such a good deal! I'm hoping they have another deal like that soon, if not i'll wait until the January sales and buy one then! totally not leaving it too late i'm sure other places have good offers on at various times though right?

I think we'll start buying furniture around the 24 weeks mark.

IRO knickers, i'm wearing granny pants from primark. The really stretchy ones. Love them! Not got any new bra's soon, but i only have one that fits any more so need to get some desperately.

I love nursery bedding too but tbh it's a massive waste of money. I spent a fortune on Mamas and Papas gingerbread bedding with my first and baby had to use other bedding because those quilts aren't suitable from birth, the bumpers are dangerous and so are pillows until about a year. They look lovely but I got hardly any use out of mine and just bought nice cellular blankets instead for my second. I know it ruins the fun but we wasted a fortune. Of course it doesn't do any harm if you want to buy the set but if money is tight you can cut back there and lose nothing.

I have been slightly shitting myself as twice this afternoon I've had a horrible pain in my back/side which has taken my breath away before completely disappearing - happened twice in 2 hours. So because I'm stuck in the middle of nowhere I've scared myself by thinking it's something to do with the baby! Baby kicking away as normal so all seems fine there and I have no idea what the pain was, just hoping it doesn't happen again cos it was bloody sore!

Auf Ive only just bought the cot! No idea about bedding yet lol. Thinking I'll probably just get some cheap ish fitted sheets and gro-bags (or cheaper version of)

Jelly the cot was quite an impulse purchase for me. Just saw it and thought 'yeah I like that, it has everything I want and is cheaper than others I'd seen so why not' and now it's here Now to look for a changing table........

Could it be Sciatica Bat? Top of your bum, moving round the side?
I also get round ligament pain which is at the front, but hurts like a stitch
Baby stamping on bladder is another weird one, helps if I have a wee

ahh i love impulse buys jc :) not got to that point yet

I need to really start planning furniture and book nct etc. tooo much effort!

Not sure purple - I've had round ligament pain and it isn't like that, never had sciatica before but would that be more constant? I've not had any back problems before, this has just happened twice for about a minute each time, just a bad pain that has taken my breath away a bit and then has disappeared. Not something I've ever had before but hopefully not baby related either! 25 hours or so until I'm back home! Think I'm just worried knowing I'm a bit stranded!