Jan 2016 #7 - headaches and exhaustion but 1/3 through

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nightfall I keep meaning to take DS out on the bike but I haven't ridden for ages and we basically live on a massive hill! Bit worried I'll have a heart attack!

Not a problem Tiny drop me a message if you need to x

Thankyou all so much for your kind words when I was feeling so down this morning.

I Lost my mom last year and have no other family, so when dp's parents are being so negative it makes me feel worse.

I also think part of why I haven't told anybody else is I still think something is going to go wrong, I'm so anxious it's untrue.

Brooke pregnancy is a really anxious time not helped when people are negative about it. Before I got pregnant I don't think I appreciated how life changing it was mental as well as physically! This board is so good to vent when you can't in the real world.

Got a huge delivery of maternity othes today, I went a bit mad in the next sale but everything is good quality and I have bought a mixture of my size and the next size up. All maternity and a lot of it winter wear so perfect. The maternity jeans are so comfy, I don't know why all jeans are like this.
Is anyone else loving rubbing their bump? It's my new favourite thing.
Tiny that's awful, why did they tell her? It's an unforgivable breach of confidentially. I'd write them the most strongly worded letter ever!

im always rubbing my bump Amy .. in love doing it hehe

I'd second direct referral to the ICO, if you don't want to take it there directly then to the PM and ask them to deal with it under their complaints procedure.

Such bad practice - I'm horrified that any GP would actually have done this. They're in for the bloody riot act!

It's cause I ordered a prescription of gaviscon just to keep on my bag and she went she shouldn't be having this much while she's pregnant.

The practice manager went she's really sorry and she didn't mean to say it. Even of she meant it or not it's a breech of my personal and private stuff.

It's irrelevant. She disclosed information about you without your permission. The end.

Sometimes I lose my mind with clinicians about what they can and cannot say / do. Most are careful and check if unsure but others just behave in a way that makes me question their intelligence!!

Brooke, hope you are feeling better, it sounds tough, but you sound incredibly strong too :-)

Big hugs to everyone whether it be for side effects, medical worries, or negative folk.

Update from me - work issues aren't really lightening up, and it's been keeping me awake at night (I get angry with myself for letting it but that doesn't help). I've decided to raise a formal grievance, have sought loads of advice from friends in related hr and legal fields. Letter is just about ready to go, dreading it though but I think it has to be done.

Babies are doing really well in spite of their stressed out mother. Heard the heart beats last night at the MW appointment. Apparently I'm about the size of a 20 week single pregnancy. Weird thing is that I am still about half a stone lighter then I was when I found out I was pregnant- still haven't recovered an appetite yet :-(

Sorry for the long post

I love rubbing and holding my bump too

tiny I'd be livid too, totally out of order.

I just wrote to ICO so hopefully they'll help me.

I emailed the Pre-Payment prescription service as I have a pre payment card and they said they ain't received my application for my maternity card and can't claim a refund on my pre payment card. So yet again my surgery hasn't my form off so that's another thing that has got me angry about them -.-

ready aww great you heard their little heart beats ... im glad ur taking action against them, discrimination is horrible especially as your pregnant and vulnerable! hope it gives them a kick up the A*se. . and they change if not you might be entitled to a fair bit of compensation.. Fx for you! Goodluck

my new fav thing is Haribo! I've ate a full pack in the last 2 days to myself .. feel greedy ... oh and blueberries

tiny I would be livid if I was you!!! I would be like a dog with a nome I wouldn't be letting this go.
Anyone know if she can complain to general medical council? They regulate all Dr's

I moved to that surgery cause I heard they was good. I wish I could move but it's going to be hard while I'm pregnant now so gotta stay with them till the end. Then I'm going to move to a doctor's near my partners as they seem to listen and don't do things like my place

how can i weigh the same now as i did 4 weeks ago when the baby is getting bigger everyday? I know people say don't get caught up on weight but i am curious

Tiny I rang about my prepayment cert and they also said they hadn't received my FW8 form. I asked my midwife and she gave me a new, stamped form so I could send it off myself. Hopefully when I get back from hols it'll all be sorted.

Ready, Brooke sorry to hear about your tough times. We'll give you all the support we can.....

Bloodyhell tiny that's awful! DRs have a position of trust, or at least they should. Curious to know the response you receive.

Lovely update ready. Can't believe you're still so much lighter.

Sorry to those feeling down and maybe a little isolated. Brooke DH and I also moved away from friends and family, 100 miles. And although it's been a year and a bit, I'm a bit of a workaholic and enjoy quiet time with the DH, so not really made proper close friends here either. Guilty of travelling all over the place and having visitors. Don't really notice until you're going through something this big. I'm hoping we may meet some folk at antenatal classes.

Forgot to update on my consultants app. Which to be fair was pretty forgettable, apart from a shockingly disinterested registrar. Despite previously being told that my hcg and papp levels were off and they wanted to keep a close eye on baby's growth as concerned, and therefore referred me for this consult, I was told, oh there's no need to scan again then if you had one at 14wks (although this was done completely privately elsewhere). Then, when all I said was, "the mw said that heart development could also be a affected and is this the case?" he patronisingly told me calm down! I might add that I was very calm, simply following up what I had been told by his colleague. We left with no idea what may be causing it but just some scan dates. Ah well. Sorry that was long. Was just looking for more reassurance I guess. But barely had 5 mins for a chat.

Why would the GP say that to your nan about the gaviscon though tiny? That's really odd.

fisher that registrar does sound shocking. Calm down?! Did you ask him directly what he thought was causing it?

Sorry for everyone else who is experiencing negativity, problems with work and other anxiety.

I had just moved halfway across the world when I fell pregnant with DD1. It was isolating but you do meet a lot of people through your children.

Fisher I also have found consultants absolutely useless! I had an app to discuss a heart issue I have but since the app was as I was awaiting my harmony results all the consultant wanted to do was chat about that and advice me on terminating if it was high risk. I was so upset and didn't expect it. They are probably waiting for your pregnancy to progress more to find out what's going on and there just isn't anything they can tell u now. Hugs.
tiny were u there when they said that to your gran?

Nope I was at work and my nan text me saying apparently your pregnant...oops....so I called the surgery straight away and had a go at them

Thanks coffee and fairy. Sorry for my moan! I was half asleep.

That's shocking fairy. I remember you saying at the time.

I asked what might be causing it and just had a shrug... Literally. Was told, hopefully I'll just have a "skinny baby" which he explained was quicker for him to say than "the hcg and papp imbalance can effect growth and development, but hopefully it won't too much". Basically, who knows, let's wait and see at 20 weeks. Very different to the concerned speech they gave me 2 weeks ago. To be honest I was kind of expecting this. Just not his attitude that went with it.

The mw had noted on my file that I had a bit of a turbulent mental health history. He asked how I was right now, to which I replied struggling and he just looked at me and said "well you look fine to me". At which point I think my DH was asking to see someone else.

Right! Sorry for the ME posts!

And sorry to hear about your worries ready and Brooke. Hope we can offer a good sounding board.

missm it's weird isn't it! I'm the same wait at 16+6 as I was at 4 weeks!

Just shocking tiny!

I know. I'm trying not to worry about it as I have a busy day ahead of me today and it'll only get me worse.

Poor you tiny. Can't believe your gp would do that! Defo go higher than practice manager!
Hope all those on the receiving end of negativity, from professionals and friends and colleagues, can try to put it to the back of your minds and focus on yourselves and your babies.