Jan 2016 #7 - headaches and exhaustion but 1/3 through

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Thanks for replies! Lactulose has helped with no side effects!! I'd been chomping on prunes and dried figs but for some reason every few days it all just grinds to a halt!!!

Sadly I'm not really sure what the reasons are for their reactions. We all work in HR but different specialisms, so certainly no chance of them having to cover for me. I also have almost 4 years service under my belt, and this is my first. They are both late 30's, one single, one in a relationship but she is very vocal 'I will not get married/have kids' type. Tbh I found it odd, not least as there have been others in the department who have gone on Mat leave (not recently) and they have been perfectly nice to them. It's just really odd! But trying to put it from my mind and let them get on with it!

thanks again ladies, it has made me feel really down stupidly.

i do all the cooking in our household anyway and we don't really 'do' processed food, we don't even own a microwave (althouth the PIL have offered to buy us one to make it easier when bumble arrives!!) but i might need to have a look at some lo-salt diets etc to be on safe side.

Luckily FIL also has a BP monitor from his diabetes so i can use that to check if i need to.

Stress wise my job really doesn't help, i basically spend all day being shouted at my Cllrs and MP's and holding hearings and grievance meetings... think i need to have a word with my boss and farm some of my work out to 'protect' myself.....

Hope everyone has a good day! x

valancy luckily I work in a pharmacy and I have to count thousands of prescriptions as it's the end of the month. So ill be sitting in the corner in a world of my own.

And talking about bad reactions, I haven't had anyone react bad when I told them like I thought I would as I'm 21 still living at home and only been with my OH just under 3 years. Just ignore them

The only bad(ish) reaction we've had about my pregnancy was from my OH's Dad. We announced our news at Sunday dinner (we were going to anyway, but we had to as his Mum kept offering me wine, and I don't usually say no!) and while she was delighted, jumped up and hugged me and OH, OH's Dad just looked utterly stunned. He didn't say anything whatsoever for about two minutes, and it kind of became a bit awkward as he was just sat there staring with a stunned expression while OH's Mum was happily chattering about how exciting it was, and OH's brother (who already knew) was pleased as well. Eventually he left the room saying nothing, and then came back and opened champagne, but it seemed almost as though he felt that was the correct thing to do rather than was genuinely happy. He has since assured us that he is happy, and seems more comfortable with it now, but it was incredibly awkward at the time!

We've only been together two years and aren't married (or engaged) yet, so I'm not sure if it was that, but we've known each other since we were seven, been really good friends since we were sixteen (I was his first kiss!), and bought a house together last year (and we were quite clear about wanting one with three bedrooms...) and he's 29 and I'm 29 next month so we're not exactly teenage parents or anything. So I was a bit surprised by his reaction! But he seems to have genuinely come round to the idea now, which is good!

The rest of our family, friends and colleagues have all been delighted to hear the news

sleepy sorry to hear your worries. As others have said they not to stress too much and just enjoy the extra chance to see your baby.
mrs faz good to hear the spotting stopped and well done on getting even this far with park run. I gave up at 6 weeks. tiny, miss margin and fisher hope you are all feeling better.
Sorry about the negative reactions people are getting sometimes you just can't explain people's behaviour.
Hope everyone has a good day with their bumps today.

Apart from my 6 work colleagues, nobody else in my real life knows we moved house a year ago, 20 miles away from where we used to live and most of my friends are there, so don't see me day to day, dont know when the right time to say something will be, as dp and I have friends (a couple) who are younger than us, 27 and 28, and who have been trying to conceive for over 5 years, with one unsuccessful ivf go in there too, dp thinks before we tell the world, we should tell them first, but there hasn't been a right time recently. We only told dp's parents a week or so ago, nothing but negativity from them, apparently we shouldn't have had a third, because we have one of each already and won't be able to love this child as much....I genuinely feel like poo about this whole pregnancy thing, I feel so alone....my mom passed away a year ago, and my father was useless, I honestly feel like I have nobody to talk to

Really sorry for me me post.

brooke that sounds tough. I know we're not 'real' but I hope you can lean on us for support. I'm lucky to have lots of people around in RL but the support from you ladies has been invaluable.

My bump is doing ok today! Starting to pop I think.

Anyone see one born last night?

Morning all!

Not had any negative reactions really, had a couple of "was it planned?" Though, yes I'm 27, married for over a year with my own house and well-paid job but I don't know how to use contraception

Also have to say from people in work in general not many people have reacted very positively to the fact that I'm having a boy? Which I find really strange actually, but tbh can't tell if reactions would've been the same if it was a girl.

missmartin exactly it depends on the person, have to admit when I was 22 I was newly single, renting a house with housemates so totally unsuitable for a baby and was out every weekend enjoying my freedom! But everyone's different, I know a certain couple who are 27 and 35 so a lot older than you, and they were pregnant recently (although very sadly had a mc) and they're living in a flat owned by the girl's parents so not paying their way, neither of them were in stable jobs at the time, and would've definitely been calling at the bank of mum and dad regularly! if you're still relying on others financially, that's when you might be viewed as "not ready" to have a baby, nothing to do with age!

Brooke hugs to you and as melon mentioned we are here to chat, hand-hold and support you through the hard days. Also when you start antenatal classes I'm sure making some friends there will also help.

Melon I watched OBEM last night and was a mess at the end. So sad.

Spydie glad the lactulose worked. I could've wrote your post about being backed up but I find that the lactulose works if/when I need it. Sometimes it also releases trapped wind which isn't pleasant or ideal but it sure makes me feel better. I've also introduced bran flakes to my diet and try to have a banana everyday too.

I get my hair cut and dyed tonight and cannot wait. The current worzel gummidge hairdo I am sporting isn't doing anything for me!

brooke - hugs, it's hard being far from family and friends but we are all here to listen :)

spydie I've been bunged up a bit too (bleugh) but it's gotten better since I hit 14wks - I am drinking a lot more water though and eating less carby stuff which might have helped.

Saw my consultant yesterday and provided my epilepsy doesn't flare up and my depression doesn't get worse, I can be marked as low risk but they won't decide for sure til 3rd trimester. I was low risk last time in the end so hoping for that again, fingers crossed.

sleepy I know a few people who've had PE - it's more common than you might think - but they weren't tracked in their pregnancy for it, so hopefully with your extra monitoring, you'll be fine hugs. It is stressful though and hard not to worry. My BP went up towards the end of my last pregnancy and when I was in labour but in the end it was nothing and I had virtually drug free, easy birth.

15+1 today = 4 weeks and 6 days til scan/half way point!!!!!!!!

How horrid people can be! No negative reactions here - even my consultants have been positive. Shock horror! Ignore those who are mean - this is an exciting time, enjoy it and be happy - those that can't don't deserve your time!

I took (attempted to take) my first bump photo today to send to my friend in new z. Not the best dress for photo but you get the gist. Definitely there now although people keep saying how small I am for nearly 15 weeks?!? Is it because I'm tall?!

Sleepy sorry to hear that you are worried and feeling down. I would definitely speak to your boss though and reassess your workload as can't imagine the extra stress there will be helping. From what you've said it doesn't sound like it's diet related. Have you been getting much exercise? I think they say that even 20 mins walking a day can really help bring your BP down if you were able to get out in the evening.

I actually howled with tears at last night's episode. That poor couple.

Pug I have a little bump too! Mine gets bigger as the day goes on which will be down to bloat but here I am at 15+1

So cute melon! I'm just going to roll with the fact that I'm normally v flat?

People always have a view though don't they? Too big too small. What?! You're intending to go back to work full time.... [insert judgemental comment] I almost decked my brother when he said something similar recently. His wife has made a conscious decision about her job / career choice. Doesn't mean it's right / wrong if someone elects to do differently. I have a feeling I'm going to be standing on a soap box a lot throughout / post this pregnancy!!

Hi everyone, haven't managed to keep up with all the posts, so much going on! Hope everyone is doing OK. Exciting to hear about the fluttering movements, haven't had any yet, nearly 17 weeks so hopefully soon!

Sorry to hear the negative reactions Brooke, we're all happy for you! I'm quite isolated too where I am, don't know many people at all or have any close friends nearby so I sympathise. I haven't contributed much at all but I do read the boards and the support here really is awesome.

I had on obstetrician appointment today to just go over medical history and assess progress. He read in the results of my 13 week ultrasound that I have a two vessel cord (instead of 3 - SUA), something no one had mentioned to us yet. He destroyed my plans of a home birth and water birth as he would suggest constant monitoring throughout the labour, and If baby is small (due to often poor growth), an early induction. Im not actually too worried at the moment and will just see how I get on, but just wondered if anyone had had this before (or now!) and what are their experiences? I just waiting for my next scan in 3 weeks to see if there are any problems, but the baby seems to be fine other than that, still wringgling today on the screen

Also - you've all confirmed for me that I am definitely NOT watching OBEM. Noooooo.

brooke we're always here for you, whenever you need us
pug my friend is really tall and she's about 24weeks and shes not even got a bump yet atall. . You definitely have a cute bump there!!

stupidgirl FX you can get back to lowrisk.. that would be great
teenie & melon i watched that aswell i couldn't stop crying! They were such a positive couple the way they were speaking about him after.. so heartbreaking!

Thanks Stupid it probably does;t help i'm a worrier anyway then lol

Teenie to be honest, hardly any, i walk 20 min a day which is my 'return journey' from the car park to my office and thats about it, i did the Race for Life 5K a couple of weekends ago and did it in an hour flat so i'm not 'unfit' as such, just lazy!

I've scheduled in a meeting with my boss for this afternoon so fingers crossed!

Pug LOVE the curtain behind you!!!

Forgot my sign off.....

16wk today here

I figure there's plenty of time for us to turn into whales so I'm not in too much of a rush! I've already snapped at a few people for stupid comments, mainly the 'was it planned' ones given that we'd been trying all year and had a MC last year.

jean you sound very positive, I hope everything is boring from now on for you!

ladies...

do any of you know someone who has been on or have you ever been on Labelatol for high BP

i took my first tablet (200mg) about 2 hours ago and since then i have had a tingling/itchy scalp, severe nausea, and shaking

apparently these are all 'normal' side effects......

Ok I'm so glad I didn't watch OBEM, just googled it and I saw that a baby was born at 18 weeks? That's my big fear right now and I'm 17+5! Silly question but did he / she survive?

That episode is being swiftly deleted from my Sky+!

Jesus looking. I am so glad I didn't get curious. I am doing v well on the anxiety front!!!

Sleepy - thanks! It's our shower curtain haha. Sadly I only know one other pregnant person and she isn't on any meds at the mo. Sorry I can't help.

She was 28 weeks

One born last night was emotional but so sensitive and well filmed I thought! Wasn't too traumatic and kind of kept me "grounded" and that your not safe till baby is here and crying!

That sounded really flippant .... Don't mean it to be insensitive!! Don't know how people cope with a late loss .... Think it would break me! The couple on it were very strong