Jan 2016 #4 - heading for the end of the 1st trimester with dating scans and wacky dreams

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New thread! Previous one here.

Thread #4, good work ladies!!

I'm 8 weeks today, feels like a bit of a milestone. We have our reassurance scan this afternoon so fingers crossed all is well - morning sickness still here so I do still feel pregnant!!

Was a bit annoyed yesterday - went to a good friends wedding and had a lovely time. All close friends there know I'm pregnant and were lovely and looked after me all day, and bride and groom gave me their room key so I didn't have to go home for a nap which was kind! However bride had a few drinks and let slip to quite a few extended friends that I'm pregnant - all people I like and don't really mind knowing massively, but they're not people I would have told about a miscarriage. Hey ho, I know she's just excited though (and it was nice to be able to talk to everyone about the baby and get excited to be fair!). I do feel like half the town now bloody knows though!!

Morning!! I have my early scan today St 1pm they just sent me a wee text which was nice ill keep you updated :)

Hope it goes well mrschatty!

valency buddies for today!!!!! Let me know how you get on xx thanks OTHM

Ooh fingers crossed mrs :)

Hello!! I've posted a few times elsewhere but it's exciting to have a thread with people Around the same stage as me! 8 weeks tomorrow - have only known for a week and came as a huge surprise. Baby #1 so all super new. Feeling so sick though - and to think I had in my head thought I'd be continuing my x5 weekly exercise regime throughout.... nice to meet you all!! Congratulations! Current EDD 25th jan! X

Welcome pug
I'm due 31/01 with my first. I think there's quite a few of us first timers so we can hold each others hands!

Thanks! I'm terrified. And feeling pretty ill.

Glad to know I'm not the only one! Have people got their booking / 12w scan appts yet?

Valancy and chatty snap, reckon I'm 8 wks today according to ov date (8+3 by LMP).

Valancy had a similarly nice/frustrating night, saw some friends and had no intention of telling them but DH got super drunk and did, then was so loud about it another friend also heard. I don't massively mind, as I'm quite an open person so generally tell everyone everything anyway, I just wanted one night to not be about our news, if that makes sense.

Also didn't help that I had to get him home really late and put up with drunken nonsense but that's another issue

Welcome pug! My booking appt's on the 24th and scan on 7th July. Counting down the days and weeks!

Lily Can't remember if I've said this on a previous thread, but our dates are exactly the same, I'm 8+3 if it goes from LMP, 8 weeks exactly based on when I ovulated. Hurrah for being due date twins! Know exactly what you mean about last night, OH also mentioned in the car on the way home "I told so and so's Mum" - I was a bit miffed, I don't even know this person and he doesn't know her that well!! Didn't mind too much about more mutual friends knowing, but a random acquaintance's Mum was pushing it!

Are there many of us who just aren't telling anyone yet? Obviously dh knows (and my immediate boss as there are things I can't do at work) but we haven't told anyone else at all. Feel bad not telling my dm and df but they would just panic until later on. Because I've not told them I don't feel like I can tell anyone else so none of my friends know I'm 9+3 so I guess it's still early. Being that it's dc3 it's starting to get a bit obvious though lol

Brickie We've not told anyone yet - this will be my in-law's first grandchild and they will be super excited, so we want to make sure all is well before we tell them (and MIL tells everyone else in the world!)

Had three whole days of very minimal nausea (9+1 today), which has been great. So far weeks 7-9 have been bad, so hoping that's it for me, but I doubt it!

Hurrah indeed Valancy! Great to have a buddy I'm intrigued to find out actual dates at the scan...

Regarding telling people, I've felt so on-and-off the whole concept. Sometimes I wish we hadn't told anyone but other times I'm glad of a potential pool of friends and family to moan to and get advice from. I was a bit... shocked, for want of a better word, when my 4yo niece asked me if I have a baby in my tummy which was adorable but did make me immediately terrified about having to explain where it went should I mc. Not sure why my brother and sister in law told her quite so early and I was surprised to say the least!

As for the extra friends now knowing, it does piss me off a bit, first because now I'm just 'pregnant' and can see that's all we'll be talking about for 7 months, and second because for friends who aren't really close, 8 weeks is still very early and I've already had a couple of comments which hinted that we (DH!!) should have kept our mouths shut until 12 weeks...

Sigh.

Welcome pug

I'm 10 weeks tomorrow and am mightily relieved to only have week 7 level nausea (for me) today as just survived 2 days of feeling very sick. All that sleeping yesterday probably helped. I just want to go out and do loads as I feel so much better, but don't dare overdo it cos I think I will suffer tomorrow if I do.

I initially only told a small number of close friends, plus both sets of parents, but in the last 2 weeks it's slipped out to a few more, but always to friends who I know I can rely on to keep the secret. It's been really helpful actually to tell those extra friends as they've had some (not too much) good advice and also they've been able to cover for me on different things. Work don't know yet though so I'm being super careful about not telling peeps with links to my work.

Think I'm going to struggle to keep it hidden now thoug, enormous boobs and a visible bump, not to mention horrendous nausea! Roll on the end of term (3 weeks to go!)

Right off to do that shopping trip for cake, ice lollies, chocolate and more cake essential food items full of nutrients for little prune.

I don't have any appointment dates yet. pug

I've told my very best friend only, she's got a couple of kids and I needed someone to bang on at with my paranoia! We haven't told any family or work or anyone else. It would make it so much harder for me if I was struggling to cope with a miscarriage and also had to disappoint so many other people. It would be better for me to go to them for support after the event if needed.

Oh and also if I told my mum then I may as well take an ad out in the local paper. She's a woman who cannot keep a secret.

I'm a first-timer too, pug! There's quite a few of us, we can all shit ourselves feel nervous together

Ahhh! Thank you! Can't quite work out how to link but thank you all for the welcomes.

Re telling people - we've told our immediate family and I've told my best friend and cousin but no one else. Partly because I was booked to go to Dublin this wkend for my cousins 30th but have obviously had to bail so needed to explain!

Not telling anyone else till post 12w scan - esp after the scare this week. I also have at least x2 friends who have been trying for a while so want to be sensitive.

Hoping to get my appts through this week! Exciting but it feels like a minefield. No idea what I'm doing...

And re the boobs - it's out of control. I'm normally v small (A cup) and they're exploding!

Ps. When are people telling work? Are you voluntarily saying early?

After being hopeless the last few weeks I'm actually feeling ok this morning and have had the energy to clean downstairs - it's badly needed! I feel so much better having clean rooms to sit in (for 5 mins before they are destroyed by DD!) must try to keep on top of it.

Welcome pug

I've told a couple of friends who know about the mc but not parents. MIL would tell anyone she met whether we know them or not and I don't fancy being a piece of gossip for her. I've also told my head who has been really supportive and told me off for not telling him about the mc! His wife had one so think he could empathise with it.

Welcome pug!

I had to tell my work a few days after I found out as there are some things I'm not allowed to do now because of the little bean. I work in a big team so a few colleagues (the nice ones!) know so they can help cover for me before I tell everyone after the 12 week scan.

Outside of work, the people who know are DH (obviously), both sets of parents, my sister, and also my best friend and her mum. I wasn't planning on telling the last 2 as early as I did but I was going round for a good catch up and usually I'd be knocking back plenty of wine!

Jumping back in to place mark - been AWOL since middle of last week so just caught up with old thread and new been for our scan on Thursday and little bean was jumping about, and waving arms! I couldn't believe how clear it is at all was given Edd of 8th January then moved to the 1st January - so a New Year's Day due date so it seems ((I'd guessed it was gonna be the 2nd or 3rd anyway))
So big gap between that scan and the next one - next one isn't until 20weeks which is gonna be in August - seems so far away!
Joey you said about being consultant led care due to epilepsy -are they doing anything different? Taking you off your anti-epileptics?amending your dosage etc? I'm in the same boat - but they're keeping my dosage all the same but you have to get bloods done to check you're getting enough medication into your blood systems cus of the increased blood supply diluting the medication.
Sorry for the long post! Hope everyone's feeling good today

Pug - my work already know because I had an ectopic scare while away at a work conference and ended up getting early scans in a Greek hospital. Otherwise I would not be telling anyone. I'm a contractor anyway (shitty luck - made redundant 2mo before my BFP!!! ) so there is no ML or anything for me.

Love that your bean was waving at you, Yokyil

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