November 2015 Thread - Teams Yellow, Pink and Blue selection has started!

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For all those lovely bumps incubating until last few days of Oct and all November, spilling possibly over to December for the super comfortable babies- come and chat, rant, vent, chant, glow, sweat, watch nails grow whilst doing antenatal pilates/yoga/sleeping/eating/navel gazing and over analyse to your hormones content!

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I've been looking at that one flyingsprocket! Do I need a ball?

Good luck for the scan Gr33dyeggs

Does anyone have anterior placenta? I can feel movements sort of, but very muffled. Wondering how to monitor movements with an anterior placenta? Although DS was like Alien towards the end, so it could be a good thing to have a cushion

No ball required, just 2 weights and some cushions. I think somebody's uploaded the whole dvd to YouTube if you fancy trying it.

Flying I've bought myself that one for £3 odd, a yoga one,and one that's old but seems to look popular called the y plan apparently it used to be on VHS! So I've got 3 to be going on with for now for 8 quid! I'll have to dig my little weights out! Don't think my big kettle bell will be suitable lol.
I'm getting my big fat arse to aqua fit tomorow afternoon tho

Abbey I have an anterior placenta (and one posterior) so I mostly only feel one baby so far. The other one, a little bit but it is muffled and infrequent. I think the best way to look at it is that monitoring means gradually learning what feels normal for your baby. So by 25 weeks or so you will have a good idea of what is your normal and then just be aware of it relative to that.
I know what you mean though. I'm wondering how on earth I'll monitor two!

Thanks Guybrush wow that must be tricky to monitor two babies. It's weird because everyone says movements are stronger and earlier with a 2nd baby, but at least I know why I'm not feeling much now. I can only feel her if she's right at the bottom, very weird, especially after DS who was a bit of a nutter in there!

Abbey mine was anterior last pg but after sort of 22-23 weeks I could feel (and see!) Dd moving around really clearly. I didn't get any elbows or feet sticking out but she did wedge a foot in my ribs towards the end and that was agony!

Struggling to keep up! Marking place so I don't lose you all argh dont get me started on family just after birth. With our first, all of my in laws decided it would be a good idea to turn up at the hospital WHILE I was in labour, despite being told many times we would contact them afterwards when we wanted visitors. Talk about pressure! And they kept calling dh out to the hospital cafe to update them, leaving me labouring alone! Then they were waiting outside the door as we were wheeled round to recovery! I ended up with a forceps delivery in theatre so i had barely held dd myself at this point, but i had to let dh take her out so they could see her, barely an hour old, before they would finally leave us alone! Needless to say i was VERY clear that would not be happening again with ds!

I'm using a fitness ball at this stage, for general work, tv watching etc., because I find my sitting bones are too sore to be on a chair for long, and I can keep myself mobile on it more easily. I love mine, got it on Amazon.

I also got myself a massive u-shaped pillow and OH MY I can finally sleep comfortably again, it's amazing.

I am at some of the family behaviour here! Last time I didn't tell anyone I was in labour , just announced when DD was born. This time I will need to tell someone as I will probably need childcare.

Anyone who expected me to make them tea when I had just given birth would be swiftly disillusioned...

TwoBees that is crazy! My hospital were pretty strict with visitors luckily so everyone stuck to the times and the number allowed or the midwives would tell them off. I guess nothing to stop super keen people hanging about in the cafe though

Oh no, TwoBees, that's just awful! That kind of story makes me even more resolute that I'm not going to tell anyone when I go into labour and will only contact them when everything's ok and we're settled - it could be a day or so, or a week. DH has been fully briefed on this already as the in-laws only live a 15 minute drive away.

I think we won't tell anyone until the baby is here and we're about to head back home. Then they can make appointments luckily I'm quite scary, so no one will turn up uninvited. My family lives abroad and only my sister and husband plan to come over after. But they plan to come probably a month after to make sure baby is born yet.

Abbey I've got an anterior placenta as well and only just started to feel movements. I'm 21 weeks today. It's quite muffled, but I've not got anything to compare it to, as it's my first. Today was the first day I was sure to feel baby and not bowels or trapped wind.

I'm really worried about what to do with dd when I go into labour. Don't have anyone locally- have friends and colleagues but not anyone I could ask (we haven't lived here long).
My mum will be coming to stay for a few days every week or two but realistically with twins, I could probably expect to go into labour any time from about 32 weeks. As it will take my mum 3 hours to get here, I may end up having to go to hospital alone and dh join me later.
So stressful that it's so unpredictable.

My mum is a midwife at the hospital where I will give birth, so don't think I'd be able to keep it a secret from her but she would never just barge in so I think we're safe!

That's amazing karmanna, would you like her to be your midwife when you give birth?

guy that sounds tricky - hope your mum is able to make it in time.

And wow to having a mum working at the hospital as a midwife - would you have her as your midwife?

These stories about people turning up make me nervous - my parents live very near to us but they are cool and wouldn't turn up until I tell them. MIL is another story. She lives about an hour away but I can guarantee she'll be dashing across london. I've told DH I don't want her knowing until I've given birth but he feels it's unfair if I tell my mum and not his. I've explained - my mum would never ever turn up announced or without asking and second I speak to my mum a million times a day so it's going to be pretty hard to keep it a secret. I'm probably being unreasonable but she annoys me. The other thing - she will within minutes have told EVERYONE. And I mean everyone. The woman does not have a discreet button.

Also a really dumb question - how do you know you have an anterior placenta. Do they tell you at your scan?

I would urge those of you on your first babies to tell no one when you go into labour. My regular contractions started on the Tuesday night. Almost told my mum but didn't. And thank goodness. Baby didn't arrive until the Friday night. My mum would have been so worried all that time and I would have felt very stressed knowing she was waiting for news!

This is making me rethink what I was going to do... My mum lives nearly 2 hours away and was going to have her come over and stay at our house when I go into hospital which I though would be a comfort.. Now I'm not so sure, she's not the interfering type and would absolutely wait on us hand and foot when we return. Our PIL live just round the corner and MIL particularly can be slightly over bearing but they can just visit and then go away. I'm thinking maybe we will get home and then decide if we want to see anyone, not sure it'll be physically possible to keep them away for long though.

The latest I could have the baby would be about 13th December so was going to volunteer to have Christmas at our house so other people can cook and I don't even have to get dressed if necessary.. Bad idea??

They tell you where the placenta is at the 20 week scan. My first was low, this one is anterior (not usually a problem but mine might grow into the scar potentially). Placentas are bastards.

alittlebit as long as youve got space and specify to people that they're doing the cooking then sounds like a good plan. We were going to have Xmas at ours last year (dd was born 3rd Nov) but ended up having a little family Xmas as a 3 which was really lovely. Family came up on boxing day which was completely mental- picture a room full of people and presents, not enough chairs, Xmas music and a screaming baby trying to breastfeed while people piled presents and chocolatea on my knee. Not sure what were doing this year as we'll have 2. Trying not to think about it!

Re. Childcare when I'm in labour- we've got nobody up here so our only option is for MIL to come and stay leading up to the birth. She's really lovely and has already said that she'll stay out of the way and just take dd off our hands but still... Its either that or go alone while dh has dd.

Well I figure if it's just the 3 of us I'll end up looking after the baby and cooking, potentially a bit of help with the cooking from the husband but he uses every pot and pan we own so will be a massive mess to clear up, whereas if we have family round they will do that. It's been discussed and they seem on board with the idea but just going to play it by ear, don't suppose we need to make a decision about it now

Guy that sounds tricky. Could you try to get chatting to some neighbours and hope to make friends so you can ask them if they would have her in an emergency? I think under normal circumstances it would be a big ask for someone you didn't know very well to look after your child for a few hours and you might feel a bit cheeky asking, but people will go out of the way to be helpful when a new baby is involved. How old is your dd and is she happy to be left with other people?

I second guy on not telling people til after if you can. Especially because you can have alot of false alarms and early labour can last days! With dd we thought my waters went at 38 weeks, an overly excited dh then proceeded to call EVERYONE to tell them, only to have to call back a few hours later to say actually, I'd just peed myself ?? thanks alot love!

Both our parents are on the other side of the world, I'd love if we could make it home for Christmas but will just enjoy the three of us this year. So hard having parents so far away especially as they are so excited.