November 2015 Thread - Teams Yellow, Pink and Blue selection has started!

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For all those lovely bumps incubating until last few days of Oct and all November, spilling possibly over to December for the super comfortable babies- come and chat, rant, vent, chant, glow, sweat, watch nails grow whilst doing antenatal pilates/yoga/sleeping/eating/navel gazing and over analyse to your hormones content!

Optional - FB group is up and bumping, PM me with email to be added.

My 16 week appointment started out as a complete anticlimax as well. All she did was read my my blood results and take my blood pressure. I was so annoyed at having to leave work early just for that! She said she wouldn't do heartbeat as they don't do it until 25 weeks. In the end though I asked her to examine my tummy and tell my where my uterus was as I had no bump or anything. Once I was lying down she said 'shall I try for the heartbeat' so I was very glad I pushed for more.

Am another one with an appointment with the anaethnatist. Mines in August I think. I have EDS (genetic connective tissue disorder) which means I react weirdly to local anasthetic. As in it doesn't usually work - when I've had it at the dentist it takes ages to numb me up because it usually takes about 4 doses. When I saw the (horrible) consultant she referred me as I'm quite worried about having an epidural or even an EMCS and the anasthetic not working!

Had our private scan today, baby was looking nice and well albeit awkwardly positioned and had to return later on..... We are team blue!! So happy :)

Gahh, ladies when your babies are here, be firm with your parents and in laws. My dads been here for the last few days and has woken dd up for a cuddle more times than I can count. He also wanted to go and kiss her goodnight once I'd eventually got her to sleep, but I put my foot down there. Its been exhausting. He's also decided that I'm having another girl because he doesn't like the boys name we picked. Three days of "when your little sister is here..." Gahhhh. Sorry for the moan.

I agree with annatha! When DS was born, all the grandparents came to 'help'. My parents I felt like I ended up waiting on them a bit. And the in laws...I could hardly prize the baby off them, so both extremes. We'd been in hospital a week so they thought I'd had DS to myself loads, but hardly, as it was a constant stream of midwives, doctors etc. And all DHs paternity leave had finished. I just wanted it to be us 3.
They are coming to help this time. I've said "as long as you actually do help with DS whilst I bond with DC2" hopefully it's clear!

annatha

I've already had to be very straight with DP; when his daughter was born his parents flew in for the week before and week after the birth, basically just WAITING. I am not having that. In fairness, his ex was very close to them and I have only met them a few times but I am drawing the line. They will get a call after the baby is born and then I will see when I feel up to them staying (they will want to stay a few days I'm sure).

It does mean in the interests of fairness I've told my own parents I probably won't be able to have them around either. I have to say they've been so good about it, they just say whatever I need is what they'll do. Weep.

I ended up waiting on mine too Abbey, I was a bit shell shocked from giving birth so when dh's entire family turned up demanding cuddles I just pottered in the background making cups of tea and getting an exhausted dd handed to me when she needed feeding or changing. As she's got older and we've got more of a routine I've been better at saying no to them when I can see she's getting overtired or stressed but with all our family I'm made out to be the spoilsport when I take dd back to put her down for a nap in another room or refuse to let them feed her chocolate or god knows what. Dad got her an easter egg and tried to buy her a magnum earlier. She's 7 months old!!!

stalphonsos you've got to do what's best for you, sod everyone else, including DPs if they aren't in agreement with you. You're the one giving birth after all! My family were offended that I refused to have visitors in hospital (aside from dh of course). I was in less than 24 hours in the end but I wanted to be able to recover a little before the world and his wife came to meet the baby. Can you tell I'm not a people person

Shattered tonight. Just place marking and will catch up tomorrow.

I think we have the same family annatha the pass them round until they cry and then give them back is a family classic here too. As well as thinking I'm unreasonable for not letting DS have a digestive. He's only just managing lumpy purée not a biscuit that's hard and half the size of his face

Haha. I was the opposite. Told everyone to stay the fuck away until we said so. After a couple of days, begged my mum and mil to come.
My mum came and stayed one night a week for the first two months and took dd the whole night as I was suffering a level of sleep deprivation which made me lose my mind. This time I'm hoping they both move in.

I found my parents and pil a bit of an annoyance when DD was tiny. - she was bf and only wanted mummy so there wasn't much they could do to help. However now she is a toddler they are great as they are happy to take her to the park so can have a break, and have the patience to read the same book 70 billion times over. So don't push them away too much!

Just checking in to new thread. This time round will be very different, last time I was living at my parents' house.

Ah they're OK really. But if we've got all 4 in-laws staying, myself (possibly after a cs), DH, a newborn and a 1 year old, they'll at least have to put the kettle on this time

I'd give anything to be able to have my family and friends around me, but really what I want is to be able to go home. I'm very lonely, and I'm seeing DP about once a month at the moment. I worked out earlier that apart from my birthday, when I went out with DP, I've been out once this year. Stupid emigration.

I'm going home next week for combined work/holidays, and I don't dare think beyond that. I'm crying even thinking about it. Bloody hormones.

I'm on the fourth so no room to have anyone to stay any way but actually no one ever has! Just always had my husband home for 2 weeks. I think he will just have a week off this time as he will be having 2 weeks at Christmas anyway. Plus I'm a dab hand at it now I'm sure I'll cope she says now!
My mum will just pop in and helps out with school pick up etc and helps with washing. But I've already got 3 helpers haven't i!
But if you think when we have our November babies it will be run up to Christmas and quite manic anyway! The latest mine will be born is the 6 th dec.

We tend to have people to stay because we don't have any family nearby. My parents are 300 miles away, Nick's are in another country so no one can just 'pop in' unfortunately.

Same here, it's 3 hours each way for my parents so they can't really pop in. When they came to the hospital after DS was born I just burst into tears and demanded more drugs. I was also still connected to the drip, blood etc and I was really cross about it (no idea why, I think I thought I was going home if off them!) Totally out of character for me and I don't really remember them being there, only vaguely. That was embarrassing, but I guess they got to see DS at one day old

Rereading my posts this morning and I sound like a right bitch. I love our family to bits and everyone dotes on dd, I just found it really overbearing to have a house full of people to feed and make cups of tea for straight after having a baby. We have no family nearby so they don't get to see her often, which is why I think that they try and squeeze every minute out of their visit with her, which is understandable but I think they forget that she's only little and needs naps.

You don't sound like a bitch at all! The reason I'd be so happy to have my folks is because they'd make ME tea and food. Catering after having a baby is lunacy.

We don't have any family nearby & feel quite strongly about it being just the three of us for a week when the time comes. Our only issue is due to DP's job, there's a small chance he'll be away when I go into labour in which case it would be wonderful to have my mum nearby. Pity she's in a different country

I love our family too and realise we're lucky to have them in the same country. After we got home though after over a week in hospital I just wanted to sleep when DS was asleep and I was also expressing (unsuccessfully) as he had trouble feeding, which I know I shouldn't be embarrassed about but it took time and I didn't want an audience.
When the midwife came round I had to say "errrrr she's going to want to look at my pad and scar, can you all pop out" it was a very small flat so not much room / privacy if lots of people round.
I know it's selfish but I'm still gutted we never got that paternity leave time as a 3 either, as we were in hospital for most of it

My mum lives hundreds of miles away :( I think she will come down for a few days but I'm suggesting a hotel! PIL live close but are not pushy so hopefully they will be a help and not a hinderance! Hadn't thought about these things yet :-/

Lovely news on the scans abbey nomore & ShortLashes. Mine is tomorrow - quite nervous hoping all is ok. I've had lots of movement though which is nice.
Regarding visitors my aunty turned up uninvited at the hospital with my mum after my son was born and then in laws were round within an hour of being home. I didn't want any of it! This time will be even harder to keep people away because someone will need to be with ds

Might ask this on pregnancy thread but have any of you got/ tried pregnancy exercise DVDs? Can you recommend any? Ta x

I use 10 minute solutions prenatal Pilates, I really like it. It has 5 or 6 different 10 minute workouts so you can do as many as you like. I also use YouTube- PopSugar Fitness has about 6 or 7 10 minute prenatal exercise routines you can mix and match.

I bought the dvd from Amazon I think.