February 2016 babies - let the chundering commence

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Stats sheet here :) docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1dWmvdD9SkvPQqKn7rpFHazgufmda2FOTMtL093cZFj8/htmlview

We will briefly have 3 people off on mat leave at the same time so I'm dreading telling my manager, elephantfeet !

Firsttimemummy - my precious mumsnet group also moved to Facebook. It is still going strong and is great fun! All totally private from the rest of facebook.
Would anyone else be interested in setting one up?

Raaaaaah I've got 40th b'day of my brother this weekend! I always ask for a beer when I'm visiting him , so it will be veeery suspicious. Also there will be some fresh mums in that crowd, so don't know how I'm going to lie. I'm also staying next day with my brother and his wife as It's in London. I will have to find excuses for a runny egg(my favourite) etc. I will try to look not suspicious and order vodka(not) cranberry, but if they will find out, I will say I had food poisoning and doctors were suspecting salmonella(aversion to runny egg) so I'm on antibiotics. I will probably try to find some old packet for those who will be too suspicious ;)

Congrats to all new BFP!

I mean joining, I could set it up

twins yes it is totally private group set up so no one can see you are a member or any posts. It has been great and it's soo much easier to keep up with posts on Facebook than on the massive mumsnet threads!

I know there were some people last time who were reluctant to move to Facebook for privacy reasons (I was one) but it has honestly just been great

Haha. Typo. I mean previous not precious!!

And yes the Facebook app is much easier keep up with

I quit Facebook. won't be able to join you ladies

Raaaaaah we also don't want to tell anyone before 12 weeks, but will see my DP family and my dad in July before my 12week scan and I just feel it would be better to tell them personally.
Then I will tell my brother at first occasion he will actually call me and ask me how am I.. if he won't, then he will have a surprise when I show up for Xmas with a big bump! haha

Last time one person set the secret group up and then she added everyone as her a friend who wanted to join, then when they were her friend she could add them to the secret group and they were able to delete her as a friend after that if they wanted. It worked quite well. There are 60 of us still in the group now. As it was my first baby last time I don't know what I'd have done without the information and support I got from joining! Anyway I'll stop going on about it now!! It just worked so well I thought I'd bring it up here in case people were keen

If you really don't want people to know don't use the antibiotics excuse, it's so common it may as well be a pregnancy announcement if you say that! Also, you can drink on near enough all antibiotics these days. I went to a party at the weekend, I accepted a drink and just pretended to drink it for the whole time! Occasionally I 'lost' my glass somewhere so had to have a refill but I think I got away with it.
I did get thirsty though because i wasn't drinking anything so I went to the loo to have some water that I had stashed in my bag.
If you don't want to do that, I would go for a headache or getting over a bug or something. Say you were feeling rough/headache/migraine this morning and you thought you would have to cancel, but luckily perked up a bit and really wanted to be at the event so came along anyway. You don't want to risk alcohol incase the headache comes back

firsttimemummy. An admin can add people using an email address. You don't need to be FB friends. Also about 80 still going strong with the one year olds on my group. I am not FB friends with most of them.

Carlton. I like the headache excuse.
For me the antibiotics story just basically says "don't ask"! Of course some always would

I think it depends who it is twins! Most of my friends definitely would ask!!

I like the Facebook idea, but what if someone on here knows us in real life? Your pregnancy is outed!

Ha! Funny you should say that Carlton. Last time, when the mumsnet group moved to Facebook and I joined the group there was AN OLD COLLEAGUE THERE!!
Haha, so funny. But tbh, who understands the need for secrecy better than ourselves right? It wasn't an issue

I feel very watched and have started many rumours but not drinking simply because I didn't fancy it! I would expect people to ask if I was pregnant if they thought so, just to wait until I told them. My biggest give away is being off tea!
FYI u can't drink on metronidazole which is commonly used for tooth infections so that's a good one to use!

Oh god I would die! I haven't even told my mother yet!!

I'm in a Facebook group from nm when I had my lo. They are an amazing group of women and have been a great source of support! I have a feeling there maybe some of them on here!
Tbh I think I'd wait to join one a little latter in the pregnancy as I would the be harder to leave if I was no longer pregnant! Sorry to b negative!

The FB groups sound great!

I've got a 30th this weekend and is very unlike me not too drink plus I used the driving excuse the other week so I know our friends will suss if I say I'm on antibiotics.

I've had to get my OH to book annual leave so he can sneak me lemonade when no ones looking

I honestly don't see how FB would be more practical/beneficial if only less private! We do have great deal of support here and we are all great ladies and our chats are nothing less than they would be on FB. There was also some photo sharing and there is a private message option.
But that's only my opinion , since I went over FB and I'm not a big fan of it any more, mostly due to lack of privacy (FB and companies can still target you) but also because it's just a marketing platform.

I'm happy to make friends here and MN does provide opportunity to do that(plus local groups).

I just hope ladies that if you set up the FB group , you won't just leave me here alone ;)

Thanks all for your kind words ladies, he's away tonight for work then also Thursday and Friday nights for the funeral, so I think I'll tell him on Saturday when things quieten down a bit... I don't have a choice anyway, it's not like I can keep it quiet forever, hoping he won't notice!!

Just like Firsttimemummyy someone in the MN thread I was part of for my 13 months old created a Facebook group and it's been an invaluable source of support. It sort of replaced NCT for me as I didn't do it the second time round. Has anyone created a Feb 2016 FB group yet?

Xx

I'm not completely opposed to the idea of a fb group but I do like the anonymity of being on here...Mind you I do realise the secret groups are completely secret. I think for me it's about not sharing anything personal with people who could potentially know people I work with (I'm a sw).

No one has made one yet Zeriously, but it looks like there might be enough interest to kick one off.
With a couple of other 13 month olds on here i am also starting to wonder if I might recognise a few people
I hope the next few days isn't too stressful for you Zeriously

Thanks for the welcome :)

I'll need to figure out when my due date actually is but I've put a 'best guess' in the spreadsheet for now.

Thanks to all who shared useful tips re: what to do on a night out (got 2 weddings this weekend and next!). I was going to use the antibiotics excuse but even my husband said that one was naff. I like the 'getting over a bug' one. I look like death warmed up anyway at the moment, so it might just work!

Hi eggs! And welcome newbies. Just catching up on everything I've missed today so apologies for the long post!

Raviolig that's really interesting. How was your dd when you fed the new baby? My dd shows no signs of wanting to wean yet.
Twins my dd will hardly take any milk from a sippy cup either - I give her one in the mornings now but she usually just throws it on the kitchen floor lol! Good luck dropping the night feed.

Ratty that's lovely news!

Zerious good luck telling dh!

I've been drinking tea pigs teas. Not cheap but absolutely delicious & really good for you.

I am totally interested in a fb group. My first time mummy friends have one too & it's fab ????