February 2016 babies - let the chundering commence

[jellypi3]

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Welcome emin :)

elephant the biggest challenge for us is saving for a wedding and baby. We knew we would have to whilst we were TTC but we just thought it wasn't going to happen for us so never though of it properly if that makes sense! Paid deposits for church and reception venue so got to go ahead with it now.

elephant congrats on the house too! We are hoping to move in the next few months too, hopefully we can get somewhere with a little garden
eminado welcome and congratulations! Do you know your due date?

Eminado, I am just drooling over 'oscillating'

Elephant, I would seriously consider postponing your wedding. You will quite possibly be the most sleep deprived you have ever been in your entire life. You may have PND. You will definately feel you are the toughest you have ever looked. You may have a Velcro baby who is deman-feeding every 2-3 hours. You will have forgotten what make up is for. You possibly still will be uncomfortable sitting. Your tits will be leaking. You will feel like a fat Shit when everyone else is looking glamorous.

Other than that it should be a smashing day

*toughest = roughest!

*definitely!

I really appreciate the honesty purdie I am so torn now! I guess I will find out on Thursday when the EDD actually is and I will take it from there. It will be good to have DP home to actually talk about this stuff as he is far more realistic than me, I tend to just think everything will be fine. I was mostly worried about how we were going to pay for it and save for the baby as we had planned the savings for wedding after house deposit, baby was meant to be next year!

I second purdie you will almost definitely be very tired and torn between not wanting to leave your baby for a single second when they are that small. If I were you I would try to bring the wedding forward to Christmas ish time and get a gorgeous floaty maternity wedding dress

Lovely new thread jelly, very apt title

Welcome and congrats eminado and any others I've missed.

Feeling pretty nauseous this evening - felt rough yesterday evening too. First time I've ever had just evening sickness but at the moment it seems quite manageable!

Elephant I'm sure whenever it happens your wedding will be fantastic... Can't wait to hear how your scan goes on Thursday!

Marking my place, welcome to Eminado! ??

Thanks for the new thread!!! I'm mnetting from my hotel room. I work in business tourism which is how I get to go places.

But BA offloaded me today - bastards and I had to get a later flight. Grrr so only just got to hotel and am knackered. Am I am SO bloated I had to undo my jeans on the flight.

This is my first baby so I'm not finding out. I'm going to leave it as a surprise

Charlotte I do think perhaps you should speak to the midwife about your anxiety as it's not good for you,

As for trying to blag a scan, I've had 3 mc's - trust me, the terror and fear you feel when you realise you actually are bleeding is something you never ever want to experience. I will never forget it. The pain was so horrendous I had to go to A&E and have morphine and I was literally gushing.

The best thing to do is talk to your GP and midwife and go through your fears and maybe you'll get your scan for the reasons you need.

Have you tried acupuncture? I'm having it weekly as I'm terrified too and it's helping.

Take it a day at a time and each day - tell yourself "today I am pregnant"- sounds naff but it's true. You are pregnant!

No I wasn't going to lie about having bleeding or anything I was just going to explain how anxious I was. We would pay for a blood test if necessary.
I just keep coming back to that sodding cb indicator test. Something must have been wrong for it to go back down to 1-2 and then up again to 2-3. Maybe hcg levels aren't right? I know I can do nothing about it but we were going to have more donor treatment in the summer. I'm a teacher too so only chance is in the summer holidays.
If and when this fails all it'll mean is that we won't be able to go to Spain for donor treatment because my cycles will be way way out. This may tip me over the edge. We would have to wait until next summer to try again.

Sorry to hear about your previous miscarriage Brummie - I hope all goes well with this pregnsncy.

Charlotte! Stay out of the future! The future doesn't exist yet - it is all in your mind. All we have is the present and right now you are pregnant with not a single sign you are miscarrying. Please get a grip on this. How far along are you?

4+6 or 5 weeks today. Very very very early.
I've tried to get a grip and the grip comes along periodically but then disappears altogether at night! Not so bad in the day when I'm busy but at night...

Thanks for the new Fred.

Marking place for when I'm not too tired/hormonal/nauseous to write something.

charlotte can you afford to book a private early scan? It would give you a date that you can focus on and will reassure you that everything is where it should be

We can but I thought it might be inconclusive for another couple of weeks and that might make it worse? At 5 weeks you wouldn't see a heartbeat would you?
Sanity returns occasionally but then disappears into the distance again. I just cannot shake this bad feeling.

Maybe book it for 2 weeks time? At least it would give you a date to find out either way

Had lots of comments I wanted to reply to from last thread but how I've managed to stay awake this late is a miracle already and I'm not going to push it. If I still remember in the morning (still have baby brain from my last pg!) I have lots to say then, I'm sure by the end of 9 months you'll be fed up of my extra long posts I always have been a chatterbox good night

Charlotte if you are anxious then FFS don't book an early scan until 7/8 weeks. I made the mistake of having one when I thought I was 6+4. They can't measure accurately at that stage and the result was me spending THE most stressful week of my life worrying that I would lose the baby. I had to go back in a week and have another scan which showed growth and a heartbeat. I lost the baby a week later. What I'm saying here is that scans and worry just won't affect how your pregnancy turns out. Nothing but nature will, my love. We're all playing the waiting game here until we eventually get to hold our babies so for the time being just hang out here, know that time will pass and with each day you don't bleed your little bean is getting stronger. As others have said maybe it's worth going to see your GP and asking for a referral to a midwife who specialises in antenatal mental health In the meantime, we're all here to support each other.

elephant Wow that will be a small gap between wedding and baby. Can you bring it forward? Although it's so hard if people have paid money out already.

I'm currently enjoying my two hour commute Debating what to have for breakfast this morning and how best to hide the nausea in a large open plan office...

Oh and GUESS WHAT. My fucking neighbour asked me if I was pregnant yesterday. We had friends round on Friday and we were talking about dog names (we were considering getting one prior to BFP). Nosey neighbour overheard and popped up over the garden fence yesterday, told me what she'd heard and asked if I was pregnant. WHAT THE FUCK. Why would anyone do that? Of course I'm a terrible liar so I went "Errrrrrrr...yeah but we've not told anyone yet" and gave her my best raised eyebrows / why are you asking me this face. She went bright red and scuttled off. I am so annoyed, with her for being so fucking nosey and me for not lying. We haven't even told most of our family and friends yet

(I'm aware that I need to get a grip and in the grand scheme of things, her knowing is not a big deal but in my hormonal state it really pissed me off)

Morning all! Thanks for the new thread jelly. Well, after a mini wobble last night cos I hadn't had any symptoms over the weekend, the nausea is back well and truly this morning hoorah! I'm hoping to get a call from the midwife today, offering me an early appointment as per my GP request (high risk - high BMI, previous MMC, ruptured uterus during ERPC, and I'm old), but we shall see. I've started taking aspirin 75mg daily as advised by GP, and I've been signed off work for 2 week to rest (very stressful and active job). All I can do is wait and see. As a pp said "today I am pregnant". If anything happens at least today I have had a week of being pregnant which, having been told 13 or14 years ago that I'm infertile, is so much more than I could have dreamt of.

Morning!
I am trying to hold off buying another evil evil EVIL cb digi because I want to see it say 3+! I know I'm definitely 5 weeks now so it should say 3+ if all is ok. On the other hand there are some women who never get a a 3+ and although for most it doesn't seem a great sign what if I'm one of the anomalies and get earlier than 3+ but everything is ok? So I think I'm going to fight the urge.
Boobs definitely bigger and sore and felt sick first thing but it comes and goes. I feel really sick for ten minutes or so and then it passes. Not sure if it's in my head.

Hope everyone has a good day!

That's a good mentality to have isla. I'm of course worried as we all are at this stage, and even my early scan on Friday doesn't help me feel much better but at least today I am pregnant. And so many women have successful pregnancies, each day is a day of giving our beans a better chance at growing into babies, there's no reason we shouldn't all have lovely new babies in February.

As horrific as miscarriages are, let's all try to keep a positive frame of mind at this stage or we are all likely to go a bit loopy!

Oh and nausea is back for me too, currently on the train hoping I don't have a repeat performance like last week.

Hi girls, hope you don't mind me popping in to say hi. There are girls from the bumsnet thread in here who I was looking in on. .

I only wanted to say to sweetcharlotte rose. CB DIGI WITH INDICATOR. These things should be banned. I had exactly the same experience with these stupid tests early on, and I nearly made myself sick worrying. They are total crap - fact. Don't take any notice of them. I am now 11 weeks and all is as well as can be.

Also, please go and see your gp. Anxiety is an insidious rotten ailment. I have suffered 15 years on and off paralysing anxiety. I have been on meds for years, and had to stop them to ttc. I started cbt. It's life changing and drug free and actually teaches you head not to sabotage your life. It may be worth trying to get an emergency referral, or even paying for private sessions if funds allow. sweet please look after all of you and please let yourself believe that this is real xxxx