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Feb 2016 early early days...

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sparklesandfizz · 22/05/2015 10:39

So BFP this am. Edd 30/1/16 however this is dc4 and the othe 3 have all been at least 2 weeks late.
Starting this thread to preserve my sanity next January. If I join the jan lot I'll be left on my tod so...I'm 35 this will be dc4 if all goes well, cycle 2 of trying so feeling blessed.
Roll up roll up, come and join me clutching your BFP and wondering exactly what you've let yourself in for x

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jellypi3 · 03/06/2015 19:48

I get the dampness so don't worry about that :)

I've still not had a booking appointment from the midwife :(

jellypi3 · 03/06/2015 19:49

elephant congrats, how far along are you? You won't need to see a doctor but you might need to ringing your GP to refer yourself to a midwife

elephantfeet · 03/06/2015 19:59

Thanks jelly, I am not sure, I have a vague recollection of last AF being around mid/late April, so 5 weeks maybe?
Enough along for the line to appear as soon as the wee hit the stick at 7pm anyway Shock
I have had period pain-like cramps all week so when AF didn't appear I thought I should just make sure...

Raffertys · 03/06/2015 20:07

Welcome elephant and congrats.

I'm guessing you want to tell DP in person. If you're not sure how far along you are might be worth making a GP appointment, they may refer you for an early scan.

nightandthelight · 03/06/2015 20:12

Welcome elephant :) I rang my GP and they didn't give me the option of an appt, just explained that I would see the midwife in three weeks! Makes it seem to unreal. I reckon if you mention that you are unsure about timings they will see you though :)

elephantfeet · 03/06/2015 20:16

I do want to tell him in person as he's a bit of a worrier, he isn't in a place where I can call him and I definitely don't want to text! He actually said "you're not pregnant are you" the other day when I cried at Britain's got talent..eek!

Mawsymoo · 03/06/2015 20:43

Birdbrain I'm the same with DS - just no energy for the poor little mite in the evenings. I'm om my own all next weekend and I'm dreading it already.

Mind you today I have been feeling great which is starting to worry me. I hope I wake up tomorrow feeling a bit lousy again.

Welcome everyone new!

pretzelpieces · 03/06/2015 21:15

I'm the same mawsy, have been feeling much less ill today and trying to enjoy it instead of worrying something's wrong but I find the nausea reassuring though there's no logical basis to that really

rallytog1 · 03/06/2015 21:38

I'm the same too. I've been totally symptom-less for the past couple of days. My mw didn't sound concerned when I mentioned it to her (she phoned to arrange my booking appointment) and I think I didn't have many symptoms at this point last time around, but it's so difficult not to worry, isn't it?

purdiepie · 03/06/2015 21:39

Welcome and congratulations to the newbies Smile

Rufus, what is happening, love. Are you okay? Thanks

Wildflower, why would you say no-one cares or wants to listen? Confused

Bird, when I got home from work tonight I could have cried with the exhaustion that had been building all day. My baby is 14 months old and my DH is a SAHD so he packed me off to bed and I woke up feeling much better about an hour ago. You are really going to need the help and understanding and selflessness of your partner in these early weeks when fatigue/sickness sets in, so don't let him make you feel guilty for palming the toddler off on him when you need rest. It takes two to make a baby.

My nipples are stinging summat rotten and I am bloated, nauseous and dog tired. I am so grateful to have these symptoms Smile

birdbrain21 · 03/06/2015 21:47

Purdie the problem is I get back from work with my 2 year old a couple of hours before DH (he can't get back earlier) and although he was agreeable to more it was me who was really desperate for another baby wanted one since I left the hospital with dd It's just hard to adjust to pg with a toddler, last time I was in bed 5pm every day for a couple of hours when I got home. I don't want her to be suffering because of my tiredness Sad and dh thinks I'm fobbing him off from dtd also because of tiredness, which it partly is I also feel sick at the thought of being touched at the moment Hmm hope I start feeling more normal soon I'm never very horny at the best of times so this is a bit of a long standing issue that's just getting worse at the moment and I don't want dh to resent the baby if you know what I mean

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elephantfeet · 03/06/2015 22:10

How do people manage not to say anything? I have only known for 3 hours and I can't imagine keeping schtum for another 6/7 weeks, I'm already fit to burst Grin

purdiepie · 03/06/2015 22:25

Bird, I understand, but your DP needs to fully comprehend how tough these first few weeks are without inferring you are exaggerating your symptoms. Your toddler will not remember that mummy was a bit distant or fatigued when she was two years old, I promise. Lob a DVD on, sit her in front of it and lie on the sofa until DP comes home. Keep communicating how you feel and reiterate how love-making will resume when you feel more normal. My libido was destroyed with long-term ttc so I make sure DH feels sexually wanted in all kinds of other ways. I also tell him lots how great a dad he is and how much I need him, etc. Just try to be kind to each other and the rest will follow.

purdiepie · 03/06/2015 22:29

Elephant, I have told my parents, sister and nieces, two best friends, two baby group friends, six close acquaintances on fb (privately), my two bosses at work, my neighbour, my mum's neighbour, my aunt & uncle and my friend, Asif, who runs the corner shop. If I lose this baby, these are the people I most want to comfort me and get me through it.

Rufus200 · 03/06/2015 22:51

Purdie I'm ok thanks, had a bath about 5 hrs ago and discharge has been normal since, no colour of any sort. Still having cramps. DH has been wonderful and said we don't have to go abroad if I don't feel up to it. Just going to wait and see what happens in next 48hrs. Stopping all exercise for the next few weeks.

elephantfeet · 03/06/2015 22:59

Ah ok..I have just spoken to DP (made him find a phone) and he is happy but worrying about how we will manage as we already have so much else going on this year- in the middle of buying house which needs a lot of work, big holiday in August for family members wedding, our own wedding next year and so on it goes!! So I think we will have to re-think things now. I knew he was going to worry but at least now he knows I can tell my mum!

Brummiegirl15 · 03/06/2015 23:02

Elephant I've told my Mum, Dad, sister, close friend who has previously mc'd, and my 2 Directors at work.

pretzelpieces · 03/06/2015 23:14

rufus will keep fingers crossed for you Thanks

Curlywurlies · 03/06/2015 23:20

Tossed I did the same thing with the same result! Don't know why I POASd, I knew as I was doing it it was stupid! 5 weeks today, got 2-3 a week ago and 2-3 again today. Feel very silly now and trying not to worry. I've read what everyone said before and understand there's no point but couldn't resist :-) clinging onto every sore boob bump and slight burp as good signs instead Grin

Boobear1983 · 04/06/2015 05:01

I've told my supervisor at work as i have a physical job and ahe was great, she said don't do anything i don't want to and it's up to me when i tell people and become office bound..haven't told any friends or family and don't intend to until I've had the 12 week scan. Dh can't wait to tell people! An annoyinh symptom I've developed is waking up daily at 4 am

Mawsymoo · 04/06/2015 06:42

Getting worried here - I'm feeling even better this morning. Boobs are fine too. After feeling so rough on Tuesday this is worrying me. But there's nothing I can do so I'll just sit tight.

I'm not need planning on telling anyone until after 12 weeks, but if I have a mc I know I will tell some friends so I know that doesn't make sense!

Raffertys · 04/06/2015 06:45

My boobs are still killing me; taking my bra off at the end of the day is torture. Nausea is increasing steadily. I find the only thing that helps is eating; it's worse when I'm peckish cue hideous weight gain

I've told both sets of parents and a few very close friends who supported me through my MC. Everyone else can wait until 12 weeks. I want DS to know before the whole world.

Valiant1 · 04/06/2015 07:49

Hubby knows and slimming consultant. I have just been offered my dream job am not sure what to do ??

roobanya · 04/06/2015 07:51

Hi everyone, can I tentatively join you? Got a faint line yesterday and a 1-2 weeks on a digi this morning. It really doesn't feel real! I had thought that this cycle was out because DH was away for 10 days right over ovulation time. However for some reason ovulation was a week late so we must have managed to time the welcome home dtd just right.

I'm 13dpo today and I had some bleeding two days ago which is concerning me a little. It wasn't really red but came when I would have expected AF so I think it would be too late for implantation bleeding. Anyway, I'm going with the positive tests for now and keeping everything crossed.

EDD is 7th Feb but I suspect it will actually be a week later due to late ovulation. No symptoms at all so far and I have no idea what to do with myself!