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November 2015 mums to be! Here we are! Our bus is decorated with scan pics, our appetites are beginning to heal, and spring is in the air!

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Focusfocus · 30/04/2015 10:16

Here is the new thread for November ladies! Let's smell the flowers, regain our sense of taste and keep chatting!

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cryingbabymess · 17/05/2015 11:07

My LMP was 9th Feb and every weekend up until my BFP on 15th March I was drinking and smoking everyday so please don't worry!

BowiesJumper · 17/05/2015 11:12

Morning all. Hope you're all well!

Sleepless, it's natural to worry about these things! I think they did a study of women who conceived around Christmas and weren't aware (and therefore drank lots) and women who conceived at other times of year and didn't drink, and there was no statistical correlation with any 'harm' to the babies- ie it didn't make a difference. So try not to worry! I know that's easier said than done.

It's natural to focus your anxiety on one area.

woody17 · 17/05/2015 11:38

Hello - I had my 12 week scan on Friday and am due on 24th November. This is going to be dc2 - ds is going to be 2 at the start of July. Feeling a bit nervous about having a toddler and a baby! Trying to decide whether or not to find out the sex at the 20 week scan.

TakesTwoToTango · 17/05/2015 12:42

Sleepless, you poor thing. Anxiety is a horrible, suffocating condition. But you don't have to feel this way and although worries in pregnancy are normal, the torment you are going through is not and you need to reach out to the professionals to help you. I echo what the others have said, your baby will be fine. But sadly I doubt anon women online are going to be able on our own to relieve you of your anxiety. You need to go back to your midwife and gp and explain to them that your worries have got out of control, you are crying all the time and really struggling to cope with your prenatal anxiety. Get them to refer you to the mental health midwife if they can and/or any other therapies they can suggest. Prenatal anxiety is very common and can be treated and overcome. I can assure you that once you are feeling mentally well again, you will not need a bunch of women on the Internet to reassure you about your early drinking as you will be able to put it in perspective yourself. In the meantime be kind to yourself. Your body and brain are awash with unfamiliar hormones and it is time of major adjustment in any woman's life. Don't feel guilty for leaning on your nearest and dearest for support when you need it. Good luck!

Sleeplessinnorthlondon · 17/05/2015 13:22

Thank you all for your kind words. My best friend took my out for breakfast this morning (didn't know was going crackers, wanted to talk about fun new developments in love life!) and talking it through with to fresh impartial ears made me feel so so much better as have your messages. It's so strange how this all comes and goes and think will make appt with mental health midwife through UCH to get some support as can't be good for baby if this continues. Thank you so much everyone xxxx

Sleeplessinnorthlondon · 17/05/2015 13:22

Thank you all for your kind words. My best friend took my out for breakfast this morning (didn't know was going crackers, wanted to talk about fun new developments in love life!) and talking it through with to fresh impartial ears made me feel so so much better as have your messages. It's so strange how this all comes and goes and think will make appt with mental health midwife through UCH to get some support as can't be good for baby if this continues. Thank you so much everyone xxxx

Sleeplessinnorthlondon · 17/05/2015 13:22

Thank you all for your kind words. My best friend took my out for breakfast this morning (didn't know was going crackers, wanted to talk about fun new developments in love life!) and talking it through with to fresh impartial ears made me feel so so much better as have your messages. It's so strange how this all comes and goes and think will make appt with mental health midwife through UCH to get some support as can't be good for baby if this continues. Thank you so much everyone xxxx

Sleeplessinnorthlondon · 17/05/2015 13:22

Thank you all for your kind words. My best friend took my out for breakfast this morning (didn't know was going crackers, wanted to talk about fun new developments in love life!) and talking it through with to fresh impartial ears made me feel so so much better as have your messages. It's so strange how this all comes and goes and think will make appt with mental health midwife through UCH to get some support as can't be good for baby if this continues. Thank you so much everyone xxxx

Sleeplessinnorthlondon · 17/05/2015 13:22

Thank you all for your kind words. My best friend took my out for breakfast this morning (didn't know was going crackers, wanted to talk about fun new developments in love life!) and talking it through with to fresh impartial ears made me feel so so much better as have your messages. It's so strange how this all comes and goes and think will make appt with mental health midwife through UCH to get some support as can't be good for baby if this continues. Thank you so much everyone xxxx

Sleeplessinnorthlondon · 17/05/2015 13:22

Thank you all for your kind words. My best friend took my out for breakfast this morning (didn't know was going crackers, wanted to talk about fun new developments in love life!) and talking it through with to fresh impartial ears made me feel so so much better as have your messages. It's so strange how this all comes and goes and think will make appt with mental health midwife through UCH to get some support as can't be good for baby if this continues. Thank you so much everyone xxxx

Sleeplessinnorthlondon · 17/05/2015 13:22

Thank you all for your kind words. My best friend took my out for breakfast this morning (didn't know was going crackers, wanted to talk about fun new developments in love life!) and talking it through with to fresh impartial ears made me feel so so much better as have your messages. It's so strange how this all comes and goes and think will make appt with mental health midwife through UCH to get some support as can't be good for baby if this continues. Thank you so much everyone xxxx

Sleeplessinnorthlondon · 17/05/2015 13:22

Thank you all for your kind words. My best friend took my out for breakfast this morning (didn't know was going crackers, wanted to talk about fun new developments in love life!) and talking it through with to fresh impartial ears made me feel so so much better as have your messages. It's so strange how this all comes and goes and think will make appt with mental health midwife through UCH to get some support as can't be good for baby if this continues. Thank you so much everyone xxxx

Sleeplessinnorthlondon · 17/05/2015 13:22

Thank you all for your kind words. My best friend took my out for breakfast this morning (didn't know was going crackers, wanted to talk about fun new developments in love life!) and talking it through with to fresh impartial ears made me feel so so much better as have your messages. It's so strange how this all comes and goes and think will make appt with mental health midwife through UCH to get some support as can't be good for baby if this continues. Thank you so much everyone xxxx

Sleeplessinnorthlondon · 17/05/2015 13:22

sorry, no idea why that posted 6 times!

mrswishywashy · 17/05/2015 14:45

Sleepless as others have said above I think you do need some professional help. Your midwife and GP should be able to refer you. If you were already to start the IVF process then it makes the whole dealing with conception harder but I'm sure you're baby is fine. I conceived through IVF and am struggling with anxiety so am going to bring it up with midwife next week at 16 week appt, far better to get treatment early on then struggle after baby is born.

SnozzberryPie · 17/05/2015 14:58

Welcome to the newbies!

Sleepless just to echo what everyone else said - the baby will have just been a bunch of cells floating around in your womb, not connected to your blood supply, so I doubt if the booze will have done any harm. I had a few drinks the night before I got my bfp and I'm not worried.

Abbey I have noticed that people are much less excited when you tell them you are pregnant the second time around. I prefer it really to the endless conversations about pregnancy/babies I was forced to have last time!

I just dug out some maternity jeans from last time - bliss! My tummy has really popped out in the last few days.

The bad news is I am STILL feeling lousy. I am nauseous and lethargic and have been getting bouts of stomach cramps and diarrhoea, which I don't remember from my last pg at all. I feel bad as i have no energy for dd and just want to let her watch TV so I can have a lie down Sad

TakesTwoToTango · 17/05/2015 18:59

Well I've had my results for two days now and still haven't told anyone. I'm 14 weeks today. I have a routine appointment on Friday (where they'll probably try and find the heartbeat with a Doppler) and another scan at just over 16weeks. DH wants to share the news (we won't tell anyone else until we've told our young dcs), but I am still spotting and anxious not to have to untell the dcs, who will be so excited (and would then be devastated). Am I mad/unfair on DH to want to wait until nearly 17 weeks?

AbbeyRoadCrossing · 17/05/2015 18:59

Snozzberry that's true! I got quite bored of talking about pregnancy last time I must say and prefer things fuss free. I did think they'd say "congratulations" or "when are you due" or something though even if it was disapproval (long story but they seem to think having a c section is the worst thing in the world ever and that after one you shouldn't have more kids) so I was braced for that, but nothing... weird!

AbbeyRoadCrossing · 17/05/2015 19:03

TakesTwo it's up to you I think. I've just told my parents at 16+3, and will be about 17 weeks when we tell DH's parents. Everyone else as and when I see them after the 20 week scan I think. I originally wasn't going to tell anyone until 20 weeks but I don't see my parents in person that often and that would've meant waiting until 6 months or something!

annatha · 17/05/2015 23:07

We've noticed that people aren't as fussed about this baby either. I told my dad over the phone a few weeks ago as he lives far away, and he visited us this week and had forgotten!

I've got my 2nd dating scan tomorrow, anyone with me?

Poppyninja · 17/05/2015 23:38

Had a letter yesterday another t my blood tests and that I was rhesus d negative so need to have anti-d jab at end of August and post birth, baby possibly will need a jab at birth too. Anyone else experienced this? Came as a bit of a surprise but been reading up and seems fairly straightforward. Could be issues if we want more children apparently

rebbles · 18/05/2015 06:53

Poppy ninja same for me but as long as you have injection it won't be a problem for next baby at all Smile

Lauramum23 · 18/05/2015 07:21

We have yet to tell the children hopefully if all goes well at the scan this afternoon then we can share the news!!

Poppyninja · 18/05/2015 08:04

Thanks rebbles

SnozzberryPie · 18/05/2015 08:23

Poppy a friend of mine had this, it's only a problem if you have negative blood and the baby's father has positive. If the baby has positive blood too then your body could create antibodies that reject it. It won't happen if you have the jabs so don't worry!

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