November 2015 mums to be! Here we are! Our bus is decorated with scan pics, our appetites are beginning to heal, and spring is in the air!

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Here is the new thread for November ladies! Let's smell the flowers, regain our sense of taste and keep chatting!

I think the way I would try and look at it is- the risk is still overwhelmingly favourable- 95% that everything is fine.
Also I'm 10 years younger than you. Based on age alone, my risk is 1 in 800 and yours is 1 in 100. So your blood and measurement alone took your risk up to 1 in 20. If I got exactly the same blood and measurement as you, we could probably assume that the risk is the same but simply because of my age, my risk factor would be increased by the same factor which would put my risk at 1 in 160, which is considered low risk. For exactly the same results. And I assume the blood and measurement must be more statistically significant. I like to rationalise statistics.
However in your position, I would probably try and distract myself as much as possible over the next few days. Neither get my hopes up, nor assume the worst. Absolutely impossible, I know.
Big hugs. Just distract yourself and look after yourself for the weekend.

That dress is very pretty Heir.

Oh yes. It's easy to play with the maths, I can do it myself - just it's different when it's your own case. Thank you though, it's good advice. Thankfully marking season is well and truly upon me so I have a weekend of work ahead.

And it's also very unpleasant when you've had to go through the (really really horrible) CVS purely so that you can get results in 2-3 days rather than doing the Harmony test. By Monday I am going to be shrieking down the phone like a harpy.

stalphonso - sorry to hear that there are no results today. That's pretty poor

Nothing to add to the excellent advice that you have received on this thread but can I thoroughly recommend House of Cards if you haven't seen it and are looking for some distracting TV. Or The Affair if you have Sky. First two episodes are on catch up.

Of course, it must be horrible. And absolutely infuriating that they are taking so long.

Fingers crossed it'll soon all be just a memory along the way.

I'm sorry you didn't hear anything yesterday stalph I think in the absence of your DH you should treat yourself to try keep your mind of it.

Welcome heather and congrats on your scan.

I saw the risk/stats comment abbeyroad made on another thread about food to avoid & loved it

Sorry you haven't heard as yet stalphonso. I think that is really poor and unfair. I really hope you get some news on Monday.

greedy that is such a good idea to record the heartbeat. I wonder if I'll get to hear the HB at my 16 week, I'm guessing probably not as I have to see the consultant rather than the midwife to get sign off re my thyroid. But I might ask anyway

Oh and in other news, I'm wearing a maternity top today. £4 in the new look sale. It's actually rather nice! I couldn't bear anything tight fitting when I woke up

stalph I think you should buy yourself some Nutella and have some toast and Nutella as a treat. Can't believe they're keeping you hanging. Lots of distractions this weekend anything good on at the cinema? Mad Max??

genni I'm going to wear my over the bump mat jeans today cos they look sooo comfy.

I've had a lot of bread and cherry jam this morning. On the up side, knowing I won't get a call this weekend has actually made me a bit more relaxed, and the neighbour's cat has been very solicitous.

Stalph let us know once you do! Definitely find a few distractions this weekend!

I am so annoyed- went to get under bump jeans and debenhams and lady at till said to me "you have a very tidy bump" (whatever that means).

I said thanks I am only 15 weeks and she said "o like 4 months blimey I thought you only had a couple of weeks to go"!!!!!

Argh how rude now I think I look massive

Hi everyone, sorry for joining so late but I've been a bit nervous of adding myself previously.

I'm tagging along at the end of the month with an EDD of 28th Nov. I had my scan during the week and all looks good thankfully. Hope everyone is keeping well and managing to relax a bit over the weekend

Welcome heather & julia.

Roughtyping I'm in my over the bumps now - anything tight under it atm is making me feel ill. Shame because love my under bumps.

Today I went to an NCT nearly new sale and got a double buggy for £45!! Very pleased with it, a bunk bed style jobby with lots of options for when both babies are bigger. Also got some bits for dd, there's another in October so will get clothes etc for this baby then. Thoroughly recommend going along if there's a sale near you, they had everything, even maternity and nursing clothes.

haha flying sprocket glad you enjoyed it!

I'm at my parents this weekend and still haven't told them. I feel ridiculously nervous for a grown woman in her 30s and need to get a grip. I'm just worried they'll be funny about the age gap

abbey road I was reluctant to tell people because of the age gap too, and to be honest still end up giving an explanation of how we planned it and the benefits of having them this close even if people don't ask. I'm sure that even if they weren't expecting another grandchild so soon they'll be delighted.

Anyone else still awake? I can't seem to sleep tonight even though I'm shattered!! Think it's because I've held a BBQ since 2.30pm and I've been running around trying to speak to everyone, play with all the kids, dogs and tidy up!!

I know, I know I probably shouldn't have been doing the above!

Yep I'm here crying. Your bbq sounds nice (if hard work!).

It was lovely! The house is a mess as I really couldn't be bothered cleaning up properly tonight! I did a lot though! I'm lying in bed and my OH is sound asleep. My brother in law is in the spare room and my sister in law and 2yo niece fell asleep on my sofa! Their dog is somewhere too! Feel sorry for my sister in law and niece as the blinds aren't closed in the living room but they're roller blinds and really loud to close!

Thanks annatha well, I'll have to tell them today as we'll be going back soon! I'm sure they'll get used go the idea, not that it affects anyone apart from me and DH really anyway

Dear all,
Joined this at the start then fell off as thought my fears on this would be a bit of a downer but kind poster from different thread suggested would be helpful to share fears here, really desperate for support. Largely pasted concern from that thread here...

We were due to start IVF in March and I had an ultrasound mid Feb to test ovarian reserve when, I now know, I was a few days pregnant. Nothing was visible, I realise it wouldn't be at this stage, but I took this to mean that yet again this month had been unsuccessful. I found out I was pregnant on Tuesday March 10th, and cycles are irregular but based on when I know we slept together think then five weeks max, so three post conception. Problem is, Friday was at hen and Sunday took mum and aunt out for very boozy lunch, not to mention had folks round for dinner Saturday. Would estimate Friday drank 2 bottles wine, Saturday one, Sunday two. Know this is lots and didn't drink much previous weekends but def not atypical for me to have bender like this from time to time. Previous year had been really careful in two week wait and now feel so guilty and such a fool for not being so when it mattered. Been so anxious and frightened, GP said damage v unlikely and reassuring although did say "couldn't be certain", NHS direct also reassuring and midwife, and dear friend who is obgyn so decided fears more irrational and started seeing counsellor. This helped to a point and felt better for a while but woke up at 5 this morning overcome with fear again and running out of ideas of what to do. My husband is the loveliest most supportive man and has been so kind and helpful but works really long hours and isn't around much and in truth i'm worried that the limited time we do have my crying all the time and generally like this is going to take huge toll on marriage. Am downstairs now typing this with door shut so he can't hear me cry. Keep googling stupid things from usa, thought initially that provided that not drunk past 18 days post conception which don't think I have was fine but found doctor at michigan who says no proof of this. Keep veering between moments of calm when think all ok and realise being mad to very real all consuming panic that only rational thing to do terminate. My boss is amazing and told me she was hammered at 18 days post conception on NYE and her daughter fine, but then manage to reject that as found out we're having boy and have read they are more suceptible...Plus 2 diff dating scans as had harmony test and one says was drinking at 18 days one at 14 so no real certainty on any of it. Please help me, no idea what to do!

sleepless, I know it's impossible but please try not to worry. I had DS at 17 and didn't find out til I was around 22 weeks pregnant, and I spent a lot of that time drinking. He is now a perfect (albeit whingey ) 11 year old. Try to relax about it, you can't change what's happened. In all likelihood the baby will be fine.

Hi sleepless,
Please don't get yourself into a state. We had been trying for 7 months to get pregnant and the month I did, I worked out I did an all dayer of drinking on implantation day, a champagne afternoon tea 2 days later, a v v boozy and long girls lunch the day after that and then 2 large glasses of red the night before I took the test. I'd been careful in the 2 weeks wait prior to this month and sods law, the month I start losing heart, I get the bfp.
I was worried initially but was assured that there are thousands of women who don't realise they are pregnant until much later and carry on drinking and eating foods that are not recommended until they find out and their babies are born without any problems (see roughtyping above!).

Sleepless I know it's impossible not to worry but early on (think it's the first few weeks) the baby feeds from it's yolk sack and hasn't actually joined your bloodstream yet. I'm not sure exactly what point this is but I heard it's usually the point you start morning sickness, miss a period etc. And many babies are conceived due to booze. When is your scan? Hopefully that will reassure you soon

So I told my parents and my cousin and no one said anything. Just 'is it a girl or a boy' and I said 'don't know' and then normal conversation resumed. Not sure what to make of that really!