September crew - baby bumps are appearing and we're emerging as team blue, pink or yellow! Thread 8 :)

[Treaclepie19]

Stats sheet here

Also jumping back on!

I'm going to get a 3d scan when I'm 30 weeks. I can't wait - they're amazing!

ditizzy I'm in 2 minds about whether DP should stay with me or go with Sprout if we have to be separated. My gut reaction was YOU PROTECT THE BABY WATCH BABY FOLLOW BABY but, as he pointed out, she will be in far better hands than his, and won't miss him / remember, whereas I might well need him and would miss him / remember (if only to run back and forth and tell me she's OK).

I usually find thinking 'well, the worst that's likely is X, and I can handle it, although it will suck' helpful and reassuring, but that was getting a bit tender for me so we didn't get to any useful conclusions.

whereswaldo I think I can add you if you PM me with your name? Happy to try and if I can't I'm sure someone more useful will be along in a minute, lol

I think last time round my birth plan was "I'll see how it goes". This time it's "baby out via sunroof and let me home as soon as possible". I would say don't get too hung up on it. I know a couple of mums who had quite fixed ideas of what they wanted and when it didn't go to plan they did struggle with dealing with that.

When i went for a shower after birth of DS, DP and baby stayed in the delivery room together until I came back and moved to the ward. I didn't have to ask, it seemed to be the done thing.
I'll insist the same this time round as well.

I have very definite things I would like for my perfect delivery....
Hypnobirth in the birthing pool, DW in the pool with me to catch baby and have skin to skin first, then the three of us together. Delayed cord cutting until it's stopped pulsing...and gas and air only. Definitely no pethidine.

Or... I get there, it's too hurty and I beg for an epidural.

Quite happy to just see how it goes....

Would like for my wife to stay with baby though if either Jnr or I are taken anywhere...

Hey guys sorry not been around much, had a great time at Disneyland but just been trying to get back into routine since we got back.

Quick question, for the last couple of weeks I've been feeling baby kick every evening, but since Saturday I've felt nothing. My bump has moved up a bit so I'm assuming he's just in a new position where I can't fe him but should I be worried as it's been three evenings now?

Feel him not fe him

Had second go at 20 week scan yesterday (22+4). We saw the wiggliest and wriggliest baby I've ever seen on a scan! However, we did get all the measurements this time. However, when it came to checking the sex, the legs were crossed and wouldn't move! So still team yellow here.
Due to MiL's illness we'll be booking a 4D scan so I'm sure we'll find out soon.

Welcome back Maths. It's def worth getting checked out if you're even a bit concerned.

We've been away for 5 days so I've just got round to catching up on the thread.
Re. birth plans... definitely try not to get too hung up about it,be as open to as much as possible and try to think of all scenarios. I'd been envisioning having baby overdue (as in my mind that was worst scenario), then I ended up being induced early (predicted low birth weight and reduction in fluid), and hooked up to monitor for 40+hrs. So the opportunity of water birth/as little pain relief as poss was out of the window. I'd said no pethidine as didn't want baby to be groggy/affect bf (rubbish as we never got established anyway)! I also didn't think about going down into surgery afterwards - but the hospital were fab and husband had lots of skin to skin with dd whilst I was gone.
This time will more than likely be a cs due to extent of scarring with 3b tear. I'm a little disappointed that I won't get to try it again (to get it right - stupid messed up head) but keep focusing on positives - I will at least be able to plan now.
Plus most important thing is that baby and I will be 100% ok.

Dp would go with baby here. I'm an adult, I can cope with mw's until we can get my mum in. Baby needs a parent, which is him if I'm incapacitated for whatever reason especially if there are decisions about care to be made. It's an intensely personal decision though and not a nice scenario to envisage.

Having a real crappy day today dh saw his Nan yesterday who has made the decision I am looking 'rather large'! why he felt this comment had to be passed on I am not sure! Cue evening in tears, then more tears this morning
Up until now (25+3) I have been feeling ok about the smallish amount of weight I have gained which all seems to be a baby bump but now feeling pretty shitty
This is made worse by the fact we are off to a wedding next week and will see some friends who have not seen since 10-12 weeks and just know they will comment on the bump too..
Woe is me!

23+1 today and realising I need to slow my usual walking speed down or I get an horrendous stitch in my bump after 5-10mins. I work in the city and have perfected my London commuter march over many years so a gentle stroll while other people overtake me is hard to get used to!

I'm very much a 'I'm not ill, I'm pregnant' kind of person so making any allowances or acting differently makes me feel precious! Not sure what the cut off in my mind is of when I'm allowed to start complaining. 30 weeks maybe?! lol

mrsdos for you. Am in a similar boat - the OH is really excited about seeing my bump get bigger as he sees it as great progress and never ever fails to comment on how big I'm getting.

I on the other hand feel like a beached whale and don't like being reminded of it (bit difficult to ignore I know!) i've asked him not to, and tried to explain why and he doesn't really get it.

Have always tried to keep on top of my weight and exercise, and love clothes, so this is a really really hard adjustment for me, as really there's not a lot I can do. Am also finding it harder to get around / walk / bend down / sleep / everything else which has taken me by surprise. Had a very hormonal couple of days as a result, which had me snivelling at 3am yesterday on how I'm going to cope both now and post birth

Missmilla same here dh comments on big bump in a cute affectionate way which I interpret as him calling me a whale! Poor guy can't win!

I've always had problems with my weight and pre pregnancy was already at my heaviest ever - bmi in the 40s! I've had a lot of mental health problems over the years and my weight and eating is the main factor!

On the birth plan thing I'm trying not to plan too much as if things don't go according to my plans then I get very anxious! I think for me going with the flow would be easier but it's such a personal choice to make.

Still not felt baby move but feel that as its after 5 here now and I'd have to ring hospital ward not midwife bit that I'm not sure if it's worth wasting their time. Any thoughts?

choccyhobnob I am getting the stitch in bump too. I walk to work and realise now that I am going to have to leave more time. Last time around I needed a lift from about 30 weeks but as I will effectively be stopping work at 29 weeks I hope I won't this time. It's silly when I am not pregnant I can cycle up the hill but walking up it while pregnant leaves me puffing and clutching my bump!

Wow envious it never even occurred to me that a parent wouldn't be allowed if they wanted to go. Glad everything is OK now and fingers crossed you have a less scary experience this time

Definitely think I've had a bit of a growth spurt over the last week..got a stripey maternity top on today and feel very whale-ish..I just can't find anything comfy to wear, even maternity jeans really, is it acceptable to go to work in your pyjamas?? I've got a couple of maxi dresses which are comfy but not practical for work (I'm a nanny)

Anybody found any gems that they can't live without-clothes wise? or secret tips? xxx

choccy I'm getting very irritated that my.commuter march is becoming a stroll. I'm not a dawdling tourist! Used to run up from the tube to ground level, now I'm out of breath walking up the escalator

craftynanny bra extenders are great as your back size increases and then you don’t need to keep buying bras. You can buy them in M&S.

crafty embrace the whale. You will never be the same shape again, but your body is doing the miraculous job of creating life

Bra extenders are the best thing I've bought! Only a couple of pounds for 3 and otherwise I would have had to buy new bras

I hate maternity clothes. Sent back 3 pairs of jeans so far that don't fit well. I'm luckily still able to fit in my black primark jeggings which I live in nearly every day, don't know what I'll do if I grow out of those!