Christmas and new years babies thread!

[CuppaSarah]

Just got my bfp positive today and am thinking we need a thread for all the babies that will be born around new years and Christmas. I'm due new years eve and just know I'll be sick of the comments real quick! So we can vent and plan low stress xmases together.

I know we have the December thread and will have the January one, but why the hell not there's room for everyone!

I get hay fever too and have bought some Prevalin. So far I haven't had to use it here (for some reason my response is much more reduced than normal) but I did use it a few weeks ago in the South of France with fairly good success so definitely worth giving it a go. I bought mine from Sainsburys.

Might get some prevalin. I'm trying really hard not to take anything though. commented on the facebook page and it showed up on my news fed so now due to extreme paranoia I'm just lurking there till I can tell all my family at 17 weeks. cant believe someone noticed you where pregnant cuppa that's so exciting I'm terrified people are just going to think I'm fat.

How terrible do you think a glass of wine would be?!

my dr says a rare small glass of wine would be fine ohholy

Just the answer I was hoping for Hope, thanks! After today and last night, a tiny glass of wine (and I'll chuck some lemonade in too) it will be purely medicinal!

Don't they say some wine is good in pregnancy over on the continent?

Hope I haven't seen post, but the news feed thing freaked me out too. My stomach muscles never fully joined back together after my first, so they've just totally gone to pregnancy mode already. Loving that I skipped the maybe fat maybe pregnant stage. Though I think I'll carry all over and just expand hugely and terrifyingly and look like a birthing ball soon enough!

Anyone mind me having another rant? Because I'm doing it anyway. My mother is an emotionally abusive cow bag, normally I manage her child like behaviour and we have an OK but reverse role relationship. But today she has beyond fucked me off. I called to see how a job interview went, after that she asks to come to the scan on Friday. Last pregnancy I refused, I already said no for this pregnancy. So I try and tactfully turn her down. But she just goes on a massive guilt trip saying her friends were allowed at scans and my mil went to one last time(dp was 4 hours away and was my only local family plus she's awesome and doesn't play mind games) I keep explaining it's my pregnancy she has to respect my choice, but I understand her wanting to be involved. Then she uses her best card 'your sister would let me come of she had a baby' I have never hung up on her before. I feel good I hung up on her, but she was really guilt tripping and nasty in her tone. Feeling like shit now. Perfectly good evening ruined. its all bloody drama at mine!!

There's no way I would have anyone but me and DH at the scan. Its not a spectator sport, but a medical diagnostic test that will hopefully go smoothly for all of us, but that is by no means a dead cert. Stick to your guns!

I sympathise. I've had the same crap from my mum about wanting to be at the birth. I'm apparently denying her her rights as a grandparent.

Exactly sweep! Last time she tried to make me book a private scan so her and my sister (who is disgusted by babies and pregnancy) could gawp at my innards. I have also had the 'you will have me at the birth right?' Speach from mum a million times. On my last birth plan, all it said was some vague stuff about pain relief and instructions not to let her in, not matter what lies she tells! I just know she'll keep turning up around my due date, praying I'll be in labour so she can deliver the baby and tell all of Facebook about it.

But in reality if she did get her way. She'd just find something else to moan about, or wouldn't be able to handle me getting the attention and would have to make herself pass out, like when I introduced dh to her! It does keep things entertaining though. Just waiting on the phone call from my sister now, telling me I really hurt mums feelings and must do whatever she wants as she is a delicate bitch-flower.

I'm sorry cuppa, it's a pain in the ass when family are hard work and can't be supportive isn't it? Just makes you feel there's another person to 'manage' when really, this time should just be about looking after yourself and getting through this first yucky trimester
(I'm also nc with my bipolar narc mother for about a year now, she doesn't yet know about Olaf)

I think it's going to have to be 'broken record' time and just shut down any conversation that has you and your medical procedures as entertainment for her - " DH and I have decided only parents of this baby will be at all appointments, I could show you the photos/discuss how the appointment went with you after?"
Would parroting a phrase like that help? No room for ambiguity and you can't be accused of 'shutting her out'?
Or the slightly less tactful - "Only those present at conception will be present for birth"?!

My goodness, expectation to be at scan and the birth? That's not family interest, that's just intrusive if they know it's not your express wish! This is about you, your dp and any dc (at whatever bits you feel right) but I honestly think others should just leave you be. So sorry to read this Cuppa.

Just in waiting room waiting for my scan...

Good luck Queazy!!

Eeek I'm so excited for you queazy, we need to see a photo you know! Thank you for your lovely words too.

OhHolyFuck, I'm so sorry about your mother. My sister is bipolar narc and mum is a total narc so I totally sympathise with you. I'm close to no contact with both of them. It beyond sucks doesn't it? I'm just going to refuse to engage anymore, gonna prioritise me and my family. Sorry to be a downer!

All went absolutely fine thank you I couldn't see the heart beating at first and started crying. Sounds ridiculous but I think I was far more nervous than I even realised. It's nerve racking regardless of the number of kids you have, but knowing this baby is a sibling for my dd has made it even more precious and nerve racking for me this time. Phew - very grateful

Yay!! Queazy I'm so happy to hear it went well. I don't blame you with the heartbeat, its quite hard to see really! So thrilled it went well. You must be so relieved even though there's no reason to assume the worst. You just can't help it sometimes.

Yay Queazy! Brilliant news!

Sorry about the awkward situation with your families Cuppa and OhHoly. Some people will simply not want to understand through selfishness and stubbornness.

It sounds like some of you ladies are having a nightmare with your Mum's. I'm glad to say that mine is lovely but lives about 150 miles away so I don't see her as often as I would like.

So had my private scan and blood test this morning and it turns out that there is a baby in there and I'm not just getting fat! The baby is quite active (clearly takes after DH) and growing slightly ahead of schedule. Nothing from the scan suggests any issues but we'll obviously know more when I get the results back. Here's a pic of the mini Gillster.

Congratulations Queazy and Gillster. I had my scan today too, all was fine, due date Christmas day, but after the issues I had with dd (resulting in emergency c section) I'll probably have an elective c section this time a week before the due date, or even earlier if pre eclampsia rears it's head again. I'll join the Facebook page now too, I'll pm you CuppaSarah.

Hey ladies! Twinsies due on 24th of December, omg X-mas! Argh!!!

Yay to Queazy and Gillster!

What a lovely pic, I'm amazed at how clear they are at this stage!

Falcon welcome! Twins, oh my goodness! Was it your 12 week scan you found out? Is Dec 24th your 'proper' due date or your 'likely one given its twins'? Are these DC 1 and 2?

congrats on your scans today and omg falcon twins how exciting.
Hope your doing ok after last night cuppa

Sorry to change the subject for a little rant but after the excitement of telling everyone I'm pregnant I'm now getting constants "should you really be doing that's" and "be careful your pregnant". It is doing my had in I do know im pregnant as I've been running to the loo to be sick between patients today I think I'm pretty aware. Why is my judgement of my capabilities not acceptable to my colleagues. I really thought I'd be pleased of the support but its just condercending and frustrating :/

Araagh! I've just booked a private gender scan for 16 weeks! Was just browsing and impulsively did it! So in 3 weeks, I'll know!

It was all going on last night! Congratulations Gillster and Joey! Brilliant news. Got.my fingers crossed for your test results Gillster and for preclampsia to back the hell up this time round!

We were saying we needed a set of twins earlier in the thread, so you are very welcome to come join us Falcon! Are you having identical or non identical twins? Both are awesome, although non identical sounds a little easier during the newborn haze so you can't muddle them up.

Hope I don't blame you for getting wound up. You're not suddenly unable to judge situations anymore now you're pregnant. As annoying as it is at this stage, I would say don't try too hard to do it all without help. Because in a few months time you'll appreciate the extra support. Think of it as laying out the foundations for future expectations.

OhHolyFuck that's amazing! I keep trying my hardest not to book one too. You'll be the first gender scan out of all of us! I can't wait to find out finding out the genders of each others babies is as exciting as finding out my own babies gender.

Oh I forgot to add, mum sent me a peace offering yexty,ignoring how nasty she was. Seeing her tonight with my sister and grandparents. Not looking forward to it, but worse things have happened, I'm certain I'll survive one meal, they may not however