Christmas and new years babies thread!

[CuppaSarah]

Just got my bfp positive today and am thinking we need a thread for all the babies that will be born around new years and Christmas. I'm due new years eve and just know I'll be sick of the comments real quick! So we can vent and plan low stress xmases together.

I know we have the December thread and will have the January one, but why the hell not there's room for everyone!

OhHolyFuck that sounds awful, last thing you need. Do what you need to get through the chicken pox and don't feel guilty if it involves all day cbeebies marathons and a chocolate diet.

I hope your ds1 isn't suffering too badly with it. Do you have any family who can help out?

cuppa nope none! DPs parents have passed on, my father left when I was in my teens never to be seen again and my mother is a bi-polar narc who I am currently nc with
Other family live miles away or we only speak to enough to exchange Christmas cards with

We'll cope somehow, just stressful and tiring on top of everything else isn't it?

It is! Im in Hampshire on the edge of Surrey if that's near by? I can supply ice lollies!

About 250 miles away cuppa but thanks for the offer!

Chicken pox is such have a pain. I think antihistamines are supposed to help with the itching. DS 1 got it when DS2 was about 2 weeks old, and despite being breastfed DS2 came down with it about a week later!

Hi Everyone, sorry haven't updated in a while. Sickness has taken over pretty much everything. Just doing my best to get through one day at a time. I cant keep anything down other than toast so toast it is and fingers crossed this wears off soon.

Its so hard trying to keep normal, go to work, look after my 5yr old etc when I just want to stay in bed as moving makes the nausea worse. I was the same with my first child but I only had myself to look after then. Really wishing the days away at the minute.

Hello, can I join? DC2 expected 31/12/15 making me 7+4 today! I have DD who is nearly 3 and looking after a toddler + working + pregnancy is exhausting. I had a MMC end of last year, so I am a bit of a nervous wreck with this pregnancy- on constant knicker watch so I haven't really been enjoying it so far. I have booked a private scan for next week, hopefully there will be a heartbeat.
I hope those of you suffering with sickness start feeling better soon

Hi ladies, sorry to hear some of you are feeling so crappy!

Hullabaloo, I can kind of relate as I had spotting last week, so I completely get knicker watch! I'm counting down the weeks to the magic 12. I know the worry will still be there, but theodds are so much better.

I can't believe I'm 10 weeks tomorrow! Due date was moved at my scan last week from 24th December to the 15th! Blatantly means I'll be over due and will still end up with a LO born on Christmas Day! Lol!

Hiya Hullabaloo! I have the same due date as you and am on total knicker patrol right now. I had a chemical pregnancy in the summer so that has changed my once naive happy go lucky attitude in pregnancy I had with DD to expecting the worst. we'll get there though!

Sherbert that must have been a lovely surprise to skip a few weeks. A Christmas Day baby sounds magical though, I'm well up for one nothing to do with the fact it means I'll be early. Though I imagine they'll dislike it as they get older.

I have been signed off work for two weeks huzzah!! No more hours of forced overtime, no more being so stressed I cannot eat more than a handful of rice and the odd pack of frazzles. The Dr wants me to focus on getting back to three meals a day and the odd snack between. I have my nephew next week though while SIL is induced, he's never been away from home before and still cosleeps. It will be a nightmare. Especially as her dp is not super hands on and will try and be away from home to avoid having his ds on his own. I'm just glad she's having her second child well before me. Our first children were a few months apart and she was a nightmare, constantly competing, being passive aggressive. She still won't talk about dd everything has to be about her and her ds.

Hiya hullabaloo!

Yay cuppa! That's such good news! How are you feeling?

The midwives came to the house to do my booking appointment given I can't go out with ds1 atm, they couldn't get any blood though (stupid veins!) so I've had to nip down to day assessment unit this evening for them to do it - going to test my immunity to the pox too so that's good
Scan booked too, 12th June so all going well so far (apart from the constant throwing up )

OhHolyFuck I'm glad they're checking your immunity, one less thing to worry about! Less than a month till your scan too!! I'm feeling pretty good thanks, I ate my first proper meal just now in about a week and while its taking work to hold it down, I feel better already for it. If I can't keep my food levels up they are going to test my wee for key tones in case of hyperemesis(I can't spell it) but I know I don't have it so am trying to save them and myself the bother. Booking in appointment Thursday eeee.

Thats great you're feeling better cuppa
Does little and often help any with the eating? Like a handful of stuff every hour or so?
Good luck for Thursday too!

I forgot to say in my other post that a student came with the midwife,.she's doing a placement where she sees women all the way through so she'll attend all my appointments even scan and consultant ones, then the birth (bless her if its Christmas Day!) and then the post-natal care too, had to consent but thought it'd be nice to see someone the same everytime and good experience for her

Aww OhHolyFuck that's absolutely lovely. It'll be brilliant to have her throughout the process. I must say I'm very envious. I've only seen a student midwife once and she was an absolutely lovely person. I suppose she hadn't had any angry ladies in labour cut her down yet

I'm hoping to ask my midwife on Thursday if I can specifically request her for my home birth as she's amazing and lovely. At the same time. An old school friends mum seeing my muff....not sure.

Ooh. I wonder if I will get the same midwife now I'm in a new area. I never saw the same person twice last time.

Hope the pox is easing off in your place, ohholy and enjoy some proper meals and your sofa cuppa. (Though now I want frazzles, thanks)

Last few days have been horrid. FIL died on Saturday, he'd been v ill for a long time (dementia) so it's a bit of a relief but also v sad. We can't tell MIL that I'm pg because we couldn't bear to give her more bad news if it doesnt work out. I took a couple of days off to look after DS so that DP can go and help MIL. I'm totally exhausted at the moment though, so up to some pretty lazy parenting (hello CBeebies).

I've got my scan date through, I'm on hols though so have had to reschedule for the 26th June which is AGES away, I'll probably be last! I'll definitely get a private scan @ 11 wks before we go, that way we can tell MIL on hols ( she's coming with us). I reckon I'll feel safe enough once I've seen it on a scan.

Such a sad time, poor DP is all over the place. I'm trying not to be as useless as I feel.

Sorry to hear about your loss Tango, quite jealous that you are all getting sea n and midwife appointments though! My booking in appointment isn't for another 2 weeks still, so I do hope that they can get me a scan in time.

Oh Tango that's awful, I'm sorry to hear about your family's loss . Once you get that scan at 11 weeks I hope it will give your dp and mil something positive to get them through their grief. When my cousin passed away unexpectedly his sister who was heavily pregnant got the family through just by giving them life and joy to think about.

Please take a little time each day to focus on your needs, don't underestimate the power of nutrition. You are not being useless, when a loved one is in such pain its only natural to feel useless as you can't take their pain away. You all will come out the other side of this I promise.

Thanks for the welcome
Sherbert- it must be nice to skip a few weeks; time is going so slowly at the moment!
Cuppasarah- good to hear you are signed off and can have some r&r. I am also hoping for a home birth... Although I have learnt from last time how birth plans can go out of the window!
Ohholyfuck- I think it's fab you have agreed to have the student midwife all the way through, hopefully you will benefit from having someone at the birth who knows all your history etc.
Tango- so sorry to hear about your FIL, hang on in there, you are being a marvellous support to those around you.

Not much to report here, just another day at work nearly finished

Is anyone else feeling pressure, like on top of their cervix? Just started today, but feels like it did in the third trimester last time. Google seems to think its not uncommon but I'm feel a bit worried about it.

Not had that one I'm afraid cuppa. Just unbelievably tired and hungry.

Definitely hulabaloo! A whole 10 days closer to baby than we thought

I had my early scan yesterday, good strong heartbeat and EDD of 6th Jan (but given I'm currently thinking I'll have an elective c sec it's pretty likely I'll have it more Xmas / NY time I guess). All very real now we've seen the blob beating away!

Thanks for your kind words cuppa , hullabaloo and sweep. The craziness has passed a bit and we can start looking to the future.

I'm 8 weeks tomorrow and I already have a proper bump (I'm a smidge overweight anyway); there is no way I am keeping this under my hat for another month. Unless I get a hat that comes down to my knees .

Only my boss knows so far, I've got a load of family coming over on Sat, but I mc at 12 wks before I had DS so I really don't want to tell. I've got a slightly early private scan booked now for the 12th June and didn't want to tell until then, am sure after a few glasses of wine tomorrow one of my sisters will ask me straight up, and I don't really fancy actual lies (omission is different!). Anyone else struggling to hide it? Maybe it's more obvious to me than anyone else? No-one was looking for it when I had DS, but I think friends and family (and work) have "got their eye on me" now!

I'm back from my booking in appointment it went super well. Got a midwife and student who are lovely and will be seeing me through the pregnancy. I'm apparently very low risk abd the lowest the student has ever had! They were very keen on me having a home birth especially as my progression was very fast previous. After all that time trying for a baby I finally have my hospital notes it feel so real!

I'm so glad you're getting to the other side Tango. I have given up hiding it and am just avoiding people as I'm genuiny bigger than I was at 20 weeks last time. Mum dug out a photo. I think you just need to go with the flow. If your sisters find out will be s problem if the worst did happen, or would they be supportive?

Congrats Joey! The hospitals will be lovely and quiet that time of year too.

Amazing cuppa - I can't wait to get my notes. So exciting. Hoping for home birth as well as DS was 4 hr labour (and discharged 4 hrs after birth, 4 and a half hours after arrival!).

Nice one joey - it must be v reassuring to see the hb!

My sisters would be totally supportive, they actually both knew when I MC first time (I had told my younger DSis because had I not MC would have been 8 mo when I was her bridesmaid and she was about to buy me a dress, and she is MEGA indiscreet), and I also had to tell a few friends I was on hols with. Having had to do it before, it's all the potential "untelling" I can't bear the thought of, it's the absolute pits giving people bad news when you are so sad. And I definitely don't want to risk MIL finding out early for that exact reason, 100% good news only for her.

Sorry all, dragging the thread down with my mc paranoia... maybe on Sat I'll just stick a couple of gins in the pimms and get DSises too drunk to notice before they get tipsy enough to ask The rest of the fam may secretly notice, but would keep their thoughts to themselves! Sisters, eh?

Went for an early scan today (Bonus of having a Mil who works in Maternity hospital!) and got to see our little bean, with a strong hb measuring 8w2d.

Feel like I can finally let myself get excited about everything now

Congrats Hez, sounds fantastic how lucky you are with your mil!!

Tango I totally understand the idea of untelling. Could you attempt to subtely bring up your recent weight gain in a moaning way? Like oh my god I've been eating so badly, I feel like a balloon. They won't dare tell you you have gained weight, so hopefully will cut off any questions. Also are they coming to yours? Answer the door with a drink in hand and pretend to sip it maybe? Or have apple juice with ice in hand and pretend its Pimms? Don't avoid alchocol, just avoid actually drinking any. Turning a drink down is more suspicious than not drinking one.