May 2015 - thread 8 - Maysters unite as babies start arriving! Eek!

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thread 7

New thread ladies.

Admiring all your industry! I have got as far as washing the car seat covers and fixing the moses basket stand. Still have not managed to get the pushchair attachment off the pram base. Seems a shame to buy a new pram when I have all the bits I need but they are in the wrong order!

I did the clothes thing, 3 black bags of stuff gone from my bedroom and 2 bags from each of the kids rooms!
It's madness how much we've accumulated over the past few years.

Hi longest - was that the sola2? Is it worth going into a mamas and papas store (if you still have one nearby - ours just closed) and setting them a challenge? I've heard good things about their willingness to service even old items...

Baby isn't allowed to come until Wednesday night at the earliest (if she does indeed decide to come earlier than induction date!) MIL is coming over Wednesday to watch the other children while DP comes and does the birthing partner thing.

On another flipping infuriating note, after saying we wouldn't let slip our name after that last was tainted by MIL, DP told BIL today at lunch and he launched into

"oh, how funny naming your child after your ex girlfriend, do you remember when you were so mad about her, you woke me up to have a talk with you about it etc etc etc"

After a stern look from DP they both claim he was joking but it's really put me off the name now so we're back to having nothing. Maybe I'm being fussy or silly but still, I'm not making a big deal of it but I've firmly said to DP that I'm not sure I want to use it now and we'll discuss it at a later date (even though we're rapidly running out of those!)

Would any of you name a child after your other half ex flame or am I just being precious?

tits definitely not!

I probably wouldn't tbh. I really like the name of an ex of mine but would never suggest it to DH. Did you already know it was the name of an ex though? If you didn't mind before then is it just the bil's teasing which riled you?

Argh - plumbing isn't going well - suddenly all the extortionate quotes we got from bathroom fitters is looking much more of a bargain. Really just want to get this bathroom finished now

Hope you are feeling better tits and no, not a chance... Ex's names fall under the same category of NO names whereby you suggest a name and the other says "I knew a McNekly and he was a d*ck" obviously mcnekly is a made up name but you know what I mean :)

We're also having a sort out and switch around. Although I am lacking motivation...

OMG tits that would sour the name completely for me. I love the name Delphine but that's one of DH's ex's so it's out of the question. Damn it, couldn't he have been with a 'Joan'.

So annoying for you to be this close and have a name ruined... we are keeping our name secret too as people are far too opinionated before hand. MIL said last time that one name was common and to another 'name her anything but that' but when we announced DD's name as Tuesday (she obvs hated it) she said nothing. My mum spoiled Poppy by staying it was a dogs name

I knew he had a friend with the name, I asked him outright if he had ever had a thing for her wether it was a fling or a relationship or a want to have either of those things, he said no, just friends, she was a lovely woman and she lives the other side of the world. So I thought fine (although I had my suspicions he might have had a bit of a crush maybe)
It was BIL's jump to immediately say they were an item that makes me think there was at least something there, it was DP's obvious annoyance that made BIL claim he was just winding me up.
DP likes practically no girls names, we really struggled to come to an agreement so he seemed really happy that I agreed on the name but now obviously I'm having doubts.

I'm incredibly laid back and tolerant as a partner but I refuse to have doubts on the name we chose for our child, it's something she'll have for life.

Regardless of wether he had a thing with this woman or not, the seed has been sown and I'm feeling a little foolish for some reason that this all was said over a table in a restaurant. That probably makes no sense, I'm tired with hormones going mad and worry coming out of every pore for the impending birth.

I don't think he'll try and discuss it again now until after the birth, where I guess we'll have to look at her (if she is indeed a her and the 20 week scan sonographers weren't wrong!) And decide then, but I do worry that given all the emotions and adrenalin flying around post birth I might agree to name her anything and then kick myself for it later.

I'm probably making way too big a deal about it.

tits You are not making too big of a deal out of it, your feelings are perfectly valid. Luckily my DP didn't have too many GFs so the only names ruled out were Megan, Hannah, Jacqueline and Raquel. I agree names can have connotations so i wouldn't want my partner lovingly saying our daughters name knowing he once had a gf that name....
I would definitely try and get a couple more names, as hard as it is, as like you said you don't want to make a decision in the hospital then regret it later. Big hug!

Jenni I find the MILs always have a lot to say about names ha!

I just realised my dissertation/final year project is due in on April 22nd (my Birthday, JOY) and i am no where near completed ahhh, just want uni to be over so i can start nesting.

tits that would be a big no no for me too, if I found out the name we had chosen was a name of my dh's ex it would be discounted straight away... Luckily all my hubby's ex's had horrible names so I'm safe! As you say naming your child is a big deal it's her bame for life so don't Rush into anything even if baby has to go a few days nameless it's not a problem..

just hope your plumbing is now sorted, water is such a buggar to work with sometimes!!

leanne hope your project isn't too much hard work for you... we are moving on April 22nd busy day!!

Hope all of you ladies having a productive day are now resting up.. I cleared out wardrobes and toy boxes a few weeks ago ready for the move so will have to sort of nutsery after baby is here then I can do it a certain colour/style... And I'm lucky in that my dh does all the cooking so I don't have too batch cook.. It's such a good idea though..

Please excuse the spelling mistakes... I actually hate auto correct!

Well I'm glad I'm not being unreasonable, now I just have to get the strength to either bring up the subject and think of something else or wait until she's born, which I'm really uncomfortable with, I'm an incredibly anxious, indecisive person by nature and I'd worry that with a deadline I'd pick something under pressure.

DP feels pretty terrible about it so while he's feeling like making it up to me I think I might get him to go through a baby name site and actually pick a handful of names he likes for me to pick one from.

Oh tits you poor thing, hope that you are feeling better now. Re the name thing any of my past boyfriends etc have immediately been eliminated by me and I wouldn't allow them to be suggestions.

just that often happens to me re page freezing and losing stuff, so I flick between the page and notes app to write my message then copy and paste as was annoying me.

bradders I'm going to be getting some more vacuum bags to sort out work clothes next time I go shopping :)

Am jealous of you all with finished/nearly finished nurseries...we have got an empty room (as everything else has been piled in spare room for sorting....) hubby wants to add extra plugs, we need to sort out walls (looks like war zone from previous owners love of fitting everything to the wall!!)...then paint walls and skirting boards, new curtains, furniture, carpet...I feel we are running out of time and am also worried that hubby is going to be doing a lot of lifting stuff on his own as he wont allow me to help lift etc obviously...

Oh smiley - are you having professional plasterers in to do the walls? If so, you will be amazed at how quickly they work. We had the same issue, right down to DH insisting on adding extra sockets and moving the radiator. We do still have quite a bit to do - skirting, woodwork, finish painting and sort out the inside of the fitted wardrobe, plus get the new carpet laid but we can see progress.

In terms of the bathroom, we did have a bit of a measurement/cutting disaster so just trying to ensure we are ready for the tiler coming in tomorrow and then I will be on the phone first thing to try and source a replacement part. Thank goodness I am now on maternity leave!! One less thing to worry about and more time to tackle everything else!

Gah! He's having a strop now, he claims he only likes that name and IABU to get annoyed by it, he says he's already started telling people so we have to use it now.
I told him that it's tough, he shouldn't have told people and people aren't as important as us both loving the name of our daughter.

Sadly, I can't be bothered to stress about it now so I've told him we'll talk about it another time. (Plus I know me, I'm likely to get childish and start suggesting names of my exs for a boy just to be difficult )

At least we're set firmly on the middle names

Ex's names are not ok!! Stick to your guns chick. Might be worth leaving new choices for a few days though.

Loving all the domesticity on the thread today. We've done lots of planting in the garden. Figured that we'll prob be spending much more time at home this year so making our own little spring/summer haven.
Hope you all managed to enjoy some sunshine xx

Don't worry Smiley we can't get our nursery done till July or August time when we move back into the flat we were in before.

Tits bring it up again in a couple of days with some new suggestions of your own then ask him to submit some others

So it looks like I have accidentally started maternity leave. The electrical fire that took out a fair bit of London last week has fried our building so we have no access physically at all for the foreseeable and not even remote access this week. Luckily I'd broadly finished handing work over but have all my year end appraisals to do.

I'm so not ready to finish work! I'm totally not ready to go into isolation again! I know it's a short period of my life in the grand scheme of things but I'm not that good at being full time mum and am scared of starting that again and knowing what lies ahead almost makes it worse.

In more pressing matters I'm going to have to drag myself in at some point. I have a personal drawer of thrush cream, pile cream, big pants, Gaviscon, 47kg of choc, moist toilet tissue and giant tights that I would be absolutely MORTIFIED if anyone else started to clear out

Omg bean pile cream!!! Did you get that on prescription?! I found a couple little ones the other day that are quite sore :(

Sorry bean had to laugh at the drawer full of pregnancy joys :) when were you meant to finish?

I am such a prat, I had an intolerance test last year and found out I am intolerant to egg yolks amongst a few things, somethinf I suspected as they would make me bloat and give me trapped wind. Have been really good at cutting them out, until tonight when there were boiled eggs with the salad and I just really fancied one, thinking it's only one... now laying here beyond uncomfortable with painful trapped wind and braxton hicks... could slap myself sometimes!

leanne you should be able to get pile cream.over the counter

Really apple i read somewhere than chemists wont sell you it if you are pregnant!? I'll give it a go!

??????bean 47kg of choc!!

Tits let it lie a bit. Me and OH we just discussing this after dinner at his mums this evening. PILs are lovely about the name but everyone else has an opinion - especially about the Middle name which will be my FIL's name. We talked about it in the car and have just decided that its our child and no one else's opinion matters. I'd say the same to you. You need to agree on a name you both love and it shouldn't be one of you 'giving in'. I've also heard most men will tell you you can call the baby whatever you want after seeing you give birth! Anyway, let it settle and discuss later.