April 07 - Look out world - hormones flying, it's the 2nd trimester

[Bramshott]

Ta-da!

cheers chicken!

Have just read the other posts about the change of relationship that you all feel that you have when the new baby comes!! I am thinking about it alot espcially as ds is from a previous relationship - I am worried that I will treat him differently too or that I won't have enough time for him because next year I will be on my own for a lot of the time with two instead of just me and him!(as dh is in the navy and is going away for 3 months)

charlii13 Not a problem!!!

Hi All,

Mind if I join you? I've been a bit of a lurker on the pregnancy board already and THINK I added my stats to the stat list (short term memory loss!), but this thread looks a lot of fun and informative too, so I'd like to leap in if I may..?

I'm a 36 (just!) year old first time mum-to-be, and live in SE London...

It'll be good getting to know you all, but at the speed this thread moves I'm going to spend most of my time just trying to catch up I think!

Harimad.
16+4

Well I'm not where you guys are in birth order in your own families but I am a number 2 of 3 and to be honest I think most parents overcompensate in the other direction for the rest of their lives!!

I really do believe that middle children are normally the more well adjusted purely because they are left to their own devices so much more!!!

hey folks!!

just back frm physio and i really enjoyed it. there was a class of about 8 of us -all very shy at the start but son nattering away. 3 key exercises - pelvic rolls, lower abdomen and of course pelvic floor!
it was lovely to be amongst other pg women. i never meet anyone else (tho' GMM and a few of us are hooking up on sunday!)

charlii - with you on the going out issue. used to be a party gal but now - too tired and cant be bothered. totally off the booze, diet coke, coke and cigarettes so find it hard to be amongst folks as the evening wears on and alcohol kicks in.

dp cant understand what the heck is going with me and why i dont want to out. no matter how many times i say i dont feel up to it, he will ask and ask and ask! it makes me feel such a frump and stick in the mud!

I totally agree about going out but luckily dh has now accepted that when I say I am not up for it, I mean it. He dragged me out a couple of times lately and after me ending up genuinely tired, emotional and totally over it at 3 am (!) he has accepted that I know what I can manage and what I can't.

However I do feel guilty that he is missing out on nights out by staying in with me, even though I encourage him to go out all the time! I think we're both quite homebody's really though and overall happy to have the excuse to stay in!

Hi & welcome Harimad !

I've just had a phone call from the hospital microbiology department. I dropped a poo sample off at the GPs this morning from dd (sorry if TMI but I saw a live worm wriggling in the bog the other day & think it probably came from her delicate bottom....) and they'd just sent it off to the lab as it was (in a pot in a poly bag - no form but with the note I'd left for the GP saying that I thought dd had worms!! Lucky I'd put my phone number on it).

Am laughing very inappropraitely at the poor lab getting a poo in a poly bag with a wee note and wondering "what the f*ck!!!!!", ! Must have been a trainee receptionist I gave it to.

Welcome Harimad!!

Grrrrrr! Just came back from my midwife appointment and it was HER!!!!!! ARGH!!! Noooooooooooo ......... I was promised that I had a different midwife than the one I had from my last PG so I was thoroughly looking forward to meeting her today and low and behold, who should be sat there waiting for me, but THAT BITCH I had for my last PG!!!!! I couldn't believe it!! She proceeeded to get my name and my 2 DD's names wrong & commented, with a raised brow, "not long since I saw you last really, is it!!!?" NONE OF YOUR BLOODY BUSINESS!! What does the age gap I CHOOSE to have between my children matter to HER!!!? Rah!!

Anyway, I called a good friend of mine who is a Doula and she has given me some numbers to call and advised me to call the hospital too.

So much for "continuity of care" - the receptionist at my surgery said: "Oh, the hospital just send whoever's available at the time....."

Great. Just great.

Anyway, in response to Bugmum, Bramshott, SOL, twinkle, liath and whoever else is having these guilty feelings about having their 2nd. - I just want to reassure you that I felt EXACTLY the same when I was expecting my 2nd......but boy am I glad I did it - It took DD1 a while to get used to DD2 and was a little bit "funny" with me at first; but they absolutely adore each other now. I love having two - they play together and support / protect each other. They probably couldn't imagine life without each other now. Sure, they fight and get cross at one another, but having two was the best thing I ever did - You will feeling guilty for a while, but the feelings soon subside and you can't imagine what life with one was like - You ARE doing the best thing guys!! Hope that helps ......

LOL liath!

Thanks CD.. You have helped me put my mind at rest!!!

at your mw what a nosey cow!! I would of told her by the way its none of your business what the age gaps are between my children, unless this baby is effecting my health, then but out!! (sorry have a very short fuse)

Have a email off my husband today it was lovely made me cry...

twinkle183

Awwww, bless your DH twinkle!!

Totally agree with you about mw - nosey wotnot ......

CD - thanks for the reassurance (and all the rest of you who admitted to feeling as I do!). Also, I think CD ought to have said to the MW: 'No, not long at all. But then of course I'm getting regular sex' - all in a sweet tone with an innocent expression

lol Bugmum, I would love to have been a fly on the wall had CD said that!
Had a cack day - well, the bit in the middle at work was ok, but dd is in a right mood. Just as I went to pich her up from preschool, she was being told off for hitting someone. This then sent her off crying and she has been a nightmare since. Feel like I am going mad, but trying to ignore it. She comes in and asks for juice, and then says she doesn't want it - generally being difficult. Seemingly she has hit a couple of kids to day. Don't know if she is tired or coming down with something - hopefully not the latter.
Need to run.
xx

Every sympathy SOL. My DD1 is being a real whingy, stubborn little moo atm, driving me MAD!! How old is your LO?

PMSL @ what you said I should say to the mw, Bugmum - Fab - I'll remember that for the next person who says: " Gosh, did you DECIDE to have them that close together??"

or 'we shag like bunnies' shocks most into silence!

Nappy fetish taken over - have bought a cuddlebuns which have not seen before - a birth to potty nappy - has dinosaurs on - verrrrry cute and just got 3 xs sandys - all off mumsnet. Must stop now - going away for pamper weekend for my birthday at end of month and need to save some spending money! DH treating me but planning to go shopping for xmas party outfit. Saw that dress in DP - bit short for me - have quite long legs - and once pulled up a bit at the front due to bump would not look great esp with my special xmas crotchless knickers!! (tee hee) Am planning to wear them for the birth - ideal really....!!!!!

Sometimes toddlers can get a bit green eyed over new babies - just make sure you keep an extra eye on them - sure you all have spare ones in the back of your heads!

DS1 just asked a rather poignant question - we are making up his christmas child box and he asks if it will go to africa/india - so I say yes to children who don't have much - and he asks 'why doesn't santa visit them?' - nearly cried - bless him.

Arrrggghh forgot about tea - have just rescued curry!

DH late again - nearly bedtime for little boys!

CD, she is 31/2 going on 12 - slams her bedroom door already!
I just find it so wearing. I am in fact sat in a different room to her as we speak and she seems to have calmed down and come to her senses.
It just makes for such a rubbish day, and I hate feeling grumpy all the time!!

oooh, owen from holby!
yum x

SOL completely sympathise with you about dd being 3 going on 12 only mine is now 6 going on 16. She was so easy as a baby and a young toddler, no tantrums ever just a bit sulky every now and then but then hit 3 and got such an attitude, stroppy, moody, argumentative, rude, opinionated...in a way i suppose its good that she has strong opinions and will stand up for herself, they're characteristics I'd like to see in her as an adult but in a child AAAARGH. Remember sending her to her room after an argument once and she chucked all the covers and sheets off her bed onto the floor and pulled the curtains down, nevermind slamming the door!!

Whereas ds has always been a little sod Unbearably cute though with a smile that can get him out of anything, which is just aswell or I would have throttled him years ago!

Thanks Pesha, I am glad there are others out there! I think she must be really tired or sickening for something as she has been worse than usual. I try not to rise to it, but sometimes I just get so wound up, esp at the mo being pg and knackered!
Anyway, I am of to bed soon, so hope you and everyone else has a lovely sleep and hope that we are all refreshed in the morning!!
x

Oh my goodness, has just taken me about 1.5 hours to catch up on that little lot. Mustn't leave it 4 days again!

Well saw midwife for my 16 week check yesterday. On the +ve side I heard the little one's heart-beat (awwww), but on the -ve side I had a trace of glucose in my urine. Am now really worried and paranoid about gestational diabetes and have been reading up that it can lead to you giving birth to a fat baby with breathing problems, difficult labour....nightmare, nightmare. Can apparently be controlled by diet during the preganancy, but just cannot stop eating at the moment. Have just had supper followed by a bowl of museli and am still hungry. MW didn't seem particularly concerned at this point - she will test for glucose again at 25 weeks (in 9 week's time!!!), but I will be paranoid and worrying until then. Any suggestions on the diet front (apart from giving up sweets and Lucozade)?

SOL and Pesha - forgot to say, if it's any comfort dd has been a right pain in the wotsit over the past few days. Very argumentative, stroppy, whiney (sp?), and just downright unpleasant to be around. To be fair she's only recently started going to school full-time so I'm putting it down to tiredness and just adjusting to her new routine. I have put her to bed 3/4 of an hour earlier for the last 2 nights and her temper does seem to be improving, and hopefully she'll be back to her angelic self soon.

[hugs] of sympathy to all with stroppy teenage toddlers - definitely got one living here, I assure you - DD1 is 3 going on 13 .... She is lovely though, as is DD2 who is 18m and v.cute. I am blessed!

Did you get GD with your 1st emmymummy?? Poor you, you must be worried; but don't think that you can't see a mw for another 9 weeks, if you are at all worried, then just make another appointment, either at your drs or at the hospital - They won't mind at all. May be - take another urine sample in another 2 weeks or something. I really hope it is nothing to worry about - and I think most people get GD in later PG, not as early as this - although I'm not health professional - Don't worry yourself by reading too much info about it honey - try to relax and enjoy bubba - [[hugs]] .... and come on here and air your worries anytime!!

Gotta go - breakfast bowls in need of replenishing!!

emmymummy - I am being tested for gd at 28 weeks because ds2 was 10lbs - seems that watching what you eat in later pg can control it - my urine has been fine so far and don't have another midwife appointment til 27th December - so they can't be that concerned! When I said he was 10 days late which could explain why he was so big - she said unlikely - was probably that big at term. It will be interesting to see at scan whether baby is big for dates.

My DS's behaviour ranges from angelic to demonic - don't get the teenager thing though - just busy being boys! When they get to the stage where they are so mad/upset they can't control themselves I put them in their room and tell them to come out when they have calmed down - rather than putting them there as a punishment iyswim.

Some of us must be 20 weeks - when is the first scan???

Hope everyone has a good day xoxoxoxoxoxo

Morning all!