April 07 - Look out world - hormones flying, it's the 2nd trimester

[Bramshott]

Ta-da!

Bugmum - Not just you oldies, you know - DH is 26 and I am a mere Spring Chicken at 24!!!!!!

Thinking about my list, but the new James bond is definitely on there somewhere - YUM YUM YUM YUM!!!!!!

GMM - Just looked back through my list Maybe its because dh is so far removed from them

Charlii - Bugmum is right, its all about compromise (and she's also right about X-Factor) If he wants to go out, how about you arrange a girly night in, which means you'll be able to have the perks of -

wearing your very comfy clothes without embarassing yourself
no queue for the toilet
no waiting ages for taxi home
sole control of remote control/cd player

Or go out together, eg to a restaurant, where he can get drunk on red wine (like my dp) and you do the driving. This is the compromise that me & dh usually come to. Esp as I get to choose where we eat!!

Good Call Runny!

Come to think of it, it was a relief for me not to go clubbing when I was pregnant with ds. Me & dh have never been huge "go out and get hammered type of people" but our friends at the time couldn't understand why we wanted to stay in. Until we fell pregnant. It was the perfect reason to stay in, and enjoy each others company, and if we wanted to go out, we went where we wanted to go. Dh works long hours, so just being able to be in the same room is a real treat
Although I do sometimes wonder how I got pregnant with his work schedule.......

LOL out at 'the list' - am totally with you there Runnyhabit with Matthew King on Emmerdale and Owen from Holby! Also:-

Andrew Lincoln - from Teachers, This Life, AfterLife
Richard Hammond - Top Gear

My DH is a bit of a sports freak and so has never been into drinking much, only special occasions and has pretty much given up to keep me company during this pgcy. Also, being one of the slightly older ones on this thread (37), our clubbing days are over and the closest thing to shaking my *ss on a Sat night is trying to copy the moves on Strictly Come Dancing BUT I do sympathise Charlii. As you say, we are doing an important job and sometimes it gets forgotten. I'd go for the girly night in as suggested.

Agree with Richard Hammond but I like my men to be taller than me

My 5 that I'm allowed to sleep with and my dh can't get mad!

1)Richard Gere (Runaway Bride)
2)Josh Harnett (Pearl Harbour)
3)Chad Michael Murray (Cinderella Story)
4)James Franco (Tristan & Isolde)
5)James Marsden (Ally McBeal)

However I only like them in those films or programmes - maybe its a combination of there looks and the character that they play!!! I have trouble controlling myself when I watch any of those films!!!!

Am feeling great today - like on top of the world!!!!

twinkle183

(18+5)

thanks guys, it does elp to know that i'm not being overly unreasonable! I do try and compromise with him, but it sometimes feels like a little compromise is a compromise too much for him!Pregnancy has really messed me up i think, i'm soooooo hormonal when it comes to this subject. i am so content with chillin n watchin Strictly on a sat night in ma joggers(sexy!ha!) but i know its not fair to expect him to ALWAYS stay in with me, but if this were a perfect world, he totally would be stayin in and giving up EXACTLY what i am!haha! None of my friends understand n i think they make it worse cos they r always ringing him like"come out...."on a sat night, and then i KNOW he feels like hes missing out......
He has stayed in with me for like 14 of the 17 weeks i've been preg so i know he's trying to tame the monster in me (ha!)....i'm rambling a bit now...i'll stop
heehee

thanks peeps for the advice anyhoo

xx hugs to all xx

Charlii i am being incredibly unreasonable with dp and giving him a really hard time if he goes out cos its not fair and im jealous!! Even if he's just been to the pub for a couple after football before coming round i dont like it cos he smells of smoke (not his, other peoples) and it smells lovely and I cant smoke so its not fair him waltzing around smelling of it!! However its partly because he was such last time I was pg so he's got a lot of making up to do. Really I think you need to find a compromise, I suppose it is unfair to expect him or make him give up as much as you and could cause problems but I would expect him to cut back and limit it and as other people said have a girly night or go out for a meal with him.

I read everyones posts last night but was too tired to say anything and now i cant remember anything i wanted to say and im too tired to read through it all again! This thread seems to have really got going more over last few days doesnt it or is that just me? Will come back if i remember things!

Sorry took too long to post!

Really have to think of a list, not sure i have anyone I think there have been people in films like twinkle just said, the characters rather than just what the actor looks like. Will get back to you!

Thanks Pesha. The girly night thing is never gonna happen tho for the simple fact that ALL my girlfriends go out every week end to clubs etc so when i do stay in when my partners out, its on my own, which why i then crack up. My mates see me loads during the week, don't get me wrong, but they'd all much rather go out for a few on a sat night then sit in with pregnant old me....hey ho! at least i've got u guys to natter to this sat night (its my partners pool do so guess whose home alone?!)
cheers x

Have you read through most of this thread? Are you close enough to anyone for a meet up?

ummmmmmmm i dunno. I'm in north devon...where's everyone from?

I'm in south somerset but i think there are a few people more in your direction, i should know who but I hardly know who I am half the time at the moment!! Im sure someone will say soon if they live near you. Oh arse have to go get ds time goes so quick on mn!!

okey dokey! thanks for your response tho! Have a good day x

I have something to ask those of you expecting your second (or more): do you feel guilty about the one(s) you already have? I KNOW this is ridiculous, I KNOW I wanted the new baby in part for DS, as I think he's the type of child who will benefit from a sibling, and I also KNOW he will be jealous and first and to expect regression etc. All this I know. So why do I feel I am betraying my baby? I have actually cried about this! DP says it's normal (he's a psychotherapist), but also laughs at me about it (he isn't a psychotherapist at home, iyswim). So what do you reckon? Anyone else having/had this?
16+4

Bugmum - I'm so glad you posted that!! I am plagued by worries that the baby will change my special relationship with DD, and somehow make me love her less. She is so excited about the baby, and so much can't wait for it, and I know she'll be a great big sister, but I can't see how my relationship with her will be so special when she isn't my only one. Maybe that's mad? Unfortunately, a friend who had her 2nd earlier in the year spends no end of time going on about how wonderful the baby is, and how difficult she now finds her challenging 3 year old! Maybe those who already have more than 1 can re-assure us that it all works out fine (which logically, I'm sure it does!).

charlii13 I am in Cornwall, have a look at our stats thread!! I definately know that there at least a few that live in Devon!!

I am sorry that I am not of more help to you = am being a bit naughty being on mns while at work

twinkle183

Twinkle - me too! i'm @ work as well! whoops!heehee!

Where is this "stats thread" - being a bit of a MN virgin, i can struggle to find things sometimes!lol

God, I cannot keep up with all this!
Charli, I am sorry you are feeling a bit hacked off with dp. I hope you talk to him about it - don't let it fester so that it winds you up too much.
My dh and I gave up going out when dd was born (well, not totally!). So, not an issue really. Although saying that as mentioned before he keeps organising things whereby I am going to be under pressure - ie having lots of people to lunch! Sounds daft I know, but I feel overwhelmed by day to day keeping up with the house, dd and work, let alone having hordes of people over.
Bugmum, I am so pleased you raised the question. I often feel like I am betraying dd by having another child, but at the same time, know that she is crying out for a sibling. I am going to make such an effort to keep her involved in everything and not let number 2 take over the attention completely - probably easier said than done.
Feel guilty today as I dropped her at preschool on bad terms, as I had shouted at her this morning. As soon as she woke up she was so whiny, and refused to co-operate. I just went off on one. I find it so draining when she is like that.
On the top 5, well, I haven't heard of half the people on the lists! I have to say I have a thing for Duncan James (ex Blue). Apart from that, celebs don't do it for me. How sad!! There is only 1 other person for me (not my dh, and is the person I was thinking about when I came up with my nickname on here!!!)
Anyway, time for a spot of luncheon.
See you later. xx

Bugmum, I feel the same too. I have such a great time with dd, just the two of us and I feel SO guilty at the thought of the upheaval that a new baby will bring. I'm going to be tired and might not be able to be a good enough mummy to her.

Somebody give me a good slap and tell me it'll be FINE!!!

Have decided to add Russell Crowe to my list but only if he's in character from the Gladiator.

charlii138 am just having a look for you!

emmymummy Just seen that pic of one of your daughters see is beautiful (Its at the beginning of the thread)

Right found it - its called the April 2007 stats thread - if click all the talk antenatal threads alphabetical then your find it easier but we may need to start a new one!!!