April 2015 Thread 14: We've got the fanny daggers and the babies aren't keen on waiting till April!

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I had the wonder weeks too StuntNun, very helpful.

I am the opposite about saving me or child, not really thought about it with relation to child birth but a while ago there was a storyline in casualty about someone who saved his wife before his baby and the baby died and she ended up leaving him. I told Dh then that I'd never forgive him If he saved me before my boys and his attitude was, was can have more children but I can't replace you which totally shocked me! I guess I should be glad that he feels like that about me but my babies will always come first I'm afraid as much as I love him and couldn't contemplate life without him.

I have a few hours child free while ds2 is at school. Decided not to rush around and do stuff like a often do on a Thursday afternoon and Just come home. Super noodles for lunch with loose women then a spot of ironing but mostly sitting. Better set an alarm on my phone in case I drift off!

I totally get not planning anything in the first few weeks but don't totally rule it out, everyone is different and you may relish a trip out. Bf doesn't have to equate to weeks trapped at home with your boobs out all day. A friend of mine bf her baby born in may and went to several Olympic games events, stayed away and just had him in a sling while watching everything!

Hiding - I know I feel a bit evil now. Oh well at least he knows

Oh cinnamon don't get me wrongif it was a choice between me or dd I would want him to save dd. But me or unborn maybe who may be at risk too, it doesn't seem right to deny dd a mummy as much as it would be devastating to lose any child, unborn or not. What a horrible thing to think about.

This plane crash thing is really sad. Could the copilot have been ill or something? I know he was breathing... But then I guess illness like that (apart from mental) would stop him from locking the door and pressing a descent button... How awful.

I'm going to go an tidy something and get a hernia belt on I think before a bath then hospital appointment. I will chat to the consultant about induction. Maybe I will ask for an appointment at 40 weeks to decide about induction or something depending on how things are going?

*unborn baby, not maybe. Whatever happens from now he will always be more to us than a maybe!!!

I know what you meant daholster it is a horrible thing to think about. Dh's dad dying in December made me think a lot about mortality of everyone around me and I started to feel very guilty that I don't know more about my parents lives considering they know a hell of a lot about mine. Ds1 asked me yesterday if I'll still love him when he's a teenager, I told him I will always love and and his brothers more than anything else but there may be times we don't like each other. Started telling him the moment they gave him to me I loved him more than I ever thought it was possible to love another person and then started blabbing in the playground, probably no surprise I cried at the receptionist yesterday! He's very sensitive and is starting to worry about me being away from him for a few days, which I hate but obviously way overthinking everything, bless him. Had to make my mum promise in front of him that she'd bring him to the hospital like anything would keep her away from visiting her new grandson when baby is born as he doesn't want to not see me for 3 days together

yeah squatting youre prob right. Once he realises how different things will be he should understand. i must say he is very supportive, he just lives in a very possitive, optimistic, idealistic world (especially compared to me)

oh well if you're there lauren maybe i will come ;)
I love blackpool, we used to go 2-3 times a year coz my mum lived there so we used to visit. But I don't fancy a windy prom and a bf'ing baby lol. Maybe later in the year.... I'll come and have an ice cream with you :P

Squatting I am using the Health and Heather one and enjoy it but no where else seems to sell any other brands by me so its what I have ended up with. I am used to it I suppose also I always add sugar to my flavoured tea and drink it from a glass, seems to always taste better. If I don't have milk in a drink it has to be in a glass cup think that's the polish side of my coming out a bit!

I have so much bump pain today I wish I knew what to expect starting to get annoyed with things now!!
Went shopping and brought my self a gadget for my pram www.mothercare.com/Milton-Mini-Portable-Soother-Steriliser/449762,default,pd.html Bit of shopping to make me feel better plus its purple to match pram, DH will probably moan about getting something I don't really need but treated my self!

Us too lauren! We have family in Poulton-Le-Fylde and Preston but as yet I have never made it to the prom - it's dh's family. But I would love to! when it's warmer...

I've been sick twice today and had two episodes of upset stomach. Body you better be doing something productive rather than it just being a random bug.

Oh dear kismac ! And I am once again alarmed at the pressure of this baby in my bum with mildly painful contraction. Just the one, just now. Will see if there are more!

Picked up some priton, it better work I can't stand another night of itching and contractions!

In the evenings there is this feeling of pushing down below with them, gah.

Oh no... Think I have realised partly why everything might be so sore... I had mushrooms for tea with dd. MUSHROOMS!!! That don't break down into ANYTHING!!! Tmi but usually mushrooms come out almost as they went in... And I have seen no mushrooms... Not much actually... I am such an idiot!!!!! And now I'm getting all these contractions, probably my angry gut is pissing off my uterus! Oh what a joy I shall be for the consultant!!! stupid woman... Me, that is!!!

Hope you feel better kismac or it's at least your body preparing! and hope the antihystamines work Sairie - itching is horrible.

I'm hoping my hayfever will hold off until baby is here so I can get some appropriate medicine.

Grr my whole post disappeared!

Anyway it was good news from the mw, she told me the growth charts are a load of rubbish based on racial averages, age and your previous babies so has no baring on what size this one is going to be, 'just another bit of paper' is what she called it. I've only grown 1cm in 2 weeks but I'm still well within the range so she wasn't bothered. Everything else was fine and head is still 3/5 engaged so I reckon it's not going to move. She was quite surprised how low down it was considering I've already got DD. She also talked me into going to see the MLU and she swung it by saying it's more one to one care. She got DH at lava lamps

DD behaved herself but she had me in stitches when she asked me why I had to go to the widmife! No amount of correcting her would get her to change the letters round. Made me chuckle for a while.

squatting tesco sells the clipper rlt online and it's quite regularly on offer so that's what I went with. Not sure if that contributed to the speed of my labour but looking at my discharge summary stage 1 and 2 are about 3:30 hours combined.

Wow good luck with the scan Squatting. Let us know!

Any more episodes kismac?! Hope you're feeling ok.

What is the raspberry leaf tea supposed to do, everyone? I remember you all talking about it a while back.

Sitting in hospital reception after my appointment which was as per usual late and I want to cry. IABU but the consultant didn't see me (which I am perfectly happy with) but the sonographer had suggested she write "for consultant only" on the front of my sheet so it looked like I was being a demanding pain in the arse when I didnt especially care - so long as i got someone who knew what fhey were talking about. Then someone got sent to ask me if I would consider seeing a reg to which I said of course. Then I heard the care assistant tell the consultant I had a few issues with obstructions and the consultant going "well I'm happy for her to see the registrar" in a proper stroppy sort of tone that said "this woman is being far too demanding and I'm not having it" tone of voice.

So when the reg came I embarrassedly asked a million questions and she was very nice, but kept telling me my bump pain wasn't anything to worry about because my bump was soft, and so I wasn't having contractions at the moment (well no, I knew I wasn't when I was lying down and sitting down!). She said they would review at 40 weeks to see if induction might be necessary and if my cervix would be favourable but that "hopefully we would get to 42 weeks before it was needed". I told her that was hard to contemplate because the pain from my stoma was getting worse and she said that " it didn't look too bad and the hernia looks alright at the moment". Oh, f off was all I could think. What do they know? Its fine, if I lose another few kilos over the next week they will have to think about everything they say, I am pissed off with people saying I should stop worrying and its when none of them have a bloody clue what it is like. I think I'm actually doing pretty fing well putting up with but all anyone can say is "its fine we'll wait and see".

Then dh rang asking if he can go out for drinks when his flight lands because he'll be too late for dd's bed anyway and doesn't want to ruin our weekend by suggesting he goes out then instead and he thought I'd prefer it this way.

So, another bed time to do myself when I hurt. I am so unhappy having a little cry in the main entrance of the hospital dreading my walk back to the car because it hurts. And because I can't face picking up dd and doing all the dinner and bath and bed even though I want the cuddles, I don't want the effort and that makes me feel like a bad mummy.

Bet everyone thinks I'm mad.

And there is no one I can go for a hug to because my best friend is in Kenya NY dh is on a plane and my closest friend here I'd at work and I want a hug and a cry. Not going to PILs like this and mum is miles away. Wish I still had my lovely stoma nurse, I would cry with her.

Oh Daholster your entitled to feel fed up and not wanting to do the bedtime routine by yourself. I think your doing wonderfully coping as you are.

I needed the loo before and even though DH is in the house DD decided to follow me up. Insisted she needed the loo too so I got off and went to lie down. She came running in saying she didn't need it and then tried to get me to play. I so wasn't in the mood, told her to play by herself and pretended to fall asleep so she would leave me alone!

I was just do exhausted from the park and then shopping I just couldn't handle the 'mummy play with me.'

Oh Daholster, what a time you're having!
I really don't know what to say. I'm no use on the 'other half' front as I can't even stop my own from going away in a stag do this weekend. So I do feel your pain when you say there's no one for hugs.
Have you already left the hospital? I would demand that you're not leaving until you get a better suggestion for coping. You're clearly in a lot of pain

Nope now I'm in the car trying to decide how to manage my emotions/rest of the evening. Its not that I'm in constant pain, I'm OK when I'm sitting usually, and I'm sure my tight bump pain when I vet up and walk (along with the pain between my legs) is as many other people's is, perhaps with an added sore gut as it is squished and a bit annoyed with me at the moment. But telling me my hernia and stoma is fine really pissed me right off because the pain is unpleasant - not horrendous but makes me bend when I get up to try and relieve it if I get up too quickly - and it really gnaws and worries me, and makes me tearful, but no one seems to give a shit. Perhaps if they were bowel surgeons and had a clue what they were talking about then I would accept it more. How can she know more about my stoma and hernia than me?! I said I was concerned I'd end up obstructed and need emergency surgery and I'd rather stave that off, and she said that a section unless needed in an emergency wouldn't be the right thing to do. OK whatever. I wouldn't have minded as much but could tell she was trying to patient but was stressing about the hour long queue waiting outside. I just want to sit here and shout across the road that they can all jog on. I really wish there was a stoma nurse. I feel very alone actually. You guys are literally the only ones keeping me company right now and I am so grateful

Oh sweet Priton, I napped for two hours this afternoon and greatly reduced itching. Can't wait to have one before bed tonight! Hoping for a nice night of itch free sleep.

I'm sure you're not the only one to feel alone - I feel like that a lot of time. I love my other half but sometimes feel like I've gone through this pregnancy alone so far.
Can you speak to a midwife about how concerned you are? Do you not have a stoma nurse anymore?