April 2015 Thread 14: We've got the fanny daggers and the babies aren't keen on waiting till April!

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Nunkie I love Kitty and Queenie! Two names I hadn't come across when girls names were in question. Looks like we have a very similar taste in names! You've just reminded me of another marmite name I like, Bunny! Katie Price brought the name to my attention with her baby girl but aside from her, I like that it's different. I also like Bonnie, too.

Londonlivvy nicely put! Hope you're not feeling too grumpy!

Moomin don't be annoyed with yourself. It's natural to be a bit scared of the body changes! I'm 22 so the big droopy boobs are scary! When I'm normally used to 34B's!

moomin it does make you feel old. It is depressing when you factor out the bundle of joy you get. I got more grey, a few stretch marks, my boobs changed from pretty damn good to ENORMOUS milk boobs to then a bit flat and floppy... I hate floaters too but you do notice them less and less unless its a bright day, honest. Its the price we have to pay for our bundles of excitement. And my dh loves my changes he tells me, in their own way. They mean our little girl who is the light of our lives.

And just before I fell pregnant again my boobs had started firming up. I was losing the jelly belly left over (though am going to try a personal trainer for the muffin tops) and my eyes were better. The greys are still creeping but actually age wise its about the same timing as my mum. And kids make you grey!!!

I decided that I would stop worrying about it once dd was here. I will always be sad that I feel like I have lost my young body but its an inevitability of life I decided I had to accept at only age 31 (I know you are younger). And now my target it getting as much of my university body back as I can by next spring! Big challenge but excited to see what I can do. Its sad leaving old chapters behind. But I promise you the next chapter you are embarking on us totally amazing.

I wouldn't swap it for my body or old lifestyle back

Might ask grandpa if he can join us at the theme park for entertainment and queuing!

Thanks everyone.

PS RL our dd Kaitlin is nicknamed Kitty and I love it

Oh sorry it was nunkie ! Kitty is so cool and cute at the same time I think. Of course I am biased

We dtd today MoonminMamma22 and i said to Dh I feel so unattractive, my boobs are really lumpy, my belly is stretched and hardly ever stops moving when I'm laying down and my legs have got thinner so the saggy skin from the 5st I lost has got worse, and he said 'yep' quickly followed by 'but I still think you're hot'. I've had grey hairs since I was 21 but I do feel older all the time and totally know what you mean. I've learned to love my thinner body but I'm not looking forward to what it's going to look like post baby that I will have to get used to again! Don't have they foot problem, shoes are tight later on in the day but otherwise ok. Pregnancy isn't a kind process but I do think you can learn to love look more favourably on your new body.

I'm another worrying about the changes pregnancy has brought on my body. My feet seem to have stayed the same size and boobs are also not much bigger, but I can't imagine my belly ever being flat again!

Wow! Another baby! Congratulations Boo!

Dont worry RL, im three days behind you so you wont be on your own (EDD is same as LadyNovember)! Though ppl at work dont think I'll go to due date as bump is ginormous!
Need to read back again to catch up with you all ...

Moomin it's normal to mind about the changes, of course it is. Try to remember that a few good bras and a decent colourist after the baby's here and settled will go a long way.

Lauren I feel a bit like you as it's been 3.5 yrs since DD born. I'm pinning all my hopes on a hungry baby breastfeeding me back to reasonably slim and then my mum taking pity on me and sending me to a fancy hair centre when it all falls out again postnatally. I think I'll ask for bravissimo vouchers for Christmas so I can kit myself out in some nice bras with magical lifting powers too.

Nunkie I've always loved Kitty. But we're having a boy this time around so sadly not destined to be one in our family

Ate so much at big family lunch today, what a fail. Why did I need three pieces of baklava? Why? i feel like I'm getting fuller as the hours pass, like it's all growing inside me. Poor baby must be v squashed

It really sucks smogsville, I pretty much don't enooy any food at the moment! I regret almost everything I eat amd feel miserable for hours afterward so totally feel your pain!

We just had a visit from the ILs and were reminded not to ask them for too much help when the baby arrives. FFS I only asked my MIL to pick DS2 up from school while DH and I are in hospital for me to have my section. My mum is coming over to help out but she can't drive my car and it would be tricky for her to go and collect him in a taxi because she'll have DS3 to look after who's only 2.

Oh Stuntnun that's a bit shit isn't it. Is there anyone else you can ask, maybe a friend of your son's who he could potentially stay the night with?

Cinnamon that's very generous of you but I really was a massive pig and brought it on myself. But I'll accept the sympathy and keep drinking water slowly to try to flush my system out

Sorry you're all feeling low about your bodies - I can't stand mine but it was the same before getting pregnant. I have lost a dress size in maternity clothes since being pregnant so hopefully I can lose weight after the baby and get to a good bmi for my height.

Urgh I've been knitting too close and now my eyes are fuzzy. Was trying to do a really fiddly bit. Hope it doesn't give me a migraine. I can't afford to have a day off tomorrow. It'll put me on a trigger point as it's not pregnancy related.

Thanks everybody for kind comforting comments and seems im not alone in how i feel. Pretty emotional reading your reply daholster about DD being light of your life... I know its going to be such an incredible new chapter and that's why I feel silly for even entertaining these negative thoughts about body image. Not like I was a supermodel to start with!!

Lol smogs at that baklava growing inside you, I completely pig out at times too and then sit there dying thinking whhhyyyy did I eat that

Lauren fingers crossed no migraine, plenty water, darkened room, rest your eyes!

Wow this is why I fell off these threads, just checked back since I posted this morning and can't believe how many posts there's been!

Congratulations Boo! And welcome to the world Baby Boo!

Siarie, have obviously missed your previous posts about itching so forgive me if already suggested, but I've been slathering on thick layers of calamine lotion, it really really helps, although it means I have a crusty pink tummy most of the time.

On the subject of swelling I've got a bit of an embarrassing problem, Dr has diagnosed me with Bartholins cysts which are on either side of my outer labia. Haven't really been bothering me so didn't see the Dr until last week as now my whole fango has swollen right up. And I mean to the extent where my knickers are getting caught and stuck up there. Got an appt to see my consultant in a week as I'm worried babies exit might get blocked!!!

Stuntnun st your PIL!! Why can't they help more? How rubbish.

Sorry about everyone's aches pains and body worries. Being postnatal now I actually currently don't mind my bigger slightly saggy tummy as it's proof of carrying my dd. Still hope to be back in my bikini by August when we go away but don't actually mind at the minute plenty of time. I know I won't look as good as the other younger women we are going with but as long as DH loves me...!

Feel like I've turned a corner with breastfeeding. No top ups for 36 hours and she seems to be feeding more effectively and had just had an hour on the side she was refusing. Touch wood frantically!!! Also took her out to my mums and a quick walk round the block well I wasn't quick was still hobbling around but felt good to be out. Now I just need sleep.....

Just googled FizzyBubbly, ow hope they manage to sort them quickly!

Good idea Smogs, I have a friend who lives near the school and probably wouldn't mind running DS2 home for me. She's due with her third baby next week so we're very much in it together at the moment!

Thanks for the new thread, just marking my place.

I'm 35+2 and feeling fed up and exhausted already, might be something to do with the crazy two year old I'm always running around after .

I finished work this week (thank god), so hopefully get some time to rest. Anyone else feeling completely shattered?

Due date is 24th, but I'm booked in for a c section on the 17th. Not really what I wanted but it is the safest option apparently.

I'd be tempted to just give him the day off StuntNun, sorry your mil is being a pain

Dh is off tomorrow so we can take the car in, hoping it will be fixed in the day and we can get it mot'd Asap and back to normal! My stepdads car has been great but it's so tiny! I said to my mum we'd get him a bottle of gin and she said don't you dare! We will .

Hoping dss is happy to come tomorrow and we don't have the stress we had last Monday.

Stuntnun - well, that was helpful of them. I hope they get a bit more sympathetic when you explain the issues with transport.

Fizzy - ouch! Hope the consultant appointment puts your mind at rest!

Hurrah for both of you getting the hang of the breast feeding, Penguin!

I have to say I'm quite liking what my body's doing during pregnancy... I mean, it's weird and I could do without the aching hips/gluteal muscles, and the whole three point turn to roll over in bed, but the body is looking - well, like it's got a small person in it, and that's really quite exciting.

Hospital bags are still not packed, but they are lined up against the living room wall with what needs to go in them mostly there, now waiting for the second lot of tumble drying to finish so the clothes and bits can go in! Still a couple of bits and bobs that will need to be added after I bring all my stuff back from overnighting at work, but we're nearly there! Makes me feel quite a bit more comfortable. As does (whisper it) having the mattress protector sheet on the bed in case of waters going in the night, which we sorted out this afternoon...

congrats, boo!

docpeppa yep baby safety first! sorry you are disappointed though

penguin yay! Hopefully you can start to enjoy it all a bit more soon

Dh is off to Edinburgh again tomorrow. He is going to test the water about not going up the week after - I will be 38 weeks in that Tuesday - and working from home. He's not sure how they will take it... He might go up for one night or something if he can get away with it. My in laws who are the ones close by are away that week so I will be relying on friends and my parents who are 1hr 15mins away . Hm. He was asking if there was anything he could tell them about my medical status to suggest whether the baby might wait... I said no... I've had loads BHs the last few days but cannot remember when they started ramping up with dd which is annoying. I had mildly painful contractions in the mornings for half an hour to an hour a couple of days before I went into proper labour with dd but I don't think I've had any of those yet.

We have started talking about my birth plan. I'm in some ways more open to intervention than last time but very set about other stuff. Still no pethidine or diamorphine - paracetamol and gas and air only - but more open to epidural this time. Going to discuss with consultant on Thursday that I think I would be ok with ventouse but not forceps... If my suspicion is right, forceps are a bit risky for tears even with episiotomy, and I need my pelvic floor and perineal anatomy in best nick possible to help with continence after my ileostomy reversal operation which I am hoping for in 2016/2017. So I think I'd prefer a proceed straight to c-section... But then I don't want to get lots of extra scarring from even more surgery if I can help it either!!! So I need her input really. I also need to ask her about my third stage - did physiological last time but ended up needing ERPC a week later because of left over placenta, with general anaesthetic, antibiotics etc (told them something was wrong!!! Stupid CMW, seems to have left now so hopefully I won't have her again). I don't know if having the injection would really have helped prevent that though but I need to ask.

Crib is coming down with car seat next weekend for washing and putting up. Hospital bag all done now except the last few washed bits for the baby and our food bag needs actually packing again, only thing I can't find is there as toads I bought. Where have I put them?!

Nothing done on the house today but things are getting more sorted in my head which is at least a bit helpful. I'm fairly convinced the baby won't arrive until my worry and stress levels drop so hopefully it won't be until at least next week when I know what dh is doing for work and the bedroom/crib is sorted and clean!

Sorry if I have missed anything... BHs are back!