April 2015 Thread 14: We've got the fanny daggers and the babies aren't keen on waiting till April!

[TheBooMonster]

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We’re in the home stretch ladies, we've had six babies, how many more threads can we manage before the last baby is here?

Oh most importantly my bloods came back ok, which is great because I can still try for my low risk birth (if she stays in) but bad because I still want to attack my skin with a wire brush.

So she wasn't keen on hanging about, we're on postnatal and both doing well (though the less said about the state of my fanjo the better) will update once I've slept!

Congratulations Boo!

So exciting... Congratulations Boo!!!

Hope you are feeling a bit better daholster & managed to get a cuppa... Hopefully a nap is on the cards for later?

Congratulations Boo! Well done to you both.

Penguin he feeds for over an hour, pretty much until he's asleep every time, but if put him down he cries and makes hunger cues (these are different than his nappy/cuddle cues). And he will then drink a lot of formula. He's having plenty of wet nappies, but in the last 4.5 days, only one admittedly huge dirty nappy.

Congrats boo!

Congratulations TheBooMonster!!

I had some disturbed sleep as I was uncomfortable for the first bit of the night and thinking about it but it's turned into nothing

Timing of feeds isn't important it's more important to make sure they are actively feeding you should be able to see/hear swallows otherwise they are just using you as a dummy and will make your nipples sore. I found with mine active feeding was 20-30mins and the rest was just sucking. I know there will be people who say leave them as long as they are on but ds1 would have destroyed my nipples in the early days of I'd done that. Are you uncomfortable RiverRocks or just worrying?

I would get you Dh to speak to his gp daholster, weight doesn't help with snoring but it's not the only thing and focussing on it probably won't help as he'll just get defensive with you. I was very overweight for a long time and nothing anyone did or said would have made me change just make me more miserable. Ime it has to come from the persons desire to lose weight so focus on improving his sleep/snoring not on getting him to lose weight would be my advice. I snore now whether pregnant or not and I have a perfectly healthy BMI so it's just me I guess, Dh wears ear plugs and I've never woken any of my kids worth it. Good luck on getting some sleep at least you can catch up while he's in Edinburgh

Congratulations Boo!

Sorry you had a rough night. I echo what others have said about doing a healthy eating plan together. That way you can support each other. It's important for him to get on top of it as having a new baby will be exhausting and he'll want to be in the best possible health for that.

Glad things have settled down Siarie.

I was sick twice yesterday and once on Friday. Getting nervous that it's a sign of something. Also getting a lot of pressure in my pelvis. I did have a UTI but I've finished the antibiotics. Maybe it's not quite cleared up. Hmmm.

Bit of both, really, cinnamon.

I do think part of the time he is using it as a dummy, but then he'll do big sucks again or lots of little licks which someone said was getting the hind milk to follow.

I tend to then go for formula when I need to go to toilet/am falling asleep. We're trying to keep it that DH does formula and I just do boob.

There's a breastfeeding support group locally on a Monday which we're going to try drop in to, as I don't think his latch is great, either.

Congratulations Boo! That did seem to be quite fast! Hope you get some rest now.

Glad you are ok too Siarie.

Sorry you had such a bad night Daholster. Yes I'd play it that you are more concerned about his quality of sleep with the snoring rather than a focus on weight.? Either way it's one of those sensitive conversations so best of luck and hope you get a nap or two in today!

Thanks all.

cinnamon I totally agree about nagging re weight usually being unhelpful. I just feel a bit lost about how to help him, we've tried so many things. He didn't snore until about a stone or two ago that's why I get criss about it. I hear so many excuses, last 3 weeks he tells me of epiphanies about what he is doing wrong diet wise but they don't change.

Anyway, I did some work. penguin I don't think badly but it isn't helping his wakefulness.

He used to exercise esp running but now he is too heavy and injures too easily so gets laid up and its a vicious circle.
I will stop talking about it now, its for us to sort, but am happy to listen to suggestions

Congratulations boo! siarie the pressure sounds like she is moving down. If it's true labour it won't stop and the intensity definitely gets to pain. I was on the floor (literally) on my knees grabbing things to help me get through the contractions, and when we got there I was 4cm and it was another 6 hrs before dd arrived. Everyone is different though but you will most likely work it out in plenty of time.

cinnamon maybe its a sign things will go early though... I hope so!

36+5

Congratulations Boo!

Daholster - hope you get some progress. I'm really mean to DH, if he wakes me up snoring (which thankfully isn't often) he gets poked until he rolls over which usually solves the problem! Hope you can find something that works for you 2.

Hope you're okay too Sairie - all these new pains etc are so confusing it's difficult to know when something is properly happening, but at least you have the car sorted now and hopefully no more long trips!

Congratulations Boo Don't know if I can deal with hearing a story about your poor fanjo though Hope you're both doing ok otherwise.

Daholster I must have fell sleep just a few minutes before your original post this morning. I was awake for a good hour, if not longer, from about 4.20 ish. Had woke up for a wee and couldn't get back to sleep. I had stayed at my mums house as the other half had gone out, and was just winding myself up about things.
So anyway yes I agree it's a difficult subject to talk about, or even to begin to rectify with someone, even if it is your partner. Would you say it's still a general problem even without the snoring? My partner does snore but it tends to be when he's either really, really overtired (so perhaps a better sleep routine if there isn't already one), when he's had a drink or 2 (which is fairly obvious) or when he lays on his back (so of course I wake him up and tell him to turn over). With the weight, when baby is here would you be able to a lot more walking together, with the pushchair etc? That's what I'm planning on doing. I agree that getting him to talk to a doctor is a good idea (I'm sure someone suggested that anyway), but it's often hard with men. With my dad, he was always overweight, (tends to come with being a lorry driver, sometimes!), and one day his foot slipped as he was getting out of the lorry. He went to the doctors about it and inevitably the doctor told him he needed to lose weight otherwise it could lead to diabetes, and that he'd lost his balance because of something to do with his weight causing something or other. Moral of the story is, he needed that kick up the backside from a professional for him to do anything about it. And he's never gone back to unhealthy eating since, and it's been about 8 years now. Small changes are the best, choosing basically the same foods but with a percentage less fat in them etc etc. Good luck, it's a difficult one, but once you get started it's a breeze. It's just the getting started that's the hard part.

Glad your blood results came back ok Siarie. Could your doctor prescribe you with a topical moisturiser to ease the itching? Like an aqueous cream. I have to use one combined with a steroid cream for my dermatitis.

Moomin yep, I realised that! No idea why I didn't think before posting it as I'm always on the Baby Name threads and have seen how people can be!
With regards to Jorge, it was going to be the true authentic pronunciation, but now I feel as though people are going to see it as 'George' anyway so I might just keep it as that pronunciation and just say it's a twist on the spelling

Congratulations Boo!!!

Morning, All!

Feeling a bit uncertain this morning after having a mini-meltdown yesterday... What do you make of this..?

So we got back from our NCT class (which was great but contained the horrifying revelation that you have to inject yourself with anticoagulants following a Caesarian?!?! :0( ) and I noticed when I removed my watch that it was really digging in.

Naturally I started panicking about pre-eclampsia and DP advised me to ring the antenatal hotline and ask questions.

My response to this (as I imagined a scenario where I was immediately whisked off to hospital and induced) was to become tearful and declare myself not ready to have a baby yet.

What the hell is all that about? :0( I'm nearly 38 weeks and should be longing to meet Peanut at this point, not scared and trying to put it off. Is it normal to feel reticent as a first baby approaches?

I just feel like (past the first 3 months of sicky, hormonal misery) this has been a very lucky textbook pregnancy and I'm surrounded by lovely, supportive people. To kind of... freak out at the first indication of something going awry, or the baby becoming 'real'.. well, I just feel like a spoilt wuss, esp compared to what some of you have been going thru with constant check-ups, partners working away, existing children to look after

I guess what I'm saying is it makes me doubt my competence as a mother if I can't even make a sensible phonecall re mine and Peanut's health without without dreaming out first.

(I did call of course, and they just said to keep an eye out for any other symptoms but otherwise just go ahead with my midwife appointment on Tuesday anyway. My feet look like sausages tho :0)

Anyways, sorry for the very self-absorbed essay. I guess I'm fishing for anyone else having last-minute-freak-outs to check that I'm not abnormal/a hopeless case!

(Now off for a very short, slow jog on my sausage-feet )

('Dreaming' out = FREAKING out.
Effing Autocorrect!! )

Nunkie I think this sounds normal and you will not be alone. I felt the same at various points through pregnancy - cried on DH several times with "I'm scared of having a baby" and to be honest having had her for 8 days I'm still scared but life will eventually readjust to the new normality. It is scary no doubt about it but the amount I love my little girl makes up for the rest of it. for you.

Morning everyone, I am very behind! marking place for now and will have a catch up later... if I get the chance.

we are on day 9 of new baby, luckily she is feeding and sleeping pretty well, unlike her sister as a baby (although it's early days yet!).

As Penguin said Nunkie, sounds distressing for you but completely normal. You're concerned which would suggest to me you'll be a great mum!

Remember swelling is often normal, I can't even keep my wedding ring on now, but it is important to be aware of pre-eclampsia.

Hope you feel better today and just try and find something you can do each day to remind you of the excitement coming for you - maybe sorting clothes, or filling in a baby book, or planning a play list for the birth (even if you don't use it, it's the psychological positive it will give).

Nunkie it's totally normal! I didn't hate being pregnant with my boys and was happy to poodle along being pregnant! I wasn't worried about labour as its relatively short and there are a variety of drugs if you need them but I was terrified about the first 6 weeks of life with a baby when I had never changed a nappy. I was 42 weeks when ds1 made an appearance and still would have chosen to be pregnant longer than give birth. In reality I was the happiest mum ever to have him in my arms when the time came and I did find the first bit tough but go through it with the support of my dh and fell in love whole heartedly with being a mum! Try not to worry about the unknown, you will be scared, it's normal! You don't know what it's like being in labour or to look after a newborn 24/7 but you also don't know how you will cope and worrying about it won't make it any easier. On the swelling front I had a friend who inky wore flip flops for the last 2 months of pregnancy as she couldn't get shoes on at all, luckily she had a June baby!

Definitely go to the bf place RoverRocks, I had three midwives tell me my latch was good with ds1 before a 4th said its not and once changed it made such a difference! I get the fluttering but it should then be followed by proper swallowing. It may not be, but check out kellymom, somewhere there is a feeding/swallowing pattern chart that will give an idea of what should be going on. Also make sure you are doing at least one night feed breastfed as nights are very important for supply at this stage. I'm not an expert on mixed feeding as I never did it but shouldn't you offer breast at each feed before doing the formula top up?

Been for a run (probably my last with canicross club as they are too speedy and I feel I'm holding everyone up!) and the period pains are back! Going to have brekkie and get my ball out and have a bounce just in case

Aww Nunkie, I love you for posting that. You have basically just summed up exactly how I feel. Been desperate for baby to make an appearance but Im now terrified and would quite happy stay pregnant forever rather than have to deal with the reality of being a new mum. It's all completely normal to feel this way. Hormones are the devil and turn you into a big snotty mess. I cried down the phone earlier in the week for 20 minutes for nothing in particular to the midwife but I just couldn't get a handle on my emotions. So if you need to cry and shout then do it. It will all be ok.

Re swelling. Im having to take my shoes off a lot and haven't worn my wedding ring for weeks. Keep an eye on it but Im sure it's all ok.

Nunkie I feel exactly the same! I'm so looking forward to being a mama, but at the same time if I could just press pause for a bit to get my head round it that would be lovely. Have had a few tearful freakouts, but I know that when baby comes it will be incredible.

Just had my home birth visit, midwife was lovely and told me that the team loves doing home births. It feels incredibly surreal though to think that, unless there's a problem, the baby will be born here in our house and I don't have any more trips to the GP / hospital / etc. Exciting though!

Congratulations, Boo, and welcome mini-Boo!!

Sorry you had such a difficult night, daholster, and that you've got to have a difficult conversation with your DH on top of everything else. I hope it all goes as well as it can do.

Siarie, it definitely sounds worth getting in touch with a midwife sooner rather than later... some women can potter about a couple of cm dilated for a few weeks with no further progression, so you might have got to that stage, but all the same, it sounds like getting checked out is a good idea if you possibly can. At least, that's what I'd do, but YMMV.

Nunkie, don't worry, I found myself going 'actually, can we just put this off?' on Friday evening on the way home, and I've had a good pregnancy and loads of support too. I think it's just a natural emotional stage at this point and there's no point in beating yourself up when they happen - ride the wave and have a cup of tea.

Today's big job is to pack the hospital bags. Eeek? (Well, I say pack. Work out what's going into each bag, pack as much as possible, and then wash whatever needs washing out of that lot. But it's a start.)

36w+4

Congratulations boo

Nunkie I have moments where I feel like that, it's a long awaited baby for us but I still sometimes can't get my head around the fact that he or she will be here very soon. I was shopping yesterday and a lady had a 2 week old in a sling and I suddenly got all emotional

RL I love the name you have picked and I know a little boy who's Mum is half Spanish and he is called Reuben Javier which I think is lovely.

We were going to go to a NCT sale this morning but we didn't wake up until 11am and it finishes at 12.00 so no time to get there. We have decided to have a day of rest at home and go out later for a pub meal.