April and March 2015 miscarriage survivors. nearly there! and already there for some

[TinyTear]

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Congratulations Tea!

LIG like others said, maybe you can throw a few things in the bag to ease your anxiety? By the way, how did you know what a mucus plug looks like? I have no idea at all.....

London - it is like a thick snotty jelly like material.

Smiling - hoping I have another few weeks to prepare!

I think I am having one of the worst days ever and been in tears 3 times already today. dd made a bolt for it on the way to the dr and I couldn't catch her and was choking so much I wet myself. Then I think a woman at the doctors may have died which was very upsetting. then the drugs for my ear infection have a manufacturing issue but the other options are not allowed because of the gd. then I discovered I have lost my purse and cannot locate it. not sure what else can go wrong.

on a good note, I think dd may realise I am broken and is sitting watching a film quite nicely which is very unlike her.

LIG oh goodness that is a bad day! Its still early hopefully the rest if the day is calmer.

my DH won't be involved in the hypnobirthing, his job is to sit in the corner and stay silent. Frankly I would be happy if everyone involved did that too. I don't like being spoken to or touched in labour.

I totally understand the panic over the house. I'm so stressed about the state of ours I've started moving a few light boxes and bags each day. Its stressing DH out but tough its been 9 weeks since I've been home and its still not sorted.
I understand he's basically doing 2 jobs at the moment and working 18 hours a day 7 days a week but something has to give if he wants to do it himself.
I've warned him by Sunday night I want this whole house in order and scrubbed clean NO excuses.

I'm such a bitch.

Oh LIG hope it all gets better...

I am 37w tomorrow. Less than 2 weeks to go...

What a day LIG ! hope it's got better

Oh lig that sounds like a rubbish day, at least your DD is being good so put your feet up and just rest.

little your not a bitch mil is still refusing to sort out her kitchen so is sharing ours I have told DP in no uncertain terms to sort it or I am decamping with the baby to my mums until he has or I might stab her with a fork

london my mucus plug looked like blood streaked snot, it came away in 3 sections over 2 days.

I got a 2 hour nap today so feeling much better. Felt incredibly hormonal earlier which is never a good sign.

I think I am a bit more rational now and thinking that ds does not need much if born now but just want my downstairs back. today I felt rubbish and there was all the people downstairs and I didn't feel well enough to go out.

Just packing the hospital bag. Yet again I have only 1 small baby sleepsuit but digging out the smallest bits I can find from newborn. Will have to update it if I last longer. (All set up for my big gd baby so a 6lb er will be swamped! )

little - I think wanting things sorted is natural and if you can't do it yourself. Also, last time I found all the stuff I didn't do before the baby arrived didn't get done for months. (I wrote s list last time on the morning dd was born of all the things I would do before she was born and then looked at the list again when I got home from the hospital. )

Smiling - your mil sounds like she is being a helpful delight as usual!would love to meet her!

LIG that's what I'm thinking too if we don't do it before then it won't get done after. DH has no idea of the intensity and exhaustion that comes with having a newborn baby in the house.
So glad you managed a decent nap.
Our plan was if we had a diddy sized baby we would just go to JL and buy a few multi packs of white sleep suits in tiny baby size until she fitted all her other clothes.
Our last scan suggests she is currently 5 pounds 7 ounces. I find it hard to believe I have a baby that big inside me!

smiling I've threatened the same about going to my mothers. I feel awful threatening him but I need to motivate him somehow. The threat of spending time with him mil seems to work...

How much baby clothes is everyone taking to hospital?
Because its possible we might be there a few days if she comes sooner rather than later I have packed 2 nightdresses, 6 sleepsuits, 2 cardies and 2 hats. Have I gone over board?

I've packed 4 sleepsuits, 4 vests, 1 hat, 2 cardigans, and a blanket just in case I do end up in hospital.

For baby I have 6 vests and 6 sleepsuits bit hope won't need them all...

Oh good doesn't seem to much. I've also got 6 vests, 2 swaddles, fleece blanket for car seat and stretchy wrap.

little I've actually got 3 bags packed for the hospital.

Baby's bag has 4 vests, 4 sleepsuits, 2 cardigans, blanket, hat, wipes, nappies, 2 muslins, ready made milk (I'm planning on bottle feeding), 2 bibs and a teddy that dsc bought for him.

My bag - nightdress, pj's, towel, slippers, jogging bottoms, long top, 6 pairs of knickers, breast pads, maternity pads, socks, shampoo, shower gel, toothpaste, toothbrush for me and one for DP, hairbrush, hair bands, lip balm.

Snack bag which I stupidly left to DP, lots of cereal bars, crisps, boiled sweets, cartons of juice, 2 bottles of water, mini bottles of Pepsi for DP and cookies it was supposed to be a few items that would go in my bag but he went overboard so we needed an extra bag I wouldn't mind but I'm hopefully going to be at home where we have plenty of food!

Smiling I've got two back packs one for baby and one for me because my hospital doesn't allow small carry on sized suitcases, so instead I will take 2 bags which will take up more room than the suitcase!

I'm planning on adding some snacks too. I was thinking coconut water and dried fruit and nut mix. Maybe some Naked Bars too.
Someone mentioned Lucozade Glucose sweets are good for labour giving you energy but I've never tried them before or even seen them sold.

Beanies bag is his changing bag, mine is a small suitcase (hand luggage size) and the snack bag is my sports bag.

I have a freezer full of ice lollies whenever I'm in pain or ill I always want ice lollies so figured it likely I'd want them in Labour.

I haven't packed a bag yet but I will have 4 sleep suits and vests, a hat, and a blanket or 2.

Haven't even thought about me yet, beyond a change of clothes, PJs and wash bag.
I might put a snack or 2 in but last time there wasn't time for any of that and the first time I was sick so ate nothing the whole time - best part of 16 hours!

I also have a list as long as my arm of things I must do before she arrives, and I know from experience they definitely won't happen after she arrives!

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shetland the snacks are definitely for DP, I don't eat most of it.

In the whole bag there is 1 box of cereal bars, 2 bottles of water, 4 cartoons of juice and 1 pack of boiled sweets for me the rest is for him, poor baby is afraid of starving

My DH just said if its a really long labour he will probably get really tired. I asked him what he thought was a long labour....8 hours.
I bloody hope so!

Labour is clearly very hard for the dad's

MIL has just told me I'm not allowed to swear whilst in Labour because there's no need I was very tempted to tell her to fuck off

I live 10 minutes away so can always get what has been forgotten. There is an M&S on site for DH if he needs food...

Smiling - I hope your mil will not be with you when you give birth even if it is a home delivery! or will she try and get involved?

Tiny - I am 1.5 miles from the hospital which makes it very easy considering I live there at the moment. I am sort of hoping that I can use that to my advantage to get to go home quicker that I am so near the hospital.

Just tucked up in bed and we have cancelled our last family day trip to London which is very disappointing. Not sure I could physically do it whilst ill and need to get better incase I go into labour soon. Also, realised I should probably not go too far from home now. Last time, it was only a friend cancelling meaning that dd wasn't born in central London and i had spent the first few days of maternity leave going quite a long way from home including a wedding 2 hours away 3 days before. Need to be more sensible now.

I have packed 2 packs of haribos for dh which is frustrating as I cannot eat them with gd. dh is a bit of a pain as he won't snack so then will moan he is hungry or want to go off for a full sit down meal.

lig DP has been told that he's one job while I'm in Labour is to keep mil away from me.

She won't try and be involved in the birth but will take it upon herself to offer the midwives tea/cake/bacon sandwiches which will get on my nerves. My plan is to leave cups, tea bags, coffee and biscuits on the side and they can help themselves have checked with midwives and they are more than happy with this arrangement and said I didn't even have to do that.

It's not the first time she's said to me about not swearing, anyone would think I swear constantly, in the 5 years she's known me she's probably heard me swear less than 3 times.

smiling tempted I would have!

I swore in the presence of an anaesthetist with DS, I had just delivered him at home and had retained my placenta and brought in by ambulance blue lights flashing because i was in danger of hemorrhaging.
It was under my breath and she was aware it wasn't directed at her, I was just really shocked at the how fast the situation was escalating. She went mental shouting at me telling her I was giving her a bad day with my foul language and slamming her hand down where DS lay dead.
She picked on the bloody wrong woman I gave her both barrels and made it clear she was to fuck off seeing as I was the one wi a dead baby that day my day was clearly far worse!
It ended with my DH and the midwife having to force her out the room. I refused surgery because I didn't trust her and in the end it took 8 hours to manually remove it.
It was bizarre!

But it did me a favour I know no matter what I am my own best advocate, it has actually given me a lot of mental strength.