April and March 2015 miscarriage survivors. nearly there! and already there for some

[TinyTear]

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Smiling - it is frustrating that your mil cannot take more on seeing as you live with her. You should not need to worry about your dsc during labour. Also, the waiting must be tough hopefully it won't be too much longer.

Babiecakes - I would probably get the headache checked out. Could dehydration be an issue? I cannot drink enough at the moment.

Tiny - what happens if you go into labour early? do they still do a c section?

finally got a bit of sleep. ds is alot hungrier and wakeful at night. probably didn't do too badly sleep wise but really needed a big catch up with virtually no sleep for 2 nights I hospital. Feel very tired today rather than off this planet yesterday! He is just lovely and after thinking I don't know how I can love anyone more than dd, I am besotted with him. dd seems huge now, was carrying her early and she seems to have got so much bigger over the weekend

Lig, I think I would still get a section, but emergency... Considering dd wasn't ready to be induced at 39+1 I doubt this one will come before 38+3 anyway...

Glad you are just tired and not off the planet. Don't forget to add a photo to the fb group
:-)

lig sounds like you and ds are doing well.

The plan is that MIL will go out during the day whilst I'm in Labour, she's out most days anyway but will obviously be here at nights but in her own room and if she even comes in once I will be locking her out of the kitchen which means she can't access our side at all.

To give you an idea of how much stuff she has, it includes........

12 duvets
10 boxes of Christmas Dec's
9 boxes of plates (not bowls or side plates just dinner playes)
3 garden parasols
2 lawn mowers
2 vacuum cleaners

She was supposed to spend the 6 months prior to moving decluttering and sorting while packing, the day of the move we discovered she hadn't even packed the kitchen cupboards, my friend and I were doing it whilst the lorries were being loaded and at the last minute we had to hire another van because we ran out of room in the 2 Luton vans, a friends van, my car (big 4x4) and friends car and even then we had to leave her sat on a neighbours driveway surrounded by stuff while we unpacked a van and went back for her and another van full.

its been 8mths and she has unpacked her bedroom and bathroom, that's it the rest is still boxed up and piled in her lounge, kitchen and log cabin. Rather than unpack she just goes and buys new stuff since she can't find the one she owns!

We've tried reasoning, begging, being practical nothing works and she just has a major strop if either of us mention sorting it and then does the whole "I don't think this is working I want to sell up" thing, which I just can not handle right now.

Ahhhhhh just want to kick her for you...
I guess some of those duvets could come in handy for a home birth ;-)

LIG its so strange when the little ones are suddenly the big ones and they seem to gangly and huge.
Pleased to hear you managed to get out after 2 nights, I'm taking note of how long all the 36 weekers were kept for I hoping if I go this week we won't be kept in too long.

smiling glad to hear you intend to lock her out if need be she sounds like the last person you would need coming in for a nosey.

tiny I've been slowly stealing the duvets for the horse, she loves a nice warm duvet under her rug

Do you think I'd get away with strangling her whilst in Labour?

babiecakes I'm glad the morphine worked, migraines can be debilitating.

glad the morphine worked its magic!

yay, someone else wanting a lowered curtain, some times I wondered if I was mad...

babies Glad the morphine worked. That is a lot of medication to be taking what a pain, but great that your Dr seems to have caught the infection before it progressed.
It's good to know I may not be into hospital too long all going well.

they lifted both of my boys up to show me over the curtain rather than lowering it. I wasn't given the option.

I've had to tell my fiance he's not allowed to try to film around the curtain! ick! to be honest, he'd not cope with seeing me all cut open and splayed anyway.

Yes, for those of us who are having an "elective" caesarian for medical reasons going into labour means an emergency caesarian instead.

glad you're feeling better, babiecakes

Yay for morphine babiecakes !

Fgs am sat here in tears ironically after moaning about mil earlier she has just kicked off because my mum popped in to see us and we didn't tell her she was coming, we didn't know, we've just had the whole I want to sell and live on my own argument again. I can't deal with this right now I'm 40+2 weeks pregnant

Bloody woman..you are not a show that has to share the same tickets between the two of them!!

Might it be time to call her bluff and say ok? Do you think she means it or is it a control thing?

smiling I agree with shetland, call her bluff, she's making empty threats to control you. And why on earth should she be informed of your visitors! She has her own place.

I call her bluff everytime and she always backpedals. Today I went a step further and called the estate agent in front of her and arranged for a valuation on the house.

I seriously can't keep going through this, DP lost his temper with her so they had an argument, I've given her an ultimatum she either needs to unpack and start living as she is supposed to and stops these tantrums or I am putting the house on the market and since we are now priced out of the rental market and the money I get from the sale will pay the mortgage back but alone we can't raise enough for another house so technically she will be making us homeless, I will be going nc with her as will the baby, what DP does is up to him. I'm sure I was too harsh and let pregnancy hormones take over but it's how I feel.

Oh and DP told her that my mum is welcome anytime and since we are not children we do not need to inform her of when we have guests.

smiling not harsh at all!

Well done Mr. Smiling!

Well done both of you! All sounds like a bit too much drama to me - is she a bit of a drama queen per chance?!
Hopefully you've nipped it in the bud this time.

shetland before we moved in together I would of said no she's not a drama queen, she was helpful, nice, supportive but now she's a major control freak.

I've cried so much I have a headache and sore eyes so I'm going to have a bath and go to bed. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day

Oh Smiling she sounds like an utter nightmare! I'm not sure that I would be as nice or patient as you. Well done to your DH for standing up to her.

You need to focus on you & baby and ignore her - and I do realise that this will be very hard to do.

Big hugs.

I spent most of the night crying and now have a massive headache, DP is now stressing about me and the baby, for the first time in the whole pregnancy I have swollen hands and feet which I should probably get checked out and she is being cheerful, I just want to scream at her she genuinely has no idea that we simply cannot afford rent and will end up in a tiny flat in the parts of town I really don't want to raise my son in and that we simply will not have room for dsc or that me and beanie will have to stay at my mums and DP will have to rent a bedsit for him and dsc. But it's ok she will have her nice 2 bed bungalow in the area we live in now so that means she will be happier and we will all be friends again!

She is miserable because she's made herself miserable by refusing to live in the house as her home and living in her bedroom so she doesn't have to sort all her crap.

40+3