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Shetland · 02/04/2015 18:54

Your mum definitely earns a cuddle for that smiling !
I must say, now the weather is getting better I am very much missing having my horses - but over winter it can't say I felt the same fair weather rider alert

LittleBairn · 02/04/2015 19:23

smiling oh I bet you can't wait till your mil goes on holiday.

The itchiness is back I had a few days break from it so can't complain.

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 02/04/2015 19:35

shetland I said similar this morning about the nicer weather it's lovely to potter around the stables and watch them out in the field playing but over the winter it's been a real chore especially being pregnant.

little I am counting down the days till she goes, I've just been out in the garden and discovered she's put a pair of terracotta shoes in the pot of the rose we bought to remember DD, I am furious, we had a small penguin in there and that was it. It might not seem a big thing but to me it feels like an invasion I'm currently sat in ds's nursery trying to calm down, I was doing so well at being calm and relaxed today!

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 02/04/2015 19:36

Have you tried putting some bicarb in the bath little it's great for easing itching

LittleBairn · 02/04/2015 20:00

smiling that is shocking! I know sometimes family members don't understand how painful and real our babies are to us even once we have become pregnant again but that is outright cruel and disrespectful.

Thanks for the by bicarb tip I will try it tomorrow, DH is running himself a bath I don't think he would be too pleased if a dumped a load of bicarb in it and nicked it for myself.

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 02/04/2015 20:09

Pregnant women's perogative you need the bath more

The really sad thing is she's had 3 miscarriages so she knows how it feels

We now might not have dsc next week as their mother is kicking off and has decided that since DP will be with me in hospital for some of the time that there isn't much point them coming so it would be better to swap for may half term. We suggested this week's ago and she said no

LittleBairn · 02/04/2015 21:19

smiling do you think its resentment? In her time she would have not been able to really acknowledge her MC people were just expected to forget n move on.

Oh dear sounds like ex is doing the classic kick off right before the new baby comes. I would point out to her your DP doesn't demand that she be with them 24/7 during her time she has no right to infringe on what goes on during his contact time.

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 02/04/2015 21:30

His ex kicks off on a weekly basis, I suspect this time it's more because she's been invited to a hen weekend over may half term so rather than just say can you have them for an extra holiday (we would willingly) she's making us out to be the bad guys so she can claim she's being reasonable.

I've given up trying to rationalise mil's behaviour.

I have decided if I ever decide to have another baby I am taking myself off to a remote cottage with just beanie and the dog to avoid all the stressful people around me! Oh I might let DP come too

LittleBairn · 02/04/2015 22:03

smiling I'm planning on finding a cave....

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 02/04/2015 22:29

Maybe we could go and hide out together little at least the children will have each other to play with whilst waiting for the birth of their siblings I'm not slumming it in a cave though I insist on running water and electricity!

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 03/04/2015 13:14

Definitely no DSC next week so all the stress about them being here and organising childcare and my poor mum changing plans has all been for nothing.

I think my waters might be leaking (or I've started wetting myself) but no contractions or tightenings

LIG1979 · 03/04/2015 13:45

Sounds promising smiling. Keeping everything crossed. good news about the dsc although annoying the ex is trying to blame you.

laughing about the cave. The day before ds was born, I was near to checking into a hotel on my own to get away from it all. now I just fantasise about 10 minutes to myself!

chicken pox has been a great way off avoiding visitors. Last time dh only had a week off and we had visitors all the time. This time he has had 2 weeks off and we have pretty much kept to ourselves except for family.....It has been really nice.

Is everyone having a nice easter. We are going to try and make the most of dd not being in quarantine and get out and about. Also want to get some one on one time with dd as I have neglected her and now she doesn't even want me to do anything. It is all 'no daddy do it.' thinking a fruit juice and cake will bring me back into favour.

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 03/04/2015 14:03

lig cake will definitely do it, everything can be fixed with cake

We aren't doing much today, DP worked this morning and this afternoon we are just getting organised for tomorrow, it's looking like I will be spending easter in hospital although at least now DP will be with me too so my anxiety levels are a lot lower, my mum is great but doesn't understand why I need someone 24/7 (although I'm sure lots of people think I'm just being a big baby).

LittleBairn · 03/04/2015 20:16

smiling sounds like a plan for the future I can handle a cottage.

My mum couldn't understand why I needed DH a lot at the hospital too. I just don't think others can imagine the anxiety that comes with having a baby after a loss.
Are you still leaking? The hospital should be able to tell if its amnotic fluid.

LIG we are using DH paternity leave and the fact he will be partly working from home during that time as a reason to keep the visitors at bay.

I had a nice day with my family visiting I'm exhausted now so we had takeaway for dinner. The rest of Easter weekend should be fairly quiet.
I was feeling a bit achy and sore earlier, baby is so low its uncomfortable.

Shetland · 03/04/2015 20:28

People can think what they like smiling You need what you need- it's nothing to do with anyone else.
I'm told amniotic fluid smells sweet so that should give you a clue as to what's leaking?

I sympathise with the low uncomfortable baby little My back and pelvis are agony today not to mention the constant punches to the bladder and I've been a right grumpy cow as a result :( I need to sort myself out as I could have weeks of this yet.

37+1

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 03/04/2015 21:45

No more fluid this afternoon, it didn't smell at all.

I now have diarrhea which started about 45 mins ago, oh the glamour of pregnancy

LittleBairn · 03/04/2015 23:05

smiling I too have diarrhoea its suppose to be an impending sign of labour.

Yes Amnotic fluid does have a sweet sort of smell, when you just loose a little its usually a gushy feeling. For me there is a completely different sensation to peeing, there is no sort of sensory let down feeling it just happens.

shetland sorry about all the pain. Try not feel too bad about your mood its the ough end of pregnancy.

LittleBairn · 03/04/2015 23:06

I should say ts not a strong door you really have to sniff it.

LIG1979 · 04/04/2015 01:30

Sounds promising smiling. I smelt my waters and they didn't smell if anything (Didn't really smell like little said) but they were clear rather than yellow. Diarrhea is also often a goos sign. I think it is reasonable to not want to stay in the hospital alone. I really didn't want to do it myself post birth. (Also I was fortunate in that I never stayed in for my mcs and they were all at a different hospital so have no bad experience of my current hospital I just didn't want to be there on my own.)

LIG1979 · 04/04/2015 01:32

Shetland - sounds tough. hope you are getting to take it easy.

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 04/04/2015 04:41

Still no sign that this baby is coming willingly

I can't get back to sleep, part of me is really anxious and part of me is really excited because when I come home it will be with my son

I've got to be at the hospital at 8am as an outpatient, I'm not sure whether to tell them straight away that I've decided to be an inpatient or wait till after they've inserted the pessary and are thinking about letting me go home. What I don't want is them deciding not to do the pessary until I'm on the ward which could be late afternoon but I know they will need to find me a bed.

Shetland · 04/04/2015 07:56

Good luck today smiling :)

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TinyTear · 04/04/2015 08:07

Good luck smiling. Also remember to walk and bounce, walk and bounce...

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lila35 · 04/04/2015 08:07

Good luck today Smiling!

I am really hoping for something to start happening this weekend, 40+1 today, and just the size of a house, uncomfortable most of the time and unable to do much at all, really achey through my pelvis to, at least the last job on my pre baby list got crossed off yesterday, cleaning the oven, dp got involved and took over in the end ( nevermind that his list is far from finished!!! )

Heres hoping for more babies this weekend!!!

LIG1979 · 04/04/2015 08:30

Hope it goes well today smiling. I would mention that you are ok to stay sooner rather than later so that they can plan and you don't get dumped in the only slot there is. (Not sure if they think that way but I would give the better bed slot to someone who was staying in rather than just staying a bit.) Hoping it is a quick induction and you get to see your baby soon.

Lila - not long now hopefully. impressed at you doing the oven. I would have just done lots of groaning in the hope that dh got the hint and took over. I often start jobs and then make a lot of noise so that dh gets off his lazy backside. That is why I am often so busy on nap times as if I lay there and do nothing so does dh but if I get up and do things dh tends to get involved.