April and March 2015 miscarriage survivors. nearly there! and already there for some

[TinyTear]

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smiling good luck with the meeting.

We have an eviction date 12th it's an evening one so possible she will be born on 13th. They have agreed pessarie only. I did agree to be admitted once I remembered with DD1 I went into labour very quickly after the first set of Pessaries so just in case best stay at hospital.
DH says he will sleep in his van in the car park if he has too.

They have said by 6am if I'm not in established labour then they will break my waters.

I would be supprised if I needed induction I've never gone into labour naturally. DS and DD died due to complications because my cervix had gone but I still didn't labour with them even when I was 6cm dilated.

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I've agreed to be admitted on condition that I go in as an outpatient and can make a choice on the day so if I do start to get stressed I do have the option of coming home, if I stay in then DP or my mum can stay with me the whole time so I feel better knowing I won't be alone.

I've had another sweep and have progressed to 3cm and my cervix is now mid instead of posterior so there is progress but he still isn't engaged so fingers crossed he comes in the next couple of days.

smiling that's good news! glad you are being allowed someone to stay. I was mid position last week and baby is engaged but no dilation.

I wish I had though to question more the circumstances of the sweep. It's the same ward I was on for 5 weeks, I wonder if it is worth speaking to the sister in charge in advance. I will not allow myself to be examined on a ward with a curtain for 'modesty' but I know that might cause trouble. But then again they might see my name recognise it and know what a pain in the arse I am.

I do know if I go into established labour and they refuse to move me quick enough (I am likely to labour really quickly due to cervix) I will discharge myself I would rather labour in the car park if at home than on a ward.

Or not if.

Any progress is good smiling!

Ah yes, the curtains do nothing... Today had doctors checking my scar and drain and some cleaner just barges in...

All fine here. DD is fine, had hearing checks and saw the paediatrics team and I also just need the drain out.

Read my notes which are fascinating (bladder was stuck to the old section scar) so took photos of selected pages for safekeeping...

Tiny - congratulation on the birth of dd2. Glad the feeding is going well. How are her blood sugars? Also, if you are still feeding dd1 do you still get colustrum?

Little - cannot believe you are still hanging on. Who would have thought you would still be pregnant in April? Well done. The curtains are not exactly private.....I did however get past caring during labour and in the post labour period.

Smiling - hopefully it won't be too long and you will avoid induction. I thought it was standard to stay in for induction but that may be where we are. Considering it can take days, I would not want to stay in but good someone can stay with you. Our hospital now lets partners stay 24/7 but it really isn't set up for it so most go home but good they at least give the option. Frustrating when you lost your plug so long ago that you haven't yet gone into labour.

Shetland - you doing anything nice with your childfree afternoon? Good to be ready for the birth not that I would know what that is like.

London - hope you are getting through your last few days of work ok.

All good here. Ds is being a dream and sleeping lots and feeding lots. Unlike dd he is gaining weight well and is about half a lb up on his birth weight at day 10. Dd has found being at home in quarantine with a new born really tough but should be back at nursery tomorrow which will be good for us all. Poor dh has not really spent much time with ds as he has been dealing with dd. Hopefully at the weekend, I can take dd out for a drink and cake and dh will spend a little time with ds.

So who is left to have their babies? I could work it out but my nappy brain would probably find it difficult.

I also took photos of my post natal notes just in case I needed them. never thought to do it last time and then they took them away.

weird about the bladder tiny....

Tiny good idea to take photos. DH and I learned the hard way anytime left alone with notes photograph everything you can.

LIG 24/7 for partners sounds really good my hospital is really restrictive with DP visiting times, rather old fashioned.

Not sure about colostrum, but probably yes... Breasts aren't the huge milk coming in ones but newbie's nappies have been fine and flushing out the meconium... Now less sticky and messy.

And her bloods are fine... We're only still I'm because I have a drain in...

Sounds like all is well tiny that's good :)

LIG I spend my afternoon getting my eyelashes tinted! and then went round a few shops just for the hell of it! I bought a Ewan the dream sheep as people on my last ante/post natal thread raved about them - anything is worth a shot! Nice to just be able to wander round without being impeded by bolting toddlers and requests for ice cream :)
Glad you are getting on ok - must be nice to have a sleeper! I can only imagine what's that's like as my 2 were both rubbish and I'm not expecting anything different the third time.

Glad there's progress smiling - hopefully things will get moving soon.

My midwife said the baby is engaged and ready to go, but apparently that means nothing and she could still hang in there for weeks! Plenty of tightening etc but apparently that doesn't mean anything either! Still got 3 weeks til EDD so no point getting impatient yet.

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Sounds like it is going well tiny.

Shetland - fairly sure the sleeping lots won't last. dd slept for the 1st couple of weeks before things got tougher. dd slept brilliantly at night but would only sleep in 23 minute bursts during the day unless being moved in the buggy/car. I got super skinny with dd from all the walking I did.

Smiling any further developments overnight?

Tiny it's all sounding good with the little one.

Am I correct in thinking that only me, little, Shetland and Smiling are left to give birth?

Last day at work today and I'm mega excited

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LIG let's hope your DS continues sleeping well. He sounds adorable.

Thanks for the tip for taking photos of the postnatal notes. I didn't do that first time round. Does anyone know whether we keep our pregnancy file/notes? Or is it taken by the hospital after the birth?

Apart from the fact I slept for a full 9 hours nothing else to report

I repacked my hospital bag last night with the expectation of being in over the weekend if not longer and have organised for my mum to take me to hospital on saturday, they want me in at 8am which is when DP is picking DSC up. We've also organised for MIL to look after them and explained to them what's happening, now just waiting for their mother to kick off because DP will be with me and not them. They are fine about it and just want to meet their brother. DSD (16) said she would be disappointed in her dad if he left me and that as long as she has wifi she's happy

So the plan in beanie will come today, failing that my mum will take me in saturday and stay with me till lunchtime when DP will swap with her after spending a couple of hours with dsc, then provided I'm not in Labour the same will happen Sunday and Monday, my poor mum will do the horses in the morning then come to the hospital until after lunch so DP can go home for awhile. From Tuesday onwards my mum is back to work so DP will stay with me.

Hopefully the pessary will do its thing and ill be home by Monday with my son but my fear of being left alone in hospital means we've had to plan for the worst case.

I decided that I had to change my mindset so instead of clinging on to my home birth I've accepted I will have to go into hospital, that said I'm still praying he will come before Saturday.

london enjoy your last day at work

tiny it sounds like you and DD are doing great.

shetland the way it's going your bound to give birth before me

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London they take them and you don't see them again. If you want your notes afterwards they make you apply for them and pay for them. My trust charges £50. But they make you jump through hoops first.

Have a lovely last day at work.

LIG I had a charge like that she didn't sleep night or day so I would walk around for hours each day to get her to nap. It was brilliant for my waist line.

I've been feeling a bit crampy/niggly on and off since yesterday evening I won't get to excited I was like that last week then it all slowed down.

My mum, sister and her kids are ver tomorrow so I really don't want to go into labour then I'm trying to keep it secret from my family when I labour or get induced.
I've told them my next appointment is the Tuesday after my Sunday night inducement. Otherwise they will expect an hour by hour update and my mum will turn up at the very next visiting session.
She's had permission from her boss if she's at work when I go into labour they will get her cover and she can leave immediately!
I love her but she makes DH uncomfortable at times and we want some time to ourselves the hospital visiting times for DH is only 9 hours so not much compared to some places.

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smiling I sincerely hope I don't have my baby before you! I went to 40+5 last time and that was bad enough - I can't imagine how you're feeling right now

little I never tell anyone I'm in labour either - they just hear when it's over!

shetland my family are very much into knowing every litte twinge.
When my sister had her first my parents and her in-laws waited at the hospital for hours! And were in the delivery room when he was barely an hour old.

I've had a bad tummy, don't know if the is a pre labour clear out or the fact I used the loos 3 times yesterday at the hospital.

I had no visitors in the hospital - not a chance of that happening! People can wait til I'm home, showered, dressed and feeling half normal before they see the baby :)

My mum will see the baby in hospital but everyone else can wait, I think the fact she's getting up at 6am on sat to do the horses before taking me to the hospital means she's earned a cuddle.

If we are kept in I don't mind hospital visitors especially as I've told family they may visit on the first day after baby is home but then we want to be left alone for 2 weeks and they have been fine about it.
But I won't be suprised if we get guilt tripping texts about how much they miss the baby and want to see her.

I will just tell them I will be breastfeeding topless that will keep them away.

Because we've got dsc next week and obviously mil is around I've said people can visit as much as they like but dsc go home on the Saturday and mil goes on holiday on the Sunday so I've said that week is for me, DP and beanie.