March 2015 - the babies are starting to arrive as we waddle towards the finish line with maternity leave countdowns and TMI all around!

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New (and probably) final thread for those of us due in March (with a few lovely February ladies who didn't want to leave).

I've taken raspberry leaf will all bar my 1st pregnancy. I do believe its helped but I'm that natural way anyway

Had only heard of raspberry leaf tea. Why are hot baths and castor oil bad?

Noisychild - happy to help. See no good reason why they can't give you spinal & epidural, I'd insist on it.

I hadn't realised that the spinal had worn off with DD3, I just remember feeling everything, it didn't hurt but made me feel really sick and then afterwards the pain was hideous in recovery, so much so they had to give me nerve blockers.

It was only when I had a pre-op meltdown for DD4 did the aneathetist realised what must have happened and suggested it. I'd been dealing with PTSD without knowing it, but my last section was fine & painless with both spinal & epidural in. They should only really give you a general if there is no other option.

m33r you drink castor oil with orange juice in it. it tastes vile.... all it did was (sorry tmi) cause me to have to sit on the loo for hours with a bucket in my hand and i found out later that it can actually cause baby distress and for them to do their first bowel movement inside you. the hot bath thing can apparently make your baby too hot as it heats your core and can cause birth defects. i can never stand a very hot bath anyway so never done it

fizzy my first labour i had a epidural that either didnt work or only partly worked. but both together sounds a very good option and should actually last. im not going to sign the consent form for them to put me to sleep so they will have to work around it. if there is an emergency then i have told oh he can sign the form so they can put me to sleep but only of we are in danger

Thanks theone!

your welcome m33r all the other suggestions cant actually do any harm

I'm drinking RLT - not expecting much but I quite like it! I'm having 3 or 4 cups a day and getting more BHs since I started but that's probably co incidental. I'm also eating dates. I think I picked this up on the FB group. It's only a tiny study but the results are nonetheless striking and although I'm not dead keen on dates, it's worth trying as I really don't want to be induced.

Starting on the RLT today, got the capsules and tbags. Have been on the dates for the last week. Worth a try! I was also told the RLT can help shorten labour??

Never heard of eating dates so will have a look at that, i quite like them. I take raspberry leaf capsules from 32 weeks but for anyone who has bad period pains its suppose to be good for that too. My daughter suffers badly and i make her tea using raspberry leaf and chamomile tea bags then add some root ginger. She loves the stuff as it really helps her, she calls it magic tea

Interesting study on dates! I should avoid them I'm guessing since I will be having a c section and don't want to trigger natural labour!

I'm finding it harder to keep up with this now im on maternity than i did at work. Something wrong there!

Our NCT class leader spoke about the dates thing, maybe i should give it a go.

Im on for a bit of a rant unfortunately. MIL announced that Monday was going to be her day and she would be coming round and doing various jobs of her choosing. I hate this idea but thought I had better go along with it. I didnt expect it to start before the baby arrived thought. So now I am sat at home waiting for her arrival, she phoned at 9 to say she would be here soon. So I cant settle because I have been waiting an hour and a half already. I dont want her doing whatever jobs she feels like doing in my house. I just want to have a day of maternity home alone and not disrupted by unwanted helpers. I know that makes me sound really ungrateful, but all this im going to help you because you will need the help just makes me feel like a failure before I even give motherhood a go. And I cant organised what I want to do during the day if i just have to sit around all day waiting for when she decides to turn up. It is so frustrating.

Sorry, rant over, im sure some of you have much better things to rant about than MIL.

Butter - I can sympathise to a certain extent - I have issues with my PIL but not quite the same. My FIL is soo sexist....I can't even begin to describe....let me put it this way, if we are ever discussing finance or investments or anything, he doesn't even look at me! As a woman I couldn't possibly know or have a say! lol

A few months ago we were chatting and he said something along the lines of 'when we take your children on holiday'.....hmmm who said they would be taking my children on holiday? They have decorated their spare room as a nursery, got their old cot down etc. Whilst to some this may seem sweet....I am wondering when they expect to be taking my first born over night??? You probably think they sound like nice people lol. My MIL really is lovely. I think if FIL wasn't so sexist I probably wouldn't have any issues. When we got pregnant he said, ' it will be a boy, The X's always have boys'. hmmm it is a boy but when he said that I was thinking, please be a girl!

Hi all just checking in. I'm 37+3 and I I've had enough.
Ive been drinking rlt it's gross. I'm sure it did nothing as I took it in my first pg and went 40+9.
Also dates are wrong unless you buy the proper expensive ones and put cheese in them. Then they are nice.

butter i'd have a huge pile of ironing ready for her and the ironing board all set up in the kitchen n then when she arrived id make her a cuppa and grab some chocolate n go n put my feet up with a box set haha

mgfm no i understand you. I've had the, when we have baby things and wonder if they realise that they are talking about taking my baby away before its even born yet. MIL is actually really nice, and well meaning, she just operates in a completely different way to my family and it kind of steps on all my values. So my parents - we are out wed and thurs, around any other day if there is anything you want or need give us a shout and we are happy to help out, or take you out for lunch if you fancy it, how do you want this done?. MIL - monday is my day and i will come round and do x, y, and z. No, go sit down ill do it - rummage around in my kitchen draws and finds my cooking scissors then uses them to do dirty manky jobs which is a pet hate when she could just ask and i could give her the shit job scissors.
Its my bloody house stop telling me what to do.

the one i should just do that, have a list of crappy jobs i dont want to do lined up. But i just dont want to give in to the my day thing.

I also nearly exploded when i heard, i think the baby can call me mummax and how is my baby, are you looking after my bump. Arrrggggghhhh. Its all enthusiasm. Just drives me mildly crazy. My family are very close, but also strongly value independence.

I really should stop ranting or I will get thrown off the thread for being boring.

What is everyone else up to.

I am going to have a go at making one of these for the nursery tomorrow.

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well thats me happy for the day. ive just been bidding on some slippers for my hospital bag on ebay brand new with tags of course and ive won them. not much left to pack now. might actually take the whole bag packing thing a bit more seriously when ive actually got a c section date. i have stuffed things into a bag and theyve all been taken out of packets and washed but still need ironing. i dont feel a huge need to worry about it just yet tho. i will organise baby elijahs things from when i get the c section date and then will get the iron out and re pack my bag

Place marking to read and post after work! I'm due on 28th March with first baby

Butter and MGFM - you have my sincere sympathies.

My parents are similar control freaks. The "Monday is my day" thing sounds so familiar. It's a case of "I will help but on my terms only & you need to demonstrate how overwhelmingly grateful you are".

I've had similar issues in the past - my mother took one of mine to buy their 1st pair of shoes and get their 1st haircut without telling me and then got annoyed that I was upset as opposed to grateful.

She won't come and help with childcare on the day of my section either because she has decided it would be more helpful to come and stay the week afterwards.

Plus she looks up half term holidays and books for my eldest to go away with them, without asking first. "Oh I've booked France for half term, we'll come and pick her up at 1pm so don't send her to school that day"

I'd say nip it in the bud, but easier said than done. Grandparentd often struggle with boundary issues or at least mine do in any event!

2 weeks today til c section. Anyone ever get the feeling they're not going to last much longer? 37+2 today and honestly feel like I'm going to burst. The pressure in my bump at times is so intense I think my waters are going to go! Is this braxton hicks? I've never felt it yet but since my midwife said she could feel it on Friday, I keep thinking I can feel them. It's all gotten very real and I feel very pregnant suddenly.

I just went out to a shop about 5 minutes away from the office. When I come back, the boys were all looking at me strangely and one asked if I was okay. I said yes just tired, but apparently I'm very pale and sweaty after my 5 minute walk. Cue the office emptying of engineers!

Last week at work. I've had enough now, want to go home. I'm uncomfortable and cranky and my bump is tight as hell.

Had a cute moment last night though. Lying in bed with OH, he was cuddled into the back of me with his hand on my bump at the side where her feet are. He started tapping it with his fingers, and she was kicking him right back. They went on for ages and his wee giggle when she kicked him back almost brought a tear to my eye. It was a beautiful moment.

Gudgy I'm with you on not thinking ill last much longer and feeling like gonna burst!! Aww that's mega cute :) how did you manage to hold it together? I'd probs have been a tearful mess

I was so tired I eventually just fell asleep lol dont know how long they were at it, pair of pests!

Lol at least they didn't keep you awake

Gudgy you have cheered me up. Your bubba and hubby playing together sounds adorable.

I kind of wish I were feeling like it wont last much longer but I haven't really noticed anything that might suggest b day is imminent. Maybe it will take me by surprise, or maybe I will end up going late. My Mum did with both me and my brother, and I am measuring small. So who knows.

awwwww gudgy
my oh fast asleep when ive been awake with back ache last 2 nights and he pulls me into him so he is cuddled into my back to keep it warm. my oh can be a total pratt sometimes to put it mildly but i thought that was very sweet he actually pulls me over to his side of the bed while fast asleep. wondered what was going on when he did it the first time