April 2015 Thread 9: Let the chatting continue!

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Quick new thread as only 2 posts left on old one! Any newbies or lurkers please join us!

Dear Consultant, ok, you probably see a lot of dim people, but I did not appreciate you talking to me as if I was dim, especially saying that you expect all babies to be on the 50th centile in the chart... THAT is not how percentages and averages work!

I get my DD has a big tummy, and that is because I have only just started meds for GD, but give me a break!

Ebwy I totally get it, my placenta is anterior but it doesn't seem to have ever reduced my movements. Kicking is reassuring! Although I do tend to start to feel a bit funny when she's moving constantly, almost like my stomach is rolling.

I get such firm kicks sometimes I gave a strong word with my bump reminding it that hurting me isn't acceptable (jokingly obviously!) it doesn't really seem to have a pattern though, which means this 'change in pattern' will be fun.

my placenta isn't anterior, don't know if it's to do with me being fat anyway or the "interesting" medical history I have, but I just don't feel movements much. other people can feel them from outside but I don't notice them inside.

TinyTear, they get offended if you talk back to them in the same patronising tone ;-)

And they must be idiots to not understand how averages work!

Ebwy I was tempted...

But then we heard the HB and she told me baby has turned down so i was all happy again...

And I see so many doctors there that the only one I have seen more than once is a nice endocrinologist (this was an obstetrician) so I hope not to see her again...

But a warning to first timers - Health Visitors will also be obsessed with the 50th centile for weight thinking ALL babies need to be on it... for someone with a DD on the 9th, I just smiled and ignored them...

Tiny - my parents warned me about the health visitor in general. They said nothing will be right, but just listen, nod, be polite and ignore everything that is irrelevant to you and the baby once they have gone!

or just don't let them come in the first place.

FiRaffe good plan!

Ebwy true, but some can be nice... just not for weight and feeding advice (in my case)

I had to explain to an idiot consultant that of COURSE my baby looks to have short legs and arms... all my shortness is in my limbs and I'm only 4 inches off being an official "little person". Baby's dad is only a couple of inches taller than me too, not sure why they expected my child to have long legs!

"I'm not sure why your baby is so short in her limbs"
"have you actually seen me stood up???"

LOL

All the local one here is good for is getting an accurate weighing done. So I was already doubting the need tohave the visits before we had issues!

tiny I'm with you with the HV's and their weight obsession! Original nutter HV was obsessed about me giving DD formula because she was so small which was one of the many things that had me give up with breast milk for DD, my new one fx seems pretty lax though, seems unfazed by DD's weight, and the fact she communicated entirely with purrs and moos whilst she was over despite being 2, also fairly happy to take my word on stuff even when I was barefaced lying to her about DD drinking from a cup so I'm hoping she's going to be laid back about bump!

To counteract some of those labour horror stories we gave the first timers here is a blog post about a woman with shockingly easy labours www.pregnantchicken.com/pregnant-chicken-blog/2012/2/6/easiest-births-ever.html

I am consultant led (as I go on about lol!) and so far am allowed a water assisted labour in the pool though maybe not actual delivery, we wait and see.

But then our hospital has a pretty new CLU and MLU so maybe just lucky...

29+3

Here's hoping daholster.

Squatting that's good news.

I found when DD small that the older experienced HVs were really nice whereas the younger ones were a disaster obsessed with their charts and so on. They didn't have the confidence gained from years of working with babies to use their common sense. Have probably been terrified during training not to miss out on early vital signs of this and that yadda yadda.

It's hailing. Do I really have to go and fetch DD from nursery?

Bah these consultants, some of them sound like they lack social skills. Ditto HV. Similar to the Boo, my mum was told to switch to formula because I was "small". She knew better, I was fine and she carried on BF and warned me that they still do this so brace yourself.
Chatting to my friend yest who said she's really sad she didn't BF but was lead to believe baby would be too hungry. Shame that they didn't support instead of be pessimistic.
As for short legs, well what are they going to do if baby has got short legs?! Not a lot so all it does is worry the parents!

Also, has anyone else hit 29 weeks and is suddenly an eating machine? I am easily hungry and just want junk and junk and junk!!!

PS it is ducking freezing could we get snow? please let it be on a work day

for people looking at the papoozle sling looks like they've got the green star design down to £19.99 too now www.totsbots.com/product-category/clearance/last-chance-to-buy/papoozle-last-chance-to-buy/

With ds1 Dh was running a practical with around 80 students and no one else seemed able to be there! He was with me all day Thursday and fri while I was in labour and when ds was born he worked the Saturday and picked me up when they finally discharged me. He then had mon and tues and my mum did the next two days and he did the Friday and then I was on my own. He had the rest as and when it suited his work :( was tough.

Ds2 was transverse at growth scan at 32 weeks but head down at 36 weeks. I spent a lot of time on my knees with head down and bottom up resting on my elbows. Or elbows on the floor and knees on the sofa to turn him. Don't know if that helped or not!

daholster I've eaten 3 oranges, 2 packets of crisps (terrible!), a cheese sarnie, weetabix, a crunchie (worse! lol).... normally I might have a snack for lunch, but maybe not...

glad I'm not the only one going for it with food!

(might have to have a cup-a-soup in a bit to warm up too)

no wonder I'm chubby!

Papoozle
I was looking at the close caboo but always after saving money as this baby business is £££££. Priority for me is not too fiddly as I'm shit at following instructions. Is papoozle easy to use?

ebwy I am a terrible mother, I just had a McDonald's big mac meal with an extra sandwich AND a hot pie. Bit full now... But I should be stuffed!!! Yes I know it isn't fair I don't have the GD!!! And yes it is a terriblething to eat and give to baby (though by the time it gets to him it will all just be molecules anyway mostly fat and sugar ones )

In terms of paternity leave a friend did his pat leave for 2 weeks then took another 2 weeks when his dd was about 8-12 weeks. He said it was good because at first his dw needed help post c section so with lifting etc, but he said the baby was much more interesting and interacting with him more taking the rest a bit later - and his wife thought it was good that way too because she got another rest.

For me I was poorly enough to need dh for 3 weeks but then I was ill before birth. Dh feels that his time on a personal level would have been better split because he didn't get much from being with dd and did lots of housework at first but was craving time with dd as she started to recognise him. This time he is taking 4 weeks at once again because he will have to manage dd!!! That won't be restful for him!

Squatting my little one was also breech today but midwife didn't comment at all other than to say he was that way round. Fingers crossed they will both flip before our next appointments - really don't want to be worrying about him being in the wrong position. There's plenty of time at the moment though.

Tiny I hate when medical professionals talk down to you. It makes me want to bust out my Dr title just to even out the playing field a little! I know they have to make sure everyone they see understand what's going on but you would think they could use a bit of judgment and adjust the level of conversation accordingly.

Chicken keep an eye out on eBay if you're after a Close Caboo - there are lots on there and they tend to go for £30-40 rather than the £60 odd they go for brand new. I wanted one that was easy to get on and off and the Caboo looks like it should be. Hasn't arrived yet so could still be beyond me...

daholster you are eeeeeevil...now I REALLY want a McDonald's. And it's not as bad as it could be... protein, carbohydrate, salad... lol

too bad, coz it'll be vegetable cup-a-soup :(