April 2015 Thread 9: Let the chatting continue!

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Quick new thread as only 2 posts left on old one! Any newbies or lurkers please join us!

Ah the good old kick out of bed. I did that this morning to DH despite me getting up to let her out of her room to go for a wee and then having to go back when she had in fact done a poo and needed her bum wiping. He mumbled it wasn't his wake up and I mumbled back I was promised toast. guess who won

I'm a very light sleeper now and rarely sleep past 8.30, i tend to get a headache if I do.

Nowt wrong with a bit of ipad parenting, it's when they are on it all the time and apparently if they consistently play on one before bed it can increase the risk of developing epilepsy. Not sure how sound the research is on that but I did read it somewhere about over stimulation before bed.

Grr just got a confirmation that my papoozle could not be delivered because no one was in. I have confirmation I changed it to deliver it to a neighbour! Idiots why have the option if they clearly don't use it. What a pain

Welcome Archer!

Oh no, Tiny. I've got my jag on Thursday, not looking forward to it.

I forgot the window men were coming today to refurbish the windows. Im now hiding in my bedroom still in my pjs. Desperate to go for a shower and grab a coffee but too embarrassed to move. Damn it!

my DD if daddy goes in the night just shouts louder for mummy! sigh...

on Saturday, I had a terrible night, at 7am she comes though saying she needs a wee, DH was awake so took her to the bathroom and all I could hear was screams of "i want mummy, I don't like you"... I felt sorry for DH...

We then did try to explain clearly that was not kind and she needed to be nice for daddy as daddy was being nice to mummy who needed to sleep...

Hi everyone. I've got my next midwives appointment tomorrow, I'll be 28+2.
At my other appointments I've been in and out within 15 minutes as I never ask any questions.
This time I feel like I want to as it's getting so close now!
I think I have my whooping cough jab and also something else but I can't remember what!
What have you all asked at your 28 week appointment, or will be asking?

Kismac can you not just throw some jogging bottoms on and scrap your hair back into a mess bun? At least to grab your brew before you retreat to the bathroom for a shower? I'm sure they have seen worse.

Have just tried to get my sling re delivered tomorrow but with the courier chucking it over the back wall. Let's see if that works.

Can I ask those with experience-is it normal to be a bit crazy/irrational? It's just that MIL was getting excited and FIL said "its not your baby" and she said it is. He said no it's not and she said it partly is. He corrected her. And I felt really angry and OH bore the brunt of it. Would you be upset by that? I know its not meant maliciously but still it hurts me. I don't want to cause ructions though!

Welcome Archer

I love my sleep - have little doubt it will be me up with baby though as DH is a heavy sleeper and I'm not. He would sleep through the house falling down around him I think. I'm hoping that after the first few weeks if I can express and have baby take a bottle at night (possible wishful thinking) then we could do that one night a week and move the crib to his side.

Daholster rubbish that you're feeling so knackered -sure you've thought about this already but do you have any holiday you can take before maternity? I'm using the rest of my years allowance to reduce my hours for a couple of weeks then finish work at 35w before officially starting maternity at 37w. Still worried I might have a long wait for baby but balancing that against struggling on with long days at work!

Ah no kismac how long will the workmen be there? I'm the same with the window cleaners and they only take 5 mins!

RL I had full blood count taken at the 28w and she heard the heartbeat again but apart from that it was boring. I can never think of anything to ask. I ask on here instead lol

Thanks Squatting. It helps to talk to other pregnant ladies because like you say we get very protective and the non-pregnant me would prob think little of it. They are good people. My Mums laid back too and if that's what you're used to it can be hard to get used to people being full on!!

Chicken, that's a bit weird. That would really annoy me. Yeah, it's nice she wants to be involved but not to the point where she is taking over. I think you'll need to make sure you find lots of activities to do with the baby to ensure that you are too busy for her to take over.

All clean with no more sick in my hair. Ha ha. I managed to sneak past when they went outside to replace the window sill. I've got a coffee and a hot water bottle so very happy now.

My papoozle just arrived too. Yay.

Thanks kismac. Good to know I'm not totally crazy. She has gone a bit wild lol. I'm just not used to that. Sorry you're still being sick - how vile.

My mum has been getting a wee bit over excited so we ended up having to have a 'chat' she invited herself to the birth which was a big no no for me. She seems to have calmed down a bit now but I've made it clear that as much as her input and involvement is valued. I do want to learn how to do things on my own .

TMI here too but constipation might be a welcome change chicken !!
Found out not to take the iron tablets at the same time as milk or tea and to take with vitamin C rich foods as it will help absorption. So seen as I can't drink Orange juice i've got some Kiwi Smoothie and i'll buy some yellow peppers :) worth a try. Still going to ask what my B12 levels were though coz they didn't mention on the phone, and iron tablets will be pretty useless if my B12 isn't right.

you're probably right there on the waste of energy smogs. I think he just wants to be supportive so i've suggested that it might be better that once fed during the day he can take care of nappies and cuddles and visitors whilst I try and sleep.

Horrible isn't it Tiny !! what's the reason for not sleeping on your right? not looked into it but my back pain is on my left so i've just been sleeping where i'm comfy. I know I shouldn't sleep on my back because it lowers your blood pressure (i think that was the reason)

Welcome to the gang Archer, i'll warn you now we are a big bunch of natter bags! thread 9 already, wont be long before were on 10!!

I would feel the same Chicken I do sometimes feel like other people are so excited about baby that they may forget whose baby it actually is - and as a ftm I want to learn to do everything. Don't get me wrong I'm sure I will value the support and help from family - but when I am ready for it. I do have a bit of a problem with not being able to say no though if people want to come and visit etc. Will see how things go but might have to work on that.

RL at my 28w appt I asked about NHS antenatal classes and about getting whooping cough jab, think that was all! After that you do see midwife more often so less time to wait if you do have more questions I feel like I've only just seen her and back again for 31w appt next week!

Oh sorry Kismac I didn't realise you had sick in your hair. Least your all clean now and you've got your papoozle to play with. I'm still annoyed about mine not getting delivered. So close yet so far...

My boss wandered in before and thank god I was actually busy at the time as I didn't realise she had come in at first. I'm usually sat on my phone and contemplating a hot chocolate by that time.

Got the dentist later and I completely forgot to bring my toothbrush to work with me. No chance of going home for it either do you think they will bother? It's not quite a check up but not an emergency appointment either, just with the bleeding gums I've had and the fact they haven't sent for me (for a check up) for 2 years I thought I'd better get it looked at. Don't even have my exemption card hope they aren't going to be arsy about it, I still owe them for that last check up. (Their card machine wasn't working and said they'd invoice me)

Thank you everyone! I sulkily took myself off to bed at 8pm last night because I was so exhausted and given myself a headache stressing myself out! I also spoke to my mum who is amazing and always sorts things out for me and promised if we're not moved in by the time baby is due we can go and stay at her house and have her room with the en-suite, I would much rather be at my mums it's lot quieter and we don't have a huge family like OH does so we will be left alone and I wanted my mum around me anyway after the birth, so feeling much more positive today

Very jealous of those of you that are going on ML in feb! I've got 10 weeks left, due 27th April, starting ML on the 20th with a weeks holiday before hand so last day in the office will be 10th April, I am starting to do 2 days a week from home though so I think I will be ok...

Welcome Archer!

hiding not sure, but it was something i read 3 years ago in my first pregnancy... as I tend to sleep mostly on my left anyway it never bothered me much...

but i think any side is better than back so not too bad... just hope the pain reduces tonight as DD did sleep well so it was just me keeping myself awake

dam it, just refreshed the page by accident and lost my post.

but no chicken i don't think you're being crazy or irrational. DH's grandma is annoying me too. Like when I said we wouldn't be telling people when i'm going to hospital so that we weren't mithered for constant updates on how things were going and she said " yes of course, but obviously you'll let me know", and she says things like "lets have a look at my bump"... er pretty sure it's my bump not yours!!!
Same when I said at Christmas that we weren't traipsing the baby round to everyone's house on Christmas day and if people wanted to visit they could come to us, she said "yes that's understandable, but of course you'll still come to me because i'm Grandma" ARRGHHH Just want to shake her!!

my mum's very excited, but she's in another country so that kinds solves the obsessiveness by itself [Grin]

My dentist doesn't mind if teeth aren't brushed Lauren (I only know because i had a similar situation before and the first thing I blurted out was that I hadn't brushed my teeth and he said it was fine lol)

Tiny did a quick google, apparently sleeping on your left theoretically increases blood flow. Which also helps your kidneys function and reduces swelling. Although it does then say that it would probably be uncomfortable so switching sides is better than sleeping on your back.

hiding I have also my parents in another country... handy!! they will be coming to visit in May...

Thanks for googling! I shall continue rotating left and right with loo trips in between...my kidneys function very well thanks... too well in the middle of the night...

7 weeks left at work for me - and I'm due on 1st April. I'll just be pleased not to have to do the half hour walk to and from work any more with my silly waddle!

In the early days with DD, if I was getting really tired I would express a bottle during the day. Then I could go to bed really early (like 8.30pm) and DH would stay up until she needed her first night feed (usually about 11pm). That way, I would get a long stint from 8.30-2am, which made all the difference. The other thing that he did to help was after I had done a feed in the night, if she was taking a while to settle back to sleep he would get up and take over. THis was great because I knew that as soon as I was done feeding I could go back to sleep straight away. And I think he liked the cuddles with a sleepy post feed baby!

I was very nervous about MIL being too involved when I was pregnant last time but actually when DD was born she totally changed and became totally respecting of my space etc (and I think I became more pleased to have help!) So chicken hopefully she'll settle down once the baby is here. If not, I always think it is DH's job to have difficult negotiations with MIL rather than mine - it's his mother after all!

Squidge that's great news own en suite room will make all the diff.

Hiding your plan to make DD feel involved sounds v sensible. I didn't sleep enough during day with DD (literally never in fact), what an idiot. Will defo be indulging this time around if this baby will nap in Moses basket.

You're all v proactive I must say. With DD I basically did exactly as instructed by my mother. Was far too lazy to want to learn anything by myself!

Oh and Lauren no they won't care! Bit of chewing gum should do the trick. I'd be amazed if they made a fuss about exemption card at this stage of preg. I went v early on and took my notes just in case but they didnt want to see them.

27+6