We may have been Bitter, but we’re no longer Barren! Get your *PESH* in here! All ready for the BESH clusterdiff of 2015 year of the *CuntCushion* (with added tea tree for those sore fanjo moments)!

[MissHobart]

BESH Graduates having a moan about the lack of Gin whilst actually being over the fucking moon to finally have a reason to not be able to drink it! Anything goes, especially asking the wiser CRESH for their sage advice on the horrors and amazement to come when we get the the biggest WIN in history! Bring your baybees here!

Howdie ladies, very quiet around these parts! Where are you all hiding?? Cresh I guess?
No news from me, just thought id say hello. I may have more news in a few weeks as seeing SW soon but it's all a bit slow at the moment. Early days though and it will happen when the time is right an all that jazz.
hags, given that you guys are where you are and I'm taking a different route would you still expect me to be a bit sensitive about my infertility? I had dinner with friends last week, one has kids, the other pregnant and I was quite happy with general pregnancy chat but it got to a point where the conversation was solely them, primarily the friend who has kids saying things like 'there's nothing like being pregnant is there's, you just can't explain it' 'isn't it incredible feeling baby move' 'isn't this that and the other amazing'. I don't know, perhaps im being over sensitive but the more I think about it the more I think if the roles were reversed I just would be cautiously enthusiastic, not full on rub your face in it. I also made a joke about maternity wards and DH hating them, pregnant friend laughed. Friend wih kids replied 'well he'll have to put up with it when, oh no, you won't'. If it was me I'd just say 'shit, that was astupid thing to say, I'm a dick, im sorry'. But she didn't, she just brushed it off like I didnt matter and it really hurt. It felt like a spiteful comment rather a slip of the tongue. I haven't heard a thing from either since that night so I guess I am actually 'different' and not part of the gang. They both know everything. What do you think? Am I over reacting? When you were pregnant would you have been sensitive if you were with someone in the same situation or am I over thinking? It was just the over topness about being pregnant. One of the other comments was just while looking straight at me and saying 'isn't it just so weird being pregnant' ....blah blah blah.
I've had wine so be gentle. .....

Thanks Bugs. I'm now on gin. Does not bode well for tomorrows early start but I don't care.
I felt like she was being catty but I'm also overly concious that I don't want to be the bitter barren in life. MATV just thinks I should leave it behind, sometimes friendships fade out and this looks like of them. I've asked a few people now and you aren't the only one who says its a cunty way to behave.

I'd totally echo what Bugs said - that's just a mean thing to do/say. It goes hand in hand with the 'my life had no meaning before I had children' comment to childless friends. Just grrrr.

Howdy rasp! Nice to see you round these parts. FWIW yes its completely reasonable to be sensitive, these women sound like knob cheese, and they're idiots too. Chrissake what is with the Womble Worshippers? Reproduction isn't a shortcut to a higher level of Zen being. I can't be arsed with their sort.

This has actually reminded me of a wedding aibu where the husband had been invited but not the OP and baby, and she felt the need to add "gorgeous boy, born 10 weeks ago, love being a mum!!" to her OP. FUCK.OFF. How is that in any way anything other than smuggery?

Some people are just oblivious I guess. Oblivious and self absorbed. I can't believe quite how oblivious and self absorbed on occasion. Although I have to say the worst culprit of the evening was a nightmare was she was pregnant, tears and tantrums every day but for no real reason, just being a princess and centre of attention crap. Now having known a few normal and down to earth people have babies I realise what a dick she was being. Meh. Perhaps MATV is right. Time to move on. I'll stay in touch with pregnant friend though, she is of down to earth sorts and was clearly feeling awkward but said a few silly things but they felt silly rather than spiteful. Who knows.

Head not to bad when I woke up thank you :) I fell asleep so didn't actually drink to much in the end. You're right about friendships. It's just not the way I thought this one would go but you live and learn I guess. Be interesting to see if I hear anything over next few weeks because I doubt I will!

Oh she can cock off. The in laws made a song and dance about me being mean and leaving MiniWink out because I wasn't letting her eat crisps and biscuits the other day. They can cock off too.

That's crazy. Seriously? Just buy a replica, then eat that one too.

My best friend found out her husband has been having an affair yesterday. She's in bits and I don't know what to do to help. I can't go round because he's there and he doesn't know I know that he's a cheating lying cunt. I sat in the car and cried today. This is the girl who brought me home from work the day I started bleeding and sat and cuddled me on the sofa until MATV came home. I can't do anything to help her. I just want to rip his throat out. Why do people do it? Why? Nasty little shit.

Oh Rasp how awful. Have you been able to see her today? I can't even begin to imagine. Did you/she have any idea? So fucking devastating.

Bugs, that just sounds bonkers! And why would you give a 6 month old choc anyway? Surely you want to avoid that addiction for as long as poss rather than start her on a lifelong problem just for the sake of a photoshoot??

Hags I'm 10 weeks today! It feels like this might actually be happening.....scan on Tuesday so hoping that my feelings are right and all is ok. Please please please.

10 weeks!! Brilliant!

I'm in the final, Jesus fucking Christ when will this be over weeks, my menkul is ramping up between, if they can do it I can and no no no I can't! in-laws coming to stay today so am spending the morning cleaning whilst BR sleeps off nights before doing a shop then a 6 hour shift at work. Why have I chosen right now to wipe down ALL the skirts?!? Nightmare!

No to chocolate at 6 months, no need!

Definitely no need for Cunty cheating Bastards

I'll catch up with everyone soon! luffs you hags!

Eeeeep Miss - how many weeks/days do you have left?? So exciting!

Ps also fucking scary too!!

CS on 1st May, so 4 weeks 4 days!

Tick tock tick tock! Are you feeling ready and prepared for it now Miss? Desperate to get the little blighter out or wishing you could stay pregnant and in De Nile for longer? How have you found pregnancy?

I had my 10 week scan yesterday and there's definitely a baybee in my tum - it had 2 arms, 2 legs and everything! Had bloods taken for the Harmony and Nuchal tests and will get the results along with my 12 week scan in a couple of weeks. The sonographer said everything was looking perfect (along she did refer to it as a lazy baby and had to prod it a few times to get it wiggling!). At the moment the Nuchal fold is looking good too which made me feel better too. It was mad seeing a little alien in there and also the first time I didn't have to offer up my foof to the holy dildo cam - you know you've graduated when you can have a tum scan! Plus I had a totally empty bladder and it was fine - so why do you need to do all that full bladder, desperate to wee whilst they keep you waiting for an extra hour rubbish?? Got some pics but they're not great - hopefully the next pics will be better! These are best viewed via a squint at the end of a very long arm.

I am gutted by the recent news on the BESH. I was so hoping that Cherry and Barking were going to be able to join me here and now I just feel so sad for them and guilty that I'm here and they're not. I don't know what to say to them

Wowsers that's a whole heap of scans Bugs - why so many? Was that anything to do with having been an ivf baby?

I've got my booking in appointment with the midwife tomorrow so it's all starting to feel like I'm entering a new world now rather than just an extension of ivf iykwim? I've just finished my oestrogen and in 2 weeks I'll stop the progesterone and clexane. That feels like a landmark end to the ivf section and the 12 week scan is the official beginning to the Pregnancy zone. I can't seem to quite get my head around saying 'I'm pregnant' let alone actually saying out loud that I've got a baby in my tum that has an exit strategy around 31st October. It seems mad that this is something I've been hoping for, for years, and yet I can't seem to comprehend it fully. I guess it's just self protection right? I can't even say 'I'm having a baby!' The nearest I get to is, 'the ivf worked!'!

Well I'm officially on the NHS maternity books as I now have my file. Am I supposed to lug that everywhere with me or just to appointments? I'm hoping it's the latter as I don't have a big enough handbag otherwise!
Hags, I saw this and thought of you... Is it fair??
www.thedailymash.co.uk/news/society/babies-cry-out-of-spite-2014041185654

A question for the wise ESH. Did those of you who had ivf go to full term, go overdue or have early babies? I've been told that as I'm high risk (age and ivf) I will definitely have a hospital birth and will be induced on due date. I don't have a problem with it being a hospital birth but I was really hoping to not be induced. I know Bug and Euro were early strivers - is that an IVF 'thing'?